Monday Bitchfest 5.15

stokesm21

julybaby17-2

Things just haven't been going right lately. It is just one thing after another! Our garage door stopped working, the grill didn't survive the winter, our yard is a distaster, and the treadmill is now not working. Just so frustrated, and everything is expensive to fix. 

nononorman

Pretty irritated with the honest wipes recall. I was signed up for the bundle so I got four packs last month (plus I have a few more smaller sample type packs)- all on the recall list-  and then this month they said they were out of stock which was true but also a lie because then they later announced the recall. When they said the bundled wipes were out of stock they just automatically gave me a $25 credit but because the wipes are out of stock, I have no idea how much they actually cost to buy separately - so I don't know if that refunded amount will give me what I need to actually buy the wipes when they come back in stock. And I tried to speak with a customer service agent on the online chat today and they told me that I would have to send back the wipes for a refund or exchange. REALLY? You want people to send back possibly used wipes...? More importantly going to the post office for THEIR convenience is a joke. I hate going period nevermind to clean up their mistake. 

There are a couple of posts on the Internet that say that you can get a refund without having to send them back if you call. So I called and waited on hold for 10 minutes and was offered a chance to be in the call back queue so I did that and I'm waiting to talk to them now. Just wondering where this AWESOME honest customer service is. All I want is to have them send me the items I ordered when they're back in stock and to not be personally inconvenienced. Doesn't seem like a lot to ask from a company that overcharges out the ass. Just saying. 

ladybray

I am just tired of feeling sick. I have had only a few days where I havent felt like garbage this entire pregnancy. I am tired of feeling sick all the damned time. I just want a couple of weeks where I can get things done.

maribeth0721

@ladybray I can totally sympathize with you. I basically feel like I've had the flu this entire pregnancy. I feel like I've gotten every symptom you could possibly get. Most recently heartburn, shortness of breath, and night sweats. My baby is still head up and I'm pretty short so there is only so much room for her. Her head feels like it is pushing right up into my lungs and it's hard to catch my breath sometimes (even just going up the stairs). That on top of the heartburn and sleeplessness I just never ever feel good or comfortable. I just keep trying to remind myself it's 2 more months....

julybaby17-2

@ladybray I'm sorry this has been such a challenging pregnancy for you. The third trimester is definitely tough. I have Botticelli back pain and can barely get through work. The shortness of breathe is unsettling. I hope you start to feel better and get some relief!

ladybray

I am sorry you guys are in such discomfort as well! I am just counting it down and looking forward to all the sickness going away. I also have gotten the majority of typical pregnancy symptoms! It is rough! You guys feel better too!!!!

nktrodden826

@Potterphile I wouldn't suggest stocking up on too many of the same brand just in case your baby reacts negatively. I still can't use the honest company wipes on DS without him breaking out in a horrible rash (he doesn't have issues with HC diapers, just wipes) and my best friends kids are the same way actually. Just something to keep in mind. 

Sorry tou you guys are feeling crummy. We're in the home stretch though! My first pregnancy was a breeze- felt amazing, looked amazing. And this one has been the complete opposite so I'm in the same boat. We've made it 2/3 of the way, we got this! 

lanie1000

My MBF is for my MIL who thanked me for sending her tulips and then proceeded to ask how much bigger my "already big butt" has gotten. Not the baby, not my belly, but my BUTT.

I know I'm probably being overly sensitive but that totally rubbed me the wrong way and I didn't even know how to respond. I haven't seen her since Christmas (she lives in FL, we're in CA), but I don't understand how pregnancy suddenly makes it okay to make fun of insecurities that people had long before they even got pregnant. 

mslynn2012

I sucked as a mama today.

Took the kids to swim lessons. Showered them off, wrapped them up in towels. Sat them on benches so I could get them dressed 1 at a time.

DD starts kicking her feet and singing. I tell her to stop. She continues. I turn to help DS get dressed and out of the corner of my eye I see her fall.

Face first.
Onto the "padded" floor.
Hands still wrapped in towel, so she can't brace herself. 



You can can see the print of the floor in her chin. 

nononorman

@nktrodden826 - to be honest with you... that ship has already sailed. I'm about 2500 diapers and 4000 wipes deep (diapers are mix of honest and pampers swaddlers.. wipes are honest, pampers sensitive, huggies sensitive). But I feel like I've gotten everything at prices I could easily sell them for. The Honest diapers that came from honest direct ended up at 7.9c/diaper for size 3s after a BOGO bundle deal and $47.50 in credits due to the recall. 

@lanie1000 - murder her. 

mamadcb

@lanie1000 NOT COOL

rnw2019

@lanie1000 UGH. That's the worst. I hope you had a super snarky response for her, or at least came up with one later that you should have said! 

OperaSingerMommy

@mslynn2012 Oh no, poor baby!  So sorry that happened, not your fault though!  Hope some extra hugs and treats help her to feel better, hang in there.

@lanie1000 Yeah, nope.  Somebody isn't getting any tulips next year!  So rude.

nktrodden826

@Potterphile so see you do have a mix, that's good! Hopefully you'll be lucky and have a baby without skin sensitivities!! 

My MBF goes out to my MIL who basically told my husband that she would only want to go to Florida if it was just the two of them. She texted DH and told him "Natalie being pregnant and bringing the baby might just bombard them.. I think it would be too many people...but I guess if she handles the cooking and cleaning it won't be too bad." 

I totally understand if she wants it to he just a family trip but say that, don't say bringing one extra person and a 2 year old is going to set them all over the edge.

squirttheturtle

nktrodden826 said:

@Potterphile so see you do have a mix, that's good! Hopefully you'll be lucky and have a baby without skin sensitivities!! 

My MBF goes out to my MIL who basically told my husband that she would only want to go to Florida if it was just the two of them. She texted DH and told him "Natalie being pregnant and bringing the baby might just bombard them.. I think it would be too many people...but I guess if she handles the cooking and cleaning it won't be too bad." 

I totally understand if she wants it to he just a family trip but say that, don't say bringing one extra person and a 2 year old is going to set them all over the edge.

So you can come and bring the baby but then you have to be a maid?  WHAT?

And if my MIL said to DH that they were having a 'family trip' DH would say that his wife and child ARE family and are coming on the FAMILY trip.  It's all or nothing.  You don't get to pick and choose.  If she wants 'alone' time with her son, go out to lunch/dinner. 

julybaby17-2

@lanie1000 um...what? What would ever make her think that's okay? I'm guessing she thought it was funny, but it's just strange.  

ginger1228

Wow these are good BFs. 
@lanie1000 - your MIL can suck it!

@mslynn2012 - sorry sorry about your poor baby's chin! I know you feel bad but you couldn't help it. And now maybe she learned a little lesson - listen to mom!!

@nktrodden826  - I totally agree with @SquirttheTurtle. It's one thing if you couldn't go and told him to go anyway, but how rude of MIL to basically exclude you... unless you'll be the maid. RUDE. 

tuxielove93

@lanie1000 Uncool. 

@mslynn2012 I'm so sorry that happened. FX for a fast recovery!

@nktrodden826 That is totally unacceptable. Your his wife, you are family now, and she needs to realize that. Slightly different, but I had a long term serious boyfriend in high school who got included in my family and I in his, but whenever his mom pulled the "it's just family and we don't want you there" thing, it always really hurt and really ticked me off. I was partially included? It was very strange. I would never stand for that as the wife and mother of his children. If YOU didn't want to go because your uber pregnant or with the new baby that's different. But she can't just exclude you and include DH!! 

julybaby17-2

@Potterphile wow. MILs are on fire today! So, you're only welcome if you wait on them? Does she realize how rude and selfish that is??? Did your DH stand up for you?

lanie1000

Thanks for commiserating, ladies. I think she thought she was being funny. Unfortunately I was too caught off guard (and then hurt) to reply with anything witty or snarky. 

@nktrodden826 Wow...just wow. I cannot believe how rude and inconsiderate your MIL is being. I'm outraged for you!! 

ginger1228

Is anyone else nervous about being a MIL one day?! I like to think I won't be crazy, but I'm sure our MILs didn't think they'd be crazy either! 

Dcwtada

Seriously I have decided my MIL is a saint given most of these stories. 

@nktrodden826 seriously that is one of the most insulting things I have read. You are not a second thought or cleaning lady for their vacation. Personally I'd be livid. 

@ginger1228 I used to not worry but it seems like everyone has crazy MIL stories. I like to think I'll keep my sanity. 

nononorman

I think MILs glory in this shit. It's a very fine line between "I love my baby boy, no one will ever hurt him!!" To "my daughter in law isn't good enough for him/is stealing him from me/ is the devil".

i know my MIL would be crazier if she thought she could get away w it. But usually she's pretty decent. Actually A+ prior to the pregnancy and is now somewhat on my nerves but knows better than to be an outright bitch to me. 

star_beagle

Potterphile said:.

I think MILs glory in this shit. It's a very fine line between "I love my baby boy, no one will ever hurt him!!" To "my daughter in law isn't good enough for him/is stealing him from me/ is the devil".

i know my MIL would be crazier if she thought she could get away w it. But usually she's pretty decent. Actually A+ prior to the pregnancy and is now somewhat on my nerves but knows better than to be an outright bitch to me. 

My MIL has actually said to my face that she blames me for stealing her son from her and that everything is my fault. So, yeah...that bolder is probably exactly what she thinks. She loves drama and being the center of attention. I wish she was...like some of the other more cool and level-headed MILs I've heard about.

manillabar

@lanie1000 that is several levels of RUDE. You are NOT being overly sensitive! I'm sorry she said that to you. 
@nktrodden826 I hope your H shut that conversation down. That's just ridiculous. 

glitterfish-2

ginger1228 said:

Is anyone else nervous about being a MIL one day?! I like to think I won't be crazy, but I'm sure our MILs didn't think they'd be crazy either! 

I already know I don't like her. I've accepted it!

rnw2019

Dcwtada said:

Seriously I have decided my MIL is a saint given most of these stories. 

Me too! Mine gets a little on my nerves when you can't tell her anything she doesn't already know, and I can't text or email her without going through her husband (refuses to use/turn on her cell phone, and doesn't have her own email address), but compared to some I guess I'm coming out wayyyyy on top. I definitely would not be able to keep my cool with some of the MIL's comments on here! 

@ginger1228 I'm guessing I'll get on my DIL/SIL's nerves no matter how hard I try not to, but I feel like I should store away these stories in my brain so I can remember what NOT to do when that day comes. Yikes. 

ladybray

@star_beagle yup I have also been blamed for my MIL relationship (or lack of) with her son. Super funny because their relationship has gotten 1000% better since I have been around. They actually talk about... FEELINGS now! 

irishrose54

@star_beagle @ladybray my MIL also blames me for everything that's wrong w her relationship w her son. DH tells me all the crap she says about me, and basically she uses me as a verbal punching bag for all her frustrations in life. I'm so over her. I just keep my distance at all costs. I do enough to keep the peace but I don't have much respect for her. 

BusyZee

irishrose54 said:

@star_beagle @ladybray my MIL also blames me for everything that's wrong w her relationship w her son. DH tells me all the crap she says about me, and basically she uses me as a verbal punching bag for all her frustrations in life. I'm so over her. I just keep my distance at all costs. I do enough to keep the peace but I don't have much respect for her. 

That happened to me for a while, my MIL is old and she competes like a teen... when I got married especially the first year her accusations were insane! One weekend we couldn't go and she declared that she will make sure to look for a good wife for his younger brother lol. Well good luck with that because she still hasn't .. !

They don't even have a close relationship so it doesn't make sense at all. She's calmed down a lot over the years because my husband is able to reason with her properly now and also control her craziness. I'll take credit for that though Lol. 

nononorman

The way to not be THAT MIL is to LET GO. You and your son can have something special/important but he and his wife should have something more special/important. I think mothers of daughters are always aware that they're going to let go of their kid someday and she'll have a family of her own - there's something possibly socially/culturally f'ed up here but I think it's true. But sometimes mothers of sons forget that and think their sons will ALWAYS need their mother (even above a wife). My truth: your job as a father or mother of any child is to prepare them to be independent by 18/21/whatever and to make them ready to live a competent fulfilling life without you. Easier said than done when you have a little one looking at you like you're the only thing that exists in the world but... there it is. 

longhairdntcare

Potterphile said:

The way to not be THAT MIL is to LET GO. You and your son can have something special/important but he and his wife should have something more special/important. I think mothers of daughters are always aware that they're going to let go of their kid someday and she'll have a family of her own - there's something possibly socially/culturally f'ed up here but I think it's true. But sometimes mothers of sons forget that and think their sons will ALWAYS need their mother (even above a wife). My truth: your job as a father or mother of any child is to prepare them to be independent by 18/21/whatever and to make them ready to live a competent fulfilling life without you. Easier said than done when you have a little one looking at you like you're the only thing that exists in the world but... there it is. 

This. I obviously want my kid(s) to want to spend time with me and be around me when they are grown up, but I don't want it to be because they need me and can't function without me. DH and I are both pretty independent though, so I have no doubt we will raise our children to be independent as well. DH has already made comments about how he will teach out daughter to change a tire, etc.