TTC After a Loss

***November TWW ***

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Re: ***November TWW ***

  • I updated in October TWW then realized - it's November!!! Copying my post over here...

    I'm at 14dpo, my HPT lines got slightly darker from 10 to 13dpo, but today my CP dropped from HSC to LSC and that was accompanied by a huge temp drop (though still above coverline). I am not sure how to make sense of all of it, but I think this cycle is a bust. Had blood drawn for HCG yesterday but still haven't heard back.
    *TW*

    TTC#1 - 6.3.16
    BFP#1 - 7.1.16, (mo-di twins + singleton) due 3.15.17
    MC singleton - 7.13.16 - 5w
    MMC identical twins - 8.5.16 - 8w+2d
    Misoprostol 4x
    D&C - 9.12.16
    Hysteroscopy - 11.21.16 - Retained tissue filling half of uterus removed, blocked left tube, benched for 2 cycles, on estrogen/progesterone for 30 days
    HSG - 2.7.17 - Asherman's Syndrome. Both tubes open.
    Hysteroscopy 2.13.17 - Incomplete adhesiolysis for Asherman's, benched & on estrogen/progesterone for 30 days. At least two more surgeries needed...
    Hysteroscopy 3.21.17 - Adhesiolysis for Asherman's, benched & on estrogen/progesterone for 30 days.
    TTCAL #1: 4.24.17
    Hysteroscopy 5.23.17 - Scars reformed. Adhesiolysis. Unsure what to do next...
    Fertility acupuncture - started 6.13.17
  • @RiverSong15 Thank you posting all the links and information. Technology!! I can't even imagine having to wait until two weeks after a missed period and then waiting two hours after POAS! We have gotten so impatient! LOL.

    @MDLH FX it is too early. Let us know when you test again.
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

    RiverSong15
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  • Another temp drop this am and AF has blessed me with her presence. Heading on over to WTO. good luck to all the ladies here, and @weareturtles I hope you get good news!
    *** TW ***
    Me 31, DH 30
    Married: 07/2014, TTC since 12/2015
    BFP #1: 1/1/16, MC 1/14/16 (6 weeks), D&C 2/5/16 (9 weeks)
    BFP #2: 5/25/16, MC 6/23/16 (8 weeks), D&C 6/24/16, 2nd D&C for retained tissue and fibroid removal 9/1/16
    BFP #3: 12/24/16  EDD 09/04/2017
    Pregnancy Ticker
  • @RiverSong15 I love all the trivia!!! So good. Can't wait for the next trivia night. I'll ace these questions!

    I'm dying over here in the TWW. I'm only 8DPO but every cough is a sure sign of BFN AND BFP!!! I usually have little to no PMS. Right now, I'm having dry mouth, queasiness, dizziness...but a cough is developing so clearly I'm having flu symptoms NOT pregnancy symptoms. 6 more days to testing. I may not make it! 

    If if I had to wait three more weeks, I would be more of a nightmare than I am now. How did our mothers do it?  Mine had the gaul to tell me that after she got her BFP with me, she never went back to the doctor or did any other testing! WTF????  I am not my mother's daughter!


    RiverSong15rainbowturtles
  • Sorry for AF @stephann85
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

    stephann85
  • I believe I'm here now.  I had two days of solid smileys and a low test this morning.  The waiting begins.   This is my 2nd cycle post MC.  First one appeared fairly normal but never saw a positive OPK.  I was a week late with this cycle but things seemed to fall in place with positive OPK.  So here's to hoping for BFPs!  I try to wait until I miss my period before POAS but sometimes I test early if I have plans that involve a little festive beverages. Hopefully I can wait it out without too much crazy lol
  • @fiorip GL! Keep us posted! Praying this is your rainbow. 
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • @fiorip Good luck!!! Rooting for you!!!
    fiorip
  • Congrats @fiorip ! hope you get good news.
    *** TW ***
    Me 31, DH 30
    Married: 07/2014, TTC since 12/2015
    BFP #1: 1/1/16, MC 1/14/16 (6 weeks), D&C 2/5/16 (9 weeks)
    BFP #2: 5/25/16, MC 6/23/16 (8 weeks), D&C 6/24/16, 2nd D&C for retained tissue and fibroid removal 9/1/16
    BFP #3: 12/24/16  EDD 09/04/2017
    Pregnancy Ticker
    fiorip
  • congrats @fiorip !

    typically women put a TW before announcing a bfp, would you mind editing your post? thanks.
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
    fiorip
  • Im sorry @stephann85 -fx next cylce for you!

    Congrats @fiorip
    stephann85fiorip
  • @fiorip congrats! Fx for good results!
    fiorip
  • ******lurking*****

    @fiorip congrats!!!!
    fiorip
  • RiverSong15RiverSong15 member
    edited November 2016
    @fiorip Yay!!! I was hoping for this best possible outcome! Hoping this is your rainbow!

    @Stephann85 Sorry for CD1.  :(

    @NewMommyCoop and @kidria I know, right? I'm an 8DPO tester. No way could I have the patience to wait until 6 weeks (28 DPO!). And the early kits weren't stick tests. They involved tube with liquid, looking for color change or a ring of color. That was part of the problem with inaccurate results. It was almost like a 7th grade science experiment in your bathroom...lol. Easy to mess up if you didn't follow directions exactly right. We are indeed spoiled in this age of instant gratification. But could you imagine even farther back, before modern medicine and blood tests, when the only way to know for sure if you were pregnant was when a doctor could hear a heartbeat with a stethoscope or you get movement? Imagine TTC with PCOS and irregular cycles back then! I'm definitely a modern-age kind of woman....
    stephann85fiorip
  • Congrats @fiorip

    @reneeannemm I appreciate your response. What you described is exactly how I've been feeling. I get gutted by a BFN, then I start fresh and am positive and determined to make the next cycle work, then halfway through the TWW I lose hope. It's like ground hog's day. It's so mentally draining. I feel like ever since my loss, I haven't been able to get into a good pattern with just life in general. I function, but just enough to get things done and as you mentioned the bad days tend to span over a period of time. The upcoming holiday season is hitting me in a bad way, I didn't think it would but we conceived in December as well and it's making me sad to think we still haven't been successful.

    I am  12 or 13 DPO and am feeling not very hopeful. This is the time in every cycle where I just absolutely lose hope and am depressed which makes me think AF is on the way. I will hold off testing till Saturday.
     ****TW: Pregnancy, loss and children mentioned****
    Me (39) DH (40) 
    From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06 
    DH- no kids
    ******************
    TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
    IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN 
    IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
    1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!!  2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days,  D&C: 2/17/16
    TTCAL: May 2016
    IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
    IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
    IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
    IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
    **10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
    12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!! 
    Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
    fioriphartmich
  • @RiverSong15 I think I would go insane! July was the first time we actually tried and I got PG. So this is really the second time trying and because I think because of where we got last time, going through the MC, turning 39, I am a crazy ball of stress. I looked at the link you sent with statistics on DPO testing and am like, well I have a 50% chance of turning a positive if I am 9dpo on Sunday and I'm actually KU'd, maybe I should test then and just see. BSC!!! And I have like 5 HPTs at home, so I don't know if I can actually control myself. I know that I should wait until Monday or Tuesday.... but....
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

    RiverSong15
  • @newmommycoop I spent waaay too much time checking out the DPO testing. Maybe we should establish testing 'rules' around here. Something like no more than one test a day unless AF is late. Things to help keep the BSC in check, but also ground us in reality. :)

  • @fiorip Congrats!
    Me: 35     DH: 37
    BFP: 1.6.16 | MC: 2.17.16
    BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
    BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
    BFP:  1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- DS born 10.7.17 <3
    BFP:  9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19 -- DD born 5.24.19 <3
    BFP: 9.1.21 | MC 10.1.21
    BFP: 11.11.21 | EDD 7.24.22 

     

    fiorip
  • @fiorip Congrats!!!! FX for darker lines!
    Me 29, DH 32
    Married: 03/2014
    BFP: 08/20/16, Blighted ovum 9/26/16 (8 weeks 4 days), D&C 9/28/16 (8 weeks 6 days)
    BFP: 12/16/16  => DD born 08/27/2017
    fiorip
  • I'm out ladies. HCG is now 16 and I had the slightest amount of spotting today. Since I'm out, I just hope I get full-fledged AF for the first time in forever.

    GL to all...I hope to not see you back in WTO!
    *TW*

    TTC#1 - 6.3.16
    BFP#1 - 7.1.16, (mo-di twins + singleton) due 3.15.17
    MC singleton - 7.13.16 - 5w
    MMC identical twins - 8.5.16 - 8w+2d
    Misoprostol 4x
    D&C - 9.12.16
    Hysteroscopy - 11.21.16 - Retained tissue filling half of uterus removed, blocked left tube, benched for 2 cycles, on estrogen/progesterone for 30 days
    HSG - 2.7.17 - Asherman's Syndrome. Both tubes open.
    Hysteroscopy 2.13.17 - Incomplete adhesiolysis for Asherman's, benched & on estrogen/progesterone for 30 days. At least two more surgeries needed...
    Hysteroscopy 3.21.17 - Adhesiolysis for Asherman's, benched & on estrogen/progesterone for 30 days.
    TTCAL #1: 4.24.17
    Hysteroscopy 5.23.17 - Scars reformed. Adhesiolysis. Unsure what to do next...
    Fertility acupuncture - started 6.13.17
  • @weareturtles I'm sorry. 

    I guess i go here now. I usually only temp now a day or so to confirm ovulation but the last few months I've had a slow rise pattern and today I was just at my CL. I'm pretty sure I O'd yesterday though. 

    Rant for today...the new girl asked me what kind of caffeine free tea I have. She drinks tons of coffee every day which naturally leaves me to believe that she is KU. Ugh...don't people know it's my turn?! I'm sooooo ready for the weekend. 
    Pregnancy Ticker
  • szwill86szwill86 member
    edited November 2016
    @weareturtles sorry to hear about your results. 

    @moofish2364 isn't our thought process so crazy after losses that we always think that way?? I would have thought that, too. I feel like I'm symptom spotting for everyone else in addition to myself so it's not as much of a shock if/when others announce their pregnancy. 

    AFM- I go here now at 2 DPO. Had a big temp jump yesterday but no CL yet. Of course I input fake temps in FF to see what my DPO is/coverline is. I'm not testing until next Saturday the 12th because I usually have an 11-12 day LP. At least the later days of my LP I'll be occupied with work so I can't go crazy googling things!

    *Edited bc mobile bump posted before I was done. 
  • Sorry for the news @weareturtles. Hopefully this fresh cycle will bring GL!
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • Tested today on what I THINK is 9DPO and got a BFN. Im not suprised since it is still early and I may have Oed later than that since I didn't temp or use OPKS this month (just tracked cm).  Will probably test Sunday or maybe hold until Monday if I can. Ive been feeling crampy but that could be any number of things. And both times I got BFPs I felt crampy and like AF is coming so who knows??
  • FX for you @TScalei
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

    TScalei
  • @MooFish2364 - Im a crazy symptom spotter on other people too - always pay attention to who is not drinking, do they have a baby bump etc. I totally feel that it is supposed to be my time too and has been for almost 2 years now. Its hard when people have not been married long and get pg bec I always just assume they did't have to go through all of this and it just seems so unfair.
  • And to top off my BFN this morning - my co worker who had a baby 3 days before my first EDD is coming in with the baby today - ugh! Hoping I can quickly see the baby and then go back to my office.
  • @tscalei good luck for a quick and eventless meeting with the baby!! That has got to be tough.
  • @TScalei good luck today.  

    @weareturtles So sorry for the HCG numbers... You are almost in the home stretch. 
  • @tscalei ugh that's hard- good luck. Hopefully others will be there, too so you can just make a quick appearance and a just as quick exit.  
  • I have been doing really well with my plan not to test until Tuesday. Starting last night the smell and sight of things that I either like or don't bug me has been making me turned off to near gagging. I know today at 7-9 DPO I need to hold off, but later this weekend won't be as much of a gamble.  If it keeps up, no promises.

    --TW---

    With both my MC and successful preg this also happened.

  • @TScalei hugs! FX you get a bfp in the coming days and good luck seeing the baby. Hopefully you can sneak away quickly. 

    I'm 5dpo today and doing ok. I thought my boobs felt a little sore so I've been feeling myself up all day and now I think they're sore from my obsessive checking lol it's going to be a long several days.
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
  • Thank you everyone - it was a little rough. Seeing up close and personal what you should have is just hard.
  • @TScalei I'm sorry you had to endure that. I work with people who are mostly older than me, so work pregnancy is pretty rare; however, three weeks after we learned of my MMC, I found out one of my coworkers was pregnant. I saw her today, but luckily I didn't notice a bump. I am praying I am KU'd before I have to see it.
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

    TScalei
  • @newmommycoop I hope with all my heart you are KU!! I have a few months until my EDD and am still positive I will be KU. I can't even begin to imagine the feelings if I'm not.
    NewMommyCoop
  • TWW emotions raging over here!

    *************TW*********TW*************TW**********

    Rant to ensue: 

    I just called a close friend, while crying, to ask her to not to share the details of her first PG scan with me when we see each other tonight. She's now disappointed in me and hurt.  I've tainted her happy day. I wanted to tell her she's never really had a happy day tainted. 

    Could all these emotions mean a BFP??? Or nasty PMS?  Probably the latter on this woe-is-me day. 


    rainbowturtles
  • @flipflopped Thank you! I hope you are before your EDD! Sending positive vibes for lots of BFPs in November!

    @kidria I'm sorry. Hopefully she will be able to understand why it would not be easy for you to see that right now. FX it is the first one! I am either one or two DPO behind you. When are you testing?
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • @kidria oh nooo I'm so sorry :( I actually just screamed "yes!!" out loud because I thought your TW meant a BFP! I don't remember how many dpo you are but know that's how much I'm pulling for you lol I think that's really insensitive of your friend. Even my in laws tried to keep one of the sisters BFPs from me when we visited in the summer and I barely know them. You'd think a close friend would understand. I'm sure there are tons of people who will be more than happy to ooo and awww over her scan that she should be able to respect your needs :/
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