@MrsCaliRN I'm in the same situation, my son's birthday is beginning of May (he will be 2) and I'm due mid June with a girl, but more likely to have her early June given my history. I'm planning to have a small birthday celebration for him early May since we never got to have a party for his 1st (we were all sick). I feel like it'll be his last big celebration with just us as a family of 3 before baby sister arrives. Since he was premature and I went into labor less than 48 hours after my baby shower it's important I do something to celebrate this pregnancy. My friend and I are due at the same time so we are doing a joint thing early June/late may. It is sort of throwing it for ourselves but mostly for each other and it's more of a blessingway (i.e. small gathering of women blessing mama to be before labor vs gift giving etc etc). I think doing a get together like a brunch with girlfriends is totally acceptable to host yourself. Each child and pregnancy is worth celebrating. Just don't expect gifts- I rarely bring a gift to a sprinkle or second baby shower and don't expect any for myself.
Stankonia was here!
@ellie111227 it's even better when people decide to have a shower/sex reveal all at once specifically because they figure if the guests don't know the sex of the baby before hand, they won't buy clothes and will instead be "forced" to buy off-registry. You have no idea how many posts there have been on TB of people planning to do this, for that reason.
If someone is offering you a gift, you take it, and then you write a very gracious thank you note whether you really wanted that item or not. Period, end of sentence. Anything else is so entitled and bratty, it's just crazy. If people are willing to spend their hard earned money on you to help set you up for your baby's arrival, you graciously accept whatever they are offering, and you don't complain about it. Return stuff if you need to, but put on a happy face and feel nothing but love from people that want to help you out, rather than annoyance that they didn't buy you the "right" things.
They started this at my work with sprinkling the mom to be. I hate it. I feel like now everyone has to get one and we are throwing one fore 2nd and 3rd kids. Its an office of 40 and no one wants to be that asshole that doesn't buy.
@harpyogi I agree a blessingway is very different from a baby shower. I would love to attend one or even have one for a second or more times mom. But you still should not host it yourself. Invite your girlfriends over for brunch/snacks and yoga/meditation. Same feel, not focused on you, not asking them to do anything for you.
Wow thank you. Glad I spent an hour talking to my therapist about how much anxiety showers bring me. I'm not going to do anything if it's considered this tacky and this is type of response, it'll only put me into labor again from the stress. It wasn't even going to be called anything aside of a group of friends hanging out, no invitations or anything. I gained so much strength from giving friends candles to light while in labor and that's all I wanted to do this time. I don't give a shit about gifts, her nursery is already set and packed. Please do not tell me I'm greedy and want gifts. Just in shock, I'm done.