DH/SO rants and raves

SouthernMama15

What are they up to, ladies?

SouthernMama15

He means well, but it makes me crazy when I'm trying to get stuff done when I have the energy and motivation and he's all like why don't you take a break? I don't want to take a break, I need do laundry and pick up. The trash isn't going to take itself out and the dishwasher isn't going to load and unload itself.  He's worked a ton of overtime this past week and I've been doing the best I can being 30 weeks pregnant with a toddler. I got most of his laundry done, but DS and I need clean clothes, too.  

lewliv

DH is hangover from yesterday's beer tasting so I'm having a lovely brunch by myself at one of my favorite restaurants. He's going to be so jealous when he wakes up 

littlebug2010

Mine has been getting anxious. He keeps asking if we should go out and get more stuff, but our baby shower isn't for a month, and I don't want to buy anything more until after the party. He keeps getting worried that baby will be here soon, and we won't be ready. Its really cute. I keep making him go out and run to de-stress. He actually ran a race today and came in 6th! It was nice to get back out there cheering him on (I do not run!)! Our nursery is totally complete, thanks to him! And we even have the car seat and stroller, as well as a few other essentials.

SouthernMama15

@littlebug2010 that's so cute! DH has random motivation, but not frequently enough.  He's gone to get a haircut and shave right now. DS woke up screaming and I have shelves wet with paint in the middle of the kitchen floor. He demanded I hold him and then he pees in a dry diaper, but it leaked out the top and got all over both of us. So he's playing in the tub and I'm in a robe because I had to take off my pee soaked clothes. And guess who isn't responding to my text?

belmont1785

Rave: DH has been been great about watching DD so I can go to bed early because I've been so tired.

Rave: He is terrrrrrible about cleaning up after himself and DD so he leaves all the dishes and mess of whatever they do for me. It's super annoying.

PinkPrincessPiper

DH and some friends are out at the gun range. He's had a rough week, so I'm glad he's getting out. He is grilling when he gets back, so I really can't complain (today anyways). 

knottiee689565f63838b35

DH is left today for two weeks. That means I finally get to downsize without him saying "we might need that" to things we haven't touched in 5 years. Yesterday we had to clean before our landlords came over and he couldn't handle it. He would pick up one thing and then realize something else also needed done so he'd leave it where it was. I finally sent him outside to do yard work. Hopefully I'll get everything organized and downsized before he gets back. 

Nxy

@mrsashworth522 I hope you get it all downsized before he gets back! Hurry!!  make sure it's like gone forever before he gets back because if he's anything like my DH he'll get to looking in the trash bags and stuff will start coming out lol

knottiee689565f63838b35

@Nxy it must be a military thing! Lol the "always be prepared" mentality drives me nuts because most things are overkill. He has more clothes and shoes than me because I'm not allowed to get rid of any of his stuff because he "might" need one of the 16 pairs of tan boots that are no longer in regulation with his uniform. 

AdvoCyndi30

My DH really is pretty great. He cooks and cleans and does laundry regularly. I'm the messy one, and he is DEFINITELY the one who keeps our house in order. He is super caring and I'm spoiled. He's so great with our kids, too. 

BUT...he's a dude, so he wants to "fix" everything and sometimes I just want to complain. I don't need a solution. I usually KNOW the solution and just want to whine for a minute! 

He's also super into health and fitness, and I am too, but right now I have to listen to my body when it's time to slow down. Unfortunately, this has been my most difficult pregnancy (still not bad but I'm older and totally feeling the age this time) and he was used to me being the super active, super happy, super healthy pregnant girl who felt great the whole time and never complained...and this pregnancy just isn't like that, and he is t used to me being slowed down by anything. He wants me to work out with him all the time and thinks I would feel better if I did. Lol! 

Overall, he's awesome, but this has been an adjustment for him. Trying to give him some grace. 

Mango517

My husband is still surprised at the amount of times I have to pee during the day. Every time we're out and I tell him I have to find a bathroom he goes "Again? You just went!" while acting like its some big shock his 6 month pregnant wife has to pee again. 

knottiee689565f63838b35

@Mango517 lol my husband makes fun of me for having to go to the bathroom but now it's gotten to the point we pass one and he asks if I need to go even if I only went 5 minutes ago. 

DeansGirl14

Rave- my DH has been great. We share cooking, shopping, and cleaning responsibilities anyway and lately he's been doing more than his share especially if I'm more tired or sick feeling than normal. 

The only thing I could possibly, maybe complain about is that he's SO excited for this baby that he won't leave my body alone. We could be lounging on the couch or trying to sleep and he's always rubbing or poking my stomach or talking to it. I try to get ready to work and he's rubbing my stomach exclaiming, "How's the baby!" Dude, there's still a woman attached to the stomach containing the baby, who wants to be left in peace sometimes. 

britvahok

Rant/Rave: DH finally put together the nursery furniture and I only had to ask him for 2 weeks 

SpotConlon

Rant/rave: My husband decided he would to the lawn mowing this year. I've always done it in the past, and while I'm glad it's not my job, I keep thinking of how I would do it different. We have found so many baby bunnies and dead mice in our yard this year (or rather, my dogs have found) because we have all these long, grassy spots. But again, it's not my job, and I really am glad for the downtime now that I'm getting further along.

emilyrose807

I am feeling upbeat about how my DH is adjusting to my pregnancy body. I was complaining about it a few weeks ago and got some sympathy from you ladies to get me through. But, I guess, it was just taking him some time, because now he is back to his normal self, cuddling, up for sex etc. It feels good. I am trying to hold onto that whole thing because I know there will be another weird transition after we actually have the baby, too.

kvh22

DH is usually great at communication so it really throws me when he's not. My dad and brother are insanely bad at it so it so it's a bit of a hot button. Long story short, DH made plans with an old friend while we were visiting our parents, only gave me half of the information and was baffled when I didn't know what time we were supposed to leave or why I was pissed about the situation because I could no longer go (work calls interfered with the new plan). Apparently he told my mom and kept saying "I don't get how you didn't know if your mom knew." Well...because you didn't tell me. He couldn't remember telling me, but just kept insisting that I had to know since my mom knew. This happens relatively frequently, but with much less important details. If you can't remember when you told me, and I don't remember hearing it, you didn't tell me! This is literally the most annoying thing he does, so I'll take it, but in this instance I was so furious with him insisting I had to know - and then walking away from me - that I started crying. He had no idea what to do. That's happened one other time this pregnancy - and it's 100% the pregnancy hormones - but it's totally throwing him for a loop after 11+ years of a pretty rational version of me (aka me not pregnant). I've been slowly trying to warn him about the "baby blues" so that he's prepared.

SouthernMama15

Omg, if he doesn't stop snoring I'm going to scream. I've had maybe 3 hours sleep and now his alarm is starting to go off and will probably for the next 30 minutes at at least every 5 minutes. 

Feliciosity

DH is anxious about being able to provide for me and LO so that I don't have to go back to work. I've been explaining to him that, yes, it is my hope to do the stay-at-home mom thing some day, but it may not happen right away and that is okay. Poor guy. It's really stressing him out. But he also hasn't taken any time to relax for at least a month now, so I talked him into calling out yesterday and making a 3-day weekend for himself to rest.

maryallisont

Where to start?  I hit my limit yesterday.  I can't even speak to him today, I just can't deal with him anymore.  He's been acting like an unruly 5 year old.  I ask a question, he yells at me.  He pouts.  He grunts and growls instead of using words. It doesn't even make sense.  I thought I married an adult.  A dog communicates better than him.

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f

@maryallisont What question could you possibly ask that would warrant a grunt and growl? This is what I'm picturing 

emmeline714

rant/rave: Mine has been on and off to the point I locked him out the house one night, I understand going to hang out with his friends but it does not take all night when you say it will only be for an hour or so. I have a huge belly and that night my DD wanted to be held and carry around so i was upset he was not helping me out at home as I had a long day at work and had woken up early and been up all day and daughter did not go to bed until 12am and he was not home yet so he had to stay with his friend.

JDBtwinmama

Rave-I'm sick...really sick and since the moment I've woken up today I've done nothing to help parent my kids.   In fact I've been asleep since 12, and can hear him playing with the kids (and smell the dinner he cooked them) and if I even try to go downstairs to help, he'll just push me back up the stairs with food and more water 

Kathryn0903

Rant - I like to sometimes sit around and do nothing. My husband cannot understand this and always jumps to conclusions that something is wrong

SouthernMama15

Must be nice to stay in the bathroom for extended periods of time and not worry about getting other people ready for bed. Or to drag out toys right at bed time but not understand why the kid is riled up. Or that a 2 year old is going to just hold your hand in target and not run off and then have a fit when you stick him back in the buggy