Trying to Get Pregnant
AlohaKumu
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Are you benched or TTA?
GTKY: What do you usually do to kill time at an airport before a flight or while waiting for a transfer?
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TTA/Benched Check-In Week of 7/24
AlohaKumu
member
*please notice*
This thread is for those who have started TTC but are now TTA or Benched. (There is also a TTCAL "sister" thread.)***General TW that this thread can and will mention MC and loss.***
This is a place for those of us who have already started TTC, but have hit a roadblock and are delaying for whatever reason. You
can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on not TTC and
connect with others who are in the same boat. TTC can be a long journey,
and having to wait makes it feel even longer -- even if it is for a
good reason. I invite you to resurrect this thread at any point in the
week if you have something to say. Treat this like an ongoing
conversation.
Benched = involuntarily not NTNP/TTC and "out of the game," usually due to medical reasons
TTA
= avoiding pregnancy by using protection or FAM, usually for
non-health-related reasons
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Are you benched or TTA?
What brings you here?
How long do you think you'll be here?
How have things been going?
Any R/R/CS/Q?
GTKY: What do you usually do to kill time at an airport before a flight or while waiting for a transfer?
Me: 35 DH: 28
TTC since June 2016
Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016
AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017
Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017
October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total)
Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen
12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP
2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN
Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone
Abnormal SIS Oct 2018
Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis.
12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN
Our journey has come to an end.
~*~*~Nevertheless, she persisted~*~*~TTC since June 2016
Azoospermia diagnosis (zero count) Dec 2016
AZFc chromosome microdeletion discovery March 2017
Unsuccessful TESE for DH in August 2017
October 2017 IVF with donor sperm
29R, 24M, 16F, 2d5, 4d6 (6 embryos total)
Only 3 could have PGS. 2/3 normal. 5 embies frozen
12/15/17 FET #1 (1 embryo)--CP
2/7/17 FET #2 (2 embryos)--BFN
Chronic endometritis diagnosis May 2018
ERA Sept 2018--borderline receptive--12 more hours of progesterone
Abnormal SIS Oct 2018
Repeat hysteroscopy Nov 1. Treated recurring endometritis.
12/4/18 FET #3 (2 embryos)--BFN
Our journey has come to an end.
Re: TTA/Benched Check-In Week of 7/24
GTKY: What do you usually do to kill time at an airport before a flight or while waiting for a transfer? Airport bars are the best, I always been the coolest people there for some reason
Are you benched or TTA? Benched
GTKY: What do you usually do to kill time at an airport before a flight or while waiting for a transfer? Have a beer, walk around, or read!
@rachelg777
I'm so glad you've find an OB you really like. I love when I can bring all of my questions and have them thoroughly answered too.
I've been running about 3-4x a week, usually 5-6 miles. Hoping to start incorporating more strength training too. I'd like to run some longer races this year.
Once AF arrives, will you be able to try this cycle? Or are you still advised to wait one more? I imagine the wait is so tough. DH has a business trip next month and it will definitely be over FW, so I'm already dreading being benched/missing that cycle. Hope you can get off the bench soon!
ETA to tag Rachelg777
</div><div><b>What brings you here? </b> Waiting for IVF...</div><div>
</div><div><b>How long do you think you'll be here? </b> This is my last cycle - testing - before we start stimms with my next AF, around August 15th</div><div>
</div><div><b>How have things been going? </b> So greatly relieved we found sperm!!! But now comes a new set of anxieties about whether IVF is even going to work...</div><div>
</div><div><b>Any R/R/CS/Q? [ETA] </b>I feel the same way about this thread... while yes, technically we are in a testing cycle, we have been testing and testing and testing this whole time, so even though we did get sperm, and we can finally move forward in terms of trying IVF, in some ways not much has changed at all. It's weird. But I will be sad in a way to move on... I will miss this thread. Being benched can feel so very isolating, and it's really such a good feeling knowing we can be there for each other. ❤</div>
<b>GTKY: </b>It has been so long since I flew! But I love to grab a decent bite to eat, browse the various gift shoppes a bit, and hit up the massage chairs, if I can find one. ;)
<div class="Quote">@LeilaK9288 said:
I think the toughest part is knowing how hard this is on my H and so really trying to keep it together for his sake, I don't want to be upset in front of him because he already feels so guilty</div>So so sooo much this. I get it. Our men believe they are supposed to be our rocks. It is such a profound blow to them, not to be able to do this thing. It's devastating for them, but in a different way, because as men, as providers, they feel they have let us down. Deeply. I had to work constantly to encourage him, build up his ego... and not let him see me fall apart. It's still IF, and it totally sucks. but I wish sometimes I could relate more to the feelings of many of the other women IFers. I think in some ways - as much as we all have in common dealing with infertility - it's very different being a woman living / struggling with MFI. (((Hugs))) you're not alone tho ❤
My previous doc said wait 2 cycles. Since I am seeing my new one in 3 weeks I figure if by some chance he gives us the ok to try I would probably still be in the running for that cycle, considering AF hasn't come yet and I have long cycles anyway. So we will see!
How long is his trip? I'm sorry that is looming out there, hopefully it won't matter though because fx for this cycle!
GTKY: What do you usually do to kill time at an airport before a flight or while waiting for a transfer?
Drink in the bar, read, do crossword puzzles, or watch a movie.