I want anyone who may keep my baby for more than hour or two such as my MIL to become certified in infant CPR. I am putting this in UO because my husband acted like I was insane for bringing it up.
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
@muggle621 that's a great idea. I asked people to update their tdap and you would have thought I was the devil.
My UO is I really can't stand it when women reference themselves as "Mama". For example, "Mama is hungry!". I can't pinpoint why it irks me, but I kind of cringe every time i hear it or read it. People do it a lot, so I imagine this is a definitely an UO. Oh, and the use of "hubby" makes me cringe too.
(That class was full at the hospital. I've been first aid certified in the past.)
ETA: UO: I also kinda feel like medical professionals are the only people who can perform CPR correctly.
Stuck in quote box...we have to update certifications every two years. It always baffles me how many healthcare professionals still don't perform the right technique during check-offs.
Also, has anyone noticed how in ACLS we went from many drugs down to only epi now? The theory in my department is that the other drugs weren't used appropriately, and epi showed the best response alone, but that's just a theory. The use of one drug leaves less room for error.
(That class was full at the hospital. I've been first aid certified in the past.)
ETA: UO: I also kinda feel like medical professionals are the only people who can perform CPR correctly.
I'm adult CPR-certified (I need to be since I give immunizations as a pharmacist). The last time I updated my CPR, I asked the guy to show me some infant techniques. I already forget them.
@muggle621 that's a great idea. I asked people to update their tdap and you would have thought I was the devil.
My UO is I really can't stand it when women reference themselves as "Mama". For example, "Mama is hungry!". I can't pinpoint why it irks me, but I kind of cringe every time i hear it or read it. People do it a lot, so I imagine this is a definitely an UO. Oh, and the use of "hubby" makes me cringe too.
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I've been doing this a ton, because I NEED DD to say mama. I just want to hear it so badly.
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@becausescience I get what your saying by medical professionals probably do it best. But by "medical", do you mean first response? Because firefighters are first on scene the majority of the time, and perform CPR exceedingly well until paramedics arrive and take over.
My UO is that I think dogs should not sleep on the bed. I have a dog. But she's furry, and probably rolls in poo at camp.
@DDRRT1982 I have a friend who never referred to herself as anything but was constantly saying "Daddy" and her other two kids' names... her third didn't say Momma because she had never heard it in relation to my friend. Ha.
AFM, my UO is that I'd rather have another helping of savory dinner and skip the sweet dessert. Even when I'm not pregnant.
@becausescience But do you need other adults to call you mama? I think that's the issue here. When people are talking to their kids, cool. When they're referring to themselves as "mama" to me, I struggle to keep my face neutral.
UO: If people don't like The Bump (UX, people, organization), I don't understand why they stick around and try to make it into something else. I mean, I don't go to People.com and try to turn it into something else. If I don't like it, I just don't go there.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
My UO is that I feel a tinge of pity or something similar when people say "marriage is just a piece of paper."
It might be a piece of paper, but unfortunately, the law is not kind to unmarried people and makes life difficult for them to manage. So maybe kudos to people who navigate those waters...
@becausescience Part of my whole "get certified" thing is my husband is a firefighter so I'm pretty comfortable when he is around. I started down that rabbit hole of everything that could go wrong when he's at work and that's when I decided I needed to get certified. We will probably ask my MIL to keep the baby for the occasional date night so that is when I had the thought to ask her too. I do wonder if I would really do it correctly though if an actual emergency would ever occur.
@DDRRT1982 I didn't even think about tdap!! Calling my husband right now lol.
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
@muggle621 that's a great idea. I asked people to update their tdap and you would have thought I was the devil.
My UO is I really can't stand it when women reference themselves as "Mama". For example, "Mama is hungry!". I can't pinpoint why it irks me, but I kind of cringe every time i hear it or read it. People do it a lot, so I imagine this is a definitely an UO. Oh, and the use of "hubby" makes me cringe too.
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*Goes and changes husbands name in phone from Hubby to My Husband* lol
@kiki75 Ha. No I don't have anybody else call me mama or refer to myself as mama to other people. And TBH I feel completely stupid narrating my life for DD.
@muggle621 Personally, I feel like even if somebody takes a CPR course - unless it is something they are using often (or reviewing often) - they are likely to forget the techniques. I'm more worried about choking and drowning (and correct car seat installation/use). Maybe a compromise could be to have your DH teach MIL about CPR and other baby first aid instead of taking a full course elsewhere?
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@kiki75 Yeah, calling yourself Mama to me is like a rando saying "Daddy" in a creepy way. But I adore when moms and dads refer to themselves as Mama/Dada for their kids BC I love love love love the way my son refers to us
Haha. MH started out in my phone as "Name - Company He Worked For" after we were engaged, someone, maybe him changed it to "Name - Fiancé - Company" now that we're married it has been "Name - Husband - Company" and just today I realized I've never updated the company even though he's been with this one for over two years now.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@muggle621 That's a really good idea... my mom is an agoraphobe though and not sure how it's gonna work!
@DDRRT1982 Oh man people who call themselves "mama" to other adults make me feel so icky. Also I've never used the term "hubby" in my life.
@kiki75 Yeah I don't get that either. I am so done with the redundant debates about how things are done here. The majority has spoken.
@barrelocarol I don't feel pity for people who say that about marriage, but I think a lot of people do kinda skirt past the reality of the fact that it makes life easier, tax wise and safety wise. Unfortunately our culture and laws are set up to favor people who get married. MH and I are not huge marriage people (and we maintain our relationship has not changed since marriage), but for us one of the biggest deals was your rights when and if someone is in the hospital. We're the closest people to each other in the world. Our families don't all live near us. If one of us has an emergency and the other one can't come in and even inquire about the medical situation, we're fucked. You can't ignore that reality. That said, I don't think marriage or any kind of relationship commitment is for everyone. And people who are willing to put up with the negatives of not being married in order to stick to their ideals have my full support.
@kiki75 Yeah, calling yourself Mama to me is like a rando saying "Daddy" in a creepy way. But I adore when moms and dads refer to themselves as Mama/Dada for their kids BC I love love love love the way my son refers to us
So my husband and I are guilty of referring to ourselves as "mom/mommy" and "dad/daddy'.....to our animals.
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
@muggle621 Ha! That's fine. Just not to me. "This mama's tired." "Mama's gotta get to the grocery store." So many eye rolls.
On the the topic of the CPR, I do think that generally you tend to forget it pretty soon right after if you aren't using it. BUT, I think that it's still valuable to go because if you should need it, when the 911 operator is coaching you through it, it'll connect to past knowledge and will click a lot better. And give you a bit more confidence so you can do a better job. Plus, I think it's good to try it on the dummies so you get a feel for how aggressive chest compressions really need to be. The piss-poor CPR you see on TV really does people a disservice because they think those gentle compressions are sufficient. People don't realize that good CPR is can actually break ribs.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@muggle621 that's a great idea. I asked people to update their tdap and you would have thought I was the devil.
My UO is I really can't stand it when women reference themselves as "Mama". For example, "Mama is hungry!". I can't pinpoint why it irks me, but I kind of cringe every time i hear it or read it. People do it a lot, so I imagine this is a definitely an UO. Oh, and the use of "hubby" makes me cringe too.
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I've been doing this a ton, because I NEED DD to say mama. I just want to hear it so badly.
I am definitely more referencing the situations that @kiki75 is mentioning. I reference myself as Mama occasionally with my kids, but never when speaking about myself to other adults, lol.
I think parents should have to take a brief CPR course before they leave the hospital. Before we were released from the hospital we had to take a class on the dangers of shaking a baby. But no one checked to make sure our car seat was installed properly before we left or that we knew CPR if we ever needed it. If they take the time to make sure you take a class on not shaking your baby (common sense) then they should make sure your educated on things that may not be common sense but could still save your child's life.
PS - Worse is when random people start referring to women who happen to be mothers as "mama" or similar terms. When my friend was pregnant, she finally told people that she appreciated the excitement but that it made her feel like she wasn't seen as her own person anymore.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
This mama talk is making me laugh! I agree that it is so cringeworthy to refer to yourself as mama to other adults, similar to a guy referring to himself as daddy. Sooo creepy!!!
PS - Worse is when random people start referring to women who happen to be mothers as "mama" or similar terms. When my friend was pregnant, she finally told people that she appreciated the excitement but that it made her feel like she wasn't seen as her own person anymore.
*lurking from F18* YASSSSS.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
@muggle621 when my sister came home from the hospital we all took an infant cpr course(she was born at 28 weeks). I was 11 and my other sister was 9, my parents and my grandparents all took it. I still vividly remember it because I was so scared I was going to need to do it.
@muggle621 when my sister came home from the hospital we all took an infant cpr course(she was born at 28 weeks). I was 11 and my other sister was 9, my parents and my grandparents all took it. I still vividly remember it because I was so scared I was going to need to do it.
I think that is great y'all had to do that, especially since she was born so early!
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
PS - Worse is when random people start referring to women who happen to be mothers as "mama" or similar terms. When my friend was pregnant, she finally told people that she appreciated the excitement but that it made her feel like she wasn't seen as her own person anymore.
@kiki75 thank you for this! I actually don't know when the shift happened for me, but your post made me remember the first time someone called me "mama" and how I felt this exact same way! I was pregnant with my first and had told my best friend early. She would send sweet texts but always called me mama. She meant it to be endearing, and she was already a mother of 1 with 1 on the way, but I remember feeling like, what changed? My baby hadn't even become public knowledge yet and I had become someone different to her, and I wasn't sure about it.
Now that I'm on my third, I think I totally forgot about how that feels transitioning from not being a mom to becoming a first time mom. It was a big shift for me, in a lot of amazing ways, but there's so much truth to preserving one's own identity. This helps me keep new moms in mind when I choose my words of excitement and congratulations! Thank you!
@muggle621 My husband was a lifeguard for 8 years, and had to be certified and up to date on adult and infant CPR. When DS was born, I didn't even think of taking a class, but when he started eating solids I started to freak out a bit, and he taught me the basics. I still thought I would never know what to do if something actually happened, but then I was with my SIL when DS choked on a piece of strawberry and I instantly did what I supposed to...I didn't even know if it was the right thing, but all my in-laws were lifeguards so they've all been trained so SIL knew I was doing the right thing. I was relieved! Also, totally great idea to have everyone take a class. I'm lucky all my in-laws were lifeguards and my mom is a nurse, but if they weren't I'd want them to have some basic knowledge!
*This mama wants Starbucks*...kidding. I actually had this discussion on the weekend. And I'm in the realm of "if you aren't my child, don't call me mama".
So... no cute shirts that say "Mama Bear" to match LO's "Baby Bear" shirt? lol
You do you, Boo! I forget which BMB it was, but I got flamed once bc I said I would totally wear those cheesy shirts that say "Due in (insert month)". I never actually did and totally might this time just to say I rocked that shit:)
@muggle621 that's a great idea. I asked people to update their tdap and you would have thought I was the devil.
My UO is I really can't stand it when women reference themselves as "Mama". For example, "Mama is hungry!". I can't pinpoint why it irks me, but I kind of cringe every time i hear it or read it. People do it a lot, so I imagine this is a definitely an UO. Oh, and the use of "hubby" makes me cringe too.
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I feel exactly the same way. I have no idea why the word Mama bothers me so much!
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Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
(That class was full at the hospital. I've been first aid certified in the past.)
ETA: UO: I also kinda feel like medical professionals are the only people who can perform CPR correctly.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
My UO is I really can't stand it when women reference themselves as "Mama". For example, "Mama is hungry!". I can't pinpoint why it irks me, but I kind of cringe every time i hear it or read it. People do it a lot, so I imagine this is a definitely an UO. Oh, and the use of "hubby" makes me cringe too.
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Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
My UO is that I think dogs should not sleep on the bed. I have a dog. But she's furry, and probably rolls in poo at camp.
AFM, my UO is that I'd rather have another helping of savory dinner and skip the sweet dessert. Even when I'm not pregnant.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
UO: If people don't like The Bump (UX, people, organization), I don't understand why they stick around and try to make it into something else. I mean, I don't go to People.com and try to turn it into something else. If I don't like it, I just don't go there.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
It might be a piece of paper, but unfortunately, the law is not kind to unmarried people and makes life difficult for them to manage. So maybe kudos to people who navigate those waters...
@DDRRT1982 I didn't even think about tdap!! Calling my husband right now lol.
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
*Goes and changes husbands name in phone from Hubby to My Husband* lol
We get our flu shots.
@muggle621 Personally, I feel like even if somebody takes a CPR course - unless it is something they are using often (or reviewing often) - they are likely to forget the techniques. I'm more worried about choking and drowning (and correct car seat installation/use). Maybe a compromise could be to have your DH teach MIL about CPR and other baby first aid instead of taking a full course elsewhere?
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
@DDRRT1982 Oh man people who call themselves "mama" to other adults make me feel so icky. Also I've never used the term "hubby" in my life.
@kiki75 Yeah I don't get that either. I am so done with the redundant debates about how things are done here. The majority has spoken.
@barrelocarol I don't feel pity for people who say that about marriage, but I think a lot of people do kinda skirt past the reality of the fact that it makes life easier, tax wise and safety wise. Unfortunately our culture and laws are set up to favor people who get married. MH and I are not huge marriage people (and we maintain our relationship has not changed since marriage), but for us one of the biggest deals was your rights when and if someone is in the hospital. We're the closest people to each other in the world. Our families don't all live near us. If one of us has an emergency and the other one can't come in and even inquire about the medical situation, we're fucked. You can't ignore that reality. That said, I don't think marriage or any kind of relationship commitment is for everyone. And people who are willing to put up with the negatives of not being married in order to stick to their ideals have my full support.
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
On the the topic of the CPR, I do think that generally you tend to forget it pretty soon right after if you aren't using it. BUT, I think that it's still valuable to go because if you should need it, when the 911 operator is coaching you through it, it'll connect to past knowledge and will click a lot better. And give you a bit more confidence so you can do a better job. Plus, I think it's good to try it on the dummies so you get a feel for how aggressive chest compressions really need to be. The piss-poor CPR you see on TV really does people a disservice because they think those gentle compressions are sufficient. People don't realize that good CPR is can actually break ribs.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
Now that I'm on my third, I think I totally forgot about how that feels transitioning from not being a mom to becoming a first time mom. It was a big shift for me, in a lot of amazing ways, but there's so much truth to preserving one's own identity. This helps me keep new moms in mind when I choose my words of excitement and congratulations! Thank you!
You do you, Boo! I forget which BMB it was, but I got flamed once bc I said I would totally wear those cheesy shirts that say "Due in (insert month)". I never actually did and totally might this time just to say I rocked that shit:)
What she said! ^ lol