I think women who just throw tampons in a bathroom trashcan are completely disgusting.
Backstory: currently at DHs best friends house- his girl friend just moved in with him a few months ago and I went to use their master bathroom since the main level bath is under reno and she had dirty used tampons just laying in the trashcan next to the toilet. My husband would never want to see that. Wrap it in tp or flush it people. Nobody wants to see that.
I don't think you're supposed to flush tampons but I agree with wrapping it up before throwing it out. I don't know anyone who would want to see that!
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well, you ARE throwing it away. in the place other trash items (unhygienic or not) go. so, it's not really unhygienic.
While I personally would probably wrap it in TP or something, it's not really that rude, I don't know why it's such a big deal, half the population menstruate at some point in their lives. I think everyone should just move on to menstrual cups. they're so much better for the environment and plumbing.
I thought of another UO: I don't use tampons. I feel more comfortable and carefree in a thin pad.
Ditto this. I know most people (that I've met anyway) think pads are gross but I've always preferred them.
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I could live in flip flops, I wear mine so much they are gross after only a month or so.
DH is a weird q-tip user and cleans his ears every day if not multiple times a day. I don't... I don't think about it or feel it but when I do I chase him around the house with my gross ear waxy q-tip. He dry heaves. Life is good. Sometimes I leave it on his pillow.
My UO I really don't limit my kids screen time. We play a lot but they can play on the iPad or watch tv. I feel like everytime technology or whatnot takes a jump forward we demonize it just like novels were thought to cause hysteria and loose morals in women not that terribly long ago. I'd rather my kids grow up and know technology and how to use it responsibly and give them a heads up as the world is only going to become more dependent on it especially in school and work.
I know you can't when you have a house with a septic tank because the last thing you want is to have your tank clog and tampons end up all over the yard but I always thought it was fine otherwise. I also think the sound of a menstrual cup is disgusting- but I've never tried one and would be open to it. I was a tampon user my whole life until I had a baby. Things totally changed and I can't stand the thought of using one! But I still wrapped them up if I didn't flush them!
My toddler wants one on one attention most of the time and switches activities so frequently it's exhausting. I was in the no screen time until he's 2 camp but I am envious of the break screen time seems to provide other moms - he gets plenty of face time and is attached to my hip most of the time including while he sleeps. Well, every time we try to introduce a little Peppa Pig say when he wakes up at 5:30am on the weekend it turns him into a little monster so we keep it away. I'm not down with crazy tantrums over a device but I really could do with the break. Why does it make them nutso balls?
I prefer pads, too... but I've always had monstrously heavy periods and I would have to wear both a tampon and a pad the first couple of days in order to be able to go more than 1-2 hours between changes. I'm so glad to not have my period right now lol
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
@rae1-3 My understanding was that they can get stuck and clog the septic tanks and sewer pipes
Also, I learned from a friend who is a waste water engineer that they can stop up the system at the plant and cleaning all of that out is...not fun.
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My toddler wants one on one attention most of the time and switches activities so frequently it's exhausting. I was in the no screen time until he's 2 camp but I am envious of the break screen time seems to provide other moms - he gets plenty of face time and is attached to my hip most of the time including while he sleeps. Well, every time we try to introduce a little Peppa Pig say when he wakes up at 5:30am on the weekend it turns him into a little monster so we keep it away. I'm not down with crazy tantrums over a device but I really could do with the break. Why does it make them nutso balls?
Yes! My son has HORRIBLE tantrums after screen time. During the first trimester when I was so sick I downloaded Toy Story and Finding Nemo on my phone and for months every time he saw my iPhone he'd ask for woody n buzz or fishies and if I said no or didn't get it to him fast enough it was a total meltdown!! So not worth it.
I have always flushed tampons. That said, I rarely use them. I only ever put them in when I just can't wear a pad because even the organic cotton ones irritate me. I have tried menstrual cups, but they always leak on me, so it doesn't make any sense for me to use them. I was considering making reusable pads, but then I got pregnant, so I obviously never went anywhere with that. As much as I hate pregnancy 90% of the time, I love not having my period. If it was safe and I could afford it and be sane, I would probably just not stop having kids just so I could not have any more periods. But none of those things are true, so at some point I'm going to have to deal with them again.
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I am always blown away when women don't know not to flush tampons. Like 90% of all public bathrooms I have ever been in have giant signs telling you not to do this. I am not judging - internet tone is hard. I just genuinely do not understand how not one person or sign ever made this clear to you by this point in life.
I am a q-tip lover. But I miss the ones I used to get in Asia that were made specifically for ear cleaning. It had the cotton swab on one side and a little plastic scoop on the other. It was perfect for scratching and cleaning.
@abmommy15 I am absolutely dreading the baby shower MIL is throwing me. I didn't want one in the first place. She whined until I relented. She has made the entire thing about her. She didn't even ask me if I wanted to invite anyone. She just invited the people she wanted, and I have no idea who she invited.
My family is far away, but I asked her to send them courtesy invites so they feel included. She said okay but that she hoped they don't come because she doesn't have room for them. And when people said they couldn't come, she still didn't ask me if there was someone I wanted to invite in their place. She said she hoped more people drop out so she can fit in DH's BIL and his son.
She knows that I don't like opening presents in front of a group of people. It's part of my upbringing that we didn't do that. The way I was raised is that you accept the gift and thank them for the gesture and then open it later when you get home. I don't know if it's a Chinese thing or the fact that I grew up poor, but the idea is that you express gratitude for the fact the gift-giver thought of you. But you don't want anyone to feel embarrassed that they did not give as much as someone else by opening the gifts in front of everyone. Anyway, she knows this about me and that opening presents in front of a group makes me really uncomfortable. I asked that we don't do the gift opening thing, but she insists that I open the presents at the shower because she wants me to thank her for her gifts in front of everyone.
So yeah, I would rather not have her throw me the shower. And I don't really feel like I'm wrong for complaining about it because MIL has steamrolled me at every turn.
+ 99 to don't flush tampons. Don't flush anything that didn't come out of your body or isn't toilet paper.
It can cause plumbing problems at multiple points in the system. And fun fact, if you have flooding or plumbing issues in your house, and it can be attributed to your action (like flushed tampons) your homeowners insurance doesn't have to cover it--even if it wasn't the direct cause of the issue.
This is a huge issue with rental properties and something I dread about potential tenants...
@Xath yes to the tenants, been there. The biggest offender besides tampons are wet wipes (they really ARENT flushable even if the package says they are) and condoms (seriously wtf?). If it is not toilet paper don't flush it. The last thing anyone wants is a flooded out basement full of human waste and the bill to route out your pipes.
Oh can I add one more from last night- I can't stand shrimp pasta dishes that have the shrimp still with the shells on them. How do you gracefully eat pasta while having to man handle the shrimp covered in sauce to get the stupid shell off.
I have always flushed tampons (and probably will forever until/unless an issue comes up.. but with three women doing it w a septic tank at my house growing up for 10 years it never happened). We have city sewers now so is it even an issue? Also I flush the wipes, happily. More absurdly my husband flushes the dog hair he pulls out of the drains from their baths.. that seems worse. I tried the menstrual cup and hated it. When you empty it, don't u then need to wash before reinserting? So how do you do it in a public restroom? I even hated waddling from my toilet room to the sink at home which was all of six steps. Also I get past those bathroom signs by assuming that they mean don't flush pads or pantyliners. I don't even think I've seen one of those signs in years anyways.
@cait32 +1 on the diva cup @Potterphile most people don't have to empty their cup during the day but my flow after having a kid is insane so I've had to empty it a few times in a public work bathroom and it's actually not that hard - you don't need to rinse it with each use and I just bring a few paper towels in with me that I'll throw away in the sanitary trash. Easy.
I actually got to a point where I couldn't stand using a tampon anymore and the silicone of the cup was so much easier.
I'm starting to think I'm odd because I can't remember the last time I put a q-tip in my ear canal?!?! To clean my outer ear, yes, but nothing else. LOL I have never had ear issues my entire life and have always been a swimmer.
I think it was way too soon to pin the birth announcement thread. That could have easily waited until there was actually something to post in the thread. I hate pinned threads!!
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Late to the party but: I only use tampons. I know it comes with risks but I cannot STAND pads. After birth is going to be a huge adjustment for me. I've been flushing them my entire (menstruating) life unless a sign in a stall or bathroom specifically tells me not to. We had septic at all the homes we've ever lived in (as a family and at our current home), there were 3 girls in the house and we never had an issue with our tanks in regards to tampons. I dump a packet of Septobac down the toilet every once in a while for good measure.
She knows that I don't like opening presents in front of a group of people. It's part of my upbringing that we didn't do that. The way I was raised is that you accept the gift and thank them for the gesture and then open it later when you get home. I don't know if it's a Chinese thing or the fact that I grew up poor, but the idea is that you express gratitude for the fact the gift-giver thought of you. But you don't want anyone to feel embarrassed that they did not give as much as someone else by opening the gifts in front of everyone. Anyway, she knows this about me and that opening presents in front of a group makes me really uncomfortable. I asked that we don't do the gift opening thing, but she insists that I open the presents at the shower because she wants me to thank her for her gifts in front of everyone.
So yeah, I would rather not have her throw me the shower. And I don't really feel like I'm wrong for complaining about it because MIL has steamrolled me at every turn.
Ditto what @satsumasandlemons said, she is such a nightmare and you have every right to complain! Indian culture is the same way so I didn't have a bridal shower and we're having a very nontraditional party at our house instead of a baby shower, because I totally don't feel comfortable opening gifts in front of a group. Thankfully my whole IL crew is very chill and nobody minds this at all.
Love cleaning my ears! My mom used to use peroxide when I was a kid too.
Have always used tampons... Do not like the feeling of pads. When I was a teen our septic got backed up from tampons being flushed so since then ive always thrown them in the garbage. I keep a separate bag in the can next to the toilet that I put used ones in. That way they're not out in the open. After this baby comes I want to switch to using cups. I've heard good things about the diva cup and soft cups but haven't figured out which one yet.
@Twinkiedoll not wanting a shower and being forced into it is totally different and definitely a reason to complain.
@kerils your MIL is in a class by herself, I mean you can't even eat at your shower so again definitely a reason to complain.
My UO is more the people who are given (and want) a shower but complain about who is invited, where it will be, the activities, decor etc. A shower is a gift given to you and although it's about you it shouldn't be forgotten that a lot of work and expense goes into throwing one.
My UO is more the people who are given (and want) a shower but complain about who is invited, where it will be, the activities, decor etc. A shower is a gift given to you and although it's about you it shouldn't be forgotten that a lot of work and expense goes into throwing one.
So much this! While there are definitely some that have legimate complaints (i.e. Not even covering basic considerations for them or inviting people they have never met/are not comfortable with...as a weird introvert I am sensitive to this) I could not have said it better.
Someone clue me in, how can you bitch about someones bathroom trash in their own house. In a public restroom is different. You are going to someone's house and in their bathroom where they put their trash, and you're judging? I could understand if it was lying on the floor but it's literally in the trash can. That being said I don't use tampons anymore and I wrap my stuff but I have guests coming over I'm not dumping my trash for fear of them seeing my tampons/pads in MY trashcan I don't care if it's wrapped or not. It's my house, my trash. Get over it.
Love the diva cup. It's a little messy but not terrible. I only have to change it during the day the first few days, even though my periods are really heavy. I've done it in public and just wiped it out until I could get home. That part isn't ideal but it's not a deal breaker for me and infrequent. They just hold so much more and H appreciates not being sent out to the store on a last minute tampon run every month lol
Someone clue me in, how can you bitch about someones bathroom trash in their own house. In a public restroom is different. You are going to someone's house and in their bathroom where they put their trash, and you're judging? I could understand if it was lying on the floor but it's literally in the trash can. That being said I don't use tampons anymore and I wrap my stuff but I have guests coming over I'm not dumping my trash for fear of them seeing my tampons/pads in MY trashcan I don't care if it's wrapped or not. It's my house, my trash. Get over it.
Amen. You wanna look in my bathroom cabinet too and see my industrial size bottle of Colace labeled STOOL SOFTENER in inch-high letters? Your fault for looking.
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Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
While I personally would probably wrap it in TP or something, it's not really that rude, I don't know why it's such a big deal, half the population menstruate at some point in their lives. I think everyone should just move on to menstrual cups. they're so much better for the environment and plumbing.
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
DH is a weird q-tip user and cleans his ears every day if not multiple times a day. I don't... I don't think about it or feel it but when I do I chase him around the house with my gross ear waxy q-tip. He dry heaves. Life is good. Sometimes I leave it on his pillow.
My UO I really don't limit my kids screen time. We play a lot but they can play on the iPad or watch tv. I feel like everytime technology or whatnot takes a jump forward we demonize it just like novels were thought to cause hysteria and loose morals in women not that terribly long ago. I'd rather my kids grow up and know technology and how to use it responsibly and give them a heads up as the world is only going to become more dependent on it especially in school and work.
My toddler wants one on one attention most of the time and switches activities so frequently it's exhausting. I was in the no screen time until he's 2 camp but I am envious of the break screen time seems to provide other moms - he gets plenty of face time and is attached to my hip most of the time including while he sleeps. Well, every time we try to introduce a little Peppa Pig say when he wakes up at 5:30am on the weekend it turns him into a little monster so we keep it away. I'm not down with crazy tantrums over a device but I really could do with the break. Why does it make them nutso balls?
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
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@abmommy15
I am absolutely dreading the baby shower MIL is throwing me. I didn't want one in the first place. She whined until I relented. She has made the entire thing about her. She didn't even ask me if I wanted to invite anyone. She just invited the people she wanted, and I have no idea who she invited.
My family is far away, but I asked her to send them courtesy invites so they feel included. She said okay but that she hoped they don't come because she doesn't have room for them. And when people said they couldn't come, she still didn't ask me if there was someone I wanted to invite in their place. She said she hoped more people drop out so she can fit in DH's BIL and his son.
She knows that I don't like opening presents in front of a group of people. It's part of my upbringing that we didn't do that. The way I was raised is that you accept the gift and thank them for the gesture and then open it later when you get home. I don't know if it's a Chinese thing or the fact that I grew up poor, but the idea is that you express gratitude for the fact the gift-giver thought of you. But you don't want anyone to feel embarrassed that they did not give as much as someone else by opening the gifts in front of everyone. Anyway, she knows this about me and that opening presents in front of a group makes me really uncomfortable. I asked that we don't do the gift opening thing, but she insists that I open the presents at the shower because she wants me to thank her for her gifts in front of everyone.
So yeah, I would rather not have her throw me the shower. And I don't really feel like I'm wrong for complaining about it because MIL has steamrolled me at every turn.
Never used or seen a menstural cup, it sounds messy.
@cait32 ewwww!!!
It can cause plumbing problems at multiple points in the system. And fun fact, if you have flooding or plumbing issues in your house, and it can be attributed to your action (like flushed tampons) your homeowners insurance doesn't have to cover it--even if it wasn't the direct cause of the issue.
This is a huge issue with rental properties and something I dread about potential tenants...
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Yayyyy for having a very UO!
I never knew about not flushing tampons until last year maybe. I assumed those bathroom signs were talking about the applicators! That's a FFFC haha.
@Potterphile most people don't have to empty their cup during the day but my flow after having a kid is insane so I've had to empty it a few times in a public work bathroom and it's actually not that hard - you don't need to rinse it with each use and I just bring a few paper towels in with me that I'll throw away in the sanitary trash. Easy.
I actually got to a point where I couldn't stand using a tampon anymore and the silicone of the cup was so much easier.
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Have always used tampons... Do not like the feeling of pads. When I was a teen our septic got backed up from tampons being flushed so since then ive always thrown them in the garbage. I keep a separate bag in the can next to the toilet that I put used ones in. That way they're not out in the open. After this baby comes I want to switch to using cups. I've heard good things about the diva cup and soft cups but haven't figured out which one yet.
@kerils your MIL is in a class by herself, I mean you can't even eat at your shower so again definitely a reason to complain.
My UO is more the people who are given (and want) a shower but complain about who is invited, where it will be, the activities, decor etc. A shower is a gift given to you and although it's about you it shouldn't be forgotten that a lot of work and expense goes into throwing one.