Why my SO is...10/20

mauera07

Why my SO is lucky to have me!
 


Ladies, would your SO be lost without you? Do you need to feel good about yourself after a long week? Tell us how make your SOs better!

JuliaGoolia719

If it wasnt for me my DH would not be registered for his certification tests this month and would have to wait until April to take them abdcstart looking for a new job. He procrastinated on the applications, then mixed up the dates and I ended up running around town overnighting applications and picking up notarized character references for him lol.
It was fine, I had the time to do it....and last night I called to ask him to bring me a cookie home from work (I will miss the free food once he switches industries) he was super sweet. I thanked him for grabbing me a cookie and he spent 3 minutes telling me thank you for all the stuff I do around the house and for him etc. at one point he literally said I could not do this without you and my heart melted lol. So it’s nice to know that HE knows/appreciates the efforts I make 

missblaze

Without me, DH would probably be living in a ditch somewhere.

J/k...but really. He's not great at adulting. Last year he got pulled over in this work parking lot for some lame reason (probably a headlight out) and got a huge ticket because he never paid his car tax 6 months prior. He claims he never got the bill. This year his car tax bill arrived 9/12/2017 and it's still not paid. It's due in a week. I want to strangle him sometimes.

Our filter light went on for both our fridge and microwave, the microwave light about 2 months ago. At the time I asked him to research prices and figure out what we have to spend. Just two days ago he told me they can be purchased at Walmart. Still waiting on the fridge.

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DH is horrible at remembering crap. Like, he almost missed our a/s with DD because he forgot. Thank goodness I texted him that I was on my way to the clinic! But really, without me adding things to his calendar he would never remember anything.

bainidhedub

DH freely admits that he'd probably make it a week on his own. Personally I think this is a bit generous. He's not very good at adulting, which is weird because he's an operations manager at work. But when it comes to the house he doesn't know how to pay our bills, cook more than like 3 things, or where to find ANYTHING.

mauera07

If it wasn't for me DH would look like a hot mess every day. I have caught him trying to go to work in ridiculously wrinkled clothing, non matching combinations, and random things inside out. He lacks that attention to detail. He would also probably starve to death because the only meal he has mastered is boiling pasta. 

cyanope

I'm pretty sure DH would exist on pizza and burritos if it wasn't for me. He pulls his weight pretty well in this relationship (he's WAY more responsible than I am), but when it comes to cooking, the man doesn't even know how to boil a pot of water. He depends on me for every aspect of his food, and if I'm not cooking, he's probably getting Mexican food. 

jakobaby

DH is happy to have me because I run all things regarding the house. He cannot multitask, so I basically just tell him where to be and when. This way he can focus on his career responsibilities. Anything more than that and he gets frazzled. Also, I pretty much take care of 95% of all things child related, too. Sometimes it’s too much and that’s what we disagree about. I guess the trade off is that I get to buy what I want (within reason) without any backlash. And pedicures. He doesn’t dare give me a hard time about those.

ecolton01

My husband would still be eaten my dinner at his mothers every night if it weren't for me haha , he literally doesn't know how to cook anything except browning hamburger . Luckily since I'm on bedrest my small community has band together and my freezer is FULL of cooked meals until these boys get here !! 

auntieraindrop

I don't know how it's possible for a man to survive into his 30s and not know that you can't put a leather jacket in the washer. But somehow, my husband accomplished this. 

Also, it's a good thing he has me, and not an insecure person. His performance schedule is demanding in the summer and involves a lot of overnights and weekends (he is a fire performer, so fairs, festivals, concerts, parties, weddings) and a lot of the female performers he works with are hot and scantily clad. He's ALWAYS been trustworthy, and has never given me the least reason to worry, but I know that there are lots of women who would have a much harder time with it than I do. 

jaclyn0405

My FI would eat takeout every night, live in the ultimate bachelor pad with nothing coordinated and cleaning being the LAST thing on his mind, and he would never have new socks, undershirts, or boxer briefs and his laundry would never be done.  He is amazing however with the bills and staying on top of that, but he definitely lacks the ability to realllly take care of a house.  He said he did when he first bought the home (9) years ago, but I don't think that "him" is ever coming back.  I will say though, he is the calm to my crazy when I get worked up over something he knows just how to calm me down.  I literally could not go through this thing called "life" without him.

lmmjd

You all are making me feel bad for my SO. I suck at cooking and cleaning. I am sitting here thinking about why he is lucky to have me... umm... I let him look at me sometimes and make him laugh at my ridiculousness.

auntieraindrop

@lmmjd Well, my husband is terrible at doing laundry and I hate it. I long told him that I wasn't his wife I wasn't doing his laundry for him. Then we got married, and now I am his wife and I still am not doing his laundry for him. He buys new socks and underwear instead of washing them. >> 

cyanope

Haha, @auntieraindrop...DH does all of the laundry in our house. I sometimes fold it, but he ALWAYS washes it. It's just part of his "Saturday routine." I do most of the cleaning, but laundry, dishes, and emptying trash cans are his responsibility. I'm too much of a clean freak to let him do the other stuff! He just doesn't do it right...

JuliaGoolia719

@cyanope DH does all our laundry too! Neither of us really puts it up....it just kinda of lives at the foot of our bed until it’s too overwhelming and then one of us (him 99% of the time) spends an hour or more putting it up lol. 

leeeahyo

@jakobaby pretty much the same over here!
DH would definitely be lost without me because I do all of the grocery shopping, cooking (he could probably get by grilling meats, but he definitely wouldn't eat his veggies), cleaning, laundry, dishes, a good 95% of childcare, and sometimes even some yard work, even though his yard is his baby, his work schedule over summer allowed him no time to do it! The trade off for us is that I get to do some shopping when I go to my appointments.  We live about an hour from our hospital/OBs office and there is literally nowhere to shop around here, so I take my time shopping while he's home with DS for the day! 

bainidhedub

@JuliaGoolia719 Same here - our closet is full of stuff we don't wear, and the floor is covered with who-knows-what, and the clothes we wear are in a perpetual basket-floor-machine-basket cycle.

Cricket99

DH would definitely starve without me. Or rather, would be eating really disgusting food. He cooked me his favorite meal at the beginning of our relationship and is seriously surprised I stuck around long enough to marry him. It was Poppyseed Chicken casserole. No offense if you like this, but it was white rice with a can of cream of chicken soup, a can of cream of mushroom soup, and diced chicken. Put some ritz crackers and poppy seeds on top and voila... looks like vomit, tastes about the same. The other half of that was that he didn’t even serve it with a side salad or vegetable, or bread. Nothing. Just vomit on a plate. I decided right then that I had to save him from his own cooking poor man.

lmmjd

sbishop426

Mine would have a college student's diet of pizza, ramen, cereal and lots of takeout. He's hopeless when it comes to cooking and regularly praises me for taking care of him via home cooked meals. I also do most of the chores so I keep the house pretty tidy. He keeps track of the bills and works from home while juggling the demands of a toddler when he's not in daycare (and will be the same for this baby) so I think it's an even trade-off. 

gilsam1

I helped him move out of his grandmother's house, get into college, learn to write college-level papers in APA format, finish his degree, start a steady career, open up and manage a bank account and build savings, do his taxes, choose health insurance, build credit and maintain his credit cards, buy his first car on his own, go to the dentist, do the laundry and fold it, unload the dishwasher, feed the cats, clean the cat's litter box, clean/vacuum the house, cook frozen meals, use the microwave to heat things up, and make a bed. Now that he's learned how to do it, he does most of the regular chores, and i do more of the deep occasional cleaning. Everything i taught him how to do as far as chores/cooking he does now for us both. Neither of us cook, so we get take-out or eat frozen meals. We do our own separate grocery shopping since we eat very different things (e.g. my fruits/veggies in the fridge, and his donuts and chips in the pantry). I still pay 95% of the bills (b/c I'm the breadwinner) and therefore make most of the major decisions, but i've been giving him more and more major responsibilities as time goes on. I'm a major control freak (and as he says the way more responsible one), so I'll probably always do most of the financial decision making on my own. As far as child care, i'll have to learn what to do and then teach him how to do it. Like everything else, once he's learned how to do it it'll become his chore/responsibility. He already is going to have night shift (including feedings from bottles) when I'm sleeping at night, and he's cool with that. Even he will tell you that he's come a long way, but sometimes i feel like i've had to teach him everything, even basic life skills! I like how we function really well independently from each other, but at the same time work well as a team when we need to. I like how we both can take care of ourselves.  

beans17

My DH would never have finished his Master's thesis without me. Like I literally had to hide the tv remotes, make sure the whole apartment was clean, and threaten to take his phone before I left for a few hours. I basically said "Have X amount of pages written by the time I get back and don't do *anything* else" and he did, so I got him a growler of pumpkin beer and that was kind of our deal until he finished his writing. Also, I'm pretty much the only one who helped him with his lab work (we were in the same program just different projects) because my project was very narrow and his was HUGE. Similar sentiments for his job search and resume writing. You do NOT want to see what his resume looks like without my edits...