March 2017 Moms
Gators&BoSox
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A Festival of Week Long Bitchings
Gators&BoSox
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Let's be honest, our Monday Bitch Fests last all week lol. What has you feeling Scroogy?
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Re: A Festival of Week Long Bitchings
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16
DH: 33
Furbaby: Walther, 4 year old Rottweiler/Coonhound mix
EDD: 3/7/17<img
yorkie mama to Oscar
FTM EDD 3.12.17
My b-fest is that I hate driving so much, and at times I hate every single person driving on the highway near me. I drive 4 days into my office 1.5 hrs in, and nearly 2 hrs home. I leave at 5a otherwise the commute would be longer in rush hour. My boss agreed to starting to taper down my schedule to work from home beginning in Feb to 3 days in office/2 days WFH. Then tapering down to 2 days in/3 days WFH until I'm eventually WFH totally close to my due date. But I want to just bitch about it now that I'm not sure how I'm going to get through these last 2 weeks of doing that drive....call the wahhhhmbulance
Today I need to vent about people who bring kids to things they're clearly not invited to.
One of my friends has told me she wants to bring her 5 y/o to my baby shower, which isn't a super big deal since her kid is for the most part well behaved, BUT why should I make an exception for YOU (when you've already told me your mom can babysit for the afternoon) when everyone else with kids (the majority of people coming!) is doing the respectful thing and not bringing them along? She's so dependent on her kid and it's not healthy for either of them in my opinion, the kid isn't the "clingy" one at all as she tries to claim, it's her.
On my wedding day a cousin brought her 10 y/o to my reception....and I was PISSED. I didn't show it and tried just to go with the flow, but man it still irritates me she did that because kids were 100% not invited to our wedding or reception, and all the other people had to get sitters or whatever, so it didn't seem fair to any of them and wasn't fair to me or DH since we made it very clear from the beginning we didn't want kids there.
There's just a time and a place and I totally respect others if they invite children to these type of events, but I just wish people could respect our wishes enough to not cause drama or make others feel "why was so-and-so able to bring their kid and we had to get a babysitter??".... As much as I want you to be there, I don't want you to be there with your kid, so if you're not comfortable being separated for a few hours you're better just staying home yourself, sorry. End rant.
Also, I definitely agree that people should not bring kids or others who were not invited to different events. Especially things as intricately planned as weddings! Etiquette says that if they were not included on the invitation, then they weren't invited. If someone isn't sure, they should ask. I had one person RSVP to my baby shower as bringing her SO-and it was not a co-ed baby shower...she ended up sick and not able to come but I feel like that would've been awkward for him to be the only male there.
DH: 33
Furbaby: Walther, 4 year old Rottweiler/Coonhound mix
EDD: 3/7/17<img
When I don't wear my coat (the occasional day where it's warm enough to get from the car to the building without freezing my butt off), it's so different. I'm not expecting to be treated like a princess because I'm pregnant, but the difference is so stark that it's really upsetting that anyone treats anyone that way.
Hope that all makes sense...
Samantha - 4/5/2017
I don't want special treatment, but ensuring common courtesy would at least be nice!
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
Seriously though, being this pregnant has really opened my eyes to what it must be like trying to get around when obese or disabled.
Today, my B fest is about my damn philandering coworker. I'm at the point where I'm thrilled that I'm moving so I no longer have to listen to her bullsh*t. I'm just done. So late yesterday, I'd retreated to a vacant office to put my feet up to hold swelling ankles at bay, and I overhear her talking to another coworker that I'm close with. She starts bitching about the guy who said something to her about how she needs to meet her side piece in the hallway instead of having him come into our office. The thing about Philandering Phyllis is that she's ALWAYS the victim. Doesn't matter if she's 100% at fault. It's always you, not her, and she has a warped sense of reality when it comes to placing blame. She had the audacity to tell my coworker that she was so upset about this guy saying something to her that she wants to go to HR. Bitch please! After Philandering Phyllis left, me and the other coworker were talking about everything and I told her that I can't even imagine how that conversation with HR would go. The Philanderer is too stupid to realize that that whole situation would end up making her look like the bad guy since there's all kinds of patient info that we have in the office and it's a possible HIPAA violation to have someone who doesn't work here constantly in our office. And what would she even say to HR? "So there's this guy that's just "my friend" who comes to visit me at work and one of my coworkers let me know that he doesn't like it and he hurt my little feelings. Wah!" I mean come on! Put your big girl panties on and own up to your crap! End rant!
DH is in Germany for the week for work...I told her that I would text her that he landed the morning after (he landed after 4 am our time). I get a text from MIL at 5 am with the laughing crying face emoji...6 am I get an inaudible recording from her that sounds like FIL talking, and at 7:30 I get a phone call from her with absolutely nothing.in it. When DH texted me I told him about it and that we needed a rule to not call or text before 9 a.m. unless it's an emergency...he said he would talk to her about it....
Oh...and WWYD....my friends are throwing me a baby shower this Sunday and both our mothers are coming. My mom's friends are throwing me one back home next Sunday, and we haven't invited MIL. Pretty sure she doesn't even know about that baby shower, but DH asked me why my mom gets to go to both of them while his mom only gets to go to one. He said he didn't think she would go since it's about 90 minutes from where she lives, but I think she would probably come, and quite honestly, I don't want her there. She won't know anyone but my mom and I and I don't want to feel like I have to "entertain" her, I have family flying in from Minnesota for the weekend and I'd like to spend some time with them, and she's just embarrassing to be around at times...I know I sound like a bitch, but is it horrible that I don't want her to be there??
EP: 2.17.2016
DS: 3.4.2017
For my church sprinkle, the ladies asked for my moms address to send an invite and then asked if there was other family they could invite. I said NO MIL or other INlaws. Just hoping it doesn't get on Facebook somehow and I get crap for it. Oh well,
@disneybaby84 I wish I could have that option...I already know that I'm going to have to lay some ground rules down for his parents...MIL doesn't work so she's going to want to be all up in our business with a new baby...nope...we need our alone time, too.
@Gators&BoSox that's how I feel, too. She wasn't invited to any of our wedding showers so I'm not sure why this is an issue now. She has spent so much money that they really don't have and DH and I keep telling her to stop buying stuff...I get that she's excited but it's not a competition of who can spend the most money. Ugh I just can't deal with her.
We've already told our parents that we don't want anyone at the hospital until after delivery, after we move to a post partum room, after I get cleaned up and some rest, and after the 3 of us get some alone time. DH and I probably need to discuss whether or not to even tell our parents when we head to the hospital. I know my parents will be respectful enough not to show up, but not his...
EP: 2.17.2016
DS: 3.4.2017
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
Oh poor baby. Im sure you worked up a real appetite from sitting your ass on the couch while your hugely pregnant wife ran around like a maniac to make dinner and take care of your kid alone.
Im officially signing off as good wife for a few months. No more energy.
EP: 2.17.2016
DS: 3.4.2017
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
I'll play.
My baby shower was this weekend. It was great, if not a little too short.
My MIL work a skirt that hit her just above the knee. It was totally appropriate for the occasion and she looked ok. Unfortunately, she doesn't know how to sit when she has a skirt on. She sits with her legs spread wide open for the whole world to see her lady parts. The shower was no exception. Fortunately, only about 1/2 of the 40 guests got to see her underwear (AND THANK GOD SHE WAS WEARING UNDERWEAR).
She also took my seat for lunch at the shower because it was next to my husband, her baby... par for the course. Whatever, it gave me a chance to sit with some friends I didn't have a chance to mingle with much.
I was happy she was her normal self at my shower so that my friends and family could see that I didn't exaggerate their codependent relationship or her crazy tendencies at all.
First, had a check up today and asked the doc about breast pumps. They got me a script for an electric one. Great! Call the insurance company and they only cover a manual one 100%. To get an electric one, it would be 20% after I meet the deductible. Seeing as I just got on this insurance 18 days ago, I'm pretty sure I haven't hit the $1000 deductible. So....question: I do have an HSA. Can I use that to buy an electric pump? Preliminary googling tells me yes. Has anyone used an HSA to buy one?
Next, I basically have two options of hospitals where I can deliver. Both are in a town about 30 miles away. Both are down the street from each other. Only one has a NICU and children's center. When I called the insurance company, I also asked if they could verify which hospitals are in network. Yep, not the one with the NICU. Let's pray that this little guy doesn't need anything like that and all is good. It isn't like the other hospital is a piece of crap or anything, but my husband and I both felt better delivering at the other hospital. And if something happens and our little one needs the NICU, they transfer him down the street and deal with insurance claims. I would just rather not have to deal with the whole transferring him thing and just deliver at the other hospital.
And my final thing....I started a new job at the beginning of December. Great job, perfect fit. It is a newly created position so no one really knows how it is going to work. I am torn between the office where I work and the corporate team. I get conflicting information ALL. THE. TIME. I am scared I am going to get myself in trouble because I pick the wrong side to listen to and do something wrong. And it is all over such silly stuff like whether we use the corporate graphic designer or we just do it ourselves because we are in a time crunch and need to get the ad to the newspaper. (Doing it ourselves won but I know I am going to get backlash for it.) I was told that I need to speak up more and communicate more about what I am doing which to me sounds like they wanna micromanage. It isn't like I don't tell anyone what is going on. They (corporate) just want updates nearly every single day. FFS, I only work part time. And being pulled into meeting after meeting with them is leaving me little time to actually get anything done. All of this and a girl who is an administrative assistant basically tells me that while the boss has assured her that her job won't change with me there, she feels like it has. When I ask her for examples of how she feels like it has changed, she couldn't give me any. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO WITH THAT? I am still trying to figure out my job and now I have to worry about her too.
Okay, I'm done. For now.
yorkie mama to Oscar
FTM EDD 3.12.17
I'm hoping you get that perfect level of crazy and not-ruining-your-shower, too!