Ladies! I need you bad right now. My niece is getting married, which is awesome. I truly am over the moon excited for her. She's been asking me for planning tips because I planned my own fabulous wedding nearly 4 years ago. I'm stoked to be involved. However, yesterday, she dropped a bomb on me via text and TOLD me that I was in the wedding. I had no idea she was going to ask me to be in the wedding. She also told me that the bridesmaid dress she picked out was $250, to which I replied, wow that is a lot of money. She then proceeded to let me know that I can afford it.
This is is not convenient for my life for so many reasons. We live 3 hours apart, she picked a bridal shop near her, meaning I have to make a trip down there to do my dress shopping, I'll have to make a bunch of other trips down there for various bridesmaid duties which I don't want to do.
Shes getting married next year in September. I'll have 2 children at that time, meaning I'll have 2 daycare bills at over 2k a month. Don't tell me what I can afford. I also have a destination wedding/family vacation to Dominican Republic 3 weeks before her wedding which was scheduled first. This is going to be a major expense for us next year. I'm also taking unpaid leave for work because I haven't been at my job a year and don't get any paid maternity leave. I say all this to say that next year will be a challenging year financially.
Ultimately, there are 2 things going on here. 1. I honestly don't want to be in the wedding and 2. If I am in the wedding, I won't be a good bridesmaid because I'm not going to participate in all the bridesmaid duties.
What do I do? How do I say no? Do I suck it up and just be in it? Help!
Sorry this is so long, but it's been on my mind for almost a full 24 hours and it's stressful. I need to call her today.