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Calling all home birthers!

Let's hear your experiences. 

I desperately want a home birth after my long labor ending in a csection.  Every single thing about a home birth sounds amazing, except for one: The sleep you get when someone is caring for your baby in those early hours. I know you can hire a doula, but that's an out of pocket expense. 

Also, everyone who has done a home birth seems to have the best experiences. Ive only heard negative experiences from people who haven't done it. 

Sorry for being rambly. 

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    I wish. Unfortunately because I am considered "high risk" it's not ideal and I don't think any doula would sign on to be a part of that with me because of my risks.

    That said, a couple acquaintances have done multiple home births and have RAVED about it. Makes me even more envious! 
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    stow2009stow2009 member
    edited July 2017
    My friend just had one two weeks ago and loved it! It was a loooong labor and the only thing she was worried about was waking up her neighbors (since she lives on the second floor of a complex). No complaints, though! For me, I'm all about the hospital, but our hospital is amazing. Nurses are so supportive of natural birthing choices, and they really make you feel like royalty after you have a baby there. I'm already excited to go back! 

    Edit: Also, I think some hospitals don't do VBAC? I know that's the reason a lot of moms end up doing home birth if they want a VBAC. 
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    @stow2009 I feel the same way as you! I once loved the idea of a home birth but was so thankful for the hospital! I ended up with an epidural after a longgg induction but they were so supportive of natural birth and we tried lots of things before I went with the epidural. I'm also excited about returning. @barrelocarol maybe you could look into another hospital or even a birthing center. I'd be hesitant about a vbac home birth but you do what's best for you!
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    tosh24tosh24 member
    edited July 2017
    Jealous of anyone who gets to have a home birth! I wanted one so badly with my second but I can't even get a midwife to take me on because I have an autoimmune disorder that affects blood clotting ability so I have to have a hospital birth with an OB.

    As a compromise, I hired an AMAZING doula and I made sure to prep my body in every way I could over the 9 months so that I could have a nice, calm, med-free hospital birth (exercise, stretches, chiro, massage, eating healthy, etc.). It worked out great and I had a really good birth experience with my son (I did hypnobirthing with my doula). God willing I make it to labour and delivery with this one, I will 100% have my doula again. It really took the pressure off DH to advocate for me as well so he could just focus on being there in the moment. If you aren't able to have the home birth you want, I highly suggest hiring a doula (if expense is an issue, you can look into hiring a doula student who needs her hours) and doing what you can to make a hospital birth as comfortable for you as possible.    
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    megpegmegpeg member
    Let's hear your experiences. 

    I desperately want a home birth after my long labor ending in a csection.  Every single thing about a home birth sounds amazing, except for one: The sleep you get when someone is caring for your baby in those early hours. I know you can hire a doula, but that's an out of pocket expense. 

    Also, everyone who has done a home birth seems to have the best experiences. Ive only heard negative experiences from people who haven't done it. 

    Sorry for being rambly. 
    My hospital won't take the baby out of the room except for testing. You are with it the whole time. I think a lot of hospitals are like that now.
     
    My DH would love if I would try an unassisted home birth, he is a chiropractor and thinks he would be fine to deliver. I am not sure since I have had GD with the other two pregnancies.
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    pghctwifepghctwife member
    edited July 2017
    Hospital sleep, baby or not, is the worrrrrst. In fact your one negative is the biggest reason I would want a home birth!!! Sleep in my own bed. I wish I could give birth, wait a couple hours and go home.

    i am not comfortable with homemade birth for myself because we aren't close enough to a hospital in case of emergency for my own comfort. And my first was born with shoulder dystocia - 2 and 3 were uncomplicated so maybe I wouldn't risk out? Dunno. 

    And i have a fantastic hospital that is very natural birth friendly with tubs and pro nursing and all that. I can even use the nursery I feel I want which at the other hospitals that are pro intervention, isn't allowed. I use a midwife only group also. I feel I get the best of both worlds and if I didn't have this option I would definitely consider home birth. I totally support women who want on, attended by someone certified and safe. 

    Vbac can definitely be safe depending in why the csec happened. A safe midwife will consider all factors and risk out those who aren't good candidates. My friends had two vbacs at home!




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    @megpeg ok thanks for clarifying! Unassisted home births terrify me.
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    I'm sort of tossing the idea around, but it depends on if we find a house to move in to. Now we're in a tiny condo with a 17 month old and a dog and a cat and too much stuff and I would just not want to birth in this environment. 

    I think I will go with a midwife for this pregnancy instead of an ob. Even with a hospital birth, midwives here aim to get you home within 4 hours after the birth. 




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    @dmo1371 excellent point. I had an abruption with my first and it was so scary. 
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    @heatherdubrow - I can't imagine how scary that was for you. I hope you have a wonderful, smooth as can be delivery this time around. 
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    With a vba1c, obvs depending on the specific persons situation, risk of abrupt ion is lower than the risks from surgery. Vba2c I think the balance shifts. 

    Not a home birth but my sis had a vbac at my same hospital and same midwives after previously with a baby factory hospital. Itwas a really healing experience for her.




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    @pghctwife with the right circumstances vbacs are great! Just not sure it's ideal for a homebirth situation. 
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    I hear you. I know I'm really lucky to have hospital options and providerswho fully support and allow vbac s for good candidates. I know not everyone has any or many optionsclose to them. The vbac rate and at some hospitals are soooo low. I can understand that if the only option to avoid major surgery, especially if your previous c was questionable (cascade of interventions, early inductions, etc) considering it. And for sure with someone's very qualified, md backup, careful to risk out etc.







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    dmo1371 said:
    I would also question whether it's safe to vbac at home, although that is probably the nurse in me along with the abruptions I have seen in the hospital. Not to scare you but we just had a mom try to vbac last weekend and abrupted. I can't imagine what the outcome would have been for mom and baby had they not been in a hospital. I know most vbacs don't end that way, but the what if would be enough for me to deliver in a hospital. Seeing what I have over the last 8 years obviously affects my perspective. I think talking to your OB/midwife and seeing what they think would be a good start (which I'm sure you will do). 

    I think there are many more people who deliver in hospitals, so it's hard to judge who had great births and where. People who have home births (at least well educated people) are low risk. Of course someone who is high risk and hemorrhaged, had pre-eclampsia, blood sugar issues, etc will probably not have as great of an experience to tell as someone who was low risk at home (I hope that makes sense). I think the hospital also makes a big difference. Good luck deciding! 
    This. This is exactly why I won't do a hbac. Honestly knowing what I know now I wouldn't do a home birth in general, just me personally though. My first was a planned home birth until I got to 41+3 with extremely low fluids and had to be induced. It ended with a c section. 
    Honestly im terrified to try a hospital VBAC because of the risk of uterine rupture
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    Sorry for posting and disappearing! Been on awesome family vacation. Will respond in a bit and thank you for these responses!
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    With my first I went to a clinic that had a group of OBs and Midwives and delivered at a birthing center (which I did) or a hospital. You could see the midwives and deliver in the hospital, and they also recommended doulas (vbac was considered high risk so the bc was off the table). If it was me personally, I would go the midwife/doula route, but do a hospital birth. That way you have people advocating for you who know you want a vbac and won't let you be pushed into anything unnecessary or that you don't want--they can really be a great support system. Personally, I'd feel like this mitigated the risk, while also increasing the chances you have the birth you want. 
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    @tosh24 not to derail this post, but I was wondering if you have ITP?  This has complicated my pregnancies and I'd love to chat about your experience with it.
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    Ok, so I just finalized this midwife who is amazing! We connected and she has a solid record of home vbacs. 

    My previous OB is no longer doing obstetrics but is a major vbac proponent and I'm feeling very good about this. 

    Anecdotally, this may sound like a far off idea, but the actual research data shows overwhelming positivity for it, per ACOG and other reputable sources. 

    That being said, I am so sorry to be hearing of these scary stories you ladies have experienced! No amount of science means anything when we've experienced such trauma and for that, I'm sorry. Wishing us all peaceful pregnancies with labors we can look upon fondly!
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    edited July 2017
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