Randoms - Week of January 2nd

dragonfaerie

Have any thoughts, questions, feelings, fears? Spill them here!

This is a good place to ask questions to a broader audience than the weekly trimester check-ins so those with experience can chime in!

WishingforLuck

Random vent, same as last week I'm tired of people asking me when I'm due. It seriously irks me. Like half the people that ask aren't coming to the hospital to see me, nor would I want them there. 

Question for everyone, how is your hair? I seem to be losing hair, not like bald spots but shedding. I would think the prenatals would help with hair as this is what I've read and was told, but it seems to be the opposite for me.

kelrauh

@WishingforLuck my first trimester I lost a lot of hair. I was frustrated and thought the same thing. It is now growing like crazy. I think its all just hormonal and normal. I also read you lose it like crazy after birth.

tiffanyw1783

Am I the only one that has a weird taste in my mouth all the time?? Maybe it's b/c my mouth is constantly dry and I'm always thirsty but I just always have a weird taste!!

dragonfaerie

@WishingforLuck It can get a little tiresome to answer the same questions over and over. I saw a shirt a while ago that said "the due date is ... we're having a .... no, you can't touch the bump." I just usually say the end of the month since he's going to show when he's good and ready. As for hair, mine is growing faster, but doesn't seem to be thicker or shedding more. We'll see what happens after....
@tiffanyw1783 That is very strange! I wonder if it's one of your meds? Tums sometimes leave a metallic taste in my mouth. It definitely could be dry mouth though. 

byrneme

@tiffanyw1783 I'm glad it's not just me! I had a weird taste, not metallic, just off for the longest time. I haven't noticed it in the last couple of days. I googled it and didn't find anything at all about it so I figured it was just one of my odd reactions to being pregnant.

tiffanyw1783

@byrneme I'm glad someone else has experienced this!!

kdanjou

I have dry mouth all the time too and it feels weird.
Regarding the hair thing - yeah you will lose clumps after giving birth. 

JWatt5

Had anyone else had a migraine in the first trimester? It started with my vision blurring all the sudden when I laid Down for a bit and my left side went all numb/tingling. I got a little worried and couldn't reach my RE so I'm sitting at emergency. I've had mirgraines before but not like this in a long time. Makes me much more nervous being pregnant. They said I'm on the boarder of a fever so not sure what that means. 

wifeinraleigh28

@JWatt5 I haven't had a pregnancy migraine yet (surprising since I am usually a migraine sufferer) but I have had consistent headaches since I got pregnant. I have absolutely had the numbness/tingling with migraines in the past though (called a sensory aura) and they are normal and not at all dangerous or life threatening. Pregnancy really puts our bodies out of wack! You are totally fine though, don't worry. Always a good idea to get some doctor advice though!

clt2pwm11

@tiffanyw1783 I get a metallic taste in my mouth every once in awhile. . . I've even had bloody noses (I think that's where the metallic taste comes from for me).

nellin-2

Metallic taste is definitely a pregnancy symptom. I haven't had it yet but I've read about it and heard friends who have had it. 

ale9687

@tiffanyw1783 i went to the dentist at 10ish weeks pregnant and they said pregnancy can effect your gums and cause issues and bleeding. Could be the cause of the odd taste in your mouth. 

JWatt5

@wifeinraleigh28- thanks! I've had them too before and I've had a mini stroke when I was young - had routine mri's for a few years (combo of birth control pill & mirgraines). They wanted to do an MRI at Emergency but with the Obgyn's advice I've decided to hold off for now, see if the symptoms resolve on their own, which they should with a migraine. They are worried about circulatory issues due to the pregnancy so I go back in a few days (or hours if it doesn't go away) for at least a CT scan and then go from there just to be sure. 

rmarble23

My rant goes with @wishingforluck i am so tired of people, mainly my boss, asking how i'm feeling...you don't care how i'm feeling but i am not sick, haven't been, i am 16 weeks in and i'm just tired of you asking me every single day how i'm feeling.  what if i told you i am miserable?? what would you do? not a darn thing! ......she also likes to tell me how i am going to be such a good mother....she has been saying this my entire struggle with IF.  I know i'm going to be a good mother, i didn't fight this hard to be a shitty mother.   sorry guess i am a little worked up

cato99

@JWatt5 @wifeinraleigh28 I'm a fellow migraine-er but I haven't had that many since pregnancy (they decreased HUGELY after I went off birth control pills and then of course came back when I was on IVF hormones). What I've had is: every few weeks I'll get a 1-2-week headache that sometimes veers into migraine territory. I've never had headaches of this length bc I'd always blast them away with a migraine meds shot. 

I'm sure your neurologist or OB can help strategize, but the -triptans are out of the question as far as I know. I've managed with a combination of Tylenol, caffeine, sugar, and sometimes narcotics as needed. Good luck! 

JWatt5

@cato99 - crazy hormones!! I still have my headache & numbness, hoping the numbness goes with the headache! tomorrows a new day - super happy I have an US for assurance on Thursday! 

BlueEyedDreamer

@rmarble23 I am so with you. Everyone keeps asking me how I'm feeling, and the honest answer has universally been "really sh!tty!" But that's not what they want to hear - they want to hear "Great! So excited! Wonderful!" It's been very frustrating to have to constantly put on a happy face when I feel like I'm about to throw up for fall asleep pretty much constantly.

I also wanted to add that I went to a chiropractor yesterday for the first time while pregnant, and WOW I'm so glad I did! I chose one recommended by my OB for their experience working with pregnancies. My aches and pains are definitely less today, and they used really nice gentle techniques to get me back in alignment. Woo hoo!

dragonfaerie

@BlueEyedDreamer I'm so glad you had a good visit with the chiropractor! I went to a prenatal chiro for the first time a couple weeks ago and was really impressed. I definitely recommend massage and chiro for all people, but us pregos for sure.

byrneme

So funny that the chiro is being discussed. When I was randomly awake at 3AM there was a FB post about pregnancy/chiropractors and a link to find prenatal certified ones in your area. I bookmarked it for sure!

babylonghorn16

@rmarble23 @BlueEyedDreamer I know how y'all feel... except I feel like people are WANTING me to tell them I feel bad. So when I say "Great! I love being pregnant!" (which is 100% truthful), it's like they are disappointed. On multiple occasions they've actually responded "well just wait until <insert stage of pregnancy/parenthood>".... um OKAY. Do you WANT me to feel bad?! People are so annoying.

dragonfaerie

@babylonghorn16 I've experienced that too! "His hiccups are so funny!" "Wait til they give YOU hiccups and heartburn" um... okay? It's just sad that we would rather reflect on the negative as a society. Not that it's not okay to have bad days and complaints, but I wish we as a whole could be happier

JWatt5

I've been frustrated with the whole "how are you feeling" from those who know I'm pregnant already and when I say pretty darn good - they then say well if you arent throwing up or always nauseous you better go get checked out, something might be wrong. Thanks people! Totally agree with you @dragonfaerie - I feel like people always reflect on the negative symptoms! If I hear one more person go "oh that's great that you're pregnant - oh but you're due in the summer..." (on top of that, I'm in Canada, seriously people, it's not that hot!)

BlueEyedDreamer

@babylonghorn16 Ugh, I hate that! And it really never ends... "Oh, he's sleeping through the night? Well wait until he has a sleep regression and is waking you up again every 30 minutes." Or "You don't give your baby a phone to play with? Wait until he's a toddler at a restaurant, and you will be whipping out those electronics like crazy!" Those sorts of comments drive me NUTS! And they just keep on coming!!! I have a male colleague who has 3 kids, and he is constantly saying stuff like this to me - it's pretty crazy.

clt2pwm11

@dragonfaerie Funny you mentioned prenatal chiro/massage! I was just researching a Doula that my friend used. I am not going to pay for full doula services because we are really trying to save cash right now, but she offers an hour long prenatal massage that you can ala carte. I'm totally doing it! Sounds like heaven.

**edit to edit. Also I'm not stupid. My autocorrect just changes everything I type! So annoying.**

kelrauh

I have been going to physical therapy for 8 weeks for my back and hips. It has done me wonders (and insurance covers it). 

dragonfaerie

@clt2pwm11 Lol, I feel like my phone has pregnancy brain too! Words I've never used before somehow are in my dictionary

clt2pwm11

Also, is today "Say Stupid Stuff About Pregnancy" Day? One person on FB posted a dumb link to why they think IVF is murder (that person is a special kind of stupid who probably thinks a woman on her period should be jailed). I don't know her; she was just a rando poster in an infertility group (how did that person even get added?) The other person said they thought pregnancy was ugly (I actually know this person.) Chick, I will cut you. I dare somebody on social media to say one more stupid thing today.#horomones

WishingforLuck

@kelrauh thanks for the information
@dragonfaerie I would love a shirt like that.. lol, hopefully my hair situation gets better
@rmarble23 I definitely understand how you feel, hope things get better for us.
@babylonghorn16 yes, people always offer their advice. It really irks me when they say wait until.. It's like um if I wanted some advice or an opinion I would've asked for it.
@clt2pwm11 really? wtf is wrong with some people. 

rmarble23

@clt2pwm11 i would love to know the theory that IVF is murder...none of what i did during my process killed anything, i created life....nature did everything as far as losses

ADRIANAC1982

Hello everyone! Here is my weekly update: 

24 weeks is 2 days away!! Panic is definitely setting in. Friday Morning begins my hospital-staycation so just prepping for that. 

Friday I will be given antibiotics,  and steroids and then we wait! Im hoping to keep this little guy in for as long as possible. In patients like me the longest they allow is 34 weeks so in my case March 17th

ARB425

@wishingforluck have you had your thyroid checked recently ? Hypothyroidism can cause you to lose lots of hair. My pregnancy caused my thyroid to go totally wacko and my meds have had to be readjusted several times. Just throwing that out there as a precautionary!

clt2pwm11

@rmarble23 Right?! I didn't even click. It pissed me off so much. 

capps42613

@ADRIANAC1982 so happy for you. The staycation sounds awful but we gotta do what we gotta do for these lil beans. Prayers that he keeps cooking as close to 34 weeks as possible!

dragonfaerie

@ADRIANAC1982 Thank you for the update! Glad that your little fighter continues to do well! Praying he stays comfy cozy for as long as possible!

2legbaby

Glad you will be in hospital @ADRIANAC1982 getting baby ready for a safe delivery *in march* hugs!

wifeinraleigh28

You are so close @ADRIANAC1982 and your little guy is continuing to fight and thrive!!

yelllow22

@ADRIANAC1982 sending you and your little fighter many prayers, I hope time goes by quickly for you!

nellin-2

So my partner today confessed that he told his friends about our pregnancy last week but was too scared to tell me!  I'd said that if the NT results were good then I thought we could tell people but then we got the results and I'm still paranoid and holding off! In the interim before I flipflopped he had sent a private Facebook message to his friends!  He fessed up today because we are going to meet up with them after work today so I'd find out they all know!

I couldn't really be annoyed because it was me being crazy and changing my mind every 5 minutes about when to tell people! Also it's pretty cute that he couldn't wait till he saw them and had to send a message! 
Guess the cat is coming out of the bag! 

wifeinraleigh28

@Nellin I kept changing my mind about when to tell people too. I didn't even start telling my clients until this week. But it's nice that they know now because my bump is impossible to hide and I've already been called out by a couple teenagers already. Now I don't have to stick to baggy clothing all the time!

byrneme

@ADRIANAC1982 I'll be thinking of you and sending tons of thoughts and luck your way!!!

@Nellin - that really is kind of cute