*snip* I think at the the end of the day, I'll probably pick a French name and use it as a way to teach my kids to be proud of their heritage. My name is Collette (which was not popular at all when I was growing up although now it's everywhere) and I really liked having that connection to my family.
Some of these just sound so made up it's hard to believe that someone seriously named their kid that! @ngolimento That's where I am torn. I LOVE Scottish names, but I feel like if I gave my kid some of the more unique Scottish names people would think I was just trying to be different or special and not get that it's from a different culture.
Buzzkill alert. Sorry.https://www.thedailybeast.com/are-blacks-names-weird-or-are-you-just-racistSince @ngolimento brought up the question of cultural sensitivity, I thought I'd share this. I think most of us get that if a name is common in another culture, then we shouldn't make fun of it just because it's unusual to us. Maybe you have a Serbian friend who names her son something you've never heard before, but it's a family name for her. You wouldn't dream of ridiculing her. You'd just learn how to say the name. But a lot of people still mock names that are one-offs or "made up," because they think that's fair game. Like, well, if it doesn't have a tradition behind it, then I can call it stupid. But as this article points out, one-off or "made up" names are particularly prevalent in black culture, and there's a cultural reason for it. Uniqueness is the point.The headline is confrontational, and I'm not calling racism on this thread. Without knowing the race of any of the kids mentioned here, I'd guess that plenty of them are white. But I bet a lot of these names belong to black kids, and there's a bad history of making fun of those parents/kids. And I think it's important to recognize that these are parents who adore their kids and think about naming with as much care as we do, and have cultural influences in naming, just like we do. Different does not equal "cringey," "hilarious," or "sad." I don't want to get preachy, but these are kids. And there are lots of studies showing that people with "black-sounding" names face hiring discrimination. If we laugh about those names behind closed doors, or place the "blame" on parents, we're part of that problem. What needs to change is not the names, but our reaction to them. They're just names, after all.
Can we take a moment to remind everyone that this is a subject that needs to be navigated with some cultural sensitivity? There is a difference between a made up name that is stupid as hell, and a name you just don't like because it is not from your culture.If you just don't like a name because it isn't from your culture, then it isn't the name that is the problem.