We'd taken the goalie out of the game at the beginning of November. When my period failed to arrive around Thanksgiving, I thought it was probably stress-related. A few days after Thanksgiving I took a test and it was positive. DH gave me the blankest stare when I told him I was pregnant. After knowing so many people who struggled in some way with fertility we were absolutely floored that it happened quickly for us. (Then again, we also know people with surprise babies, so you really have no idea when conception will happen.) I think it took a few weeks for both of us to really grasp the fact that we were expecting. Telling our families at Christmas was really fun, but it wasn't until the first ultrasound in January that the full impact of expecting a baby really hit.
Editing my post to add- Other people mentioned symptoms. I could have sworn all my symptoms were just PMS until the day I experienced dizziness. That was my tip-off that I should buy a pregnancy test.
*****This contains mentions of loss, so a general TW for the whole thing!***** Super long story, sorry!
DH and I started ttc in April of 2016, and we got pregnant after two months of trying. Unfortunately right after the 4th of July we had a miscarriage at 9 weeks. We were devastated, but eager to start again. We had been talking about getting pregnant for a while, and us being naive, had tried to plan to have a winter 2017 baby (which was turing out to be true before loss). We were able to start again in early August, and at that point I was considering if we should wait a few months, becuase I wanted to be able to get out to my sisters graduation and if we got pregnant right away (which I thought would happen) I wouldn't be able to go. Well it was suddenly Nov and I was back at the start of a new cycle, and devastated. DH and I decided that becuase it was my favorite time of year, we would try, but I would stop tracking everything once I confirmed ovulation, so that I could hopefully enjoy my favorite time of year. So we started over once again. The first weekend in December came, and we were going to go on our annual Christmas walk in the city. It also happened to be the day my period should start, but it didnt. I was far to scared to test that day, and get let down, once again, so I told DH it was the day and I was late, but I wouldn't test until the next day. Sunday morning came, and DH took the dog out, and I decided to test. I was shaking becuase of nerves, and couldn't get the test out of the package. It was a digi, so I had put it on the counter, to wait for it to register, and DH came upstairs. When the word Pregnant came up, I broke down in tears, and we just stood in the bathroom while I cried. DH then ordered a shirt for me, that I had wanted to wear before loss, that said "bumps first christmas" on it with a santa hat on the belly. I wore that on christmas to tell my family, after we had an early dating ultrasound. I have never felt so happy or scared in my life.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
The weekend of my birthday we started NTNP. I told DH I was in my fertile phase since I got pregnant on the first cycle with DS I knew it could happen that quickly again. I knew I was supposed to start the first weekend in December but was supposed to be in Maryland without DH and didn't want to test then. Thanksgiving morning I fell getting out of bed and went to the ER black Friday because I couldn't straighten my knee or bare weight. They did blood work at the hospital even though I was 4 days away from when I should start my period. It came back negative and I had MRIs, xrays, took all kinds of non-safe drugs. I still didn't start. 2 days late, I took a test but the control line was defective. Took a digital the next day and it was positive. I wound up not going to the wedding and having a torn meniscus. I knew when the bloodwork came back negative that they were wrong. I knew before I was late or tested with DS that I was pregnant and knew this time.
@littlebug2010 I'm so sorry for your loss, but very happy for your rainbow baby!
DH & I started NTNP after DD turned 1 in Sept '16. After two cycles, I got impatient and starting tracking on Fertility Friend again (what I used for DD), and got a BFP on 12/27/16 (I knew I was pregnant even before I tested). Told my parents & ILs on New Years. They were shocked (we never imagined we'd have 4 kids!), but over the moon.
I got my IUD out last April and after a month of breakthrough bleeding (srsly), my periods started to get more regular. It wasn't until September I started using cheapie ovulation strips, and when I wasn't pregnant the next month, I decided to get down to business and read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. The first month I temped was the month we got pregnant. It probably helped that my husband and I really, um, got down to business in terms of timing that month. I knew when my period should be due and started taking cheap pregnancy tests (the little ones you dip) a few days before. I was pretty sure the lines were getting darker so I finally took a nicer pregnancy test, but my husband couldn't really see the lines. So, I got a digital one the next day that said "pregnant" and totally confirmed the BFP! I think next time around, I'll definitely start temping and tracking ovulation signs sooner--it certainly helped us!
We started to actively try in August 2016 with me temping, tracking CM, taking prenatals, using OPKs, and of course, sex in my FW. After 4 months, I felt like I "knew" we had conceived for some weird reason. I was right as I got a BFP really early. When we tried for DD, it took 9 months so it was nice this round took less time.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
We had been trying (and trying, and trying) and knew my hormones were off even though I was super regular (O'd on day 14, with 28-29 day cycles)---I just couldn't keep my dang temps up. My acupucnturist was working on my fertility and when I had my annual appointment with my OB for well woman, I mentioned to her our lack of success despite temping/tracking/charting/OPKing for around 9 months. She decided to refer us to the RE, but mentioned that I might not need it since so often as soon as the referral is given, a woman gets pregnant (you can see where this is going).
That cycle I thought definitely wasn't it. My temps never stayed high and we only BD'd like four days before O and like two days after. Given our previous success rate, I knew that wouldn't be enough. But then in mid December I started getting a random backache. The next morning I woke up and while DH was getting ready for work, I felt a wave of nausea (like when you feel like you're going to pass out, kind of in the back of your neck), and I thought hmmmm I'll test after DH leaves for work.
Test 1: suuuuuuuuper faint line. Test 2: suuuuuuuuuuuuuuper faint line, so I went to the pharmacy to get FRER (was testing with cheapie dip sticks before). Test 3: two pink lines! Still wasn't convinced, so took the digital and immediately it was a YES+
I was genuinely shocked. And, for the cherry on top, we found out on our anniversary! DH came home for lunch and I told him I had an early anniversary present and gave him the tests. He said "it's a Christmas miracle!" ❤️
@mrsmatt1212 We call our little dude our christmas present. There is a chance that he was conceived under the tree! (yes I was decorated before thanksgiving! Im a crazy Christmas lady)
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
I love hearing other people's BFP stories! @littlebug2010 - I'm sorry for you loss, a BFP is almost scary after one - I'm glad all has worked out for you!
***TW*** A few months before I got married it was confirmed I had stage 4 endometriosis - one of the residents literally said you could probably just go straight to IVF. They said try naturally for 6 months and if no luck, we'll refer you to the fertility clinic. We ditched the condoms on the honeymoon, fast forward 6 months of tracking, ovulation tests and BFNs - BFP! Which was unfortunately lost two weeks later. But I thought...maybe it's a good sign, let's keep trying. 5 months later we were at the Fertility Clinic being told it seems the endo progressed, it's unlikely IUI will work, maybe a 10-12% chance with injections but we wanted to try that first before the very expensive IVF treatments. I also committed right then to drastically changing my diet. First month...didn't even make it to the insemination, no mature follicles to work with. Holy my biggest nightmare - how was IVF supposed to work if I can't create quality embryos. Next month...completely different. Everything seemed to be lining up...I couldn't help myself and POAS two days before my blood test and BFP! A dark line too. I called my best friend because I needed someone else to look at it...I kept it from DH because I was soo afraid of disappointing him, he was so crushed when it didn't work out last time so needed to know that beta result first! Once confirmed, I told him with a digital tied around a stuffed bunny I secretly bought when we started treatments. We are so fortunate that it happened so fast & the way it did - I didn't think we'd be here already.
Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
I'd had a lot of friends and coworkers who struggled with getting pregnant. In the SF Bay Area, people generally wait longer to get married and have kids so it's more common from what I've read/heard. This creates a very good environment in terms of openness about fertility struggles. This also scared the crap out of me and I have so much love and respect for anyone going through or who has gone through infertility.
I was on BCP and full out missed my period at the end of August due to work stress. This had NEVER happened to me before. We'd been talking about starting to TTC in January but this really caused me to want to go off the pill ASAP and get my cycle in check. I never started taking the next month's pills after missing that period (and never got that period). We just used condoms in the meantime but decided to start trying after my next period in October. I began charting and temping but couldn't get crosshairs. I was symptom spotting like crazy as I got to days 35, 37, and 40 of my cycle. I eventually got my period on CD 42. In hindsight, once I figured out my temp pattern, DH was traveling in my entire FW that cycle. The next cycle I assumed I'd O late again, still couldn't get crosshairs, but we'd basically just DTD every day from when my period stopped. I thought I'd have a long cycle again and literally took an ovulation test the day before my BFP (turns out I had started the ovulation strips after I O'd that month so got 14 days of nothing). Because of all my crazy symptom spotting the month before, I hadn't said anything to DH about even thinking we were pregnant. I took a test on CD 31 and it was so dark, I probably could've tested 4 or 5 days earlier and gotten a good line. In hindsight, I would start charting at least a few cycles before TTC#2.
I wanted to start trying for #2 but it never felt like the "right" time. But there's 4-5 years between each of my siblings and I knew I wanted my kids closer. We weren't using bc but we were avoiding fertile times and charting. In Sept we just decided to go for it. I was taking lots of tests and nothing. On Thanksgiving day I woke up just KNOWING I was pregnant. Sure enough, took a test and positive. For both of my babies I knew before the test...I just felt "off."
I crawled back into bed after the test and said to my husband "I just took a pregnancy test." And he goes, "Yeah? And?" And I told him it was positive. His eyes got huge. We both were super happy and it was such a fun secret/blessing to have to share with each other especially on Thanksgiving.
Landon is a complete utter surprise! In September I got into a car crash. My car had extensive damage and I had to be taken to the ER. When I went in for the CT scan they found tumors (nodules) on both lobes of my thyroid. Apparently I had had this for years and had been experiencing the side effects, but always calked it up to something else. So in October I had the surgery and experienced complications (parathyroid got clipped and calcium was not being regulated properly.). My ex and I were seeing each other and using protection during this time. We had had an oops where the condom broke and I took plan B, but the next month I had what I thought was my period. In December, my calcium level bottomed out when I was at work and I had a seizure. At the ER they took a blood test before I could get a CAT scan. This is when I found out I was pregnant.
We decided to just stop with birth control around September...I had been off for a while, but we figured we would just start trying. No tests, temp, tracking (except for if I got my period). If nothing happened after a while we would do more, but 3mos later there was the pregnant on the screen and I went running into the kitchen telling my DH 'We need to go to Walgreens I only have one stick!' and waving it at him.
We told the parents in much better fashion at the holidays after our first US. But we were not expecting it to be soo quick- although I should have since my mom and sister got pregnant just as quickly.
I am grateful beyond words to have gotten pregnant 'easily' and to be on our way to meeting our baby. I am amazed and in awe of the women who go through so much to have their LOs.
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
**TW** I found out I was pregnant less than a week before Christmas in 2015. I started spotting on Christmas Eve and continued to spot on and off for about 10 days. Spotting turned to bleeding, I had blood work and a sono a few days later which indicated a miscarriage. The D&C couldn't be scheduled until after the weekend. I came out of surgery and was told that they suspected an ectopic. I had more testing that afternoon and went in for emergency surgery that evening. I had been bleeding internally and my tube was very close to rupturing. I lost my tube, but am thankful that nothing worse happened. I didn't have the typical symptoms of an ectopic and the sono taken from days before the surgery looked like there was abnormal tissue in the uterus and nothing suspicious in either tube.
I took time to heal physically and mentally and then a new job opportunity fell into my lap a few months later. We put TTC on hold. As soon as we were going to try again in the fall, I got sick for about a month with bronchitis, sinus infection, etc. Even though I've been very lucky to have gotten pregnant quickly each time, I was nervous that it would take longer due to being 37 and only having 1 tube. I started feeling symptoms before I tested. I didn't want to test too early as I didn't want to get my hopes up. I ended up getting a BFP our first month trying this time and exactly 1 year from my last BFP. It felt different than last time and I was cautiously optimistic. On Christmas, we found out that DH's sister was also due with her third less than 3 weeks before me.
I got married in July and we decided to start trying on our honeymoon in August. November came around and I was tired and I never take naps. I also was feeling funky about some food I was eating. DH made a comment that he hoped I was acting that way because I was pregnant. Took a test the next day and it was positive. DH was already at work so it was torture having to wait all day to tell him in person. He was very happy and immediately took me out to dinner to celebrate.
In November, I had a weird cycle, which NEVER happens. I started about a week early, at night (I always start in the morning), and it lasted 1 day and was super light. I decided it must be implantation bleeding. Waited a few days, tested...negative.
Waited another week, still negative. Got a BFP about 2 weeks after that.
When i I went in for my dating ultrasound, I was still thinking what happened in November was implantation bleeding. Nope. It was a period
Mine is pretty boring. I was charting and started using wondfo tests around day 7 because I'm a crazy person. Got a faint positive 10dpo then continued to test each day after until I was sure it was real. After dropping DS off at school, I went to the baby consignment store next door and found a big brother shirt and texted a pic to DH. On Christmas we had the shirt wrapped up and had DS help my mom open it.
It took us 20 months to get pregnant with DS and 15 months to get pregnant with this one. So while we were actively trying it was still a surprise. My period was on the later side but the previous few months they had been irregular so it was nothing for me to get excited about. I bought a cheep HPT because after so many months I refused to spend money on the expensive ones. But to my surprise it was a BFP. I told DH when he came home from work and he was shocked. November was a busy months with a stream of visitors so we only did the BD once in the fertile window and I woke him up to do it. I think he had forgotten about it.
DH and I have been blessed both times when TTC. DD was conceived within the first month of trying, and - it turns out - this LO was the same. After having a few friends who have had enormous difficulties, and after reading some of the posts above, my and DH's blessings are not lost on me.
This time around, DH and I decided to start TTC after my November period. At the beginning of December, I was extremely sick with bad cold/flu-like symptoms. It was really aggressive (and a nasty cough had come along with it), so while I was hoping it was pregnancy, I wasn't entirely sure so I went to a walk-in clinic to get a urine test and check-up. Urine was negative for pregnancy, so he had me go to the emergency for further testing a day or so later. I had blood taken to confirm the non-pregnancy, and - once confirmed - I was given a chest x-ray which showed potential pneumonia OR a blood clot (I have a family history of clotting). I then had an ECG, and angio-CT scan to rule out the blood clot, and once pneumonia was confirmed, I was put on a high dose of strong anti-biotics.
Period time rolled around, and Aunt Flo never showed up. This was super weird for me, but we blamed it on the anti-biotics and the stress of the pneumonia. On Christmas Eve, when it really hadn't shown up, DH and I grabbed a couple of tests and tested before we went to church. After I peed on the first digital test, I gave it to DH to hold while I went to grab a glass of water to take the next test. I got back downstairs and he turned to me and was like "ummm ... we're pregnant". I bawled (joy, fear, everything), and he was super thrilled; he couldn't believe he was the one telling me this time around.
@HappyToBeHere I was so stressed out that I had all that imaging done and took meds that were not safe. The first ultrasound was the biggest relief. So crazy how it came back negative for both of us and we were having stupid medical issues. I just kept telling myself people go through whole pregnancies with no prenatal care and taking drugs/drinking.
@HappyToBeHere I was so stressed out that I had all that imaging done and took meds that were not safe. The first ultrasound was the biggest relief. So crazy how it came back negative for both of us and we were having stupid medical issues. I just kept telling myself people go through whole pregnancies with no prenatal care and taking drugs/drinking.
You're so right. Panic set in immediately; I had had wine with our office staff lunch and at our company Christmas party, drinks at dinner with friends, etc. throughout December. It turns out there's an "all or none" phase during the first 9-14 days after conception (or something like that), whereby anything that risks the pregnancy will encourage an undetected miscarriage by the time the next period rolls around.
We were NTNP very loosely with plans to try in the new year, I was just jumping back into tracking my cycle and O with OPK's when we had one time at four days before O before my H went out of town.
I got an early squinter of a BFP at about 7/8 DPO. I wouldn't have even tested that soon but I had a VERY vivid dream where my deceased grandmother (whom I've never dreamed about once before) told me to take a pregnancy test, I did and the test was positive in the dream. She pushed hard for us to have children and I promised her on her deathbed we would. That dream was Saturday night, which according to my belief was the day that implantation occurred. I got my BFP Tuesday morning.
Called my sister to tell her before the stick was even dry. Told my H a few days later once the line got darker and the digital popped up "Pregnant". I had a chemical pregnancy earlier in the year and knew he needed to see a darker line to be convinced.
Together: January 2002 Married: May 2008 Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
@MetsGirl18 Congrats on your rainbow baby! Isn't it amazing what the body is capable of with healing? TW---- my close friend also had an ectopic pregnancy and tube loss, but it wasn't detected until she was 11 weeks pregnant. end TW--- As soon as they were able to try again, she got pregnant and went on to have a healthy and normal baby boy.
DH was gone from the last week October and came back the week of Thanksgiving. I went to his graduation ceremony in Utah the weekend before and we both thought that there was no way anything would happen since I'm super regular although we never temped or anything. Towards the end of the first week of December, DH said I was real up and down with my emotions and when I was on the phone with him that Friday (he worked a town over) trying to figure out plans for that night since it was his work Christmas party and I was supposed to meet him there, he told me I needed to take a test. I told him no way, I'm still like 3-4 days out from being late, plus I didn't believe him that my emotions were wonky. Lo and behold he was right, I did take the test while home at lunch that day. I walk into his Christmas party and he offers to get me a jack and coke and I just looked at him and said, uh, not a good idea now. He knew instantly what I was implying and wanted to tell everyone but I wouldn't let him because it was still so early.
DH and I got married in June of 2015. We had the mindset that it would happen when it happened and didn't really stress about it too much. Nothing was happening and my mom has severe endometriosis so I started getting a little nervous why it was taking so long. We got a BFP February 2016 but long story short lost that baby at 15 weeks to Triploidy. Doctor reassured me it was completely coincidental and had nothing to do with anything either of us had done. We had a D&C in April and it took me a few months to get over the guilt.
Moving on again it took us a handful of months of trying and I was afraid something was just wrong with one of us, crappy eggs, slow swimmers SOMETHING. So I said screw this I'm going in and speaking to a fertility doctor and I did. He again reassured me that something like Triploidy doesn't define either of our abilities to get pregnant with a healthy baby, but that he would perform the tests and we'd see if anything came up. We discovered scar tissue in my uterus during the dye test and confirmed it through a saline sonogram. We were waiting for my next cycle to begin so I could start BCP and they'd schedule surgery to remove the scar tissue to better increase my chances at conception naturally. He said he wanted us to try traditionally and track ovulation for a few months and then he'd continue to IUI. Well... my next cycle never started we got our BFP in December of 2016. I remember being terrified of taking that test. I even ditched the first response tests because I was SO SICK of seeing that damn lone pink line. My DH had already relocated for work to AL so we were VERY strategic about his trips home during the fertility testing and ovulation tracking haha I FaceTimed him around 5am his time to tell him! I couldn't believe it! My fertility doctor kept monitoring me until about 9.5 weeks to make sure everything was progressing normally. I remember bawling my eyes out because the first ultrasound showed the baby a few days smaller than my cycle would've suggested and that was a regular issue with our first loss. I called my DH in tears and he took it upon himself to call our dr to confirm that this was a totally normal thing and didn't mean anything bad. It was an extremely long wait for our NIPT results and anatomy scan to ensure everything was on track. I'm still in awe that we are awaiting this beautiful baby in a few weeks. We joke around that my tubes needed to be draino-ed (dye test) to get pregnant, but I do wonder if that really was the trick!
Well I had my daughter August 2016 before getting pregnant with her we had a miscarriage and so weren't trying. She was my rainbow baby and once I gave birth to her I was put on birth control after my 6 weeks and I was taking the pill after doc gave us the ok and I was taking my pills everyday and my periods were regular until November it was irregular again I did not put much attention to it since they had been irregular since the miscarriage and being pregnant. Then december came my birthday and DH said what do you want to do for your birthday? I started crying and told him nothing I am getting old and I am a mommy now, I do not feel like going no where. He just took me to dinner and he said if I wanted to drink and I told him no I just want to go home back to baby girl. At first I thought I had post par tum depression the way I was feeling. Once Christmas came I was like well maybe my period must be super late. That is when DH insisted that my hormones were all over the place and that it was time to take a test. So I went to the dollar store because I was like I am not pregnant and why waste money on a pregnancy test when it is going to come negative. I went home and took it and came out to be positive. I started bawling my eyes out in the restroom and felt guilty for just having my DD in August and here I am pregnant again and i just wanted to wait for her to get past a year. I called my OBGYN to double check that I was and sure enough he says congrats you are having twins I about fell and he said jk just one and here I am 30 weeks pregnant tomorrow and will be having my next baby a week after my daughters first birthday which I am praying it cooks until we get her 1st birthday. I keep getting told 2nd one comes quicker which I am scared to be honest. Sorry this was long.
I think I already told this story in an earlier thread and it's not very exciting but here it goes... DH and I decided to start trying to conceive in September. I bought a clear blue monitor and several boxes of test kits because I was sure this would be a long process. No baby in September. October I spent my fertile week in a business trip and we missed our chance. November we tried and on the day my period should arrive in December I took a test and it came back positive. I thought I did something wrong so I tried again. Still positive. Just to make sure I took a digital test and when the word "pregnant" appeared on the screen there was no doubt, we're gonna have a baby! Now I have boxes of fertility monitor sticks that I'll never use
@Nxy i sure hope so because I want this baby to come after DD's first birthday then my cousin teases me and says you will probably pop this child on her birthday and I just can't do that to my daughter. I already feel like why did it have to happen the same month but only God knows why.
I was driving through a school zone going from 40 mph to 15 mph, and when slowing down I got really dizzy. Thought there was something wrong but thought nothing of it (lo and behold it was me being positive for alpha thalassemia). That same week I would come home after work exhausted and knock out on the couch when typically I'd be working out.
So my dear friend tells me she's pregnant and I congratulate her. After telling her what was up with me she told me take a pregnancy test (bec she knew we had been trying too for 5 months)....LOL ohhh wow we're pregnant! those were total positive symptoms hahaha. Told DH later and he was surprised. WOoo! So me and my friend are pregnant together...very awesome experience.
@dma0389 my friend and I are pregnant at the same time too (due dates are 1 day apart). It's super fun because we can complain to each other, bounce ideas off of each other, shop together!
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Re: GTKY 6/11 - Your BFP Story
I think it took a few weeks for both of us to really grasp the fact that we were expecting. Telling our families at Christmas was really fun, but it wasn't until the first ultrasound in January that the full impact of expecting a baby really hit.
Editing my post to add- Other people mentioned symptoms. I could have sworn all my symptoms were just PMS until the day I experienced dizziness. That was my tip-off that I should buy a pregnancy test.
DH and I started ttc in April of 2016, and we got pregnant after two months of trying. Unfortunately right after the 4th of July we had a miscarriage at 9 weeks. We were devastated, but eager to start again. We had been talking about getting pregnant for a while, and us being naive, had tried to plan to have a winter 2017 baby (which was turing out to be true before loss). We were able to start again in early August, and at that point I was considering if we should wait a few months, becuase I wanted to be able to get out to my sisters graduation and if we got pregnant right away (which I thought would happen) I wouldn't be able to go. Well it was suddenly Nov and I was back at the start of a new cycle, and devastated. DH and I decided that becuase it was my favorite time of year, we would try, but I would stop tracking everything once I confirmed ovulation, so that I could hopefully enjoy my favorite time of year. So we started over once again. The first weekend in December came, and we were going to go on our annual Christmas walk in the city. It also happened to be the day my period should start, but it didnt. I was far to scared to test that day, and get let down, once again, so I told DH it was the day and I was late, but I wouldn't test until the next day. Sunday morning came, and DH took the dog out, and I decided to test. I was shaking becuase of nerves, and couldn't get the test out of the package. It was a digi, so I had put it on the counter, to wait for it to register, and DH came upstairs. When the word Pregnant came up, I broke down in tears, and we just stood in the bathroom while I cried. DH then ordered a shirt for me, that I had wanted to wear before loss, that said "bumps first christmas" on it with a santa hat on the belly. I wore that on christmas to tell my family, after we had an early dating ultrasound. I have never felt so happy or scared in my life.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
DH & I started NTNP after DD turned 1 in Sept '16. After two cycles, I got impatient and starting tracking on Fertility Friend again (what I used for DD), and got a BFP on 12/27/16 (I knew I was pregnant even before I tested). Told my parents & ILs on New Years. They were shocked (we never imagined we'd have 4 kids!), but over the moon.
We started to actively try in August 2016 with me temping, tracking CM, taking prenatals, using OPKs, and of course, sex in my FW. After 4 months, I felt like I "knew" we had conceived for some weird reason. I was right as I got a BFP really early.
When we tried for DD, it took 9 months so it was nice this round took less time.
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
We had been trying (and trying, and trying) and knew my hormones were off even though I was super regular (O'd on day 14, with 28-29 day cycles)---I just couldn't keep my dang temps up. My acupucnturist was working on my fertility and when I had my annual appointment with my OB for well woman, I mentioned to her our lack of success despite temping/tracking/charting/OPKing for around 9 months. She decided to refer us to the RE, but mentioned that I might not need it since so often as soon as the referral is given, a woman gets pregnant (you can see where this is going).
That cycle I thought definitely wasn't it. My temps never stayed high and we only BD'd like four days before O and like two days after. Given our previous success rate, I knew that wouldn't be enough. But then in mid December I started getting a random backache. The next morning I woke up and while DH was getting ready for work, I felt a wave of nausea (like when you feel like you're going to pass out, kind of in the back of your neck), and I thought hmmmm I'll test after DH leaves for work.
Test 1: suuuuuuuuper faint line.
Test 2: suuuuuuuuuuuuuuper faint line, so I went to the pharmacy to get FRER (was testing with cheapie dip sticks before).
Test 3: two pink lines! Still wasn't convinced, so took the digital and immediately it was a YES+
I was genuinely shocked. And, for the cherry on top, we found out on our anniversary! DH came home for lunch and I told him I had an early anniversary present and gave him the tests. He said "it's a Christmas miracle!" ❤️
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
@littlebug2010 - I'm sorry for you loss, a BFP is almost scary after one - I'm glad all has worked out for you!
***TW***
A few months before I got married it was confirmed I had stage 4 endometriosis - one of the residents literally said you could probably just go straight to IVF. They said try naturally for 6 months and if no luck, we'll refer you to the fertility clinic. We ditched the condoms on the honeymoon, fast forward 6 months of tracking, ovulation tests and BFNs - BFP! Which was unfortunately lost two weeks later. But I thought...maybe it's a good sign, let's keep trying. 5 months later we were at the Fertility Clinic being told it seems the endo progressed, it's unlikely IUI will work, maybe a 10-12% chance with injections but we wanted to try that first before the very expensive IVF treatments. I also committed right then to drastically changing my diet. First month...didn't even make it to the insemination, no mature follicles to work with. Holy my biggest nightmare - how was IVF supposed to work if I can't create quality embryos. Next month...completely different. Everything seemed to be lining up...I couldn't help myself and POAS two days before my blood test and BFP! A dark line too. I called my best friend because I needed someone else to look at it...I kept it from DH because I was soo afraid of disappointing him, he was so crushed when it didn't work out last time so needed to know that beta result first! Once confirmed, I told him with a digital tied around a stuffed bunny I secretly bought when we started treatments. We are so fortunate that it happened so fast & the way it did - I didn't think we'd be here already.
DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
TTC #2 06.2019
08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!
I'd had a lot of friends and coworkers who struggled with getting pregnant. In the SF Bay Area, people generally wait longer to get married and have kids so it's more common from what I've read/heard. This creates a very good environment in terms of openness about fertility struggles. This also scared the crap out of me and I have so much love and respect for anyone going through or who has gone through infertility.
I was on BCP and full out missed my period at the end of August due to work stress. This had NEVER happened to me before. We'd been talking about starting to TTC in January but this really caused me to want to go off the pill ASAP and get my cycle in check. I never started taking the next month's pills after missing that period (and never got that period). We just used condoms in the meantime but decided to start trying after my next period in October. I began charting and temping but couldn't get crosshairs. I was symptom spotting like crazy as I got to days 35, 37, and 40 of my cycle. I eventually got my period on CD 42. In hindsight, once I figured out my temp pattern, DH was traveling in my entire FW that cycle. The next cycle I assumed I'd O late again, still couldn't get crosshairs, but we'd basically just DTD every day from when my period stopped. I thought I'd have a long cycle again and literally took an ovulation test the day before my BFP (turns out I had started the ovulation strips after I O'd that month so got 14 days of nothing). Because of all my crazy symptom spotting the month before, I hadn't said anything to DH about even thinking we were pregnant. I took a test on CD 31 and it was so dark, I probably could've tested 4 or 5 days earlier and gotten a good line. In hindsight, I would start charting at least a few cycles before TTC#2.
I crawled back into bed after the test and said to my husband "I just took a pregnancy test." And he goes, "Yeah? And?" And I told him it was positive. His eyes got huge. We both were super happy and it was such a fun secret/blessing to have to share with each other especially on Thanksgiving.
If nothing happened after a while we would do more, but 3mos later there was the pregnant on the screen and I went running into the kitchen telling my DH 'We need to go to Walgreens I only have one stick!' and waving it at him.
We told the parents in much better fashion at the holidays after our first US. But we were not expecting it to be soo quick- although I should have since my mom and sister got pregnant just as quickly.
I am grateful beyond words to have gotten pregnant 'easily' and to be on our way to meeting our baby. I am amazed and in awe of the women who go through so much to have their LOs.
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
I took time to heal physically and mentally and then a new job opportunity fell into my lap a few months later. We put TTC on hold. As soon as we were going to try again in the fall, I got sick for about a month with bronchitis, sinus infection, etc. Even though I've been very lucky to have gotten pregnant quickly each time, I was nervous that it would take longer due to being 37 and only having 1 tube. I started feeling symptoms before I tested. I didn't want to test too early as I didn't want to get my hopes up. I ended up getting a BFP our first month trying this time and exactly 1 year from my last BFP. It felt different than last time and I was cautiously optimistic. On Christmas, we found out that DH's sister was also due with her third less than 3 weeks before me.
Waited another week, still negative. Got a BFP about 2 weeks after that.
When i I went in for my dating ultrasound, I was still thinking what happened in November was implantation bleeding. Nope. It was a period
I thought I was 10 weeks. I was only 6.
This time around, DH and I decided to start TTC after my November period. At the beginning of December, I was extremely sick with bad cold/flu-like symptoms. It was really aggressive (and a nasty cough had come along with it), so while I was hoping it was pregnancy, I wasn't entirely sure so I went to a walk-in clinic to get a urine test and check-up. Urine was negative for pregnancy, so he had me go to the emergency for further testing a day or so later. I had blood taken to confirm the non-pregnancy, and - once confirmed - I was given a chest x-ray which showed potential pneumonia OR a blood clot (I have a family history of clotting). I then had an ECG, and angio-CT scan to rule out the blood clot, and once pneumonia was confirmed, I was put on a high dose of strong anti-biotics.
Period time rolled around, and Aunt Flo never showed up. This was super weird for me, but we blamed it on the anti-biotics and the stress of the pneumonia. On Christmas Eve, when it really hadn't shown up, DH and I grabbed a couple of tests and tested before we went to church. After I peed on the first digital test, I gave it to DH to hold while I went to grab a glass of water to take the next test. I got back downstairs and he turned to me and was like "ummm ... we're pregnant". I bawled (joy, fear, everything), and he was super thrilled; he couldn't believe he was the one telling me this time around.
I got an early squinter of a BFP at about 7/8 DPO. I wouldn't have even tested that soon but I had a VERY vivid dream where my deceased grandmother (whom I've never dreamed about once before) told me to take a pregnancy test, I did and the test was positive in the dream. She pushed hard for us to have children and I promised her on her deathbed we would. That dream was Saturday night, which according to my belief was the day that implantation occurred. I got my BFP Tuesday morning.
Called my sister to tell her before the stick was even dry. Told my H a few days later once the line got darker and the digital popped up "Pregnant". I had a chemical pregnancy earlier in the year and knew he needed to see a darker line to be convinced.
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
Congrats on your rainbow baby! Isn't it amazing what the body is capable of with healing? TW---- my close friend also had an ectopic pregnancy and tube loss, but it wasn't detected until she was 11 weeks pregnant. end TW--- As soon as they were able to try again, she got pregnant and went on to have a healthy and normal baby boy.
DH and I got married in June of 2015. We had the mindset that it would happen when it happened and didn't really stress about it too much. Nothing was happening and my mom has severe endometriosis so I started getting a little nervous why it was taking so long. We got a BFP February 2016 but long story short lost that baby at 15 weeks to Triploidy. Doctor reassured me it was completely coincidental and had nothing to do with anything either of us had done. We had a D&C in April and it took me a few months to get over the guilt.
Moving on again it took us a handful of months of trying and I was afraid something was just wrong with one of us, crappy eggs, slow swimmers SOMETHING. So I said screw this I'm going in and speaking to a fertility doctor and I did. He again reassured me that something like Triploidy doesn't define either of our abilities to get pregnant with a healthy baby, but that he would perform the tests and we'd see if anything came up. We discovered scar tissue in my uterus during the dye test and confirmed it through a saline sonogram. We were waiting for my next cycle to begin so I could start BCP and they'd schedule surgery to remove the scar tissue to better increase my chances at conception naturally. He said he wanted us to try traditionally and track ovulation for a few months and then he'd continue to IUI. Well... my next cycle never started we got our BFP in December of 2016. I remember being terrified of taking that test. I even ditched the first response tests because I was SO SICK of seeing that damn lone pink line. My DH had already relocated for work to AL so we were VERY strategic about his trips home during the fertility testing and ovulation tracking haha
DH and I decided to start trying to conceive in September. I bought a clear blue monitor and several boxes of test kits because I was sure this would be a long process. No baby in September. October I spent my fertile week in a business trip and we missed our chance. November we tried and on the day my period should arrive in December I took a test and it came back positive. I thought I did something wrong so I tried again. Still positive. Just to make sure I took a digital test and when the word "pregnant" appeared on the screen there was no doubt, we're gonna have a baby! Now I have boxes of fertility monitor sticks that I'll never use
So my dear friend tells me she's pregnant and I congratulate her. After telling her what was up with me she told me take a pregnancy test (bec she knew we had been trying too for 5 months)....LOL ohhh wow we're pregnant! those were total positive symptoms hahaha. Told DH later and he was surprised. WOoo! So me and my friend are pregnant together...very awesome experience.