Warning: Some may find what I say offensive. I do not intend to offend. We found out yesterday we had a silent miscarriage. Our second miscarriage this year (first in January). I go in for my 12 week check up and after FOUR HOURS in the hospital found out baby had no heartbeat. We are so heartbroken as we have been trying for over a year. What I don't understand is why this has to happen. I get genetic reasons and blah blah blah, but for real. I'm a healthy woman who has a steady job with great pay and insurance and is in a stable relationship. He has a son that's excited to be a big brother and we both know we can love and give this child all the love and things baby needs. We don't smoke, drink, or do any drugs. When I found out I was pregnant I gave up all my bad habits (ie: caffeine, junk food, anything that I thought could be bad for baby) yet, I still can't get past the first trimester. Yeah science may be to blame, but how is it fair when someone addicted to hardcore drugs can still carry to full term or at least long enough for baby to be alive when it's out of the womb, yet when someone like me who tried everything she can can't get past the 12 week mark. We decided to put a pin in having a child because we cannot handle going through it again right now. I don't understand and probably never will.
Re: It's not fair (Rant)
Also, most 'new' research says that recurrent pregnancy loss is considered 2 losses in a row, especially if you have no live child. So you should be eligible for insurance paying for testing done with a Reproductive Endocrinologist. (just something to consider).