Just also want to throw out we could move to a private group (as some members don't use FB).
I'm okay with either but will miss those we leave behind.
*stuck in box*
Been a bit MIA this week because I had a friend in town... I'd love a PG here instead. I quit Facebook a year and a half ago and decided I can't go back because it's bad for my mental health. All the ppl in my life IRL agree I am way happier not being on it. But I realize everyone's not gonna want to stick around just for me and I don't know how many ppl feel the way I do about that. If you guys go, which it sounds like you are, I'll miss you. Also, if anyone else here would prefer a PG on this site, let's talk.
@bettyvonsomethingstein I agree with forging ahead and just figuring it out as we go. Also, @becausescience when we moved to Facebook with my previous BMB, some of the people who didn’t have a Facebook made an account with their bump name and still use that just to interact with our group. A few others made a second account with their bump name and eventually switched to their regular account because we got so close.
*ugh still stuck in box*
Part of my issue with FB is with other ppl and not wanting to reactivate my old account, but part is just... me. I have compulsive type problems when I'm on it and making a new account won't change that, unfortunately. Again, not saying ppl should stick around just for me if the consensus is that everyone else wants to go, but just throwing it out there that making a new bump only FB account isn't gonna fix the FB problem for everyone--and again, I may be the only person here like that, I don't know.
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Hmm, I'm not sure about this FB thing considering that I tend to just hide in the shadows. It's great that everyone has gotten to know each other well (except for me since I can be a bit of a recluse/lurker), but I don't think I've actually thoroughly interacted with anyone due to my social anxiety. It's a bittersweet thing knowing that people do form bonds of some sort, but I'm totally inept at doing. I just feel like the odd woman out.
Don't get me wrong. It seems like a fun idea. I just wish that I could have fit in.
@mdfarmchick I really want to keep talking with you, and with so many other regulars here. But I've had struggles in the past and worked hard to get through them, and the way me and Facebook work runs counter to that progress in so many ways. Even though I would be super sad to not be a part of it, I can't take that risk with my mental health, especially with all the other changes coming up with becoming a mom and risk for PPD, etc. But I really don't want to hold everyone back either because I know that's not fair. I'm just one person, and I totally get that the inertia seems to be everyone else wanting to move to FB except me. That said, I'm in a few PGs here already and I think they work really well... so maybe if other ppl are on the fence about FB or want to do both we can do that?
@vflux33 I definitely agree you have to make the best decision for your mental health. And I also owe you an email. Things got crazy. I seriously might cry though if we don’t keep up even though I’m a terrible pen pal.
I personally don’t care if it’s FB or a private group. For similar reasons to @vflux33 I’m not 100% sure I would continue participating in a Fb group after babies are born. I have too much of a tendency to compare myself to others and I can see that getting a little toxic for myself. But I’m all about moving somewhere for at least few months and then seeing how I feel after that!
@ShawnnaO Other ppl here who are in private groups, please feel free to weigh in and let me know if you think this is inaccurate, but personally I 100% think there's less comparison/FOMO stuff going on in the PGs here as opposed to FB. In TB PGs I'm in some ppl share pics very occasionally, some don't ever share any pics, but no one shares pics every day or even every week and the vibe is a lot different because of that. It obviously varies from group to group, but because it's not so selfie "look at what I'm doing this second" focused a PG may be more your speed if the comparison thing turns you off FB. And you're definitely in good company if FB makes you feel that way--there have been articles written about how it creates or exacerbates depression issues for a lot of ppl specifically for that reason.
late to the convo here but i think I'm ready for FB now. Especially as we will soon have Moe to share from a photo standpoint with birth announcements and nurseries being finished etc. I don't love TB terms of use regarding photos.
for those of you who won't join...i don't plan on deleting this app - I enjoy it - so I plan on all checking in here also.... but I would like to see us move to a private group
@ShawnnaO, that's an interesting point and one I wouldn't have thought of. I wouldn't mind being mindful of that. One of my other BMBs has a designated photo thread and everyone keeps their pics to that thread. There's one thread a month for pics. Maybe something like that would help.
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I plan to just stay here. My first BMB group didn't all transition to FB until later and the bump remained pretty active for a good year or two. Maybe we can keep this group alive a little longer with people participating in both areas. I do hope those that transition will at least come back to announce their births. I'd love to know how you and your babies are doing.
Yes, what @DDRRT1982 said! It would be so weird and sad to not at least know how things turned out for you guys here so if you do go pleasepleaseplease at least come back and announce so we know you and your LOs are all doing well.
I’m with a few of you on the FB thing. I’m not even sure I’d make the cut since I go through busy seasons where I just read along but don’t post. And I’d rather just have more privacy with this group. It’s not a lack of trust of you all, I’m just super conservative on accepting more friends on FB. And I can’t promise activity levels after baby comes. It’ll be baby #3 so I’ll be overwhelmed I’m sure and I always get some level of baby blues and check out for a bit. But I’ll be crushed if y’all have like an apocalyptic disappearance and I’m still here twiddling my thumbs wondering what people are snacking on these days.
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Don't get me wrong. It seems like a fun idea. I just wish that I could have fit in.
for those of you who won't join...i don't plan on deleting this app - I enjoy it - so I plan on all checking in here also.... but I would like to see us move to a private group
But I’ll be crushed if y’all have like an apocalyptic disappearance and I’m still here twiddling my thumbs wondering what people
are snacking on these days.