Telling my SO

azmamatobe

We miscarried in March and I tested positive today! (At work actually so I'm all giggly and no one knows why)

Part of me wants to hold off telling him and doing something cute and part of me wants to say meet me on my lunch because I want to burst!

Would you be upset if I didn't tell you if you were in his shoes?

remindmeofthebabe

Congrats! When you say hold off, how long are you thinking?

I've had two losses. I got this BFP when my SO was out of town for work. I debated waiting until he was home to tell him in some cute way (would've been a four day wait) but ended up just telling him over the phone. I asked him when he was home if he would've preferred I waited and told him in person and he said no, he wanted to know as soon as I did. 

JuliaGoolia719

I had plans to wait and tell DH in some cute way....then I saw 2 lines and screamed for him to get into the bathroom where I shoved the pee stick in his face. So he found out that way....

azmamatobe

Bahaha that's the best! 

FireLily0

@JuliaGoolia719 I did the same exact thing!! I just wanted to make sure I was not crazy.

caseyw8784

I was somehow able to wait from Sunday when I first tested until Friday (day before beta) before telling DH. That was i was able to get a couple items that i left on the bed for him to discover when he got home from work. He was surprised (he didn't think i was going to test at all before beta) and liked it!

katiiya

When I found out I could not wait to tell my husband. I literally ran downstairs and shoved the stick in his face. I too was thinking of announcing in a cute way but that was before the positive lol.

Sorry about your loss, I had a misscariage too last year... Hopefully this is rainbow baby for both of us!! 

What did you end up doing? 

scatteringashes

I found out in the morning while my husband was at work, and when we met up for lunch I told him over sandwiches. I tried to be cute about it but was mostly just too excited to keep it to myself.

Until I burst, I meant to wait to tell him after testing again two days later on the weekend.

ecolton01

For my first I tested in the morning and waited to for DH to get home from work . On my way home from work I bought a nerf gun and I wrote "congratulations your not shooting blanks " on the side followed by baby (our last name ) coming June. 16... then wrapped it up in a box and gave it to him . He had to read it a couple times before he caught on lol . 

Then for this LO I just put DD in a onesie that I wrote big sister on and it took him a couple hrs of being home with her before he actually read it he's observant 

madcouplewithabox

I tested that morning and luckily he had already left for work. We have always been Dr. Who fans so I gave him this "gift".  Below the note is the positive pregnancy test. 

tryingfor1st

So after the Ovidrel trigger, hcg tests come positive for a while afterwards, well, I tested evey day so I found out on Thursday before Mother's Day. The line got darker on Friday and even darker on Saturday so I went to a walk in, got blood drawn and found out Saturday evening. I had promised DH I would get McDonald's so I picked up a cute bag and put two bows (boy & girl) from the dollar store and got the McDonald's crew to put mom and dad on our McFlurrys. So as soon as I had blood to prove it, I told him but I had a bit of time freaking out in the car ride home to do it. I wouldn't have been able to wait much longer. Because of the trigger, I didn't feel comfortable without solid blood work proof. And I feel like DH wouldn't believe me if I did have science on my side. He almost made me take the digital test even though I had blood work!!

rupeam12

Baby is a huge surprise and not what we were planning right now.  I toyed with the idea of  waiting until I'd been to my first appointment to tell him. I wanted to know that this was "really real" dropping the news in his lap.  I knew I couldn't wait another 4 weeks though and knew that he had every right to know pretty much as soon as I did.  Plus, it's nice to have him as a support (and he is so great) right now.  Plus we needed to make different living arrangements, so we need these extra weeks for that.  If I were you, I'd just tell him

azmamatobe

I tried sooooo hard, I found a really cute rainbow baby card I was going to make and tweak just a little and then sneak into my ob who does an ultrasound every time I went to see him last round, attach it and tell him. I'd already had a cash stash so I could pay for it without him seeing my doctor's name on our debit card... had a plan all laid out. I got home and he's stuck on paying off the car I drive and getting a crew cab truck (still for me to drive, we traded in the truck I'd had since I was 17 to get this car and initially I was reluctant, I loved having a truck) and I told him no I think I want a car if we trade it in and he just kept going on about a truck I said no I love my "mom car" and he looked kinda sad presumably because of our loss so I finally just said no, if I'm going to be hauling a baby in and out of a vehicle come January I want a car! He looked confused then said wait, are you?! I said yes! We cried and got ice cream. Haha oh well I'm not upset in the least bit that he knows 

PleaseSendPicklesNow

Our journey has been long and tough (details are in my signature). We're in it together, because we both need the emotional support! My husband is almost always with me when I test, and often he looks at the test before I do. He was the one who told me at 8 dpo, "I think I see something! It's faint, but maybe we'll get a real line tomorrow." And he was right!

So I vote for letting husbands know ASAP. They're not children; they don't need to be protected from possible disappointment. Even if things go south later, they should get to share in the joy of a BFP.

tsuredraider

I knew about BB3 about a week before I told DH. He was adamant he didn't want a third since we have DD and DS and he felt out family was complete. He guessed I was pregnant when I told him I was really stressed out. I felt bad for keeping it from him, but he's really getting into car shopping for a bigger vehicle and is even looking at *gasp* minivans. 

steph30032

This is how I told my husband. I made him a little card with an Appleseed glued inside. He was shocked! After he read the card I showed him the tests! 

GraceUponGrace09

With our first pregnancy, we took the test together and there in the bathroom saw the results together. Loved it.

I miscarried last March and for that one he was out of town. I told him I was late but neither of us thought much about it. I tested positive a few days before he came home and hated to tell him over the phone. I made a little card with two footprints (from my fist, ya know?) And wrote, I can't wait to meet you Nov 15th. It was such a sweet moment to show him it, he was shocked.

This time I got a positive a few hours before he got home and as soon as he did I said, "I think I'm pregnant." We went and I took another test with him there to see it.

I like both ways but feel strongly they should know fairly quickly. It's their baby too!