Trying to Get Pregnant
icecubeinthedesert
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Are you benched or TTA?
GTKY: What is the one bad habit you wish you could break, but just have no motivation to change?
Me: 30 | DH: 31
Met: August 2006
Married: July 2012
TTC #1 since June 2016
***TW***
BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
BFP: 10/7/17 | EDD: 6/21/17
MTHFR: homozygous A1298C
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Benched/TTA Week of 8/7
icecubeinthedesert
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*please notice*
This thread is for those who have started TTC but are now TTA or Benched. (There is also a TTCAL "sister" thread.)***General TW that this thread can and will mention MC and loss.***
This is a place for those of us who have already started TTC, but have hit a roadblock and are delaying for whatever reason. You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on not TTC and connect with others who are in the same boat. TTC can be a long journey, and having to wait makes it feel even longer -- even if it is for a good reason. I invite you to resurrect this thread at any point in the week if you have something to say. Treat this like an ongoing conversation.
Benched = involuntarily not NTNP/TTC and "out of the game," usually due to medical reasons
TTA = avoiding pregnancy by using protection or FAM, usually for non-health-related reasons __________________________________________________________________
Are you benched or TTA?
What brings you here?
How long do you think you'll be here?
How have things been going?
Any R/R/CS/Q?
GTKY: What is the one bad habit you wish you could break, but just have no motivation to change?
Me: 30 | DH: 31
Met: August 2006
Married: July 2012
TTC #1 since June 2016
***TW***
BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
BFP: 10/7/17 | EDD: 6/21/17
MTHFR: homozygous A1298C
Re: Benched/TTA Week of 8/7
GTKY: What is the one bad habit you wish you could break, but just have no motivation to change?
I can be "too spontaneous" to the point of not thinking things through. When I decide I want to do something I am not very patient about waiting for the right time and tend to dive right in. I have gotten better as I get older though.
Are you benched or TTA? Benched
GTKY: What is the one bad habit you wish you could break, but just have no motivation to change?
Hmmm... right now I'd say overeating/eating too much junky food. I know I should change these habits, but I don't seem motivated enough to actually do it!
@darkstar42 Friend! Been missing you in the dailies. Have you seen improvement in your neck/back? Are you still on pain meds? Enjoy your visit with family.
@darkstar42 Sorry that you find yourself benched! Forgive me for asking if you have already said somewhere, (I've been missing a lot around here lately) but is your pain the result of an accident or condition? What happened? I'm so sorry that you've been dealing with pain and that you are having to take heavy meds for it.
Are you benched or TTA? Benched
GTKY: What is the one bad habit you wish you could break, but just have no motivation to change? I know that I don't take enough time out to do things or care for myself without guilt. Things are so busy right now though, it's hard to make it a priority.
edit because I can't seem to get that first tag to work @rachelg777
@dukestar5 Thank you! I will! Fx for you this month!!
@kbamomma33 I'm sorry about your knee, but I hope for the most optimal situation for recovery and the future for you. I hope you can take some time for self-care this month, but I know that's easier said than done. Thinking of you!
</div><div>What brings you here? WFIVF</div><div>
</div><div>How long do you think you'll be here? WFAF</div><div>
</div><div>How have things been going? Okay. Work at the Bank is giving me 20 more hours at another location, so yay? DH is not thrilled about it, and it will be a big adjustment, but hopefully a positive step...</div><div>
</div><div>Any R/R/CS/Q? I found out the low-dose HCG has a 9-day expiration date, so I literally need to call them with CD1. But they are local to NJ, so he said if I get CD1 on a Saturday (When they are closed) and would need it for Monday, they will take care of it same day! Phew! And then if i'm stimming for longer than 8 or 9 days, they will send out more at no charge!
That was my rave! Rant is I'm now on the phone trying to make sure the insurance approved the Lupron trigger my doctor wants to add, and apparently they want me to wait for that to come through and then just order everything all at once, for overnight delivery. :# It is so strange to think we're finally here after all this time! I could get AF anywhere from 5-10 days now so.... it's just really emotional I guess. AND I HAVEN'T EVEN STARTED SHOOTING MYSELF FULL OF HORMONES YET!!! LOL</div>
<span>GTKY: My diet has been all over the place too. I was religiously logging my food before, and lost a tonne of weight before the wedding. Now I'm just like hahaha. Nope. ;)</span>
@darkstar42. So glad you're enjoying the relief and less stress an imposed TTC break can give! I am trying to enjoy the calm before the storm, too...
@rachelg777 I have heard you can also get a little spotting with ovulation, too sometimes. Fx it all becomes more clear soon!
@kbamomma33 I was wondering what the diagnosis had been with your knee! I'm sorry to hear it's so serious, and I'm right there with you with the frustration over not knowing what the future holds and how to plan for it. Do you have a sense when they'll figure out whether or not they can repair the tear? I did not have a specific injury to my neck/shoulders, so I'm not sure what's going on! I had soreness/stiffness for a week or so, which then exploded into intense muscle spasms that sent me to the ER. I'm trying to keep the meds to a minimum, but they've got me on ibuprofen, valium, and oxycodone. I'm taking as few of the latter two as I can.
@rachelg777 and @businesswife Thanks for the good wishes! I was initially really upset at being benched this month, so I was surprised to find that it was also somewhat of a relief. Normally one of the upsides would be drinking though, which I still have to avoid because of the meds! Oh well.
@BusinessWife Sounds like a lot of stress dealing with insurance! I hope everything gets sorted out and you have a good support system to help you deal with all the emotions that come up around this. *hugs*
Are you benched or TTA? Benched
GTKY: What is the one bad habit you wish you could break, but just have no motivation to change? I have a bad habit of picking at my cuticles, and my husband always tries to get me to stop. I tend to do it when I'm not even thinking about it, like when we're watching tv or something.
My surgery isn't scheduled yet because I have to get medical clearance from a pcp first. The soonest that the pcp could get me in is 8/18. I have to have the surgery before 9/3 because all of the pre-op stuff (chest X-ray, ekg, labs) will expire if I don't, and then I would have to re-do them all. So, sometime between 8/18- 9/3. Someone is supposed to call me to schedule, but I don't think they will until after the pcp visit. I feel like that's a tight timeline, but the orthopedic surgeon seemed chill and like that's how they do things all the time. So yeah, I don't know the exact date yet and I'm stressing because I just want to know all the things! I know that you more than understand my feels!
@darkstar42 They won't know if they can repair the tear or not until I'm under and they get in there. Not ideal!
@pumpkinpancake Of course it is ok for you to post here! Welcome. Though, I'm so sorry that you find yourself here because of a loss. I also went through a loss in April and understand how rough it is, both physically and mentally. As far as temping, I decided not to temp until after I got the first AF after my loss. I felt like starting fresh with a new cycle was the best thing for me personally. You are going through a lot right now, and it may be nice to take a temping break and just focus on caring for yourself and mentally processing everything, you know? Plus, that will probably give your temps a chance to level themselves out a little bit. It's absolutely your preference though. Some ladies like to try and catch that first O after loss, which sometimes comes before AF. I did not try and do that, as my OB advised me to wait. I'm glad that I did because I just think that temping would have been too much at that point. Ok- sorry for the ramble! Again, I'm so sorry for your loss and my heart really goes out to you. I'm here if you ever need to talk. The ladies on the TTCAL thread are great too. *Hugs*
@pumpkinpancake Welcome! So very sorry for your loss. I would imagine that's got to be a real mind-trip. :/ So long all I ever wanted to see was ANYTHING other than a SWN... how strange to have that be the thing you hope to see... ❤ hang in there. Looking forward to when you finally get your closure.