Since we're getting closer and closer to that time I figured we should start discussing labor buddies (now that we all know what that means on TB lol). That way we know who our labor buddy is.
I have a randomizer that I can use to randomly pair people together (if you don't care who you're paired with). I figure we'd wait until MAY 15th (unless there's a reason to wait longer) to give people a chance to say yes or no to wanting a labor buddy and then go from there.
I added a spreadsheet you can fill out to make random pairing easier. If you have a preference (ex: want to be paired with a c/s if you're having a c/s) please let me know!
Any other ideas?
Edit: added spreadsheet
Re: Labor Buddy
FTM/STM
Number of children
Singleton/twins
RCS /CS/vaginal delivery
How active they are on the board (you don't want a regular paired with a semi lurker)
Grouped in 2 or 3
Things along those lines. For instance I can say I want to be paired with another mamma having an RCS (twins or single doesnt matter) that already has multiple small children at home. That's not my final desicion just giving an example.
Eta tb ate half my post
And I also think the PG should get to pick first, whether they want to choose or paired by list.
@MrsLa3
I figured we'd have a cut off date. I just don't know what it would be yet. Figured that date would be open for discussion.
I like you're idea. That way there is some more control over who gets paired together. That would be easy enough for me to set up an excel / spreadsheet if that's the way we go.
Did your last group have groups of 3 people paired together? I like that in case 2 people go in right at the same time. I am thinking of how we can best TRY to avoid a situation where 2 people are in labor at the same time (although I know it's not 100% avoidable)
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
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BFP: 11/4/2016
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I also edited my first post again if you missed it. I think those in the PG should get first pick at labor buddies.
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
*TW*
@MrsLa3 - I like the idea of PG members getting first pick.
I will start an excel and add it to the OP here then edit it as needed.
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
*TW*
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
I know it's unavoidable but I'd like to try haha
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
*TW*
Obviously you don't have to do that but it took pressure off mom trying to update multiple people - not that it has to be real time but it is so exciting it's hard to wait for hours to hear news while mom recovers and starts bonding!
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
*TW*
But another thing to keep in mind is c/s moms who schedule theirs, I know some hospitals don't have their surgery schedules yet so that may determine whether c/s moms are labor buddies because if their surgery is the same or too close it would be a little difficult to update everyone.
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
@DarkSerendipity - Sounds good. Once I do the pairings, I will let you know who you're paired with. Fill out the spreadsheet if you haven't already.
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
*TW*
If it was already your plan to have labor buddies in the PG, there's no reason to bring it up here.
I don't think it was it was anyone's intention to be rude or make it seem like "us vs them" and I'm sorry you feel that way. It obviously hadn't been discussed in the PG first, which is why there was some confusion.
I did not intend to upset or offend anyone with this discussion. I am very sorry if I did.
I started it here because I am active in both areas and I personally would not mind if my LB was someone who is a "semi-lurker". I honestly was only trying to get LB set up for all of us who would like one. - regardless of level of participation / activity.
That being said, I'd still love to set up a pairing for LB here if anyone wants to participate and have a LB.
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
*TW*
I feel like busyzee trying to start something about me saying the ladies in the private should be paired with each other is unnecessary as well.
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
And I will say it's the same people who come to every thread to try and be the last person to leave an unnecessary snarky comment.
This isnt towards you @AdaByron
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