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It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
Me: 34 DH 32.5 Married 7/16
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 7/21/17 MC 1/8/16 at 8 weeks
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/20/17
Re: Monday Mental Health Check-In Week of 2/13/17
We got an email about free counseling over the phone via work a few weeks ago. It's anonymous and free (paid for by work) and I may do it. I just can't seem to get to the point where I want to do anything and I think that's a sign of depression. I feel bad for DH that all I want to do is lay around and waste time. I try to use short bursts of energy to get stuff done, but mostly I'm a lump on the couch lately. Ideally...
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/20/17
Fx TB doesn't eat this post...
@jess0211 boys are stupid. I'm sure everything will be just fine, but I know how anxious anything medical can make people. We will be thinking about you both tomorrow!
I'm hanging in there. Looking for ways to reduce my stress. Besides yoga and acupuncture, what else do you think I could try?
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
@jess0211 I'm so sorry for the increased anxiety. I would be the same way if I was in your shoes. It will be tough as your caring for YH, but try to take a little time for yourself each day -- take a walk, go for a drive, paint your nails -- anything! Hang in there, buddy
@BertieMeetsGertie have you tried meditation at all? There's an app called Headspace that's supposed to be great. I am going to give it a try because I'm horrible at meditation! My mind always starts to wander 3 seconds into it.
I'm doing much better than I was last week. I definitely think that getting back into my running routine has helped. I'm also really excited to start acupuncture next Monday.
On Friday, my brother and I are attending a transplant education seminar put on by my Dad's team of doctors. I'm a little anxious about it. However, knowing my personality, I think that learning more about the process and what to expect will ultimately make me feel better.
Here's a bunny eating a banana just because
Married: October 2009
TTC#1: August 2016
DD Born 10/20/17
@jess0211 @julesdp Hugs friends. Family going through medical stuff is so scary and always makes me feel out of control. We're hoping for good news.
Sort of similar to @BertieMeetsGertie -- I would be interested in other tips for relaxing. Also, I think I need to talk to a therapist about this genetic mutation news and all the feelings I have about TTC now. Any advice on how to find or select one? Thanks.
TTC #1 June 2016
IF Dx: Premature ovarian insufficiency and luteal phase defect associated with genetic condition
BFP 2/23/17. Said goodbye to our baby girl at 14 weeks.
IVF+PGD September 2017 -- 9R, 9M, 7F, 5B; 2 healthy embryos, 1 questionable
FET November 2017 - failed
FET December 2017 - success! EDD 9/16/18
@JulesDP what kind of transplant is your dad having. I'm a big believer that knowledge is power. It sounds like this seminar will really help you understand the process!
I'm doing ok, just getting frustrated with all of the side effects of my FET meds. I just don't feel like myself at all. Im done with the lupron (hopefully) Friday, so hoping that will help.
Married: October 2009
TTC#1: August 2016
DD Born 10/20/17
@JulesDP I must have missed what was going on with your Dad! I am sorry to hear about that, dealing with family health issues is so stressful. I agree with the other ladies, I think learning about the process may help reduce anxiety in the long run. I used to work with a woman who did education sessions for families who had loved ones undergoing a type of brain surgery and I know the family members found it empowering. Hugs!
@adirat I would start by checking with your insurance. I know my insurance company has a directory and I can look up a provider by specialty (ie TTC, genetic counsel etc).
http://umm.edu/health/medical/altmed/treatment/relaxation-techniques
@jess0211 My dad has a rare lung disease for which there is no cure. He was told in December that without a lung transplant he would only have ~6 months to live. It's scary stuff for sure.
Married: October 2009
TTC#1: August 2016
DD Born 10/20/17
@BertieMeetsGertie I think adult coloring books are a good stress-reducer. I like the Johanna Basford ones because they're very detailed - it doesn't take all that much energy or creativity, but requires just enough focus that I can't really think about other things at the same time.
@adirat I second the suggestion to ask your OB/RE for a therapist recommendation. If they don't have one (or don't have one in-network for you), you can try this site: https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/ You can filter it by your insurance network and then read the background info for possible therapists to see if someone seems like a good "fit". Just remember that if you meet with someone and you don't feel like they're a good fit for you, you can absolutely shop around and try other counselors - it's like any other relationship and there's no one-size-fits-all approach, so the key is finding someone who works well for you.
@JulesDP I hope the seminar will help y'all feel a little more in control during this (understandably scary) process.
TW kids/pregnancy/breastfeeding mentioned.
I was was diagnosed Bipolar II after DS1 but had been struggling since my teens. I was hospitalized and medicated for a short while before becoming pregnant with DS2 and have been on Zoloft since 1/2015. It helps but because it's not ideal for Bipolar disorder it's like a bandaid on a bullet wound. But because I'm still nursing my youngest I can't take my regular meds. This struggle makes life tough daily and I worry that it could hinder our chances. Since I was on Metformin (for a metabolic disorder) when I conceived both times previously and have since been taken off of it I'm worried what that could mean for TTC. Lots of little fears that add up to stress that I know won't help. And since I've been benched in a sense I won't know the answers to any of these things for a couple months. I'm hoping that hanging around here and learning more from you ladies will help me and give me a place to vent if needed.
Dating: 5.26.07; Engaged: 6.2.11; Married - Legal: 2.24.12 Church: 5.26.13
DS1: 9.6.12
DS2: 12.22.14
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
Regs on here know that I've been having a hard time the past couple of weeks. I finally saw my therapist today and she suggested I take a break from some of my obsessive TTC tendencies. So I'm going to be taking a bump break until I'm feeling better. I will probably lurk for a bit because cold turkey is hard, but if anyone asks, that's why I've disappeared.
Thanks to everyone for your support during my rough patch. I hope to be back soon, but the stress is just too much for me right now. Lots of love and hugs your way.
TTC #1 November 2016
50mg Clomid June 2017
BFP June, 21 2017 | EDD March 4, 2018
(insert gif of the VPR crew crying here)
TTC #1 June 2016
IF Dx: Premature ovarian insufficiency and luteal phase defect associated with genetic condition
BFP 2/23/17. Said goodbye to our baby girl at 14 weeks.
IVF+PGD September 2017 -- 9R, 9M, 7F, 5B; 2 healthy embryos, 1 questionable
FET November 2017 - failed
FET December 2017 - success! EDD 9/16/18
TTC #1 June 2016
IF Dx: Premature ovarian insufficiency and luteal phase defect associated with genetic condition
BFP 2/23/17. Said goodbye to our baby girl at 14 weeks.
IVF+PGD September 2017 -- 9R, 9M, 7F, 5B; 2 healthy embryos, 1 questionable
FET November 2017 - failed
FET December 2017 - success! EDD 9/16/18
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/20/17
"Words can only do so much. Hugs can do much more than words, but when hugs can’t do anything, that’s where faith kicks in."
"I encourage you to accept that you may not be able to see a path right now, but that doesn’t mean it’s not there.”
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/20/17
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/20/17
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018