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I am adopting / fostering OR want to adopt / foster - September

Are you thinking about adopting / fostering? Are you in the process of adopting/fostering? If so, please tell us more about yourself and your experiences so far.
 
-What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)?

-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.)

-How are you feeling about the process right now?

-Any questions?

-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed?

-Anything else to add?
Me:28 | DH: 28
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
     due to previous issues.
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BFP: 11/4/2016
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Re: I am adopting / fostering OR want to adopt / foster - September

  • -What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)? Foster Care

    -Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.) Waiting for a placement

    -How are you feeling about the process right now? I just hate all the waiting. However, I've learned from you all that the wait for a match through domestic adoption is even longer, so I am still feeling good about our decision to foster-to-adopt

    -Any questions? Our agency told us that they get a lot less hotline calls and new children coming into care during the summer. Anyone else going through foster care hear something like that? I'm wondering if it's because of school or if it's just a weird local thing.

    -Any tips for the steps you’ve passed? Nothing I haven't shared already.

    -Anything else to add? Not right now. Just hoping that we get a call soon. Summer is pretty much over (kids are back in school after this weekend here) so if that trend is true they'll need to be placing more kids soon.
    Me: 25   H: 24
    TTC #1: September 2015 - October 2016
    NTNP: November 2016 - present
    TSH levels brought down from 4.56 to 1.69!

    Foster Care process
    Finished licensing requirements: June 2017
    Waiting for our first placement!
    SaphireSweetie88
  • What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)? Domestic Adoption

    -Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.) Still working on marketing materials and waiting to be matched.

    -How are you feeling about the process right now? Better than last time around. I think we finally landed on a good way to explain my living situation in which I am the legal adopting parent but my BF that I live with will play a significant role in parenting.

    -Any questions? None right now.

    -Any tips for the steps you’ve passed? In the Home Study process you should be more open than you intend to be in your adoption contract. For instance get approved for children up to 6 months even if you plan to contract for a newborn. You never know how time will change your preferences.

    -Anything else to add? Not much. It's a holiday weekend here so I'm enjoying spreading out my weekend chores a little so I have time to visit with friends. We had a great barbecue today and I got to see friends I don't often see outside of my public speaking group.
    SaphireSweetie88
  • @britters314 My BF works for a local foster shelter and he says that he sees more kids being placed in foster homes from the shelter during summer because it's easier to move the kids around after school is out. 
    SaphireSweetie88
  • AnnieR81 said:
    @britters314 My BF works for a local foster shelter and he says that he sees more kids being placed in foster homes from the shelter during summer because it's easier to move the kids around after school is out. 
    That's interesting. So that's the opposite of what our agency told us. Maybe it just depends on how each state or even each agency runs things.
    Me: 25   H: 24
    TTC #1: September 2015 - October 2016
    NTNP: November 2016 - present
    TSH levels brought down from 4.56 to 1.69!

    Foster Care process
    Finished licensing requirements: June 2017
    Waiting for our first placement!
  • AnnieR81 said:
    @britters314 My BF works for a local foster shelter and he says that he sees more kids being placed in foster homes from the shelter during summer because it's easier to move the kids around after school is out. 
    That's interesting. So that's the opposite of what our agency told us. Maybe it just depends on how each state or even each agency runs things.
    Yes. I'm sure that each state or agency has their own system.
  • Just finished Home Study #2, just one 2.5 hr session left!
    However our SW mentioned getting us permitted a couple weeks early and submitted our name into a matching pool for an 8mo baby boy whose mom just left the state and said she doesn't want any further attempts at reunification. So they want to place the baby with a preadoptive family since it's looking like reunification won't happen and all relatives have declined care. 
    That match meeting is tentatively scheduled for Friday, so I'm just saying my prayers and trying not to get ahead of myself. 
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

    britters314
  • -What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)?
    We are adopting from foster care in GA. 

    -Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.)
    Placed for 22 months, pending finalization 

    -How are you feeling about the process right now?
    It is slow, but we have been FPs a little while and are used to the state timeline. 

    -Any questions?
    I don't think so. My cw is amazing. 

    -Any tips for the steps you’ve passed?
    Just be patient. And LEARN ABOUT TRAUMA. Too many FP enter the system not understanding trauma and how it changes parenting requirements. 

    -Anything else to add?
    We are just ready to wrap up the process. We continue to foster with no plans as of now to adopt again (out of space in our house and I'm pregnant)

    Married DH <3 : 7/7/12; 3 fur babies (2 dogs and 1 cat)
    DS born 9/3/13; DD born 7/22/15; LO due 5/28/18
    FS (age 5) and FD (age 2) to become AS/AD very soon!

  • @mommabmb I just read your intro! So you have four under 4 and one on the way?! You must have your hands full. I bet your house is always full of excitement. We're going on year 4 of nothing but a dog, I'm so ready for some noise and chaos!
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • @mommabmb I just read your intro! So you have four under 4 and one on the way?! You must have your hands full. I bet your house is always full of excitement. We're going on year 4 of nothing but a dog, I'm so ready for some noise and chaos!
    We actually have a 4yo BS and 2yo BD and our FS is 5 and our FD is 2. So, 4 kids under 6 and one on the way. :) It is a little crazy!
    Married DH <3 : 7/7/12; 3 fur babies (2 dogs and 1 cat)
    DS born 9/3/13; DD born 7/22/15; LO due 5/28/18
    FS (age 5) and FD (age 2) to become AS/AD very soon!

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