Monday Bitchfest 3.27.17

stokesm21

stokesm21

My MBF is at my friend who is (or is going to) get a dog.  
1)  She lives in perpetual overdraft.  She cannot afford a dog.  I tried to explain vet visits and such.  She thinks she gets it but she doesn't.  What's she gonna do if something happens to the dog and she needs to go to an emergency vet that charges $150 just for you to be seen then comes out with a $1000 bill to fix your pet? Where's that money going to come from?  She also has no credit cards.  2)  She has a whole host of health problems that practically have her housebound.  Despite the Dr's telling her over and over again that she needs to get out and lose weight she refuses to walk down the street.  If you won't walk for your health what's to say you'll walk your dog?  3)  Her bf doesn't even help her take care of the house and the kids.  He's not going to help take care of a damn dog.  4)  She barely has a yard so being able to walk said dog is important.  Dogs also need to be played with.  5)  I personally believe that all dogs should go through a mandatory obedience training course.  Others may disagree but that's just me.  Still, #1-4 are reason enough for her to not get one.  I was so mad I just stopped talking to her that moment (text) because I knew if we continued to engage in that conversation I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut.  Ugh.    

I can't stand irresponsible pet owners.  I can't stand people who think they have a right or entitlement to an animal.  I can't stand people who think that love is enough when it comes to a pet.  No.  Just no.  

glitterfish-2

Over the weekend I found out DH hadnt requested the time off for our babymoon May 10-14, and someone else on his shift had taken it, so his solution was to just cancel it. I was understandably like hell no, try to work something out or I'm going without you!
Last night was his first night at work since, and I was like so did you figure it out? He said he put the request in the computer, so now we just wait. Fantastic. 
Then he was like "But I had my review last night!" 
"Oh good, do you get a raise?" "No." "Did you talk to them about switching your shift?" (He works overnights on weekends, the other shift has every Sunday off and every other Saturday) "No." "So what did you talk about?" "They want me to move 2 hrs north, so I said I would ask you." "Yeah, this is a great time to consider leaving my free babysitting mom! Umm, no."
SMDH.

stokesm21

@GlitterFish Oh man.  Men just do not like to use their brains sometimes! lol I feel ya. DH had a job offer some time ago that would move us 2hrs from home.  We were considering it, then came the BFP.  It's really not far, we lived in that city when I went to school and we enjoyed it there.  But everyone is here.  My sister, my parents, my grandparents, most of my Aunt's, my best friend, our friends in general.  To move somewhere where I would have zero help when I need it just doesn't seem fun.  We do okay where we are.  Some day, but not today.   

star_beagle

Yikes, @GlitterFish. My H would be living in the dog house for all of that.

My first MBF goes to Metro, who decided that it would be a great idea to have all the escalators and elevators off for service this morning. I had to hike my pregnant but up the equivalent of 3 flights of stairs. I was already in pain but now...

My second MBF goes to myself. I may or may not have lost a disagreement with a tree this morning when getting off at my stop.

clio

@GlitterFish Seriously, what is it about men sometimes that prevent them from seeing the long term consequences? I often feel like I have to spell things out for DH on issues that should just be common sense. If your DH doesn't get the time off for the babymoon you should still go and bring him a souvenir.

ginger1228

@stokesm21 - irresponsible pet owners drive me NUTS. We have two large dogs and one is a German Shepherd with so many random health problems. I use him as an example when people talk about getting a dog. We didn't expect that his maintence would cost us about $200/month but we do it bc he's our dog and he needs it. (It's his allergy pill, prescription food for his joints, and his flea/heartworm meds.) Plus he always gets ear infections or things like that. This past fall, he needed emergency surgery for bloat/stomach twisting that cost $3500. People don't think about emergencies coming up. I realize most dogs probably aren't as high maintenance as Baron, but it's just something to think about. 


My MBF - it's raining and work on our new fence and deck was supposed to start today. Also, the company was supposed to be here "a little before 9" and call when they're on their way. It's 9:15 and still no word from them. Yea. 

kghusker1003

My MBF is my dad.. I had to drop my Tahoe off at the shop to get serviced and he told me he would pick me up since DH had to be at work early.  He just texted me said he's running late because his breakfast is taking too long to get to the table.  So I'm sitting here at the shop looking stupid.. 

stokesm21

@ginger1228 I get it!  One of my cats cost me about $2000 some years ago.  We spent the money because it was basically a "cure."  I paid that bill with what was left in my bank account then what was left on the balances of at least 3 different credit cards.  Not my finest moment.  I learned my lesson on pet ownership right then and there.  Because of what happened I also switched them to being raw fed which was not cheap (I don't want to sound pushy but a raw diet would work wonders for the ailments that your dog has.  Check it out maybe ) Just to euthanize an animal is expensive!  I think we paid around $200/250 to put one of our cats down last year (heart disease, threw clots.  Nothing we could do at that point)  We want a dog too but it's just not the right time.  Baby on the way so we'll have no time.  Can't really afford the extra expense.  Even when we do get a dog, based on my experiences, it will have pet insurance lol! Our family retriever had all sorts of stupid stuff happen to him.  Porcupine needles and such and when he was pretty young (I think 2) the neighbour put out antifreeze to kill the raccoons (evil!) and of course, the dog licked it.  $3000 later and he was okay but we had to keep our eyes on his kidneys his entire life.  People just don't get it.  

oheliza44

My baby sister is getting married in September. I was in my hometown over Thanksgiving and made a point to get measured for my bridesmaid's dress while I was still my normal size. (The store said they normally order a size or two up from your pre-pregnancy size to account for postpartum body changes.) I called to order my dress this morning and they lost my measurements and want me to get remeasured! This dress has a band around the waist and I look like I've swallowed a bowling ball so there is NO way these measurements will be accurate. Also, I live nowhere close to my hometown so going back in to get remeasured is not an option. Ugh. So annoyed.

irishrose54

@stokesm21 I second the pet insurance!! We have it for both our dogs and it really saved us  $after an emergency overnight for our dog last year.

@GlitterFish what did you say to DH about the moving? I wouldve lost it on my DH if he tried that w me. I hope he gets your babymoon time off!! 

I dont have a MBF but just reading today. 

ginger1228

@stokesm21 - our next dog will more than likely have insurance! No company in their right mind would insure him now, haha. I've read a little about a raw diet. Maybe I'll talk to the vet about it. I wonder if it would affect his joints since his food is is supposed to help with joints?? I don't know. Animals are so much work!

stokesm21

ginger1228 said:

@stokesm21 - our next dog will more than likely have insurance! No company in their right mind would insure him now, haha. I've read a little about a raw diet. Maybe I'll talk to the vet about it. I wonder if it would affect his joints since his food is is supposed to help with joints?? I don't know. Animals are so much work!

Ha ... ha.  Uhhhhh unless the vet is pro-raw they will advise against it for a whole host of reasons that don't carry much weight.  It's hard.  I mean they're vets so like Dr's you expect them to know things but ... I just did my own research and I really have to push with mine but I've seen a HUGE difference in my cats.  Allergies are a big reason why a lot of people switch.  That's not to say they can't have them with raw food, a lot of dogs are seemingly allergic to chicken.  My IL's dog has joint issues and they give her glucosamine.  There's a lot of products out there you can buy yourself that will help with joints without having to get the special food.  Anyways, like I said, I don't like to sound pushy about it.  If you're interested, "Raw Feeding FRIENDS" group on FB is a great resource to learn and connect with other feeders.   I raw feed my cats whose nutritional needs are a bit different than dogs so while I do know a bit about raw feeding dogs, my knowledge tends to weigh more towards feline. 

nononorman

@stokesm21 - this is also one of my biggest pet peeves (couldn't find a way to avoid the pun), particularly when older people get puppies/kittens. Animals are expensive and they're a COMMITMENT. I have three dogs and they are the most important thing in my life (awaiting baby to see how that works/changes!). We pay about $2000 a year on top of the line food for them, nevermind the $15,000 fence we had installed for them, the fact that we bought this particular house for them to have space, daycare costs, in-home overnights when we're out of town... and then vet bills. My grandfather in law has several pets... I think 4 or 5 now? And he's been on the verge of death for like five years. STOP GETTING MORE PETS. He can't take care of himself never mind the animals. I reflect all the time on ways I could make my dogs lives better so it depresses me to think about all the people who don't or can't take care of their animals. But I've found that no matter how the animals are actually living, almost all people believe their animals are living well. So that dog you keep in the garage crate all day and is never allowed on your carpeted floor aka 80% of your home and eats crappy food? Living a great life according to that owner. 


on the moving topic... we live 3.5 hours from the closest support and to be honest, if my husband suggested we move to be near his parents, I would be on the fence. Help would be fine but there are pros and cons to any situation. I think you get used to what you have or expect to have so any change is disruptive and often disappointing... 

no MBF from me except people not understanding what a damn out of office email means...!

ginger1228

Thanks @stokesm21! I'll look into it. You're probably right about vets not pushing raw diets - especially when I'm buying the prescription food from his office! I absolutely LOVE our vet (he's raised GSDs and knows so much about them and I wouldn't trust anyone else with Baron) but I can see what you're saying about the raw diet. 

@Potterphile - you sound like us. Had to get a house with plenty of room. Currently in the process of replacing our fence for them. I love a good pet wonder.

Mrs.EmmaLouise

@oheliza44 - My sister lived out of town when I got married and was able to go to any old dress shop to be measured, and then I gave the measurements to the place I selected the dresses at. If they insist on new measurements, that might be an option. 

nktrodden826

My MBF goes out to my 20 year old brother in law who is the most immature and self centered 20 year old I've ever met. DH and I have a 3rd vehicle that is paid off and is never driven so we decided when we moved we need to sell it. 2005 Tahoe- great car but we never drive it unless we need to tow something which is very rare since my hubs stopped racing motorcycles when DS was born. So, we trusted my brother in law to drive it to his friends house, a potential buyer, on Sunday. Well turns out he broke our trust and was driving it since we parked it at his house Thursday. Added 350 miles to it in 4 days!!! And he wouldn't have told us but we found out that he was stuck almost an hour away from his house with a flat tire on Saturday evening around 11:30. Then when we tell him he needs to pay for a new tire or for it to be patched but refuses and says it's because the tire had dry rot- first of all those tires were replaced last year and with DHs mechanic experience he would have noticed when were taking a ton of photos of the tires getting ready to sell it! He's now refusing to pay to have it patched and now won't answer our phone calls. Oh and we have no idea where the truck even is. 

abmommy15

stokesm21 said:

ginger1228 said:

@stokesm21 - our next dog will more than likely have insurance! No company in their right mind would insure him now, haha. I've read a little about a raw diet. Maybe I'll talk to the vet about it. I wonder if it would affect his joints since his food is is supposed to help with joints?? I don't know. Animals are so much work!

Ha ... ha.  Uhhhhh unless the vet is pro-raw they will advise against it for a whole host of reasons that don't carry much weight.  It's hard.  I mean they're vets so like Dr's you expect them to know things but ... I just did my own research and I really have to push with mine but I've seen a HUGE difference in my cats.  

Actually the reasons that Vets recommend against it carry a lot of weight.  The average pet owner does not implement a raw diet properly and safely and open themselves and their pets up to a ton of risks.  People think "oh wild dogs eat raw meat all the time must be the best" and forget that the wild dog or cat and a pet live very different lifestyles and have had very different breeding methods.  Vets do know things and are rarely advising against things for their own benefit.  They spent many years in school to learn proper healthcare for pets.

PurplePoppy424

@stokesm21 So let me get this straight. You're judging your friend for wanting a dog because she in your mind "can't afford it," yet you had to max out credit cards and drained your bank account for a $2,000 vet bill? I'm a little confused on how you're that much better off...

Also, if your vet who went to college and got a degree from veterinary school tells you, someone who doesn't have a veterinary degree/license, not to do something, you're an irresponsible pet owner for not following their instructions. Just sayin. 

longhairdntcare

^what they said. She hasn't even purchased the dog yet so I am not sure why you are up in arms about it. If she does buy the dog, you have no idea if she will be irresponsible or not. Your friend is an adult and can make her own decisions. And I highly doubt you know the entire story with her finances. My honest opinion, mind your own business. 

AdaByron

stokesm21 said:

One of my cats cost me about $2000 some years ago.  We spent the money because it was basically a "cure."  I paid that bill with what was left in my bank account then what was left on the balances of at least 3 different credit cards.  Not my finest moment. 

This sounds like someone who is not in a position to cast judgement on anyone else's financial decisions.

stokesm21 said:

Ha ... ha.  Uhhhhh unless the vet is pro-raw they will advise against it for a whole host of reasons that don't carry much weight.  It's hard.  I mean they're vets so like Dr's you expect them to know things but ... I just did my own research and I really have to push with mine 

And this sounds like you're about 2 steps away from crazy anti-vaxxer territory


ETA: I see this has been covered. TB crashed as I was trying to post this. Maybe that was a sign from the universe to keep my mouth shut.

Itsnotyourturn

My MBF is I can't stand when people insert themselves into other people's lives and choices when it's really none of their business.

AdaByron

True story: One time when I was young and dumb, I almost adopted a cat. I would have been a terrible cat owner. First of all, I'm allergic to cats. Secondly, I just would have been a terrible caretaker with having to clean the litter box and everything. One of my good friends said to me "That's a terrible idea. Don't get a cat. I'm your friend and I love you, but here are all the reasons this is a bad idea for you..." and in the end I realized he was right and decided not to get the cat. That's what good friends do. I'm pretty sure he didn't turn around and talk shit about my finances behind my back because I had some crazy urge to get a cat once. 

hyperangel_8509

nktrodden826 sounds like my younger 3 inlaws (2 BILs and 1 SIL). They are the most immature twats I've ever encountered. No sense of responsibility and have my MIL and FIL cleaning up after their financial messes. Each one has moved out and moved back in at least once. They drive me nuts. 

julybaby17-2

My MBF is at myself. Yesterday, I slide and fell down a couple of stairs in my house and hurt my back. I'm fine, but my back is still hurting. I also think I strained a muscle at the gym. So I look pretty pathetic trying to get up. 

PurplePoppy424

hyperangel_8509 said:

nktrodden826 sounds like my younger 3 inlaws (2 BILs and 1 SIL). They are the most immature twats I've ever encountered. No sense of responsibility and have my MIL and FIL cleaning up after their financial messes. Each one has moved out and moved back in at least once. They drive me nuts. 

Omg. Here's another one. I really REALLY hate when people use that word. Like there's not a million other words in the English language that an be used. That one is right up there with C U Next Tuesday. It's gross. 

hyperangel_8509

PurplePoppy424 said:

hyperangel_8509 said:

nktrodden826 sounds like my younger 3 inlaws (2 BILs and 1 SIL). They are the most immature twats I've ever encountered. No sense of responsibility and have my MIL and FIL cleaning up after their financial messes. Each one has moved out and moved back in at least once. They drive me nuts. 

Omg. Here's another one. I really REALLY hate when people use that word. Like there's not a million other words in the English language that an be used. That one is right up there with C U Next Tuesday. It's gross. 

Sorry @PurplePoppy424, it's one of my fave words. I often add to it and use twatwaffle. Douche canoe is a fun one too. 

postywiththemosty

If we're going on with words, I can't stand when people write 'advise' when they mean 'advice' and I've seen this like 10 times in the last few days in all different places. 

oheliza44

hyperangel_8509 said:

PurplePoppy424 said:

hyperangel_8509 said:

nktrodden826 sounds like my younger 3 inlaws (2 BILs and 1 SIL). They are the most immature twats I've ever encountered. No sense of responsibility and have my MIL and FIL cleaning up after their financial messes. Each one has moved out and moved back in at least once. They drive me nuts. 

Omg. Here's another one. I really REALLY hate when people use that word. Like there's not a million other words in the English language that an be used. That one is right up there with C U Next Tuesday. It's gross. 

Sorry @PurplePoppy424, it's one of my fave words. I often add to it and use twatwaffle. Douche canoe is a fun one too. 

If these words are part of your daily discourse, then that is all I really need to know about you. Cringe.

hyperangel_8509

oheliza44 said:

hyperangel_8509 said:

PurplePoppy424 said:

hyperangel_8509 said:

nktrodden826 sounds like my younger 3 inlaws (2 BILs and 1 SIL). They are the most immature twats I've ever encountered. No sense of responsibility and have my MIL and FIL cleaning up after their financial messes. Each one has moved out and moved back in at least once. They drive me nuts. 

Omg. Here's another one. I really REALLY hate when people use that word. Like there's not a million other words in the English language that an be used. That one is right up there with C U Next Tuesday. It's gross. 

Sorry @PurplePoppy424, it's one of my fave words. I often add to it and use twatwaffle. Douche canoe is a fun one too. 

If these words are part of your daily discourse, then that is all I really need to know about you. Cringe.

OMG, I'm not allowed to have fun? Geez. Life's too short to be uptight. 

ginger1228

maybeitsmadeline said:

If we're going on with words, I can't stand when people write 'advise' when they mean 'advice' and I've seen this like 10 times in the last few days in all different places. 

To jump on this train - people use nauseous and nauseated interchangeably. They don't mean the same thing. I haven't said anything just bc I know most people don't know the difference (and it's really not that big of a deal - we all know what the person really means. It just bothers me bc of an English professor I had.) To say "I'm nauseous" means you cause nausea. You want say "I'm nauseated" to mean you feel sick. 

clio

ginger1228 said:

To jump on this train - people use nauseous and nauseated interchangeably. They don't mean the same thing. I haven't said anything just bc I know most people don't know the difference (and it's really not that big of a deal - we all know what the person really means. It just bothers me bc of an English professor I had.) To say "I'm nauseous" means you cause nausea. You want say "I'm nauseated" to mean you feel sick. 

Indeed. I learned this valuable lesson from Never Been Kissed, lol.

AdaByron

maybeitsmadeline said:

If we're going on with words, I can't stand when people write 'advise' when they mean 'advice' and I've seen this like 10 times in the last few days in all different places. 

LOL if we're going there, let's also add wary/weary to the list, and wonder/wander. 

LM1007

@hyperangel_8509 Even though I don't really like the word twat, I have to admit I definitely use CUNextTuesday pretty often, the actual word not the backronym lol. 

hyperangel_8509

maybeitsmadeline said:

If we're going on with words, I can't stand when people write 'advise' when they mean 'advice' and I've seen this like 10 times in the last few days in all different places. 

There are ladies on my local FB mom group that always use "aloud" instead of "allowed", among other frequent spelling errors. 

longhairdntcare

hyperangel_8509 said:

oheliza44 said:

hyperangel_8509 said:

PurplePoppy424 said:

hyperangel_8509 said:

nktrodden826 sounds like my younger 3 inlaws (2 BILs and 1 SIL). They are the most immature twats I've ever encountered. No sense of responsibility and have my MIL and FIL cleaning up after their financial messes. Each one has moved out and moved back in at least once. They drive me nuts. 

Omg. Here's another one. I really REALLY hate when people use that word. Like there's not a million other words in the English language that an be used. That one is right up there with C U Next Tuesday. It's gross. 

Sorry @PurplePoppy424, it's one of my fave words. I often add to it and use twatwaffle. Douche canoe is a fun one too. 

If these words are part of your daily discourse, then that is all I really need to know about you. Cringe.

OMG, I'm not allowed to have fun? Geez. Life's too short to be uptight. 

Never have I ever thought that using a vulgar/gross word (or any word really) was "fun". Not saying they don't sometimes come out, usually while driving. But I don't think that has anything to do with "having fun". That makes me think of a middle schooler who is just trying to look cool in front of friends by cussing. Just my opinion. 

Dovahkiin_99

A vet I've spoken to before strongly advised against a raw diet. I was told that yes, it's what dogs eat in the wild, but they also don't live as long in the wild. I give my pup the best dry food I can afford and treat her with peanut butter and carrots (in moderation), and she's as healthy as can be *knock on wood*. Definitely listen to your vets regarding what's best for your dog rather than the internet. 

mslynn2012

My MBF is to this whole effing morning. 

On on the way to my kids swim class my daughter vomited all over herself and her car seat. She isn't sick/was acting perfectly fine afterwards, so I took her and my son to class. Of course I had NO extra top for her (only bottoms as we are still potty training) so she got to walk in without a shirt. After class I kept her in her swimsuit and towel and just stuck her in her seat. And my car REAKS!!! We had to drive home with all the windows down. 

Kids freaked out because we didn't do our normal routine (shower at swim, get changed then head to Starbucks), so the car ride was a windy, scream crying mess. 

Get home and the new neighbors next door are having new floors put in before they move in. We are in a townhouse, so we share 1 wall. All I hear is the banging of nails and hammers - naptime should be real fun. 

Park kids in front of Mickey Mouse so I can get lunch started and my son yells at me because my daughter has peed all over her anywhere chair. 

Great. Now I get to scrub down a vomit covered car seat and a pee covered anywhere chair. Awesome. 

I'm done. Legit done. 

BusyZee

lolllll. This thread is funny today. Cats and twats and such. 

@ginger1228 I never knew that, I always thought saying I am nauseated was a really Victorian way of saying I'm nauseous. 

@maybeitsmadeline I'm super bad with my typing skills, I was probably the one advising with advice. 

My MbF is that I asked my hubby to get me 2lbs of fish so I could cook for two nights and not one ... but i just checked he got 1lb of uneven filets and I want to throw them at him as sooon as he enters that door... i am unreasonably moody today. 

Twinkiedoll

@mslynn2012 Ugh that sounds so stressful.  I'm sorry.  Hopefully the contractors wrap up early, and you get some peace and quiet to rest and shower.

I mentioned to DH about how important it will be to establish a set schedule for our future kid because kids often don't like it when you deviate from routine.  And he was like, "what?!  Kids love not having a set schedule.  It means it could potentially be party time any time!

greenbean-2

ginger1228 said:

maybeitsmadeline said:

If we're going on with words, I can't stand when people write 'advise' when they mean 'advice' and I've seen this like 10 times in the last few days in all different places. 

To jump on this train - people use nauseous and nauseated interchangeably. They don't mean the same thing. I haven't said anything just bc I know most people don't know the difference (and it's really not that big of a deal - we all know what the person really means. It just bothers me bc of an English professor I had.) To say "I'm nauseous" means you cause nausea. You want say "I'm nauseated" to mean you feel sick. 

Guilty, and I know the difference. *hangs head in shame*