Hi all! I'm new here but have been lurking around for the past few months b/c I have such bad baby fever! A little background on me: my fiancé and I will be getting married this December and have agreed that we will not have a child next year. However, he doesn't want to set a date for when we can start TTC. He wants to save more money before TTC, which is understandable, but I have my fears.
We will both be 30 next year, 31 in 2018. And this past year, my body has been all out of whack. I have been on hormonal birth control for almost 15 years. I've been on a few different brands but mainly Yaz/BeYaz and it had worked great. I always knew when I would be getting my period - right down to the exact time. But beginning in December 2015/January 2016, I started break-through bleeding right before and during ovulation. I passed what I believe was a clot after the second break-through bleeding (which was horrible). I told my gyno, who said that it could be that body is no longer reacting well to Yaz/BeYaz, so she switched me. I ended up getting my period twice that month (once during ovulation and then again when I'd normally get it), but I ended up getting off that pill because it made me bloated 24/7. I was so frustrated I asked to go back on Yaz, but two months after starting Yaz again I was back to break-through bleeding. I then asked to be on another BC (Orsythia, which I'm currently on), and have had one break-through bleeding. (We'll find out in a week if it'll happen again.) So for the year, I've had about 5 or 6 episodes of break-through bleeding before and during ovulation. I have an appointment with a new obgyn at the end of Nov. to talk about what's been going on.
My body has always been predictable until lately and it's freaking me out. These changes have only enhanced by fear of being unable to TTC over the age of 30. From my fiancé and I's talk the other night, I'm almost certain that we won't start TTC until we're 32. There's no budging with him either. My grand fear is that we wait to TTC until 32, giving my body a few months to adjust to not being on BC then nothing happening and me reaching age 35.
It also doesn't help that everyone around me (best friend, friends, co-workers) is having babies. It won't help that (I'm sure) we'll be asked when we'll have a baby after we get married. It's stressing me out and worsening my anxiety with all this.
So does anyone have any advice on how to get through this? Any experience with TTC over 30?
Me: 29 | DH: 29 Married: 12.3.16 TTC: to begin in December 2017