Happy Tuesday. Mentioned this in Bitchfest briefly but we took my son to the doctor and it turns out he has hay fever. Have any mamas given their little ones Claritin or Zyrtec? It's been raining a bunch so his eyes aren't puffy right now but probably will be by the end of the week. He's 2 so I'm nervous about giving it (dr said to) but I have done my googling and it seems normal.
Happy Tuesday. Mentioned this in Bitchfest briefly but we took my son to the doctor and it turns out he has hay fever. Have any mamas given their little ones Claritin or Zyrtec? It's been raining a bunch so his eyes aren't puffy right now but probably will be by the end of the week. He's 2 so I'm nervous about giving it (dr said to) but I have done my googling and it seems normal.
Very normal, my son is an allergic mess (don't get me started) and gets Claritin in the morning AND Zyrtec at night (don't do this without a doc's direction). Both are really safe! One may work better than the other for him so give one a try and if it's not helping, try the other.
I usually buy the generic at cvs or Walgreens in huge bottles when they're BOGO 50% off because we go through so much.
~Mom to an amazing Jan 2011 boy~ ~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
@ElizabethSchuyler my 7 year old step son takes Claritin every day in spring, summer, and early fall. He's been taking it for about 4 years now and it works great. He has no side effects and without it, he'd be a mess. We've actually tried Zyrtec and Allegra in the past, but we keep coming back to Claritin because it works, the price is usually a little better, and he likes the flavor! Good luck with your LO!
I got my baby bargains book yesterday and am obsessed with it. I basically read it cover to cover and felt so good when it validated some of the choices I've made, like for stroller/crib. It's my new best friend.
Thank you @pawcall and @cmessamore. You ladies make me feel better about giving him the Claritin. Hopefully I know for me Zyrtec tends to work better. H picked up the Claritin so we'll see how it goes once the rain is out of here.
@BayCamp I am so so sorry for your loss . My thoughts are with you @slaven I thought your 11 pound dog joke was funny. @deemariec congrats on your little heartbeat! I, too am addicted to listening to my little one
@ElizabethSchuyler My 2 year old takes Zyrtec every day. The dose for a kid that age is actually really small. I was a little nervous about it at first but everyone does it here. And it totally helps.
Nov 17 BMB May Siggy Challenge: Mother's Day Fails
I'm sitting next to my boss in a meeting and bumping...ooooo thin ice! thin ice!
Also, they ordered sushi for everyone in the meeting for lunch...and my whole office team knows I love sushi and now I'm going to starve as I pretend eating lunch but not really or find an excuse to not eat after I complained not more than 30 mins ago that I was hungry! Can't win this one....
That sucks, @ShePersisted! I'm a bad pregnant lady and would totally cave and eat it. But I completely get why you won't. In that case, I would probably say that I "feel a little off" and that I'm worried sushi won't help whatever is going on with my stomach. No one pries into stomach issues.
@kissthesky32 good idea. It may seem weird but I'll try it. The issue is that I don't know where that sushi came from. I think some regular catering place so I don't know the quality of the kitchen or else I would not be bothered that much.
@ShePersisted Totally with you on avoiding, then. Maybe run to the bathroom and take an extra long time to make your stomach off story more convincing?
I am so so so sad for all of the losses this week and they are also giving me a bit of anxiety. Making the wait for next appointment that much harder. Praying for all those ladies.
@kissthesky32 it's good to know I'm not alone in worrying...though I wish neither of us was feeling that way. FX we both have wonderful appointments next week.
I think a mom whose going through an actual loss right now would give anything to rather have worry and anxiety than an actual loss. Let's not do this ladies pls.
I think a mom whose going through an actual loss right now would give anything to rather have worry and anxiety than an actual loss. Let's not do this ladies pls.
Of course. I've had losses and they are heartbreaking. And I'm glad that this community is so strong that women come here for support and prayers. If I have a loss, I will do the same. But, especially with a history of losses, I think it's fair to say that seeing the losses from women who we "know" and have been sharing this journey with can be anxiety-provoking.
Sorry I disagree. While this is an open forum to discuss our anxiety it's not the right time to say all the losses are making me nervous. You can talk about anxiety in general but there is no need to link it to all the losses. It's like someone telling me my loss is making them anxious while I''m actually struggling with a loss. What's the purpose? Are we expecting reassurance that we all have anxiety or that we all are in the same boat. None of us are experiencing what these women are. Not at the very moment at least so why can't we just let this moment go and just be there for them without trying to say how it impacts us. If someone lost their mom would you tell them my moms the same age as your mom that's why it's making me anxious that she will die too. No we would never do that and this is no different. A loss is hard and no matter how susceptible anyone is to it, we should be sensitive on how this would make them feel.
I dont mean to be harsh here but having being in this exact same situation first hand I know for a fact this hurts.
I think those of us who have been blessed with healthy pregnancies and have never suffered a loss have an unrealistic view of how difficult it is. I know it would be horrible and devastating, but I don't know how much until I have actually experienced it. Because of that it's hard to not project sometimes, there's so many layers of grief and I can only imagine there's more for the loss of a child. It makes me so sad to see these people who I've formed relationships with losing their child, and it does make me think of what it would be like to lose mine, simply because we are all pregnant together. I don't think that the intent was to make these women suffering losses feel as though they are responsible for another's anxiety, but I do see where you're coming from as well @ShePersisted. There are so many anxieties in early pregnancy, and a loss is at the top of that list.
Hmm. I have mixed feelings on this one. No one was attempting to talk directly to the ladies experiencing loss right now about personal anxieties (which would be totally inappropriate). Clearly these ladies could be reading these posts.
*TW* I've also experienced multiple losses in the past and it is so easy for seemingly small things to make you hurt.
I also remember the loneliness of my successful pregnancy wondering if/when it would end in bad news. I measured time passage not in what fruit size DD was, but likelihood of MC and then %survival odds if born really early. Clearly anxiety got the better of me. And it was so isolating.
I'd suggest a "*TW* MC anxieties thread" since not everyone feeling anxiety may have miscarried.
Look, I never said you should not talk abut your anxiety but it does not need to be talked about when someone is having a very hard time and it need not be linked. Lets talk about anxiety for what it is anxiety. Trust me ladies a loss of a pregnancy does not feel any less than a loss of an actual child for most women. When someone has a loss we always just be there for them no matter what it makes us feel. All I am asking is for little patience before it becomes about us vs. them having their time to process and leave the group.
I'm going to rest my case with this as this is obviously bringing up sad memories for me.
So, I'll just say that I've seen recent losses affecting anxiety come up in other threads (like PGAL) in a similar timeframe, but that's not somewhere I feel comfortable posting. I rarely even lurk there because it doesn't feel right. While I thankfully have not suffered a loss myself, I don't think that makes my feelings invalid, the fear is still real. I would never say things like those mentioned above to someone's face and I didn't tag anyone here either. I think @alparodi's idea is great and gives those of us who need it a place to discuss.
I've clearly offended and dredged up hard memories for you @ShePersisted, and for that I'm truly sorry.
@ShePersisted I see where you're coming from. I really do. And I'm sorry if you read my post as being un-supportive of the mothers who have had or are going through losses. I feel awful for them (and I have been them 3 times before this). I am also not trying to blame my anxiety on them - it has to do with loss in general and, for me, it happens to hit home a little bit harder when it happens to people who I've been chatting with than when I just look at percentages and statistics.
@DuchessOfCambridge@kissthesky32 hugs ladies. I know you don't mean anything and I appreciate you attempting to understand my point of view. I love you ladies already so I come from a place where I just want you to know that it could be hard for someone to digest. This happened in my last bmb and it left a loss mom in tears. There someone posted a new thread on this topic 'anxiety due to losses' and she just did not take it well after her 5th or 6th loss. of course none of you would ever do something like that but I just wanted to raise some awareness.
PM'ed @DuchessOfCambridge and @kissthesky32 with offer to lend an ear as an alternate outlet for anxiety. Just want a sensitive solution where everyone gets the support needed. Hope this helps
For those of you who have experienced previous losses, I'm hoping to get some advice on the most gentle approach to a situation with a friend of mine. I have not personally experienced a loss, so I want to be sure to handle things as sensitively as possible.
Would this be an acceptable time/place to explain the situation, or can someone direct me to a more appropriate board?
I am copying and pasting this straight from a Facebook post of someone I know who does third party sales. I legit hate this crap so much.
"I'm looking for those that can spend part time hours every week to build a lucrative business of their very own, while still being hands on moms with flexible schedules or career women with demanding jobs."
Why can't you be both? I am both! Why do people think that everyone that becomes a mom has to be this "hands on mom with flexible schedule" I am a mom who does tons of things with her kids, a career woman with a demanding job and I don't have *such* a flexible schedule but I sure as hell make it work and my kids don't know any different than Susie's mom who stays home. Sorry, end rant.
I got my baby bargains book yesterday and am obsessed with it. I basically read it cover to cover and felt so good when it validated some of the choices I've made, like for stroller/crib. It's my new best friend.
Isn't it the best. My first one was tabbed throughout. I just decided to get an updated version since I had my son in 2013 lots has changed!!
Okay, ***TW*** I have a friend who was a best friend for many years growing up, but we haven't kept up with each other much so we aren't very close anymore. Our moms are still very close and live in the same town, so she actually helped host my hometown shower with my first. She announced her pregnancy on Facebook about a month ago, so I sent her a text checking on her. My husband and I weren't sharing our news yet outside of our inner circle, but her due date was the same as mine so I wanted to open doors of communication for me to tell her when we were ready and possibly rekindle our friendship over it. She shared with me that her first appointment didn't go well, and the following week she experienced her second miscarriage. She still does not know that I am expecting and I know that when she finds out it will be extremely painful, especially with our shared due date. So I'm just wondering the best way/wording/timing to share with her to bring her as little pain as possible.
@ooodalollly it's so tough because I don't think there is any perfect time for these sorts of things. I have a close friend who has been struggling with IF for quite some time and I ended up texting her which I think was the best way to go about it. And i made sure to tell her sooner rather than later to let her know i wasn't trying to hide it from her. Just let her know that you know she is struggling right now but wanted her to hear it from you as opposed to someone else. Telling her you understand if she does not want to talk about it or even if she doesn't want to respond to the text is fine. It might take her a bit but you definitely want to give her space to have her emotions and let her know that it is fine to feel them and that you are there if she wants to talk.
@ooodalollly Also, try to do this one-on-one and at a time/place your friend won't feel trapped if she needs some alone time after talking. (Ex. Don't invite to dinner and talk before when she'd feel obligated to stay).
@ugoglencoco I hate those sales pitches too. I bet they were instructed not to say "stay at home mom" for some reason, and that's what she came up with instead!
Re: Weekly Randoms April 24th
I usually buy the generic at cvs or Walgreens in huge bottles when they're BOGO 50% off because we go through so much.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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@slaven I thought your 11 pound dog joke was funny.
@deemariec congrats on your little heartbeat! I, too am addicted to listening to my little one
I'm sitting next to my boss in a meeting and bumping...ooooo thin ice! thin ice!
Also, they ordered sushi for everyone in the meeting for lunch...and my whole office team knows I love sushi and now I'm going to starve as I pretend eating lunch but not really or find an excuse to not eat after I complained not more than 30 mins ago that I was hungry! Can't win this one....
I am so so so sad for all of the losses this week and they are also giving me a bit of anxiety. Making the wait for next appointment that much harder. Praying for all those ladies.
I dont mean to be harsh here but having being in this exact same situation first hand I know for a fact this hurts.
It makes me so sad to see these people who I've formed relationships with losing their child, and it does make me think of what it would be like to lose mine, simply because we are all pregnant together.
I don't think that the intent was to make these women suffering losses feel as though they are responsible for another's anxiety, but I do see where you're coming from as well @ShePersisted.
There are so many anxieties in early pregnancy, and a loss is at the top of that list.
*TW* I've also experienced multiple losses in the past and it is so easy for seemingly small things to make you hurt.
I also remember the loneliness of my successful pregnancy wondering if/when it would end in bad news. I measured time passage not in what fruit size DD was, but likelihood of MC and then %survival odds if born really early. Clearly anxiety got the better of me. And it was so isolating.
I'd suggest a "*TW* MC anxieties thread" since not everyone feeling anxiety may have miscarried.
Look, I never said you should not talk abut your anxiety but it does not need to be talked about when someone is having a very hard time and it need not be linked. Lets talk about anxiety for what it is anxiety. Trust me ladies a loss of a pregnancy does not feel any less than a loss of an actual child for most women. When someone has a loss we always just be there for them no matter what it makes us feel. All I am asking is for little patience before it becomes about us vs. them having their time to process and leave the group.
I'm going to rest my case with this as this is obviously bringing up sad memories for me.
I've clearly offended and dredged up hard memories for you @ShePersisted, and for that I'm truly sorry.
Would this be an acceptable time/place to explain the situation, or can someone direct me to a more appropriate board?
Why can't you be both? I am both! Why do people think that everyone that becomes a mom has to be this "hands on mom with flexible schedule" I am a mom who does tons of things with her kids, a career woman with a demanding job and I don't have *such* a flexible schedule but I sure as hell make it work and my kids don't know any different than Susie's mom who stays home. Sorry, end rant.