Please tell me if you think I'm being a crazy mom!
My dad stops at green lights, does 10 mph under the speed limit, takes 3-5 miles after pulling onto the highway or interstate to get up to 10 mph under the speed limit, and tends to cross over the painted lines on the road more times than he even realizes. I'm not worried about him hitting someone, but rather someone not paying attention to him and hitting him. He also takes a lot of pills because of a back problem (his spine is basically slowly fusing to his hip) and he literally had a pump surgically inserted into his body that pumps morphine into his spine...so to say that he is driving under the influence is an understatement, but at the same time he doesn't act like he is doped out of his mind. (I'm sure his motor skills are impaired however). I've been telling him, my mom, my brother, and husband that his driving is a problem now for the last couple years.
Today after church, my mom offered to take my daughter home with her and my dad while I taught Sunday school. I said yes, but told her that she had to drive because I'm concerned with my dads driving. He lost it and told me it was the most hurtful thing anyone has ever said to him. Skip to 2 hours later when I got home from church to find a message on my voicemail from my dad telling me to call that we need to talk. I called and he was crying so he asked me to come over. I drove the 30 minutes back to their place and he went from crying to screaming at me. I tried to explain to him my reasons above and he screamed some more, told me that my mom doesn't think his driving is a problem (I just talked to my mom about his driving on Monday and she agreed with me at that time, but today acted like it was all new information to her, which irks me but that's for another day), said that this came out of nowhere (I've only been telling him for the past 2 years that his driving worries me)and then proceeded to yell at me and tell me that I was being crazy.
My dad and I have had our fair share of issues in the past, but I honestly feel that I'm doing what is in the best interest of my daughter. Am I out of bounds in not allowing him to drive her around? My mom sided with my dad this afternoon, so I'm seriously starting to feel like I'm being overly protective, but my gut is telling me to never let my daughter get in a car with him. I feel like I'm living in the twilight zone and everything that I've discussed with my family (other than my husband) about my dads driving never really happened. Am I being an overly protective mama bear???