Monday Bitchfest - 7/24

kiki75

babybluu

I find it strangely convenient that my toddler decides to poop exactly when huge nausea bouts come over me. Why you do this toddler? Not cool. 

mdfarmchick

My sister is really pushing the aunt role right now. She has taken DS twice in 20 minutes when he is less than 5 feet from me. Oh and when you pick up my toddler and he didn't want you to, it's kind of rude for you to make him ask to get down. You know he doesn't say "may I please get down". And he's not even two yet. He doesn't have to talk. Especially on your command.

((edit because I can't type today))

kiki75

My neighborhood has a Facebook group. Those people are the biggest bunch of passive aggressive whiners.

Today, the landscapers for the common areas came at 7:30 "before I even had my coffee!" JFC. Really? You know what time these guys got up to work a hard frigging day? They're trying to beat the heat. But if you really have such a problem with it, literally put your pants on and go talk to them. 

Last night apparently someone's dog was barking (wouldn't know because I had the fan running so I slept right through it). "Any chance the dog that has been barking for the last hr could be brought inside? its (sic) 12:30" then "And now it's 1:04 and they are still barking can we please get them inside (sic)" I'm going to take a wild guess, the owner of the barking dog is not sitting there reading the Facebook group. 1. Turn on white noise/put ear plugs in. 2. Call the cops. 3. Put your pants on and go talk to the owners. 

Last week, "I think it's time to bring the kids in the house. It's almost 930 (sic) and some of us have to get up for work or recover from stage 4 bone cancer." Walk outside to the kids that are just around the corner. Politely ask them to STFU. Tell them it's a work night for you and you need your sleep and that their yelling is keeping you up. Go home. Turn on white noise and go to sleep. Their parents aren't sitting around reading the Facebook group.

And no, these aren't teenagers living on their own for the first time. They're full on legit adults. 

ETA: Yes, I do see the irony that I'm sitting on the internet bitching about them instead of talking to them directly. But, I also am not expecting any actual changes unless I put my pants on and mention that they could just handle their problems directly instead of being passive aggressive on Facebook.

kitandcat

DH doesn't want to tell anyone (ANYONE!) about our pregnancy until my appointment when we hear the heartbeat, which isn't until August 24th!! I'll be 9 weeks +4. I think he just wants it to be our special moment for awhile, which I think is really nice, but it's very hard to be pregnant and not tell my mom who is my best friend in the world!! 

On another note, I'm sitting on my couch reading The Bump and Facebook when I have about a million things to do :-/ so I should stop my bitchfest and get busy but I just don't want to!! 

i_mean_really

@kiki75 neighborhood Facebook groups are the worst. Someone posted on mine today complaining about a toddler laughing in a coffee shop bc their parent was tickling them. Cue all the opinions about kids behaving vs all the one defending them.

My kid's school wants $100 per child for teacher appreciation week. I'm all for appreciating the teachers but.... $100?? Plus we make cards, buy flowers, and get gift cards.

kmalls

@kiki75 I love neighborhood drama like that! It's so unbelievably passive aggressive and juvenile, but I hate-read my town's parenting FB page for just that reason (we don't have a neighborhood page). I get so mad reading it, but I just can't quit them. I truly wonder how some of these people function on a day-to-day basis. Please keep us updated on any more shenanigans, it's hilarious! 

PS - I don't mean to diminish your bitching at all. Your neighborhood FB page is certainly bitchfest-worthy.

becausescience

@i_mean_really That does seem like a lot from each family.

PSA from a teacher: Please make sure you don't complain about things like that or the amount of school supplies needed in front of your kids - it can show them that school isn't important.  Vent to other adults.  (not saying that anybody here does, but I always overhear complaints while I'm classroom supply shopping)

gazelle319

I was in my best friend's wedding a few weeks ago, and her sister was the maid of honor. Problem is, I think she  (the sister) was a total ***** throughout the whole wedding process - she was sour the whole time at the bachelorette party, always complaining, then was stressed out/angry the morning we were getting ready for the wedding (and the bride actually stepped outside to cry due to stress in the middle of getting ready), and then when we were taking pictures she was super slow in moving to different places for pictures and was complaining that "she was going to take as long as she wanted" when we asked her to hurry up please and complaining to the bride that she had dirtied her dress while trying to help the bride with the bride's dress. Then, when it was time for the MOH speech, she literally spoke for less than a minute and didn't tell any personal stories or anything, it was very generic and not personal. 

But, the bride (my BF), is the kindest, most selfless person I know, and rather than getting upset with her sister, she will just always do what she can to please her and make her happy, putting her sister's needs over her own. I hate seeing how it ruined her wedding experience, she deserved so much more (less stress, more happiness around her, a better MOH speech), and though I tried to do what I could to cancel out the negativity, I still feel bad and angry at the sister. But, it doesn't really feel like my place to tell off the sister for her behavior, even though it's still bothering me after the fact (I don't really know the sister, I've only interacted with her as part of the wedding, and don't want to do anything to make the situation worse). Maybe the sister was just resentful that her young sister was getting married before her, but even so, it's frustrating that she would act so self-centered. Trying to let it go, but it's taking a while....arghhhhh.  

megpeg

@kitandcat my DH is the same this time. We have two other kids and told everyone asap with them. He wants to wait to tell our kids until 12 weeks. Meanwhile I am dying to tell them and have to figure out what to tell people when I have an appointment and need a sitter.

My 23 year old sister lives with us while she goes to school. She does hardly anything to help out, her room is a disaster and she leaves dishes and wet towels everywhere. I basically get paid the utilities she uses for living here by my mom paying our cell phone bills. She is possibly the laziest person ever. She will be here until next April when she is done with her masters degree and has been here for 15 months already.

i_mean_really

@becausescience Yeah, good point. Didn't complain to her about the money for appreciation either (also, she's 2 lol), but it just feels like so much when we already buy gifts and send cards. I guess I'll just cough it up lol. 

HappyMonkey817

I'm exhausted beyond belief, and I miss having the occasional cocktail after a trying day with a toddler.

i_mean_really

@gazelle319 it sounds like you've done what you could... just being a good, supportive friend when the bride needed it. i would resist the urge to say something (like you already are) because the bride probably wants to just forget and enjoy her new marriage.

pghctwife

My brother eloped last summer and this weekend we had a celebration for them. It was a ton of fun but it really kinda sucked being stone cold sober andhiding not drinking too. Cocktail hour I had to walk around with a beer that I couldn't drink instead of the flavored seltzers they had that were super yummy. Boo. And I'm no dancer, it's way better with a few drinks for me dancing ha. 

And to top it off, I was nauseated by the lamb that I was looking forward to, I have no sweet tooth and couldn't enjoy the dessert table, and still felt hung over yesterday and today because of the exhaustion from it. 

Whomp whomp.

ishmoney

Ok. So, I'm guardian to 3 of my half siblings (they are wayyy younger than me of course) and their mother came to MY house for a visit and brought FLEAS with her!!! Tell me this is not normal. I am going to a hotel while SO sprays. I can't believe this. Has this ever happened to anyone else?? I am already a bit paranoid... I'm tryna protect this little one as best I can. NO MORE VISITORS!

crossfitbabybump

I'm going to just bitch for a second about the co-worker (that I can't quite pin point who it is yet) that keeps blowing up the bathroom! I get it, if you have to go you have to go. But it's literally EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. at the same time!!! Like clockwork. And I can't even go in there to puke because the smell is just so bad...

Please.. do that crap at home before you get to work. Why they have to do it as soon as they get here in the morning.. Ugh. I don't know.

Rant over. -_-

LiveNLove44

@kiki75 your neighborhood FB page sounds far more entertaining than mine! Everyone on mine is pretty chill with the occasional, "Hey, did anyone see that creepy car driving through when all the kids were out on Tuesday?" 

@i_mean_really $100 is a lot of money--I wonder what they are doing with it?! That seems like a lot, and it can make the other spending feel even more stressful for some families. 

As a teacher, I appreciate the PSA @becausescience!

crossfitbabybump

@gazelle319 that is just awful!! I can relate. My SIL did the same thing at our wedding, however she wasn't in the party. She was a total bitch the whole time, rolling her eyes and sighing really loudly during our vows. Shooting dirty looks to everyone that wasn't her family. Didn't clap or cheer or anything fun during any of it. She was the last to stand up when I came walking down the aisle. I had guests coming up to me and asking me who she was and what her deal was. It was so embarrassing.

But at her wedding, I made sure to make the most of it, help out, have fun and enjoy myself. Their loss if they want to act petty of something like that. Pray for her that her wedding will be a joyous day and that your BF will be the greatest MOH she's ever seen.

becausescience

@crossfitbabybump I try not to judge people for their bodily functions, but that's just me. That person could have medical condition or something. 

My MBF is that my gel manicure that I got 3 weeks ago started chipping. Now I have to either remove it myself (which I'd totally do if not pg) or pay $10 for the nail salon to remove it (probably much faster and efficiently than I could do at home). #firstworldproblems

kburg15

My bitchfest today is that my mom got drunk yesterday at DS's first birthday party...
Wouldn't have been a big deal if all my in-laws and our friends weren't there. And if she wasn't throwing shade at other party guests. When I said something to her, she told me to "Lighten up and have a drink" (she obv doesn't know I'm pregnant). So annoying.

kitandcat

@crossfitbabybump we had a moving company pack up our stuff and move us. The first day three people arrived and WITHIN 5 MINUTES two of the three went #2 in my foyer bathroom. I was sort of surprised... like you're on your way to a "clients" house... why not stop and do your business at a gas station before coming into my house?? I'm ok if you need to do it, obviously they were there all day, but why, OH WHY, right when you walk in the door !!! 

LiveNLove44

My MIL had the kids yesterday, and I'm really working hard on our relationship, but she makes it so difficult with her unpredictable, emotional responses to normal adult interactions. DD asked to ride home in my car (we left DH's car with them so they could bring the kids to the park), so I buckled her in. DD asked for a hug from MIL and then DD started throwing a fit saying she wanted to go in daddy's car. Too late, honey, we're headed out. MIL panicked and acted like I was a horrible mother for not switching her. And clearly I am a horrible mother b/c DD didn't want to ride in my car. MIL: "She wasn't like this at all tonight. This is odd. I wonder why she wants to ride with [DH] instead. She's so upset!" YES. Yes, MIL, she is. But she is so upset b/c it's past her bedtime, she's 3, and she's trying to get more attention, like the coddling you're doing, before we go. Gah. It's so hard to mom in front of some people. MIL proceeded to text me after we left, "She was a perfect angel the whole time. She didn't fuss at all the whole time she was with us." Got it. Ugh. She called DH later and was upset that we didn't come in to get the flowers she got for our anniversary (we were there for like 15 minutes, and she didn't mention it), so DH drove back over there after we were all in bed to get the flowers, thank her profusely, and assure her that DD was just overtired and she doesn't hate her parents.

crossfitbabybump

@kitandcat oh my gosh!!! NO! Seriously? I get it, people have to poop. BUT there are places where it just shouldn't happen. And my coworker doesn't have anything wrong with them, she just likes to poop first thing the morning once she punches in, on company time. If anything, she should do it upstairs where I don't go to the bathroom. She knows I'm pregnant. And I just wonder like... do they realize other people can smell that? At least spray the febreeze in the bathroom for goodness sake! lol

kburg15

@LiveNLove44 I'd be so ragey

carig63

My almost-6-year-old purposely peed his pants last night. We had a toad get into our downstairs bathroom WEEKS ago, yet he decided to piss himself rather than even go in there on the off chance another one had come in (none had).
DH used pet urine spray on everything, but it still smells like pee down there, which makes me gag.

heatherdubrow

crossfitbabybump said:

@kitandcat oh my gosh!!! NO! Seriously? I get it, people have to poop. BUT there are places where it just shouldn't happen. And my coworker doesn't have anything wrong with them, she just likes to poop first thing the morning once she punches in, on company time. If anything, she should do it upstairs where I don't go to the bathroom. She knows I'm pregnant. And I just wonder like... do they realize other people can smell that? At least spray the febreeze in the bathroom for goodness sake! lol

I thought you didn't know who it was?
And god forbid someone use the bathroom around a pregnant woman!

crossfitbabybump

heatherdubrow said:

crossfitbabybump said:

@kitandcat oh my gosh!!! NO! Seriously? I get it, people have to poop. BUT there are places where it just shouldn't happen. And my coworker doesn't have anything wrong with them, she just likes to poop first thing the morning once she punches in, on company time. If anything, she should do it upstairs where I don't go to the bathroom. She knows I'm pregnant. And I just wonder like... do they realize other people can smell that? At least spray the febreeze in the bathroom for goodness sake! lol

I thought you didn't know who it was?
And god forbid someone use the bathroom around a pregnant woman!

and God forbid you guys leave me the fuck alone. Trolls.

tlcl13

Someone keyed my brand new car..... people really suck. 

Racso12

@tlcl13 Oh hell no. I would be effing livid.

My bitch is to the old lady at the post office. She was walking out as I was about to walk in. I had my one-year-old in one arm and I was carrying a giant ikea bag full of packages in the other. I expected her to hold the door for me (how presumptuous of me) however she did not. She kindly let it shut so I could set my bag down to open the door for myself. She was still sitting in her car when I was leaving so in my head I mean-mugged her real bad.

heatherdubrow

My mbf is my food aversions. I took the time and made mozzarella stuffed meatballs and pasta, and I took one bite and gagged. Couldnt eat it!

pumpkinpancake

crossfitbabybump said:

@kitandcat oh my gosh!!! NO! Seriously? I get it, people have to poop. BUT there are places where it just shouldn't happen. And my coworker doesn't have anything wrong with them, she just likes to poop first thing the morning once she punches in, on company time. If anything, she should do it upstairs where I don't go to the bathroom. She knows I'm pregnant. And I just wonder like... do they realize other people can smell that? At least spray the febreeze in the bathroom for goodness sake! lol

I'm sorry but most people don't "plan" when they have to go to the bathroom. For a lot of people, morning coffee makes you have to go, so it's only logical that she might need to go after she gets to work. You can't just choose not to go because you're at work.  

eggplantface

woundedunicorn

@crossfitbabybump isn't the bathroom where the toilets are? Aren't toilets made for that exact function?
if you're not signing her paycheck, why worry about it? The smell? Well, that's life. Shit stinks. Wait until you're changing diapers.

(edit for spelling...I'm special)

cnamommyof2

Ugh! Don't know if anyone else here is a cna or know the work that a day shift cna goes through in a skilled nursing facility but it's hard, stressful, HEAVY work! I've been cramping at work and want to be taken off! And my dr won't budge! Apparently it's okay to get kicked in the stomach a work! 
I know I'm just being a baby but still, I hate not getting my way lol 

pbtoast

barrelocarol

@kforbes14That sucks! Just asking, not suggesting anything, but do you love your OB?

pbtoast

My MBF/FWP is that I just bought all new bras within the last few months since I weaned my son, and I feel like pretty soon none of them are going to fit again. Plus side is returning to comfy nursing bras, which I wore through most of my pregnancy last time. By the time I'm done having kids, I imagine I'll have clothes and bras (and shoes-WTF my feet grew a whole size since I got pregnant the first time) in about 4 different sizes. 

cnamommyof2

barrelocarol said:

@kforbes14That sucks! Just asking, not suggesting anything, but do you love your OB?

He delivered my first but right now I hate him and want a new one! Lol 

kitandcat

Guys, if you don't have anything nice to say, please don't say it. This post is for venting about things that frustrate you, not for you to pick apart what frustrates others. Why is it absolutely necessary to share your opinion on someone's vent? Is it important? Is it relating to safety? No. Come on guys, please behave as you would in person and not as though a computer is hiding your face. We are kind, caring adults and no one here should feel attacked over such a small, insignificant thing as this. This is not what this community is for. If you don't like it, just scroll along. This will all get out of hand if we aren't kind to one another.

arhodes6

@pbtoast my feet grew with my first too! One foot grew a full size, the other grew a half size. So that's fun. 

heatherdubrow

@kitandcat the whole point of community is back and forth. And if I have something to say I will say it. Also, there is a lot that went down before you intro'd here, you're missing some information.