I know this is a bit late in the week for this thread but it seems like there are a few of us here that could do with some support. Show of hands! I think having a special haven for doubts and fears and anxiety would be great. It may also help to insulate some of the other threads from our intense feelings.
So, - introduce yourself, - tell us how many weeks you got to last time, - how are you feeling? - Share a distraction/calming technique.
- introduce yourself, I am due on 07/13 most likely. I had an IUI which was my second, and we have been TTC for about 2.5 years. I had a loss in 2009 and last February. I was on TTGP in 2014 but left when the "stuff" happened in Jan. 2015.
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time, 8-10ish I had a MMC and had to take Misoprostal at 10 weeks. Thank goodness for percocet
- how are you feeling? Nervous, checking my TP everytime I visit the bathroom. Waiting for BETAs, then I will wait for US. then I will wait for 12 weeks, then viability. Maybe then I can get excited?
- Share a distraction/calming technique. I try to only worry about what is within my control to change or effect.
Hi! I'm 6 weeks and 2 days and increasingly nervous about how things are progressing. This is about where I was measuring the last time at the US (7 weeks 5 days by LMP).
The technique that I will share is knitting. I'm not very good and I only know 2 stitches but focusing my hands on a task seems to calm my mind. Now that it's cold I think it's perfect timing to get started on a baby blanket
I received a very surprising BFP on Oct 27 while I was on the bench waiting to start my next round of IVF. I had my loss in July at 8w2d after a FET, but I knew at the first ultrasound that I was behind as we did not see a yolk sac. We waited another week and saw some growth, but not enough. I was not accepting it and wanted another scan a week later and that is when it was finalized that growth had stopped.
I'm a ball of anxiety & stress right now. I have an early ultrasound on Monday and praying to have better news this time around!
I started teaching myself to brush letter while I was going through it last time and there is something very calming about drawing out the alphabet and practicing the strokes.
introduce yourself, I'm Mimi, I had a loss on August 27. - tell us how many weeks you got to last time, According to LMP, 8 weeks. - how are you feeling? Optimistic. - Share a distraction/calming technique. I try to go the "don't give a crap" route. There's way too much worry in life. I figure something is meant to be it will happen.
Hello - I'm Laura. I have two girls age 5 and 2 and lost my third pregnancy in late February. MMC at 13 weeks (baby measured 12 week 3 days) after a crazy first trimester that had lots of bleeding (SCH) but baby was looking great. I ended up needing 2 D&Cs to take care of the mc and during the first my uterus was perforated - luckily not bad enough to perforate anything else! Took the spring and summer off to focus on work and travel and started trying again in August. BFP on 10/27
I'm feeling OK... trying to take things one day at a time. I had beta draws Saturday and Monday that more than doubled and doing them again next Monday and Wednesday. Also had progesterone on Saturday (I was 12-13 dpo) and my doctor says it was fine, I think it was a little low - but one of my mantras is to trust my doctors so I'm trusting her opinion on the value.
I have been insanely busy at work so that is a great distraction! I have started a bullet journal and that is another great distraction.. and then in the evenings when i get the most worked up, watching TV is how I get from one minute to the next!
**** TW - kids and loss mentioned **** ~~ married 8.11.07 ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~ ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~ ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC ~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
I'm so glad this has been started! I'm a FTM and had a loss at eight weeks in June. When I went in for my blood test for that pregnancy (at four weeks), my numbers were fairly low (HCG was relatively normal, but progesterone was 5), but my doctor wasn't concerned since it was so early. As the weeks went on, I felt super symptomatic and so I assumed it had just been a slow start, but when they did the eight week scan, there was nothing - I had basically had a missed chemical pregnancy (probably at the same time as they did the blood test), but my body was forming the placenta etc. anyways. I had a D&C and it took my body five weeks for the HCG to leave the system.
I'm doing...okay? I'm four weeks today and going in for my blood test, which is giving me a lot of anxiety - my doctor said the progesterone number was almost certainly low because I was miscarrying (as opposed to me miscarrying because the progesterone was low), but I can't shake the fear that there's something wrong with my body. I know the odds of another MMC are super low, but since that's been my only experience of pregnancy, it's hard to not feel like it's going to happen again.
Calming-wise, I like cooking and baking - the more elaborate, the better!!!
TTC #1: 4/16 BFP #1: 5/16 MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16 BFP #2: 10/16 Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
Hi ladies. My heart just breaks reading of your losses. It's such a hard thing to go through. Love to all of you!!!
- introduce yourself,
hi! I'm here after being on the march bmb (I think I recognize some names here actually...). This is my third pregnancy since January so it's been a lonnnng year. This pregnancy and the previous one were through iui and the first one after a long time trying was natural and a very early loss.
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time,
most recent pregnancy I got to my 9 week scan when we found out the heartbeat was no longer there. It was painful bc we heard it twice and thought (so very wrongly) that it meant everything would work out. I spent a long time feeling down and not leaving the house. I honestly thought this iui wouldn't work bc of how bad I was feeling but it worked and here I am.
- how are you feeling? Taking it day by day. I got news that my betas were more than doubling on time so I'm celebrating the small victories, though really I'm very scared. I hope this is it this time!!
- Share a distraction/calming technique. reminding myself that there's nothing at this point that I can do helps me to cope better. That's prob negative sounding but idk it helps somehow!
i also used to play guitar so I decided to start lessons again and so practicing is a great distraction. It also feels good to revisit playing bc it's been soooo long!!
@CAdreamin13 - i don't have any symptoms yet but usually dont get them until 6 - 7 weeks... so 2 more weeks of productivity at work i guess!? The body not figuring it out was the hardest part for me... even after my first D&C my body held on (and I continued to have symptoms) until the 2nd one 10 days later - so insane. I use that to my advantage now to remind myself that my body likes to be pregnant! As long as the baby is developing normally I'm confident my body will do what it is supposed to.
**** TW - kids and loss mentioned **** ~~ married 8.11.07 ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~ ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~ ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC ~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
- introduce yourself hey ladies, first time doing this check in - i had a miscarriage my very first pregnancy some 7 years ago (different situation/guy) and two healthy beautiful babies with my husband since then - tell us how many weeks you got to last time 37, my son was born via repeat c-section since I have a manly pelvis and he was only born a year after his sister - how are you feeling? puking 2-3 times a day and peeing like it's going out of style. But I am trying to drink water and Powerade to stay hydrated - Share a distraction/calming technique. none really, I am more of the suppress any feelings type of gal but my little spotting episode yesterday has me wanting support
- how are you feeling? Nervous, checking my TP everytime I visit the bathroom. Waiting for BETAs, then I will wait for US. then I will wait for 12 weeks, then viability. Maybe then I can get excited?
@Dcwtada hang in there...spotting is def scary when you've been through what you've experienced but spotting can also be totally normal in early pregnancy. Here to support you in whatever capacity a person can via Internet forum. Hugs.
- introduce yourself, This is my second pregnancy. My first one was a Mmc in June. - tell us how many weeks you got to last time, 8ish they couldn't tell for sure and I still had a lot of symptoms. - how are you feeling? Don't think I have any pregnancy symptoms yet. Part of me would feel better with symptoms to reassure me but then I remind myself that I still had symptoms after my Mmc. - Share a distraction/calming technique. I like to bake and just generally stay busy.
Hi ladies! Sucks we have to have a check in like this, but glad to know we have some extra support.
I have 2 girls here on earth and 2 babies in heaven. My first loss was in Oct of 2009, at 11 weeks, and DD1 was born exactly a year to the day after that. DD2 was born in March of 2014, and then my last loss was at 6w in February of 2015. We had stopped trying after that, and then surprisingly enough we got a BFP on 10/25.
I have lots of symptoms this time around, which gives me a little reassurance. Like some of you, I also check the TP after going to the bathroom. I hate doing that but I feel like I have to.
Doing my best to stay calm and positive. I wake up every morning, tell myself I'm still pregnant and that I will bring a baby home this coming summer. I also stay busy with my girls too.
Me (K)-27 DH (T)-30 2 Rainbow DDs L-10/26/10 and A-03/27/14 2 Angels- 10/26/09 and 02/03/15 Surprise BFP on 10/25/16!!! Baby Firecracker is due on 07/02/17!
introduce yourself. Hi. I'm a SAHM of 3 kiddos. I'm constantly on the go and trying to remind myself to slow down and take care of myself. I had zero support for my loss and I'm still having a very hard time processing it all. tell us how many weeks you got to last time. I was 5w4d when I lost our baby in September. how are you feeling? I'm feeling ok. I'm currently 5w5d today so one day longer than before. I went in for my second ultrasound this morning and I saw a very teeny tiny blob with a very small heart fluttering! It was amazing but of course I'm still a mess thinking the worse.
Share a distraction/calming technique. My distraction are my kids. When I start to feel anxious I pull out my camera and take pictures, it tends to calm my mind and put me in a better mood.
introduce yourself, - tell us how many weeks you got to last time, I had a MC in June at 12 weeks - how are you feeling? faint BFP today - a little anxious, excited, hopeful - Share a distraction/calming technique Chasing our 2 year old around, staying busy
introduce yourself - I've been a lurker off and on for the past year and a half. Now at 5 weeks, 3 days and very anxiously waiting an ultrasound on 11/16.
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time - our first miscarriage happened at 7 weeks a week before Christmas last year, then we lost our next one at 6 weeks on valentine's day this year.
- how are you feeling? - I'm a nervous wreck and I'm trying not to get attached until I know this one wants to stick.
- Share a distraction/calming technique. - I love animals and since TTC has been stressful we now foster kittens. We got two new kittens recently which help distract me from my crazy nervous brain!
Introduce yourself - I'm 36, a SAHM to two little boys, moved to the USA a year ago.
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time - Last time i made it to 10 weeks and suffered a miscarriage.
- how are you feeling? - I'm feeling anxious and nervous and just want my scan to be tomorrow to put my mind at rest. It all headed downhill at my first scan with my last pregnancy so I'm praying this time everything is ok.
- Share a distraction/calming technique. - Just keeping busy with my two Lo's which isn't hard as they are 4 and 2. Keeping up with my exercise classes.
Re: PGAL Checkin - Week of 10/31
I am due on 07/13 most likely. I had an IUI which was my second, and we have been TTC for about 2.5 years.
I had a loss in 2009 and last February. I was on TTGP in 2014 but left when the "stuff" happened in Jan. 2015.
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time, 8-10ish I had a MMC and had to take Misoprostal at 10 weeks. Thank goodness for percocet
- how are you feeling? Nervous, checking my TP everytime I visit the bathroom. Waiting for BETAs, then I will wait for US. then I will wait for 12 weeks, then viability. Maybe then I can get excited?
- Share a distraction/calming technique. I try to only worry about what is within my control to change or effect.
PAIF/PgAL
The technique that I will share is knitting. I'm not very good and I only know 2 stitches but focusing my hands on a task seems to calm my mind. Now that it's cold I think it's perfect timing to get started on a baby blanket
I received a very surprising BFP on Oct 27 while I was on the bench waiting to start my next round of IVF. I had my loss in July at 8w2d after a FET, but I knew at the first ultrasound that I was behind as we did not see a yolk sac. We waited another week and saw some growth, but not enough. I was not accepting it and wanted another scan a week later and that is when it was finalized that growth had stopped.
I'm a ball of anxiety & stress right now. I have an early ultrasound on Monday and praying to have better news this time around!
I started teaching myself to brush letter while I was going through it last time and there is something very calming about drawing out the alphabet and practicing the strokes.
PAIF/PgAL
I'm Mimi, I had a loss on August 27.
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time,
According to LMP, 8 weeks.
- how are you feeling? Optimistic.
- Share a distraction/calming technique. I try to go the "don't give a crap" route. There's way too much worry in life. I figure something is meant to be it will happen.
I'm feeling OK... trying to take things one day at a time. I had beta draws Saturday and Monday that more than doubled and doing them again next Monday and Wednesday. Also had progesterone on Saturday (I was 12-13 dpo) and my doctor says it was fine, I think it was a little low - but one of my mantras is to trust my doctors so I'm trusting her opinion on the value.
I have been insanely busy at work so that is a great distraction! I have started a bullet journal and that is another great distraction.. and then in the evenings when i get the most worked up, watching TV is how I get from one minute to the next!
~~ married 8.11.07
~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
I'm doing...okay? I'm four weeks today and going in for my blood test, which is giving me a lot of anxiety - my doctor said the progesterone number was almost certainly low because I was miscarrying (as opposed to me miscarrying because the progesterone was low), but I can't shake the fear that there's something wrong with my body. I know the odds of another MMC are super low, but since that's been my only experience of pregnancy, it's hard to not feel like it's going to happen again.
Calming-wise, I like cooking and baking - the more elaborate, the better!!!
BFP #1: 5/16
MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16
BFP #2: 10/16
Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
hi! I'm here after being on the march bmb (I think I recognize some names here actually...). This is my third pregnancy since January so it's been a lonnnng year. This pregnancy and the previous one were through iui and the first one after a long time trying was natural and a very early loss.
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time,
most recent pregnancy I got to my 9 week scan when we found out the heartbeat was no longer there. It was painful bc we heard it twice and thought (so very wrongly) that it meant everything would work out. I spent a long time feeling down and not leaving the house. I honestly thought this iui wouldn't work bc of how bad I was feeling but it worked and here I am.
- how are you feeling? Taking it day by day. I got news that my betas were more than doubling on time so I'm celebrating the small victories, though really I'm very scared. I hope this is it this time!!
- Share a distraction/calming technique.
reminding myself that there's nothing at this point that I can do helps me to cope better. That's prob negative sounding but idk it helps somehow!
i also used to play guitar so I decided to start lessons again and so practicing is a great distraction. It also feels good to revisit playing bc it's been soooo long!!
~~ married 8.11.07
~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
BFP #1: 5/16
MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16
BFP #2: 10/16
Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
- introduce yourself hey ladies, first time doing this check in - i had a miscarriage my very first pregnancy some 7 years ago (different situation/guy) and two healthy beautiful babies with my husband since then
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time 37, my son was born via repeat c-section since I have a manly pelvis and he was only born a year after his sister
- how are you feeling? puking 2-3 times a day and peeing like it's going out of style. But I am trying to drink water and Powerade to stay hydrated
- Share a distraction/calming technique. none really, I am more of the suppress any feelings type of gal but my little spotting episode yesterday has me wanting support
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time, 8ish they couldn't tell for sure and I still had a lot of symptoms.
- how are you feeling? Don't think I have any pregnancy symptoms yet. Part of me would feel better with symptoms to reassure me but then I remind myself that I still had symptoms after my Mmc.
- Share a distraction/calming technique.
I like to bake and just generally stay busy.
I have 2 girls here on earth and 2 babies in heaven. My first loss was in Oct of 2009, at 11 weeks, and DD1 was born exactly a year to the day after that. DD2 was born in March of 2014, and then my last loss was at 6w in February of 2015. We had stopped trying after that, and then surprisingly enough we got a BFP on 10/25.
I have lots of symptoms this time around, which gives me a little reassurance. Like some of you, I also check the TP after going to the bathroom. I hate doing that but I feel like I have to.
Doing my best to stay calm and positive. I wake up every morning, tell myself I'm still pregnant and that I will bring a baby home this coming summer. I also stay busy with my girls too.
Me (K)-27 DH (T)-30
2 Rainbow DDs L-10/26/10 and A-03/27/14
2 Angels- 10/26/09 and 02/03/15
Surprise BFP on 10/25/16!!! Baby Firecracker is due on 07/02/17!
tell us how many weeks you got to last time. I was 5w4d when I lost our baby in September.
how are you feeling? I'm feeling ok. I'm currently 5w5d today so one day longer than before. I went in for my second ultrasound this morning and I saw a very teeny tiny blob with a very small heart fluttering! It was amazing but of course I'm still a mess thinking the worse.
Share a distraction/calming technique. My distraction are my kids. When I start to feel anxious I pull out my camera and take pictures, it tends to calm my mind and put me in a better mood.
@Dcwtada Hang in there! Spotting sucks! It is so incredibly common though - so hoping it's fine.
introduce yourself,
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time, I had a MC in June at 12 weeks
- how are you feeling? faint BFP today - a little anxious, excited, hopeful
- Share a distraction/calming technique Chasing our 2 year old around, staying busy
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time - our first miscarriage happened at 7 weeks a week before Christmas last year, then we lost our next one at 6 weeks on valentine's day this year.
- how are you feeling? - I'm a nervous wreck and I'm trying not to get attached until I know this one wants to stick.
- Share a distraction/calming technique. - I love animals and since TTC has been stressful we now foster kittens. We got two new kittens recently which help distract me from my crazy nervous brain!
- tell us how many weeks you got to last time - Last time i made it to 10 weeks and suffered a miscarriage.
- how are you feeling? - I'm feeling anxious and nervous and just want my scan to be tomorrow to put my mind at rest. It all headed downhill at my first scan with my last pregnancy so I'm praying this time everything is ok.
- Share a distraction/calming technique. - Just keeping busy with my two Lo's which isn't hard as they are 4 and 2. Keeping up with my exercise classes.