DH and I can't agree on name spelling

DeansGirl14

Hi all!
Before we even started TTC, we decided that if we ever had a girl, we'd name her after Rocky Balboa's wife in the Rocky series. Now, I'm not the one who's obsessed with those movies, but Adrienne is a beautiful name, so I quickly agreed.

Come to find out, now that we know we're having a girl, the wife's spelling is "Adrian." That's the masculine version, or, according to Google, gender neutral at best. 

DH is insisting on "Adrian" or not using the name at all!

I know masculine names are commonly accepted as female names. It's not like the pronunciation is different. I'm not bothered if a school teacher or interviewer is surprised if they were expecting to see a male and see a female instead. 

Soliciting stranger's opinions- would you find it weird or judge somebody for using a boy version of a name for a girl?

Thanks! 

Gators&BoSox

I'd rather name my child something else than give her a boy's name. Adrienne is very pretty; I'd stick to my guns on this one. He already got you to name her after a Rocky character.. he should count his lucky stars to have such an accommodating wife.

OliveOyl2014

I would also stick with Adrienne. The only Adrians I have ever known are men. I agree that if gets to pick the character he should compromise on the spelling. 

bbiutmcph

Use the proper spelling for your daughter. She will thank you her entire life. 

bbiutmcph

Also her name was Adrianna nn Adrian 

mrs_tacos

Gators&BoSox said:

I'd rather name my child something else than give her a boy's name. Adrienne is very pretty; I'd stick to my guns on this one. He already got you to name her after a Rocky character.. he should count his lucky stars to have such an accommodating wife.

This exactly. 

Moneypenny424

@bbiutmcph I never knew that! 

Please name her Adrienne or Adrianna.  Adrian is for boys.

nurse714

No to Adrian. 

DeansGirl14

Noted the responses so far, thanks! I'll let it sit for a bit (6 months to go after all) and then be like... "but did you ever google the name? I don't know why writers in the 70's gave the character the wrong spelling but really, that spelling is the masculine version..."

Bringmemylongswordho

bbiutmcph said:

Also her name was Adrianna nn Adrian 

I fucking love this. Put this up there with people who "love" To Kill a Mockingbird who name their daughter Scout. 


Posers. *nerd snobbery"

Another vote for Adrienne or Adrianna. 

andrawrmeda2

I agree, fight for the feminine spelling or offer another name, Adrian is my sons 1st middle name lol

KyleeWaller

Adrianna is lovely. Adrian can always be a NN.

DeansGirl14

KyleeWaller said:

Adrianna is lovely. Adrian can always be a NN.

Good point. I can ask! 

MamaWren919

I wouldn't judge it, but I would assume it's spelled Adrienne. I think she'll spend a lot of time correcting people/spelling it for people.

HungryRunner76

Hi!  An "Adrianne" here. I've posted this before but don't use it on a girl. The "yo, Adrian" jokes are not fun. I got them in grade school and I still get them now (in my mid 30's). My mom made a family name (Adrian) more feminine and I hate it. No one says it or spells it correctly.  

penguinpants35

I'd stick with Adrienne as well. Very pretty!

ashleyandely

Soliciting stranger's opinions- would you find it weird or judge somebody for using a boy version of a name for a girl?

Yes. 

strawberrytree

I would also go with Adrienne, but I like Adrianna even more. And if that's really the character's name, then you have a winning argument! 

SnarkasaurusRex

Also, YOU may not care if a teacher or job interviewer is expecting a male, but your daughter might.

Stick with Adrienne or Adrianna.

DeansGirl14

According to wikipedia, the name was indeed Adrianna. Huh! Who knew! I'll ask DH.  If we used that as formal as Adrian as a nickname (I was thinking Addy or Addie anyway) then we're all happy. 

Choosing names is so hard. Even a slight change in pronunciation or spelling can remind you of someone you don't like. (Teachers probably have it the worst with all their students, haha.) I don't know if he'll go for Adrianna but I'll check!

Thanks all! 

cantrellja

I do not think 'Adrian' is appropriate for a girl.