FFFC - 7/28

kiki75

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So I actually had a really similar FFFC back in TTGP when my oldest sister got pregnant.  Now my OTHER sister is also pregnant and I have the same confession.  She is hoping for a girl but I hope it's a boy.  Literally only for unkind reasons.  I'm an asshole.  It's just any time anyone places a TON of emphasis on how much they hope for one sex I immediately hope they get the other.  She is obsessed with her baby being a girl and it's obnoxious.  Also she has decided to wait until birth to find out the sex which I think is a horrible idea if you have a strong sex preference.  Like what if she has a boy and her very first reaction is to be disappointed?  That would be a shitty way to meet your baby.

Also, even more selfishly of me, her due date is 2 days after mine, but since this will be my first and her second she will likely give birth before me.  If she has a daughter then it would be the first granddaughter.  MY daughter is supposed to be the first granddaughter.

heatherdubrow

@antoto I'm the same way!

becausescience

antoto said:

... It's just any time anyone places a TON of emphasis on how much they hope for one sex I immediately hope they get the other...

Same.

FFFC: I hide candy so I don't have to share with DH.

heatherdubrow

I'll say it: I think starting your own special snowflake thread every time you feel something is attention whorey AF. And this is about no one in particular, there are a lot of people doing this lately and it's to the point that the threads about ACTUAL LOSSES and threatened losses are getting buried.

muggle621

@heatherdubrow THANK YOU!!! It bothers me more and more every time someone does this! I too am concerned that someone will post a thread about a loss and then they will think no one cares/we are all a bunch of heartless assholes when in fact hardly anyone saw the thread because it is lost among these self serving random posts. 
I think the occasional unique question is ok but don't post stuff that can easily be googled or answered by your doctor. 

babybluu

DD stayed the night with my parents tonight, DH is away for work... it's 9:50 am and I'm still in bed and don't know when I'll be getting out   can't remember the last time I stayed in bed this long, and I'm soaking it up. 

missydallas

@antoto - I think that's completely norm

@babybluu - stay in bed allllll day. No one here will judge!

@heatherdubrow - I COMPLETELY agree with you.

@becausescience - My nightstand is full of candy

This is specific - but people losing their sh*t about me having twins and saying things like "I don't know how you'll do it" - well me neither, but I'm sure I'll manage. No need to point out that you think I won't leave the house for literally months. Thanks for emphasizing something I'm already slightly nervous about.

mdfarmchick

I'm going out for an adult dinner without DS tonight and I'm probably having sushi. 

babybluu

Update I'm getting out of bed, but only because I'm about to drive to Dunkin to get some donuts 

@mdfarmchick I wish my appetite would let me eat sushi. There was a sushi place in Florida that had a sushi roll with steak! So good lol. Eat some for me too tonight! 

heatherdubrow

@mdfarmchick sushi sounds amazing!

vflux33

@mdfarmchick If I could stomach sushi I'd def eat it. I've been going to the same place for 3 years, I know the owners, and it's only 45 minutes from the ocean. My sushi place is probably one of the safest local food places. 

@missydallas Yes, so much this! I've only known for about 48 hours we were having twins and already my mom and sister are laughing about how I'll be a mess with them. I know it's going to be a lot of work and I'm a FTM but I can tell the comments are going to be super annoying. 

missydallas

@vflux33 - Here's my reasoning (for FTM of twins) - we're not going to know any different or what it's like to have a singleton or a baseline to compare. So while it's probably going to be tough - we won't know what it's like to just have one. This is my mantra.

vflux33

That's a really good point @missydallas! I'll use that the next time I get a comment...

I also think the toughness in some areas will be made up for in others. Like it sounds pretty hard to me to chase down a toddler while you also have to care for an infant (and props to anyone here who has done that or plans to). Having them at the same stage all the time might be easier in certain ways. 

kiki75

@missydallas @vflux33 That would make me want to correct them. "I'm sorry I must have misheard you when you said, 'Congratulations! That is so exciting!'" 

Will it be hard? Yes. Are you a pair of incompetent buffoons who won't be able to handle it at all? Nope. You'll figure it out. AND! All the hella cute coordinating outfits! I'm slightly disappointed to not be having twins just because I won't have two kids to put in these outfits. I don't even care what sexes. I'd get matching pants and definitely dress them like this. 

FFFC 1: I've half-jokingly been attempting to use "...in my condition". For example, the drains need zippered to get the hair out. H commented on it and I said I'd get to it. But then added, "But I'm not sure I should...in my condition." joking. H jumped in to agree and I practically threw the tools at him and ran away to work. I HATE THAT JOB. But, he didn't do it yesterday and I'm not sure he'll do it today and he's leaving for work tomorrow so I may end up doing it this weekend. That may be the day I finally barf.

FFFC 2: I love when I'm on TB on desktop and I can see how many people looked at a post and had this reaction

vflux33

@kiki75 LOL yes! I'm totally going to start talking about "my condition" more. I've definitely gone old school and started saying "in the family way" a lot. 

Those onesies are so cute! Sadly, MH is very much against matching outfits. I'll work on him. Also people are gonna buy us matching stuff for them--it's inevitable. I can always get matching outfits and pretend they're from someone else.  

arhodes6

@vflux33 and @missydallas my FFFC is that I'm jealous you're having twins. I wanted twins with DS and with this one. I know it would be hard but so so so awesome! You ladies will rock it! I can only imagine all the amazing baby snuggles

kiki75

@vflux33 They're not matching! They're coooooooooordinating! So it's okay! I'm against constant matching. I think it's super weird and really, kinda wasteful. Why would you buy two of every outfit instead of just buying about 50% more clothes or whatever and they just share all the time until they're old enough to care about having their very own clothes? But there are some pretty funny coordinating outfits that I would definitely go for. 

vflux33

@kiki75 Yes! I can work with that!

eggplantface

kiki75 said:

@missydallas @vflux33 That would make me want to correct them. "I'm sorry I must have misheard you when you said, 'Congratulations! That is so exciting!'"
*snip*

This is why I love you.

runnergirl2015

@missydallas and @vflux33: I have a good friend that had a singleton, followed by twins. She said she preferred having the youngest two together, and didn't think it was nearly as bad as everyone made out b/c they basically did everything at the same time and she only had to do it once (e.g., potty training). 

My FFFC: I'm 90% sure I'm not going to even attempt to BF this baby. I've tried 3 different times, with absolutely no success. Plus it acts as trigger for PPD/PPA for me, and last time was really bad. I'm not sure I'll survive it again. 

heatherdubrow

@runnergirl2015 no shame here. Babies need a happy healthy mama more than they need breast milk. 

kalawa

Hmmmm my FFFC is that I made my son his bday cake...and ate the tub of icing. I don't have a sweet tooth, but Duncan Hines icing in a tub is my vice.

arhodes6

Another - I love tit'd the shit out of a certain thread today, but I have a hard time adding my two cents because I am such a sarcastic person IRL I'm afraid you all will take what I say so wrong and end up hating me. I suck at having an Internet personality so I usually don't comment. But I get so much entertainment from you ladies! 

kalawa

@arhodes6 I hear ya. I am so sarcastic in real life, but on the internet it's hard to know if people will take what I'm saying sarcastically as the way I feel. Or be hurt by what I'm saying, when I don't mean it. I'm not a complete biatch...just a sarcastic one. 

dani103

@antoto I am the same way with one of my sisters. There are 3 of us and I am the oldest. The middle sister went and got pregnant a few years ago pretty much for attention and I was so pissed at her. Then I had my son. Now my baby sister is pregnant, but I am soooo happy for her. Also, me, all of my siblings, and my husband's sibling has boys. I really really really want to be the first with a girl. 

@heatherdubrow Same!

@babybluu That is amazing and I am so jealous

@runnergirl2015 No judgement here. As long as that baby is fed. I hate when people get all judgy about it when it's not their business. And PPD/PPA sucks so much! 

ladybugsamom

When someone posts something that doesn't go over well and, in return, gets ALL the snark, I'm wildly entertained by the fallout and I wish we had more of it. 

kalawa

@ladybugsamom what you said! 

day38

I found out earlier this week that the head of the department at my last job was asked to resign in Sept and hasn't found anything yet. He's 100% the reason I left that job, and I was there for a total 6.5 months, 2 of which I spent looking for a new job. I'm secretly happy about the karma (he made our lives miserable).

mamaloba816

Not so flameworthy to begin with, but I can never think of fun, juicy confessions for these things. I'll totally think of something good on a Monday, then I'll forget. This makes me feel boring. 

missydallas

@kiki75 - I'm all for coordinating outfits! And your response made me LOL

@runnergirl2015  - yes, this! Someone at work was like, at least you're hitting milestones at the same time!

@day38 - I feel you. I had a pretty terrible manager who luckily "transitioned" out before I found a new job. I didn't realize how much it actually affected me until she left and I actually wasn't dreading going to work.

kiki75

Don't leave us hanging! Y'all gotta dive in!

tlcl13

@mdfarmchick Eat some for me, I always want to get sushi and my nausea puts me in my place real quick.

I stayed in my pajamas until 2:30 this afternoon. Woke up at 8 and took a 2 hour nap at 12..... YOLO

I'm really excited for people to buy me (by me, I mean the baby) things over the next 8 months. I just opened the door to the UPS man dropping off a present from a friend. I'm the first to have kids so everyone is dying to buy me (I mean the baby....) things. 

Lastly, I quit my job recently and am starting a new one in late August. I was planning on using this month to study for my new job since it is in a very different area than I was in, however, I haven't opened a single book I bought to read. Oh well... 

kmalls

I can only think of food-related FFFCs this week, and those are lame. I need to up my game. 

LiveNLove44

I took the kids to the zoo all morning and it was crazy warm out. DH worked a half day and arrived home as we were finishing lunch. After this morning, I decided that trip to the zoo > half day at work. I grabbed my book and water and headed to lay down, and he took over for nap time stories (and challenges...with my 3.5y-o). Sorry not sorry, this mom is done until at least 3pm. 

ambybambi

Not a very good confession, but something I'd be embarrassed to admit to most:

I have spent a good amount of time prior to this pregnancy watching baby sex reveal videos on youtube of other people revealing the sex of their baby or babies. I just love that moment and seeing their reactions and it makes me emotional. I have never done a reveal and don't think I ever will, not really my style, but I LOVE watching the balloon popping, paint splattering and all the other creative and cliche reveals.

rsquaredr

All I've ate today is Ginger Ale and the batter from DD1's cupcakes for tomorrow. Salmonella be damned.

kmalls

@LiveNLove44 that's completely legit. I took the kids to a farm this morning and trust me, when DH gets home he'll be doing bed time AND he's making dinner. Solo parenting on outings like that wins 10,000 parenting points. 

FFFC: I have no fear when it comes to public bathrooms. I don't "hover" over the seat. I don't use a toilet seat cover if one is available, and I'll certainly never line up tiny squares of toilet paper on the seat if no cover is available. I'm in and out like lightning. 

***this does not apply to portapotties, which are the work of Satan and I will not use one under any circumstance. If you think they're ok you're a lunatic and we can't be friends. 

heatherdubrow

I really love that recent posts have brought out the closet snark/sarcasm lovers. Come out and play!

missydallas

@kmalls - YESSSSSSSS - I'm the same way, there is no way you will find me doing any sorts of squats - let alone to pee.

day38

I'm moving this to UO... I got confused which thread I was in. Ooops! Sorry for the somewhat DD.