FFFC 5/5

lulu1180

@JennyColada So do you have sex with these other people and if so, how exactly does that work with TTC and all? Cuz we all know condoms aren't 100% effective and they break and we'll in the heat of the moment they do sometimes get forgotten about 

pebbledam

@lulu1180 - I can't speak for @JennyColada, but for us condoms are a must and there is no exception to that rule. I also don't sleep with anyone besides MH during FW.

ETA "besides MH" because I totes try to bone him during FW.

Stargazer1lily

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Redpuma119

I love fffc. Someone should start an after dark thread!!

JennyColada

lulu1180 said:

@JennyColada So do you have sex with these other people and if so, how exactly does that work with TTC and all? Cuz we all know condoms aren't 100% effective and they break and we'll in the heat of the moment they do sometimes get forgotten about 

Yea I ditto the condoms. Thankfully (or not?) I'm not having sex with anyone but DH currently, but I agree that that could get tricky while TTC. I suppose if I were to be in that situation (condom broke) then I'd just have to talk it out with DH. Me "forgetting" to use a condom, heat of the moment or not, is basically cheating on DH (because I'm going against what he's trusted me to do), so that's really a non-negotiable and something serious that would need to be discussed if that were to happen. I think I'd personally probably just try to avoid DTD with anyone but DH during FW. Similar to how you may go about it if you didn't want to use hormonal BC with any other mono partner.

doxiemoxie212

Okay, I have another question sparked by @lulu1180. Let me know when you stop wanting to answer questions, lol. I've started drinking because it's Cinco de Mayo and like an hour ago all our friends were like CAN WE COME OVER AFTER WORK FOR DRINKS! And I was like yaasssss. And now they're all stuck in meetings and I'm at home like, okay guys, any minute now. Anyway... I digress... Do you have regular other partners? Do they know you're trying to get KU? 

eggplantface

@RedPuma119 This just needs to be renamed the After Dark thread. 

I'm in the car with H right now driving through the country and he rolled down the window and the smell of manure hit me as I was reading about everyone's anal adventures and it made the whole thread really come alive for me. 

pebbledam

@lulu1180, @JennyColada - I always carry extra condoms. There's a term used frequently in the open/poly community and it's a perfect description no matter what side of the spectrum you fall on and that's "ethical non-monogomy."

doxiemoxie212

@eggplantface lol lol lol 

JennyColada

doxiemoxie212 said:

Okay, I have another question sparked by @lulu1180. Let me know when you stop wanting to answer questions, lol. I've started drinking because it's Cinco de Mayo and like an hour ago all our friends were like CAN WE COME OVER AFTER WORK FOR DRINKS! And I was like yaasssss. And now they're all stuck in meetings and I'm at home like, okay guys, any minute now. Anyway... I digress... Do you have regular other partners? Do they know you're trying to get KU? 

LMAO. You have me cracking up over here. Like I said above, no other partners for me right now (BOO!), but yea, BC is definitely something that I'd discuss with any partner. It's just one of those things that I think is important to discuss with a new sexual partner (as with test status, etc). Two of my close friends know that I'm TTC, so that would be something I'd want to tell another partner about (especially if we're sexually active, I'd want to tell them that I'm no longer on BC!).

vflux33

@pebbledam Me too! I fart around MH, no problem, but whenever I queef I'm like "please don't look at me!!!"

I totes forgot I have an anal sex related FFFC: I had an abnormal pap once and freaked out and turned out my now H was just sloppy with butt sex one day. Which is both super gross and awkward when I got the call from my (former) OB's office. I may or may not have let the lady on the phone believe I had wiped incorrectly... at 25 years old. And I definitely switched OBs and didn't have my chart transferred to the new OB. 

Needless to say, my now H and I had a "talk" later that day about butt sex hygiene. 

doxiemoxie212

OH i have a confession: for a long time many moons ago I thought FFFC stood for some variation of For Fcks Sake (I know it doesn't make sense), but the only thing that stuck with me once I figured out what it really stood for is the fck, so I always for a split second think this thread will be sex related (and only sex related) - AND TODAY IT BASICALLY IS! HOORAY!

JennyColada

eggplantface said:

@RedPuma119 This just needs to be renamed the After Dark thread. 

I'm in the car with H right now driving through the country and he rolled down the window and the smell of manure hit me as I was reading about everyone's anal adventures and it made the whole thread really come alive for me. 

doxiemoxie212

Also, one more: this May promo photo siggy challenge is becoming an actual problem for me because now I picture each of you as the crazy people in those prom photos. Like, it's hard for my brain not to first think you're bragging about your chosen prom photo and that it's of you. If that makes sense. 

pebbledam

@eggplantface - rofl, sometimes life is perfectly timed!
@vflux33 - I don't blame you at all for ghosting on your old OB. 
@doxiemoxie212 - The one guy I've slept with post-BC does not know we are TTC, but we took all precations necessary to prevent pregnancy. 

beachbunnyxo123

Omg how did I miss all of this today?! Good thing I didn't see it at work it would've been written all over my face. I weirdly feel closer to every single one of you after reading these. I also have learned that I'm not as adventurous as I once thought I was 

sunniegrly

@doxiemoxie212 - LOL for the record I definitely don't spend all my time hiding in the foliage 

doxiemoxie212

@sunniegrly actually you're the exception. I will only ever picture you as the dear Princess Leia. 

sunniegrly

@doxiemoxie212 - Yaaaaaassss!!!

Avrilmai

I've finally caught up on all of this...add me to the list of vanilla ladies, or the not as adventurous as I thought ladies.  I so appreciate the openness and honesty of you ladies. I'm learnin' a lot. 

zamoraspin

Yes on the Loris eyes and this thread. Y'all are amazing.

@LoveInDC I think you have a very cool attitude on the kink. DH and I are vanilla but if he ever wanted something kinky I hope I would be open about it.

@elisek In my first sexual relationship I used to fake orgasms. Some of them were real but most were not. This is not your situation but I know for me once I started down the path of not communicating I never did overcome it with that partner but have never done it again with any other partner. I'm sure you can though - I think the OMGYes suggestion is a good one. You deserve to be fully satisfied and I know for me once I better understood what my body responded to I had a lot easier time articulating it to my partner.

KariAnn323

New FFFC: I decided to catch up on this thread while going from one side of the mall to the other to get to my car. I had to turn around in JCPenney's 5 times because I kept getting lost. Still refused to stop reading 

icecubeinthedesert

@eggplantface, I guess my FFFC is I love the smell if manure. I grew up in the country and that smell is like spring to me!

And I think I'm unflavored vanilla!

doula-mama

I dated a guy for a while who was really into swapping and group stuff... We weren't in love, so I was open to trying having another couple over, but when we did, it was really the wife who was just into girls but her husband wanted to be there to be involved... Fun, but not exactly what we'd planned!

50Wife

Possible *TW* pregnancy mentioned 
So it took us a full year to get pregnant the first time around. Literally the day we conceived we had done anal first (NOT A BUTT BABY!!!) and then proceeded with the baby making sex. So we joked that all we needed was some ass juice to make a baby. Aaaaaaaand when we would talk about the baby in my early stages of pregnancy, we called him AJ aka ass juice.  poor kid *end TW*

Also today I peed my fucking pants. Not a lot. But I was running errands after work and made it home with seconds to spare when all the sudden I like forgot how to take off my pants and I swear the extra urine made my hips bigger bc then I couldn't get my pants off quick enough and I just couldn't hold it anymore. Literally while right next to the toilet...

pebbledam

@50Wife - I hope to have the power to humiliate my future child as you do. Not that I would, but having the that sort of knowledge would make the hard parenting days a little easier to get through. 

garnetandgoldgrace

@doxiemoxie212 -- Hahaha. That's what I used to think FFFC stood for too once. Also, I was that crazy animal girl in high school so I am shocked my date wasn't a cow. 

tryingfor1st

Okay so I'm still pretty new here and this 3 page monstrosity was my first FFFC...and wow! We are super vanilla comparatively speaking. But thank all of you for the immense entertainment. I really need to get some sleep but I want to keep reading and find more of these after dark versions lol
FFFC: I also find it hard to get off during any kind of sex. Now that we are doing TI & cycle monitoring, it is nearly impossible. I've probably only gotten off during sex a handful of times in the +10 years we've been married. I recently had a talk with MH because when we have TI, it's probably better if I get off at the same time because I heard that it helps get those little guys to where they need to go.

kaitlink33

Ok guys, I know this post was from Friday but I've been working long hours (as I do on my weekend to work) and just now caught up on lurking. For those of you in open relationships/ into swapping or whatever how do you go about it? Dh and I have been wanting to for a while, but I'm super insecure about myself and my body and I can't just out right ask someone....

pebbledam

@kaitlink33, @JennyColada - sent you a PM so we don't have to keep the thread from Friday alive. :-)