GTKY- who cares more about the sex?

suchaglencoco

Some of us want a girl, some of us want a boy, some of us don't mind either way, but what about your family? 
Who do you think cares more about the sex than anyone else?
Do you have any stories of family members getting upset about past babies and their sexes?
Let's gripe on how weird family can be about something that has zero affect on their lives.

abhphilly

While our family has a ton of legit crazy people, no one is that particular about the baby's sex. Our niece really wants a girl, because on her side of the family she's the only girl among a sea of boys, but there'll be an 11 year age difference, so I think she'll be over it quickly either way.

suchaglencoco

We are team green this time and neither myself or DH have any preference. I think having one of each makes that a lot easier!
When I was pregnant with our twins, I think my whole side was wishing for a girl since I only had nephews. My husband's side seemed to be hoping for at least one boy since it was 1 boy and 4 girls, plus our boys would carry on the family name.
No one has mentioned any "preference" to us this time, thank goodness, but I think some of that is because my SIL ( DH sister) recently had a boy as well. When SIL's daughter was only a few months old, MIL was pushing her to get pregnant, "but with a boy this time. We need another boy!"
Like, why do we "need" another boy??? Why don't we just want a healthy baby and a baby when SIL is ready to have another baby???

zizzabell523

All of DH's family is hoping for a boy, since he's the last in eht efamily to carry on the name. I also would love to have a boy to balance things out, plus I had an older brother growing up, so I feel like DD would like to have a brother, too. I think the most excited for us to have a boy is my SIL. When we were pregnant with DD, she jokingly said we'd have to have kids until we had a boy lol.

ivyvines6

It seems like everyone on both sides of our family are gunning for a girl. We’ve always said that we wanted two, a boy and a girl, and we would have three if we had two of the same sex first. It’s getting ridiculous though because we have no control over the situation and everyone telling us what we need to have is off putting. (I’d like this one to be a girl so I don’t have to do this again )

suchaglencoco

All your families are so nice. I really wanted to read some crazy stories of a mil crying when the cut into the cake and it was blue and not pink, haha.

silverhope

I'm the crazy one. I'm the only one that cares (out of my husband, in-laws, and my mom). I really want a girl, which means I'm probably going to have a boy.

sandbar517

I would like to have a boy, because we wanted a boy the first pregnancy and got two girls.  I guess that could be a funny story for you, @suchaglencoco.  The ultrasound tech gave MH and I a really dirty look because when she said we were having girls, we both said, "Oh, seriously?" and kinda did this:


So at first, I thought I would be really disappointed if this one is also a girl, but the further along I get, I truly don't think I'll care either way.  The only thing I'm really worried about is that if this one is also a girl, that she will end up feeling left out, since the older girls have the whole twin bond thing.  Not that they're the type who sleep together every night, cry because the other one is crying, and have their own twin language or anything, but I imagine they'll still have a closeness growing up that the rest of us who aren't twins won't understand.  So if it's a boy, I feel like he won't feel the need to "fit in" with them as much anyway.  
My siblings and mom don't really care because this is grandchild #20 for our side.  The girls are the only grandchildren on MH's side, but they haven't made any comments (yet) so I don't know if they really have a preference either.  One day I was talking to my MIL and said we would probably use the boy name we'd picked out the first time around if it's a boy and she made the little fingers crossed "I hope so" gesture, so I don't know if she meant she hopes we have a boy, or that if it's a boy she hopes we use that name.  

ivyvines6

I should have mentioned that I’m a lot more zen about the sex of the baby this round because I had horrible gender disappointment with J. Like she said boy and I legitimately started bawling like an idiot. It was definitely not one of my finer moments and I wouldn’t trade my doodle for anything after meeting him.

sparklingdiamond

Mine were kind of hoping for a girl this time since we have a boy, but they would've been happy either way.  Fortunately no crazy stuff here!

onesmallcoconut

I don't care what sex the baby is but I am finding out as I feel like I need to know if am buying more clothing or can rely solely on hand me downs from DS. 

My MIL is hellbent that girls are trouble (she only had boys) and this drives me insane. I was not manipulative or caught up in drama, vindictive and catty behavior (all things she claims relate to girls) and I am surprised she thinks so low of her own sex. Also... Her son (my hubby) sounds like he was waaaaaaaay more trouble growing up than I was. So there! 

Edited for typo 

onesmallcoconut

suchaglencoco said:

All your families are so nice. I really wanted to read some crazy stories of a mil crying when the cut into the cake and it was blue and not pink, haha.

That might be mine but reverse... I'll keep you posted in December lol 

suchaglencoco

I think wanting a certain sex, as the mother or father, makes sense to me.
I don't get why other members sometimes have such a high expectation of one or the other.

@sandbar517, I'm also terrified of the "left out feeling" with a 3rd kid. I think if we have another girl, it'll work better because DS seems like he's super laid back and wouldn't care if twin sister and other sister went off without him. I think if it' reversed DD would hate it, but wouldn't let them go off without her.

MissusTexas

DH reallllly wants a boy because he’s the last of his name (I tend to roll my eyes at this but it is obviously important to him), but he loves his girls dearly and has convinced me (which he had to do before we even thought about #3) that he’d be okay with another girl. I really don’t feel strongly either way, but if I could choose i guess I would pick a boy just so DH could get his wish. The girls are just so sweet, though! I know boys are too, though

melanier26

I would prefer a girl but honestly won’t be at all disappointed if it’s a boy. I think that’s how DH’s parent’s feel too. They have 5 grandsons and 1 granddaughter 

sharkmama39

Everyone is excited by the fact that we're team green, which is nice. I had two people in mind who i thought would be against it but one of them turned out to be the most excited by it lol.

As to wishing for a particular sex, my dad def is hoping for a boy and keeps referring to it as baby boy. All of his grand kids are girls so i get it but i am also like, ok what are you going to do if it's a girl. His response was buy her a softball bat which I loled to. At least he not being crazy set on a boy.

suchaglencoco

@sharkmama39, I thought our mothers would be against us being Team Green, but they're all excited about it!
There are 5 grandkids on one side and 8 on the other and no one has been team green so I think it's just a new and exciting experience for everyone. 

And I love that he is going to buy her a softball bat! 

tincupchalice

I'm sure I've got family hoping for a girl (we've got two boys already).

mileswithmyles

MIL for sure cares the most. She had two boys and had all grandsons. I know she’s hoping this baby is a girl. DH and I both don’t care. If anyone else cares, they haven’t said anything to us. 

helloworld9

I want a boy, selfishly because he will be the first boy in the grandchildren line for both sides. My husband doesn't care either way. If the baby ends up a girl, I will still be thrilled. I'll just try for boy again!

Kendrajos

We all want a girl. All sides. Though @suchaglencoco if it's a boy, MIL will cry and probably freak out, this could very well be her last grandchild, and definitely the last one for yrs to come. She has 4 grandsons and no granddaughters. Regardless of gender, I plan on doing a reveal special for her cuz she cares the most. 

I have talked with SO, we are both ok if it is another boy. Our son though is convinced it's a boy. If it's a girl he will probably be disappointed. This is definitely our last regardless of the sex. 

knw007

Both sides are hoping for boy. When I say hoping they are adamant about me needing to have a boy. DH's side wants it to be a boy to carry on the name. DH doesn't care about carrying on the name. Ever since we had DD they have been insistent on us needing to eat pregnant with a boy. I really hate that old school thinking because hell men change their names now. My side wants a boy because they think girls are too much work and need too much. Don't really agreee but whatever. DH doesn't care either way and is actually content if we have all girls. I am hoping it's a girl because I really want DD to experience having a sister close in age. My sister and I are 12 yrs apart and had nothing to bond over until we started having kids at the same time. 

helloworld9

@knw007 So many people think that way, yours isn't the only one (a boy to carry on the "name"). It's more prevalent in traditional cultures too.

Poppy0419

So first time around DH wanted a boy. We did a gender reveal and I now have video evidence of disappointment that he’ll never live down. But he loves his little girl more than anything. 

This time is another girl and everyone is asking if we’ll try for a boy (nope). 

jhysmath

Dh family is mostly boys, my family is mostly girls.

When my cousin was having kids (her oldest is 21 now) they had two girls, waited 5 years and then tried for a boy and had another girl. My 80 something year old grandfather went to my cousins and told them keep getting eventually you'll get a boy. My grandparents had 4 girls, 2 boys, and then my mom and decided things weren't in their favor for boys so they stopped. Our maybe because they were 40 when they had my mom they stopped, but they liked to joke they are done because they didn't need anymore daughters.

Ceridwen77

I guess I’m the odd ball as we don’t have anyone in our family that really cares about the sex. My husband had a slight hope for a boy this time around, but when he found out it was a girl he was happy and there was no real disappointment. 

nanifrog

I think my family would hope for a boy because we have 2 girls. DH and I really didn't care. In fact, even though we found out it's a boy, DH keeps referring to the baby as a girl. DD1 really wants it to be a boy. I'm sure we'll get all the dumb comments about trying for a boy. 

I'm really curious about what MIL will say. She's weirdly obsessed with trying to give our girls hand me down jackets from SIL's daughter. Can't wait to hear the dumb ass comments.

GeekBeagle

MIL definitely wants a girl. She has two sons and a grandson. She has made comments over the years about wanting a granddaughter and made an awkward comment about DH’s sperm when we told her we were expecting.

I don’t think my parents care.

DH wanted a girl the first time because he wanted a daddy’s girl...but now he couldn’t imagine not having DS. I think he’d want a girl again. I honestly always thought I would want one of each, but now that I have a boy, I kind of want another. But I don’t really care that much either way.

thedawkterswife

I *really* want another girl. The seasons match up for the 911745382 bins of clothes I have saved from our first born. I really don't want to buy clothes again. I also feel like I have no idea how to take care of a penis. I will have major disappointment if it's a boy and I'm dreading it. I don't want to but I don't know how to stop wanting a girl. 

Husband wants a son so badly. That also makes me feel like a shit-tastic wife for wanting something different. 

Grandparents don't care. They're just all too excited for anything they get. Husband and I are both only children so our kids are the only grandkids they'll ever have. 

nanifrog

@thedawkterswife I'm having a boy and I'm concerned about penis care too. It just seems so weird to have to do that. I'm not upset about a boy, it's just weird.

lady_mormont18

Surprisingly my mom said she "has to get used to the idea of a boy". Most of our friends are excited for a boy after 2 girls, it is actually annoying. I am getting tired of hearing people say things like "Now I can buy you guys football team onsies or hockey outfits" 

I always come back with, you know the girls like sports teams too... ::eyeroll::

suchaglencoco

Taking care of a penis really isn't hard, you just wipe it a tad different. Our b/g twins are almost 2 and they only get different care based on their personalities, not from their physical differences. 
I don't think it'll be an issue until potty training and even then, I don't think it'll be a be big one until DS learns to stand to pee.

nanifrog

suchaglencoco said:

Taking care of a penis really isn't hard, you just wipe it a tad different. Our b/g twins are almost 2 and they only get different care based on their personalities, not from their physical differences. 
I don't think it'll be an issue until potty training and even then, I don't think it'll be a be big one until DS learns to stand to pee.

I know it's not take a big deal, I can't explain why it feels weird. I have 2 younger brothers and changed their diapers and felt like it would be weird to have a good when DD was born too. 
Both my girls wish they could stand to per which has been pretty gross. Kinda looking forward to it being less messy this time!

mileswithmyles

@nanifrog I think I understand what you mean. We have a boy and are having a girl this time around and it just is something different to wrap your head around as opposed to what you already know. But then I think about how clueless I was about everything before DS and how we just figured it out. 

bwow615

@mileswithmyles i'm in the same boat as you.  we already have a son and are expecting a girl this time around.  I have changed plenty of girl diapers in my life, but it will be different for my own child.  Not a bad different, just different and I am sure it will come to me naturally once LO is born.  

thunderberry

I was the one who cared because I've always wanted a daughter due to my close relationship with my mom. However we now know it's a boy and I'm adapting MH had a slight preference for a girl as well but I think he's happy that having a boy now means it'll be easier to convince me to have a second kid!

sandbar517

@thunderberry, I'm going to blame it on pregnancy brain, but I totally read your sentence as "we know it's a boy and I'm adopting."  I thought, "Whoa!! That's a really extreme reaction to baby not being the sex you wanted!!!"  Geez, just ignore me LOL  

suchaglencoco

sandbar517 said:.

@thunderberry, I'm going to blame it on pregnancy brain, but I totally read your sentence as "we know it's a boy and I'm adopting."  I thought, "Whoa!! That's a really extreme reaction to baby not being the sex you wanted!!!"  Geez, just ignore me LOL  

I also read it that way.

thunderberry

@sandbar517 @suchaglencoco haha geeze I'm bad but not that bad a person!! This little guy may be causing me some stress but I'll keep him

Speaking of misreading things I kept thinking the title to this thread meant who is interested in "the sex" as in... the sexy times.

suchaglencoco

@thunderberry, I just told my sil this morning that my mind is broken. I cannot comprehend simple texts from her. I also couldn't remember what a "couch" was called so I had to explain what I was talking about to my husband.  And I just saw a commercial with a dog running up bed steps, but at first I thought it was a goat. I was confused why you'd want a goat in your bed...
This kid better be in MENSA with how much brain s/he's taking from me.

molly1108-2

My MIL only had boys (x3) so she was dying for a girl when I was pregnant with my first two. I failed. My SIL had a daughter since so in theory she shouldn't care but I'm CERTAIN she wants it to be a girl. When I was pregnant with my first and she found out he was a boy she was all "I'll never get my girl" and I was like please. It's not your kid anyway. You had your chance. Leave me along. I didn't actually say that but I wish. She was so whiney and annoying about it for MONTHS.

We both do want a girl this time just because we'd like to have one at some point and this would likely be our last. I have a strong feeling it is a boy though. Who knows. It's truly fine either way. I like the boys I have so far and I have a mountain of clothes so that makes it cheaper!

ETA: I also really wanted a boy with my second. My preference if I had only had two would be for them to be the same sex.