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Unpopular Opinions 2/23
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Let's get this started! Anybody have opinions that aren't about food combinations this week? :-)
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Also that FTMs register for way too much crap that most babies don't actually need.
I also think you are right about ask the baby stuff. I don't think you can really know what will be your most crucial baby items until the baby has been around a little while, so i think it is better to wait to buy a lot of that stuff. DD's most used items were a yoga ball and a thing to make her bed vibrate. Totally random stuff not on registry lists, and we did not have our need most of the junk that is on those lists.
Pretty tame, but also genuinely unpopular, I think: I like the stage of pregnancy where people think I am just chubby. I don't care if people think I am gaining weight, and I don't like being asked about my pregnancy all the time.
I have a rule before Christmas and their birthdays, they have to get rid of their old toys and give them to kids who don't have any. We make a cleaning day of it.
I don't think having too many toys is the problem, I think how parents let their kids act, treat their toys,
etc is the problem.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
I cannot for the life of me understand why I want to gather up ALL MY SHIT and take it to a camp site and then set it all up, and then take it all back down a few days later. Then cook shitty food, shower in a disgusting community shower, take my kids to the bathroom multiple times a day in a gross (always oddly wet everywhere) community bathroom, sweat all day long, and try to avoid bugs on me every second until it's over. Why are there people who love this?? With that said, kids love that shit so I will surely allow myself to be subjected to it in the coming years.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
@jaginmi PREACH yes! My husband and his family have always done family camping adventures. I refuse to go. I don't like the outdoors that much that I want to sleep on the ground for a few nights or even on a cot. Much less everything else you mentioned. I did all that shit when I was in Afghanistan. Crummy showers, sleeping on cots, dirt and bugs everywhere. NOPE NOPE NOPE.
My UO is that I don't believe this new generation has anything owed to them or that they are entitled to anything. I think this concept of everyone should get a free college education is ridiculous. Do I believe college tuition is a bit overpriced yes... but everyone should go for free no! I personally believe if it's something you want you will make the grades to earn yourself scholarships and grants or work to get through school. I joined the military. While I realize that isn't for everyone, I got my education for free and now I have my GI Bill to pass on to my child so she will have a large portion of her education paid for already if she chooses to pursue college or a trade school.
I don't understand spending money on a luxury car. People always make comments to DH and I about how much we travel and how they can't afford it almost insinuating that we must have so much money or something, meanwhile they are driving around in a 50 or 60k car. If our car payments were that much, we wouldn't be traveling either. You can get a perfectly nice car for half of that price and to have 2 of them to me seems like such a waste. I know people can spend how they want, but we are big on spending our money on experiences and it drives me crazy how much judgement we get for it from coworkers and friends who clearly choose to spend their money differently than we do.
My favorite things about camping:
1. I love to disconnect and just be OUTSIDE for several days.
2. Sleeping outside is really fun, I like to hear nature.
3. Day drinking is not judged.
4. The kids LOVE it... hiking, picking up rocks, sticks, etc.
5. You only have each other to talk to, so there is a lot of bonding. Games, cards, etc.
6. No expectations - no make up, no hair dryer, and comfy clothes.
I agree with packing and unpacking... that is my least favorite. We now have come up with a really good system that makes it easier. We have bins that all of our camping stuff is in, and stays. When we get home, it is all washed and goes back in the bins. DH also knows since we've had kids (it was different when it was just him and I) that I won't go camping unless it is a minimum of 3 nights. It isn't worth it to me to pack ALL of that stuff unless we are going to be there awhile.
I guess I just don't understand letting it get that way or stay that way, regardless of too many gifts? DS doesn't even have that many toys, and I still regularly go through his toys and clean them out or put them away for LO. We have only a few out at a time and rotate them.
My UO is an offshoot of the camping one: staying in a camper isn't camping. Camping is staying in tents, not sleeping indoors.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
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MMC & D&C Aug 2016
I take my kids to the circus, and they love it. I don't believe it is abuse to train an animal to perform.
Ok... I am going to hide now. Flame away, I can take it!!!
I don't get this either. I cannot bring myself to spend more than $30k on a car. Can't. And I make plenty of money to be able to do so, but it is JUST A CAR WHO CARES. I pay cash for my cars, and I'd rather use my money to take my family on vacation, or on improvements to our house, or on retirement/college savings. My sister is unemployed and just leased herself a new Lexus and makes fun of my used VW all the time and I do not understand this. Granted, some people are just really into cars, and would rather collect fancy cars than go on vacations or have a big house or whatever, which is totally fine, but that's a relatively small percentage of people I think.
DH read an article the other night that said the most popular car for people making over $500k was a Ford F150. I think over $250k was a Lexus of some kind, and then over $150k was also the F150. They had top 5 lists by monetary level and Mercedes and BMW and Porsche, etc weren't on ANY of them. I think the people who buy expensive cars do so because even a luxury car isn't THAT expensive in the grand scheme of things, especially if you lease it, and they want to give off the appearance that they have money (flame away). A lot of people who actually have money know that expensive cars aren't usually a great investment and don't buy them. I mean they're rich for a reason, and part of that reason is generally that they know how to manage their money.
That was kind of already a UO, but my official UO is that I HATE HGTV. HATE IT. I liked it a lot before I renovated my own house, but that shit is so so unrealistic it's insane. I hate that people watch it and think they can have the bathroom of their dreams for like $5k when that it not at all the case. I also hate that all of the House Hunters shows are staged (confirmed by friends of friends that were on it: they already picked out the house they were buying and then the realtor just brought them to a few other random ones for the purposes of the show - some of them weren't even actually on the market). This is not real life, and a lot of people think it is.
IMO, anyone who wants see abortion made illegal because he/she is Christian and the procedure "conflicts with his/her religious views" is a hypocrite. I am a devout Catholic and I am pro-life BECAUSE I am pro-choice. As a Catholic, my belief system teaches me that God gave us free will. I am genuinely perplexed when I encounter a fellow Christian who feels that despite God giving us free will, he/she thinks it is within his/her right to take that free will away from someone else. I stand by every woman and her right to choose. No judgement here. Ironically, one not being pro-choice due to religious reasons is the true blocker to religious freedom.
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
@EmeraldNC A new Toyota sounds perfect to me!! What model did you get? I have a Rav4 and love it.
For what is going on right now, I am all for transsexuals using whatever bathroom they want. I do not feel however it should be in the schools. My reasons: 1. Transgender (unless they have already had the surgeries and are transsexuals) is state of mind, bathroom is based on the actual organs you are born with. So if you are male, but feminine, you still have the sex organs to use the facilities with others with the same sex organs.
Ive mentioned my son often refers to himself more as a girl, then a boy. He loves to wear dresses and when he plays character, it's always almost the girl character. Now, I have no idea what he will identify with when he is older, but if this continues I will explain to him that just because he has male parts, it doesn't mean he can not be feminine and using the bathroom with the associated body parts doesn't change this in any way. I will tell him, that when he is older, he can choose to change whatever body parts he chooses.
As young kids, I feel it's better that we teach the correct terms, gender vs sex, and that bathroom is associated with sex only. I think if we start saying if you feel like a girl, go use the girls bathroom. This is going to get cray cray and kids have enough cray cray.
Although, really either way is going to get very confusing.
@Wearmi1, preach girl, re: college. Though I would never encourage my children to join the military just for education benefits (they get them anyway through DH). I will encourage good grades and effort to gain scholarships.
@Elyse1384 This was well said. I think the biggest piece lost in the pro-choice vs. pro-life argument is that pro-choice also includes women who choose to keep their babies
My UO: I don't think elementary aged kids (or younger) should have their own cell phones/iPads/etc. It seems wholly unnecessary for kids that age to have such an expensive piece of technology.
I also agree with you on bathrooms. This is a heated topic but I think at younger ages, under 18, everything should go by sex rather than gender including sports and bathrooms. I think it is the only way to keep things as simple as possible.
I can't stand when a parent says "if you do
this again I'll [insert consequence/punishment]," and doesn't actually follow through even if the kid repeats the undesired action.
Don't say it. Don't give a consequence and then not follow through, what's the point? Or actually say something you're willing to follow through with.
Makes me crazy.
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz