So my mom and sister are planning my baby shower... the date they picked happens to fall on my MIL's birthday. I know they have a room booked but they are keeping me out of all the other details, I'm fine with that. I've waited a very long time for this through infertility and baby number 1 was when I was young, I never had support, let alone a shower thrown for me.
I let MIL know as a courtesy before invites go out because I know NO other details. Her response was, " we'll see if I'm able to make it". Really? Because let's be honest, she more than likely not even going to leave the house that day. I think the issue is more that everything has to be all about her, which was my fear in her coming. That she would have to let everyone know 85 times that it's her birthday.
I'm kind of beyond caring. There have been lots of family events that they've planned on my birthday. Either we went or if we had plans, we didn't. I have no control over the shower being thrown for me, I don't even know the location yet. I highly doubt that there is going to be a date in March that works for all the attendees.
Is it inconsiderate to just not care and leave it up to her to come or not?