UO Thursday 5/11

DuchessOfCambridge

av2323

The word moist doesn't bother me.

av2323

Ooh Ooh, I've got another one.  I think Seinfeld is the worst show EVER.  I can't stand it.

Tourmalily

I hate the word "mama(s)" especially as used by other adult women. It sounds and feels infantilizing. 

mariposa_767s

@av2323 I'm not a Seinfeld fan either.  I don't hate it...I just don't like it.

@tourmalily It's demeaning in a way.  I hate when people use the word "friend" when talking to someone.  Like...say my name...I don't need a reemphasis on the fact we are or aren't actually friends.

I hate when people use snapchat filters for profile photos.  It annoys me...especially the duck face.

am+mommy

@av2323 DH hates the word moist, therefore I use it as often as possible!
@Tourmalily I agree, although I think it's used a lot in the south. DD2 calls me Mama because she doesn't speak well so DH calls me Mama too and it infuriates me. I still go by Mommy. 

DuchessOfCambridge

@Tourmalily I agree! I hate when other adult women say something along the lines of "you got this, mama!" to me. I get they're saying "you're going to be a mother and you've got this" but I still hate it. Also I'm just not a "mama" in general. Maybe when baby is too young to say something else but don't you call me mama. I don't know what I want to be called yet but it's not that.

@av2323 I also hate Seinfeld. I think it's boring and I don't get it.

av2323

@Tourmalily  I'm guilty.  I use it all the time.
@mariposa_767s  The snapchat pics drive me crazy also. 

ArtificialRed

I only ever want my children to call me mama. My husband and I also refer to each other as mama and daddy in the presence of DS. But I agree with the "you got this, mama" sentiment being annoying. I'm from the pseudo-south, ftr

QTAMum3

I also use mama, but usually to friends I'm closer with. I try not to on here because I'm mobile and can't see it know if you have kids and I try to be sensitive to those with troubles. 

My UO...I don't send thank you cards. I say thank you in person or my kids will if they get gifts. I don't think the $ spent on making/shipping/etc is better than an IRL Thank you. 

ElizabethSchuyler

Interesting. I use "mama" often with my close friends on my son's BMB. We see it as encouraging in our circle. 

pawcall

Tourmalily said:

I hate the word "mama(s)" especially as used by other adult women. It sounds and feels infantilizing. 

Mamas doesn't bother me but "mommas" is like nails on a chalkboard 

JDW0325

Mama doesn't bother me at all!

bklynchica

Mama makes me think of...

zigzag8412

Lol.  Definitely a southern thing with "mama" and "friend."  Mama/Momma's always been my preferred name of choice and while "friend" annoyed me for the first half a dozen year I lived in the official south, I've now caught myself using it on occasion.  All my extended family is from the Chicago area so I was there a lot growing up too and hearing/using "Ma" isn't unusual either.  I called my mom "Mommy" first as a young child then moved to "Mom" as a kid and have actually gone back to "Momma" after high school based on both our preferences.  The only thing we never used because she always said she hated it was "Mother."  DH and I refer to each other as "Mommy" and "Daddy" when DD is around (which is most of the time now).  I get calling your friends/other women by any variant of "mom" being a little more weird and would just say learn their preference.  Even with my BFF, I don't refer to her as a "mom" variant unless I'm talking to her son or we're specifically talking about a kid-related issue in which she needs mom encouragement.
I've never seen Seinfeld. 

sojoba

@QTAMum3 I think as long as there's *some* kind of acknowledgment that's fine. A thank you in person > card in my opinion. I hate when people don't acknowledge a gift at all. 

My UO: I hate "cold shoulder" shirts. I don't want cold shoulders! Even when I was skinnier before pregnancy I just thought that there were so few that are flattering. 

DuchessOfCambridge

@sojoba +1 to not liking the cold shoulder/off the shoulder trend. Especially on maternity wear.

Tourmalily

Haha omg I LOVE the cold shoulder style! 

MississippiCatfish

QTAMum3 said:

My UO...I don't send thank you cards. I say thank you in person or my kids will if they get gifts. I don't think the $ spent on making/shipping/etc is better than an IRL Thank you. 

I think the extra effort that it takes to send a handwritten thank you note shows that you truly appreciate whatever the person did.  Two years I threw my little sister her bridal shower and was her MOH, gave her gifts on both occasions, and never received a thank you.  It would have gone a long way.

ariasbabyblog

GoGurts taste better frozen then not.

bcashaw

@ariasbabyblog fact. 

I'm cool with mama , but don't want my child calling me mama. I have issue with people calling me mummy, like please no. Also can't stand it when couples call eachother mom and dad when the kid is out of the room. Like isn't this something you should be saying only for the benefit of your child? My aunt and uncle do this and I do not like it. Their youngest kid is 20, it's time to stop. 
Cold shoulder not my fave , I haven't bought ANY maternity clothes and probably won't because a bunch of my friends just had babies and so I have bags and bags of cute maternity clothes. 
I also do not like sienfeld , or any cartoon like the Simpsons or family guy. I don't really like TV in general except shonda rhymes (minus HTGAWM) and my guilty pleasure Kardashians. 

cmessamore

I don't have a problem with Mama, but I do have a problem with anyone but my husband calling me "sweetie, hunny, darling, dear, etc" 

@ariasbabyblog agreed and on that note, pop tarts are better not cooked! 

My UO is that I hate spring!  sure, the weather is getting warmer and new life is in the air. But seriously, I hate it. The weather in New England is questionable at best during spring, usually rainy and cold. We already have issues with mosquitos and ticks. And allergies are out of control! 

liz4382

I don't mind mama, but I also despise when it's spelled "momma!"  Nope, that's not how you spell it!  

@cmessamore I had a craving for uncooked pop-tarts the other morning. Like, I dreamed about them. I was so disappointed that we didn't have any. 

I love spring--I hate the brown grass in winter and it makes me so happy to see green again!

My UO--I think huge bow hair bands are so cute on babies!

am+mommy

@QTAMum3 My rule of thumb is don't send thank you cards if you open the gift in front of that person and say thank you. I have always sent thank you cards for showers or events where gifts are expected. We live far away from all family and anyone that mails us gifts always get thank you card as well. Our one aunt gets a thank you card no matter why because they mean a lot to her! 

pawcall

Agreed, if I open it in their presence and thank them, I'm good. If they're not there for opening, I need to send a note. 

Exception is christmas, a call is fine

ArtificialRed

liz4382 said:

I don't mind mama, but I also despise when it's spelled "momma!"  Nope, that's not how you spell it!

Agreed. But some people act like mama and momma are pronounced differently and I don't get that either! I mean..how??

DuchessOfCambridge

 I get slightly ragey when I learn people shop at Walmart, Gap Inc or use Uber (though I never say so to them). Explanation in spoiler because it got long and has sensitive topics discussed.

Walmart: When Walmart had that whole sexual harassment lawsuit, a good friend of mine was one of the victims. She ended up quitting as soon as her boss propositioned her (she hadn't been getting paid for the overtime she was working and he told her they could take care of it in aisle 10) and got out without actually getting hurt but I think it's so disgusting.

Uber: Same with Uber, they blatantly allow sexual harassment in their corporate office and haven't apologized for it or done anything to correct the behavior.

Gap Inc: (Gap/Old Navy/Banana Republic/Athleta) WILL NOT STOP using child/slave labor even though they've been caught three times and it breaks my heart to think about kids who should be in school and pregnant women worked much harder than their bodies can take.

EVERYTHING IS JUST SO SAD.

KMRR86

I am really over "mom parodies" of popular songs. I am very rarely entertained by them and I think they're way overdone and dumb. 

NYTino24

Bump related opinions - I hate when people post in the ultrasound thread only, especially when they aren't active and are only around to ask if we can tell the gender and of course the pic is blurry anyway. 

Also, saying you're a lurker and asking for help or advice, but trying to make an excuse that you don't have time to post because you are soooo busy or sick (and acting like no one else is) makes me mad.

bcashaw

@NYTino24 I saw that too. And I was also like ughh. 
 I will add to this . The people who pop in and start a new thread that's EXACTLY THE SAME as a thread we already have going.  So annoying. 
Eta: also when anyone responds to any said threads with anything other than "hey check out this identical thread already started"  

BayCamp

I am totally guilty of spelling it Momma, it's just how we always spelled it and now the other way looks weird to me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯   

Roliepoliecoley4

I'm with you, @BayCamp!

zigzag8412

Same here @BayCamp & @Roliepoliecoley4.  My mom is "Momma" and my MIL is "Mama Lisa."  
UO- The difference in pronunciation is the difference between a short "o" sound that has the sound completion ("awe") and a short "a" sound that leaves the sound hanging ("ah").  There's a lower dip in the back of the tongue to "Mama" than "Momma."  Said casually enough, it's honestly not usually noticeable but to those who use them regularly.  But that's just me and I'm sure you didn't really care to hear my semantics.

alparodi

I have no idea if I've called people on this board mama or not! I'm in the south and have a lot of family and friends with Hispanic background, so I always think of mama as endearing. I'll try to stick with "ladies."

Furmommy

I like mama, I've gotten called that a couple times by my mom and dad. It's endearing to us.

my UO(even though it's Friday) I hate glittery, pink, Barbie doll clothing for girls. I think someone said this before or maybe it was about skulls I don't know... I'm just not a girly girly..

bcashaw

As I said momma and mama don't bother me but today some random called me a yummy mummy and I gagged. 

MississippiCatfish

bcashaw said:

As I said momma and mama don't bother me but today some random called me a yummy mummy and I gagged. 

Yuuuuuuuck

alparodi

@bcashaw Creepy!

I've only heard that phrase in reference to the horrible cereal that show up around Halloween.

Edit due to mobile image woes

TeacherMama7

I used to hate the idea of women referring to other women as mama, especially online, but after having my son I get it. It's really seen as encouraging. "You got this, mama!" 

Thank uou cards - I am huge on those. If someone took the time to pick out a gift I or my child would like, wrap it, come to the birthday party or whatever it is, I think it's respectful to take two minutes to write a quick thank you note and send it in the mail. I guarantee you're taking far less time writing and sending your note than they did getting a gift for you.