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Re: PAIF Graduates- New Mommies - December

  • @byrneme We're planning on doing it. Some friends of ours did it and it went well. I think @wifeinraleigh28 had a recommendation on it? Did you manage to make it through without a sleep regression at 4 months? Since our kids seem to be so similar, I've got my fingers crossed you didn't have issues.
  • I thought I remembered someone on here talking about it but the search didn't pull anything up so I hoped a repost would trigger some convo :)

    We made it!!! You? In fact, I brought it up at our four month appointment (which was a couple days after she was four months) and our ped said, in her experience, if they haven't gone through it by four months, they likely won't. Now, gearing up for more travel over the holidays which is always challenging. 
    *** TW**

    Me: 37, DH:39
    Met: 2002 | Married: 2004 | TTC since January 2014
    July 2015: MMC @ 9 wks | August 2015: Chemical
    March, April, May & June 2016: Medicated IUIs | BFN 
    August 2016: Started Stims 8/22
    September 2016: Egg Retrieval 9/4 | 13 Mature Eggs | 10 Fertilized | 3 Blastocytes | 1 PGS Normal Embaby 
    November 7, 2016: FET - BFP!
    EDD 7/25/17
    Zoey Alexis born 7/25/17 @ 12:39 PM | 7lbs 14oz | 19 inches
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  • She's still struggling with regularly napping. Some days she does great, others not so much. But she's still sleeping great at night. I think that means we made it through?
  • Baby Led Weaning for sure - I can’t wait!! I got the books - If you want a good one that has all the info plus what to feed this one i found best (I took the rest back!). https://www.amazon.ca/gp/aw/d/161519049X/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1513637059&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=baby+led+weaning+cookbook&dpPl=1&dpID=51xr8GahHEL&ref=plSrch

    Sooo excited to give him food!! 
    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
  • @persnickity @byrneme - lucky ladies. I don’t know if it was the leap or regression but we’ve had a month of 1-2 wake ups. But is getting better!! And he transitioned to the Nuna Sena Mini sooo well. I have my own bed back (and DH haha). 
    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
  • @byrneme we didn’t with my daughter but friends did! Total honest answer- I’m in an online group for when my daughter was born. The BLW kids are no better or worse with eating and pickiness now (age 4) and all kids ate cake at their first birthday haha so puréed food kids and BLW could all chew just fine. We all actually talked about it later, comparing how all the parenting techniques worked out in the long run. 

    We did purees but my daughter just suddenly would only eat if she fed herself around 8 months old, so I added textures- cooked rice or lentils to her purees so I could let her grab it herself. So just another method! She quickly went to food after that, toast and veggie burgers etc that were easy to chew (she didn’t get teeth till closer to 1). I loved making food so I can look up ideas if you want any!
    Hopeful_mom
  • AFM we’re visiting my inlaws after Christmas. I have nursed with a cover in public, in front of friends, no issue and it’s mainly moms, no one cares (or seems to notice, I’ve learned to be pretty discreet). But my inlaws are SO weird about it, when they visit us they’ll literally hand hungry graham to me and will tell me to go upstairs to feed him. Fine except he gets fussy around 5 and from 5-8 spends most time on my boob for comfort, and in general nurses a lot still. So I’m not eating my dinner alone in a bedroom every night of this trip (plus my daughter gets upset if I disappear). My husband is equally weird about it so no help there. Ugh, graham takes a bottle great but I don’t want all bottles this trip either (my daughter went quickly to all bottles when we did that and I HATE pumping.) Anyone else deal with being uncomfortable around family while nursing? I’m hoping to find a quiet corner to nurse in but I just hope they stop being so weird about it...
  • @Polythene Pam my in-laws were uncomfortable with it at first. They used to pretend I didn't exist when nursing. I just kept covering up around them and sitting in the area, but out of the main line of sight. They've come around now.
  • @persnickity thanks for the reply! It’ll be fine, just a long week I think :) they have a sun room so I’m hoping to just sit in there and have them deal. 
  • @persnickity - same here. We are lucky if she gets two half hour naps at daycare but she is sleeping well through the night so I guess that's a win. Just a little sad because I truly don't see her much in the evenings because she is out. Weekends I can get her to nap - I think there is just too much going on at daycare for her to want to nap (which is bizarre bc when she's tired at home you KNOW it for sure). 

    Thanks for the book @JWatt5 . I think what I'm struggling with is this question - can you do a combo of baby led weaning/purees or does that totally defeat the whole purpose?? I think there is benefit to introducing items like purees - kind of like what @Polythene Pam did.
    *** TW**

    Me: 37, DH:39
    Met: 2002 | Married: 2004 | TTC since January 2014
    July 2015: MMC @ 9 wks | August 2015: Chemical
    March, April, May & June 2016: Medicated IUIs | BFN 
    August 2016: Started Stims 8/22
    September 2016: Egg Retrieval 9/4 | 13 Mature Eggs | 10 Fertilized | 3 Blastocytes | 1 PGS Normal Embaby 
    November 7, 2016: FET - BFP!
    EDD 7/25/17
    Zoey Alexis born 7/25/17 @ 12:39 PM | 7lbs 14oz | 19 inches
  • @byrneme if you do the combo, I loved the website https://wholesomebabyfood.momtastic.com/

    it also gives info on BLW. I guess in my opinion no right or wrong answer, I’ve read the points on why BLW is better but I just felt more comfortable easing into food (i choked as a kid so I admit I was also nervous!) Anyway there’s a book you can buy too from the website, once we tested allergies it gave great textured food ideas. All easy too- already had frozen purees so add spices, textures (the rice or lentils), and let my daughter lead the way. Once we had the chewing down - very quickly, she was eating bananas, waffles, etc with no issue. She WAS a super adventurous great eater from all the early spices and flavors, now she’s just an opinionated sass who would live on cheese and crackers if I let her ;) but so are the BLW kids I know so it all works out :)
    byrneme
  • @byrneme we have to watch her carefully on the weekends. Her sleep cues are really subtle. She gets quiet and rubs her ear... That's it. But she only sleeps like 30 minutes at home too, so I know it's not the environment at daycare. I feel the same way about not seeing her in the evenings. I come home and have maybe 10 minutes before she's ready to start her bedtime routine.

    As for BLW, I don't think there's a wrong/right/better/worse option. I'm doing BLW because she seems to prefer doing things for herself. Not because I think it's better.
  • I think I’ll start with a few purée foods - see what he likes and how he handles that. I’m so so excited about it for some reason lol. The faces to come with foods. I’m doing BLW because it just seems to make sense with the way I like to interact with my nephew. I’ve loved giving him pieces of what I’m eating and that he’s eaten what we are all eating. 


    @Polythene Pam - they’ll get used to it. My dad was totally weirded out by my pump but I was sick of going upstairs alone to pump (and I’m covered up by the hands free bra/tank tops). Now I’m Aunty EeeOooo to my nephew and everyone’s pretty used to it. Haha. Nursing is way less obvious than that dang pump. 
    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
  • Thanks, ladies! I am in the boat that there isn't a right/wrong/better answer for sure - just trying to figure out the path we want to go down. This is the Type A planner in me :) I'm thinking we may be in your boat @persnickity, she's been trying to hold on to her bottle forever and has defintiely started reaching for my plate if I have her on my lap. Only time will tell :) As for sleep cues - yep. We go from zero to 100 in one rub of the eyes LOL.

    @PolythenePam - I can't blame her. I would totally live on cheese and crackers if I could!
    *** TW**

    Me: 37, DH:39
    Met: 2002 | Married: 2004 | TTC since January 2014
    July 2015: MMC @ 9 wks | August 2015: Chemical
    March, April, May & June 2016: Medicated IUIs | BFN 
    August 2016: Started Stims 8/22
    September 2016: Egg Retrieval 9/4 | 13 Mature Eggs | 10 Fertilized | 3 Blastocytes | 1 PGS Normal Embaby 
    November 7, 2016: FET - BFP!
    EDD 7/25/17
    Zoey Alexis born 7/25/17 @ 12:39 PM | 7lbs 14oz | 19 inches
  • Amen @JWatt5. I'm totally going to have a break the pump party when this journey ends.
    *** TW**

    Me: 37, DH:39
    Met: 2002 | Married: 2004 | TTC since January 2014
    July 2015: MMC @ 9 wks | August 2015: Chemical
    March, April, May & June 2016: Medicated IUIs | BFN 
    August 2016: Started Stims 8/22
    September 2016: Egg Retrieval 9/4 | 13 Mature Eggs | 10 Fertilized | 3 Blastocytes | 1 PGS Normal Embaby 
    November 7, 2016: FET - BFP!
    EDD 7/25/17
    Zoey Alexis born 7/25/17 @ 12:39 PM | 7lbs 14oz | 19 inches
    JWatt5
  • Parker Meets Santa. This kid loves everyone. I’m going to have to watch him - I’m worried “stranger danger” won’t exist to him lol 

    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
    byrnemelatershraderPolythene Pam
  • kelrauhkelrauh member
    edited December 2017
    Ladies I need words of encouragement. We are doing sleep training with Cecilia right now and I feel like a horrible mom. She cried for over an hour. We went and comforted her every 5-10 minutes but she just screamed. Ughh! I thought I would never do it but I have gotten 2 hours of sleep each night because she needs to be held 24/7 or she just cries for some reason. I feel like my nerves are just shot from her crying. What night does it normally get better?

    **Trigger warning**

    Age: 25 DH: 28 Together since 2011, Married May 2014 and TTC since April 2015

    MFI (3% morphology) 

    3/16 - IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN

    4/16 - IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN

    6/16 IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN

    8/19/16 - IVF - 

    • Retrieval 9/4
    • Transfer 9/6
    • 9/16 - BFP 1st Beta -110 
    • 9/20 - 2nd beta - 762
    • TWINS!!!! EDD 5/28/2017

  • @kelrauh hugs!! I think I read night 2 may be worse (sorry) but then every night after that gets better. When they learn to fall asleep on their own and start giving you long stretches, or even the whole night! Everyone is in such good moods, it’s worth it.. had to sleep train my daughter many times.. somehow never nights as an infant but nights as she got older and was coming to our room 6546566 times. So I can say it does get better and the work you’re doing will make everyone so much happier in the end!
    JWatt5
  • @kelrauh You're being a wonderful mom right now by getting her sleeping without being held. The best mom's care and give their kids what's best, even when it's hard. 

    She's 100% safe, has been fed, and in a clean diaper. She's okay. I can't begin to imagine being in your shoes right now, but stay strong. 
    Polythene Pam
  • @PolythenePam and @persnickity thank you!!! She woke up at 11 to eat and has been sleeping sibe. I wish I could say I slept but with having twins I think they conspire against us lol. Patrick is normally an amazing sleeper but I think he has an ear infection and stuffy nose so he didn't like his bed.... Off to the Dr. We go! Hopefully we get Some sleep soon

    **Trigger warning**

    Age: 25 DH: 28 Together since 2011, Married May 2014 and TTC since April 2015

    MFI (3% morphology) 

    3/16 - IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN

    4/16 - IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN

    6/16 IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN

    8/19/16 - IVF - 

    • Retrieval 9/4
    • Transfer 9/6
    • 9/16 - BFP 1st Beta -110 
    • 9/20 - 2nd beta - 762
    • TWINS!!!! EDD 5/28/2017

  • Oh @kelrauh , I don't have any advice but just wanted to send you virtual hugs and luck!! It WILL get better :)
    *** TW**

    Me: 37, DH:39
    Met: 2002 | Married: 2004 | TTC since January 2014
    July 2015: MMC @ 9 wks | August 2015: Chemical
    March, April, May & June 2016: Medicated IUIs | BFN 
    August 2016: Started Stims 8/22
    September 2016: Egg Retrieval 9/4 | 13 Mature Eggs | 10 Fertilized | 3 Blastocytes | 1 PGS Normal Embaby 
    November 7, 2016: FET - BFP!
    EDD 7/25/17
    Zoey Alexis born 7/25/17 @ 12:39 PM | 7lbs 14oz | 19 inches
  • @kelrauh - I’m sorry mama, I hope things have gotten better. How have has she been doing? Parker has been starting up with the same thing the last two nights. It’s been heartbreaking. 

    Formula Mommies - if anyone had been curious, I got the Baby Brezza Formula Pro and it’s been awesome. I know it’s only used until they are about a year but it’s made those formula bottles so nice and easy. I’m still pumping but not much - it sounds silly but this gadget has made giving formula easier on me. Maybe because it’s just a bottle, button and a warm bottle in 20seconds. 
    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
  • I haven't been on here in several months and wanted to check in to see how everyone was doing. Everyone's babies are too cute!!!! So glad to hear everyone is doing well and loved all of the santa pictures!!

    My boys are three months old now and growing like weeds. We're loving every minute. 


    Jeansis Polythene Pamlatershrader
  • Ladies, I am struggling with my anxiety about my baby's well-being and not sure what to do. Please advise if you can. My baby is 1 month old now and yesterday he threw up a large amount of yellow vomit, so I called the pediatrician and they said if it happened once or twice more during the afternoon/evening to make an appointment for the following day, but if it kept happening during the night, take him to the ER. He threw up 2 more times within the next 2 hours, so I took him to the ER. I didn't bother to wait and see if he improved. The pediatrician was closed and I panicked. He didn't have a fever or any other symptoms and he was even smiling in the ER while we waited, so looking back I don't think I had anything to worry about. But I was anxious about the amount and type of vomit and was afraid it would happen again so I gave permission for them to run tests and observe him overnight. They started an IV line to give him fluids and the way he cried while they started the line made me sick. It was so horrible. He also had to fast for a stomach ultrasound to rule out peristaltic stenosis so I couldn't breastfeed him for 5 hours and he was so hungry! He kept trying to feed through my shirt when I held him and he cried almost non-stop. It was heartbreaking. He got iv fluids overnight to replenish what he might have lost from vomiting but he didn't require any other treatment. All his tests were normal and he didn't throw up again the whole night. In other words, if I had waited a few more hours the whole ER visit and hospital stay would probably not have been necessary. I feel like I put him through all that for nothing and that if I had just watched and waited a bit longer he would have been fine. The problem is I get so anxious about his well-being sometimes and I often scare myself and overreact, but this time my overreaction caused my baby a lot of distress and I feel SO guilty. Not sure if this is part of PPD or if it's normal or possibly even related to going through IF or if I am just a chronic overreacter. I'm alone a lot because DH works long hours, which definitely doesn't help matters. Has anyone else had anything like this? Did you eventually overcome it? If so, how?
    Babysizer Geeky Pregnancy Tracker
  • I think I would have done the same as your taking him in. Vomit is scary - when we vomit we feel so so sick and terrible. These little ones, vomit isn’t always bad but you did exactly what you were told to do. The tests probably seemed terrible but he’s ok. Always listen to your mommy senses. And if your mommy sense are telling you that you don’t feel right, that you think you’re over reacting then please do talk to you doctor or OB. Personally- I really think you did the right thing there - it’s what I would have done. 
    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
  • @Jeansis some anxiety it's normal as a new mom, but this sounds like it's more than that. Most people know to be on the look out for PPD, but you also need to watch for PP anxiety. It sounds like you need to call your doctor (ob or general practitioner) and talk to them about this. They can refer you to a therapist if one is needed. I struggle with general anxiety. It's something that can very quickly take over your thoughts if you don't work on it. With the help of a therapist, I now recognize the signs of anxiety starting to take over and have a set of "tools" to deal with it. You can overcome it with help.
  • Thanks @JWatt5 ! Now that a little time has passed I do think I made the right decision. He vomited a lot and he's so tiny! It was really alarming and he probably was kind of dehydrated from it. If he had thrown up again or gotten a fever we might be spending New Year's Eve in the hospital. I definitely panicked, but I probably would have been worried all night if I hadn't taken him in and we might have ended up there anyway. 

    @persnickity I am definitely going to discuss these feelings with my doctor at my 6 week checkup next week. The anxiety has been bad and I think I have had a few panic attacks as well. About 2 weeks ago I was convinced that I had a blood clot and called my husband at work in hysterics because I didn't want the baby to be alone if I lost consciousness or died. I really thought I was dying. It was so scary.  
    Babysizer Geeky Pregnancy Tracker
  • Oh @Jeansis , I'm so sorry! Panic attacks are scary. Make sure you tell your doctor about the intensity and frequency of the anxiety/panic attacks. If they don't refer you to someone, please push the issue. You can get help and work on ways to reduce your anxiety. Big hugs
    JWatt5
  • Thanks @persnickity ! I definitely will. 
    Babysizer Geeky Pregnancy Tracker
    persnickity
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