FFFC 2/10/17

alysapuggles

@NYTino24 I cannot imagine blatantly asking for gifts for my child. Who does that!?

@dragonfly87 I am so with you on those FB things, although I will admit that DH and I do text back and forth while in the same house if he is on another floor and I don't feel like getting up and/or yelling.

My FFFC is we went to see a dog at the shelter yesterday and took home an application. We really liked her but wanted to discuss before making a final decision. Well someone else apparently came to look at her and adoption is pending. We were still able to put in an app in case they dont go through with it or aren't approved, and I'm secretly hoping they decide not to proceed or don't get approved so we get a chance. I'm awful. (I do want the dog to have a good home, so if they are a good home I'm happy for that. I just really liked her.)

alysapuggles

@eggplantface I've got some you can borrow! LOL It gets exhausting.

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ag90 said:

@antoto I stayed around where I went to college since it's in a major city and so did most of my college friends. We see each other all the time and always do presents for birthdays, I just feel shafted sometimes when I've taken notes on something someone mentioned they wanted or stalked their Pinterest wish list board, and then I get something random in return that I did not want. Love gossip girl! Don't need a GG throw pillow!

Yeah I stayed in the same area as well - my best friends are still my roommates from freshman year.  For birthdays we usually just meet up for dinner.  Maybe this year you could just say no gifts needed at all and avoid getting any gifts you don't want!


My FFFC:  I just bought like $80 of crystals off Etsy in hopes that they will make my IVF successful.  Magic is REAL you guiseee.

eggplantface

@alysapuggles Oh I hope you end up getting her! Food for thought: H and I were pre-approved to adopt from a rescue, and I asked about a dog I liked, but he was already pending. So I asked about a second, and she also was already pending. Asked about a third, and he was available! We started the process, then I got an email saying the first dog is now available, the adoption fell through. But because we had committed to the third dog I said no, we'll keep the third (he had had trouble finding an adopter because he's missing a leg), and he is just the most wonderful, perfect dog I could ever hope for. So, things can work out even if you don't get what you think you want. You probably already know all this, but I like the story

alysapuggles

@eggplantface Aww, that is a great story! I'm sure you ended up with the dog who needed you most   As much as I like this dog, it does make me feel good to know she won't have a problem finding a home, and we will also find a wonderful dog for our family.

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eggplantface said:

@alysapuggles Oh I hope you end up getting her! Food for thought: H and I were pre-approved to adopt from a rescue, and I asked about a dog I liked, but he was already pending. So I asked about a second, and she also was already pending. Asked about a third, and he was available! We started the process, then I got an email saying the first dog is now available, the adoption fell through. But because we had committed to the third dog I said no, we'll keep the third (he had had trouble finding an adopter because he's missing a leg), and he is just the most wonderful, perfect dog I could ever hope for. So, things can work out even if you don't get what you think you want. You probably already know all this, but I like the story

My heart just grew 3 sizes reading this.

aggo

@mschanandlerbong1214 Tomi Lahren is the WORST

JulesDP

FFFC: I'm considering dipping out of work early because my husband is at home and I just noticed an abundance of EWCM.

jess0211

@julesdp omg that gif is amazing! Go get some CD buddy!

heatherdubrow

My FFFC is I think it's super tacky to stipulate what kind of gift someone should get you. It's a gift. Just say thank you.

lulu1180

My FFFC I get really annoyed when someone answers WAYDTGKU with "charting."  Like wtf are you charting??  There's way too many variables that can be charted and depending on what those variables are, your chart may not be entirely accurate!

Everycol0r

lulu1180 said:

My FFFC I get really annoyed when someone answers WAYDTGKU with "charting."  Like wtf are you charting??  There's way too many variables that can be charted and depending on what those variables are, your chart may not be entirely accurate!

I'm confused.. how are there variables? If you're charting your taking your temp in the morning... that's it? I mean you could also monitor your symptoms but that in itself isn't charting. 

Everycol0r

heatherdubrow said:

My FFFC is I think it's super tacky to stipulate what kind of gift someone should get you. It's a gift. Just say thank you.

Sorry I got distracted with blasted RL work earlier but I had to agree. I get terrible gifts and ugly gifts, and inwardly I think REALLY? But really the bottom line is someone spent their money on me and I'm gonna appreciate the gesture. Because believe me when I say my ass doesn't come to work to buy presents for friends, I do it out of kindness. 

jenotontx

@heatherdubrow I understand why you and others would think it's tacky but in my defense I really was living in a 750sft appartment at the time with ZERO space for anything. Even if I loved the frame they got me I don't have a single place to put it. It's not meant to be hung on a wall it's a standing frame (and it's big) so it actually takes up quite a bit of table space. Either way I did say thank you when I got it. I just think when it comes to home decor, it's a risky gift unless that person has specifically asked for it but maybe that's just my UP! 

aggo

I think I need to reiterate, I do always say thank you and am appreciative because I don't believe in making people feel bad, everything I just spat out is only in my head. I think hating a gift someone gives you is ok and natural because we're human, and sometimes it can be upsetting to put a lot of thought into a gift for a friend only to see they didn't put in the same thought for you. I think being rude and vocal about it is NOT ok. It's easy to judge a situation or someone's life when you're not in it (though in my PMS rage I didn't give you the best snapshot of mine).

That being said I feel like I upset some people and that was not my intent. I think I did FFFC wrong and I truly apologize. 

As a sidenote, I do love hearing other people's bad gift stories because some of them are just amazing. For example, a 4 ft by 4 ft painting of Clifford. Yes, as in the big red dog. It's in the back of my closet   

Was this my first flame? Because it was terrifying! Sorry for offending!

Redpuma119

FFFC: TMI I have had the worst gas the past few days. I woke myself up last night

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ag90 said:

I think I need to reiterate, I do always say thank you and am appreciative because I don't believe in making people feel bad, everything I just spat out is only in my head. I think hating a gift someone gives you is ok and natural because we're human, and sometimes it can be upsetting to put a lot of thought into a gift for a friend only to see they didn't put in the same thought for you. I think being rude and vocal about it is NOT ok. It's easy to judge a situation or someone's life when you're not in it (though in my PMS rage I didn't give you the best snapshot of mine).

That being said I feel like I upset some people and that was not my intent. I think I did FFFC wrong and I truly apologize. 

As a sidenote, I do love hearing other people's bad gift stories because some of them are just amazing. For example, a 4 ft by 4 ft painting of Clifford. Yes, as in the big red dog. It's in the back of my closet   

Was this my first flame? Because it was terrifying! Sorry for offending!

No one's offended - just pointing out that your FFFC was pretty shocking.  I think part of it is your insistence that because you got them X then they OWE you Y.  Which ends up making your gift to them seem less about you being thoughtful and more about you wanting something in return.  It doesn't matter what you bought them.  Also, you have no idea if they tried to be thoughtful with their gift.  Just because you ended up not liking it doesn't mean they didn't try hard.  That pillow you mentioned sounds hilarious.  They probably just wanted to make you laugh.  Like they took time out of their day, they spent money that could have gone elsewhere - who cares what the actual gift is?

Like I said in an earlier post.  If you actually have this high of expectations for gifts then maybe just don't ask for gifts at all.  Problem solved.  

Redpuma119

So the bump ate half my post.. farting is not my fffc. My fffc is that I woke DH up and said, "Seriously babe? Gross." And he apologized.

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Redpuma119 said:

So the bump ate half my post.. farting is not my fffc. My fffc is that I woke DH up and said, "Seriously babe? Gross." And he apologized.

AHAHAHAHAHA I this

jenotontx

Everycol0r said: I get terrible gifts and ugly gifts, and inwardly I think REALLY? 

I thought FFFC is where you are supposed to share all your horrible inwardly judgy thoughts!? Oops... I guess I should take the disclaimer "*not actually guaranteed to be flame-free*" more seriously next time.  

Edited because the abbreviation is not FCCC

aggo

Hmm I'm not explaining myself right. I understand how what I said could be taken the wrong way, because I said it the wrong way. I did think I said in an earlier post, I don't ask for or expect anything, and I don't feel I am OWED anything. I don't think a roll of tin foil I'd actually use over a painting I don't want or have space for is a high expectation. My overall point was I don't like gifts that aren't useful in some way. That is all. 

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JJMNO1616 said:

Everycol0r said: I get terrible gifts and ugly gifts, and inwardly I think REALLY? 

I thought FCCC is where you are supposed to share all your horrible inwardly judgy thoughts!? Oops... I guess I should take the disclaimer "*not actually guaranteed to be flame-free*" more seriously next time.  

That is the point.  But if you have really crappy thoughts then we will flame you lol.  We once had someone (for all I know she's still here.  I don't even care) say that trans people shouldn't be allowed in the bathroom of their preference.  That person got a BRUTAL flaming.  

heatherdubrow

@ag90 FFFC is where you're supposed to share something shocking. People comment and give their opinion and sometimes flame(because let's face it it's fun). You didn't offend me, but I responded to your confession with my own. 

mschanandlerbong1214

antoto said:

JJMNO1616 said:

Everycol0r said: I get terrible gifts and ugly gifts, and inwardly I think REALLY? 

I thought FCCC is where you are supposed to share all your horrible inwardly judgy thoughts!? Oops... I guess I should take the disclaimer "*not actually guaranteed to be flame-free*" more seriously next time.  

That is the point.  But if you have really crappy thoughts then we will flame you lol.  We once had someone (for all I know she's still here.  I don't even care) say that trans people shouldn't be allowed in the bathroom of their preference.  That person got a BRUTAL flaming.  

As they should have. 

aggo

I think there is a difference between a dumb and kind of selfish thought about gifts and a terrible one like that. I know you weren't actually comparing the two but it sort of seemed like it and that's not the "really crappy" category I want be lumped in with nor do I think I deserve to

heatherdubrow

@ag90 yea I think she was just giving an example of someone who gets a really bad flaming...
Your confession was a little selfish and entitled so we said so. This is the point of fffc...

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ag90 said:

I think there is a difference between a dumb and kind of selfish thought about gifts and a terrible one like that. I know you weren't actually comparing the two but it sort of seemed like it and that's not the "really crappy" category I want be lumped in with nor do I think I deserve to

Good lord I wasn't comparing the two.  I was only pointing out that we do flame people.

ETA - and since you say that you know that I wasn't comparing the two then why even say that?

mschanandlerbong1214

On my previous BMB there was a chick who said Sandy Hook was a conspiracy

mschanandlerbong1214

mschanandlerbong1214 said:

On my previous BMB there was a chick who said Sandy Hook was a conspiracy

And now half my post is missing smh. Anyway! Other boards got involved and she deactivated. 

jenotontx

@antoto That's ok, I accept the flamming. I own my inwardly biotchy thoughts. Especially if that means I get to flame people in the future who say something god awful (imo) like the person you just discribed.  

heatherdubrow

mschanandlerbong1214 said:

On my previous BMB there was a chick who said Sandy Hook was a conspiracy

Holy moly. That is awful.

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@JJMNO1616 LOL that gif

And ohhhh my god @mschanandlerbong1214 my brain would have exploded.

heatherdubrow

@JJMNO1616 ILY for putting on your big girl pants today! Feel free to flame me anytime

mschanandlerbong1214

antoto said:

@JJMNO1616 LOL that gif

And ohhhh my god @mschanandlerbong1214 my brain would have exploded.

That's how most of us felt. It was an absolutely insane day. 

LoveInDC

On the subject of bad gifts, my great-aunt got me a doozy for our wedding. Our names are similar and she thinks I was named after her (I was not). Moreover, she's from Germany and is used to everyone in her family having two names (their given name and their Americanized one). Well, for the wedding she gave me/us an old porcelain doll whose name is her name/my nonexistent "German name". Pic in spoiler.

Well, I found out that great-aunt is poor as dirt and this doll is a personal treasure of hers. So on one hand, I feel awful for hating it. But on the other...

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Lollll @LoveInDC that's definitely one of those gifts that you smile and thank the person for and appreciate their effort... and then lock away in the attic so it can't kill you at night.  

jess0211

@loveindc omg I am going to have nightmares with that doll in them tonight! Also on the topic of bad gifts...apparently, once when I was a kid I said I loved the movie Wizard of Oz, so now every damn year I get Wizard of Oz crap. And for the record, I don't love the movie but now I have snowglobes, monopoly wizard of oz, throw blankets with dorothy on them, pillow embroidered with the characters etc. And yes, I have mentioned I don't actually love the movie...but they think it's "cute" now.

LoveInDC

antoto said:

Lollll @LoveInDC that's definitely one of those gifts that you smile and thank the person for and appreciate their effort... and then lock away in the attic so it can't kill you at night.  

But I don't want to anger it!!! If scary movies have thought me anything, it's that I must display her proudly and love her forever. Otherwise, she will break out of whatever locks I put on her and murder me violently after killing my family and friends.

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Every year my MIL buys me extremely high quality, expensive jewelry and every year it's stuff that I never, ever wear except when she's around.  It's just the gaudiest stuff - HUGE and yellow gold (I only wear silver).  I have tried so many times to gently suggest that she doesn't need to go so overboard... but she just loves it.  I figure I can keep it around if we ever lose our jobs and I can sell it lol. I thought about selling it to pay for IVF but the guilt got to me.

NYTino24

I have no problem regifting things I get, especially candles, frames, mugs, body spray, and chocolate around the holidays that I get from students. I write thank you notes and am truly grateful, but I don't need or use those things. I pass them along to my nieces, mom, sisters, etc. They don't give me gifts and I think it's fine. In the past few years, I have had them donate things in my name, like Toys for Tots, pajamas and books, and canned goods for food pantries instead. They love that!