I don't think the world should stop because I'm pregnant. Like, why would I cancel Christmas for everyone else just because I'm having a baby? I get scaling back at your own house, and limiting travel/visits, but yeah..life goes on.
@brittnic86 I have gotten that from people with kids AND from people who don't have kids, and don't even plan on having them. I get the "this is what you're in for" advice from friends with kids, but luckily some of mine are also like, "Just cos I have a spawn doesn't mean that your kid won't be great at sleeping through the night, eating well, not being fussy, etc."
So, I mainly get annoyed from those WITHOUT kids who think having kids just ruins your life. This was mainly from some coworkers, who are much younger than me. I would always say, "I'm in my mid-30's... I've been there and done that for A LOT of things in life. Having a kid is not going to ruin me, nor will it stop me from doing stuff. Yes, I won't be able to just do whatever I want... but that is OK. Again, I've been there and done that. Now, I will just have to plan and that is totally OK."
Argh!!! I've had a cold for about a week, but dealing with it, I've been functioning just like I always do and getting sh*t done. I tried so hard to prevent DH from getting the cold in our house, but it happened. He is sick. WHY? Why is it that men cannot handle having a cold without acting like their world is ending??? We ran out of good decongestant 2 days ago, and this morning he has a fit about why I didn't go get some yesterday. Even though I was babysitting 2 kids, plus taking care of our kids, and house, and making meals for everyone, oh and I'm 31 weeks pregnant and have the SAME cold that he does but not taking any medication and I'm not turning into a whiny baby. But when I got sick, did he do anything for me? No! I took care of myself, I made my own soup and tea. Men just need to get over it. Especially mine. It's a cold, you aren't barfing, you don't have a fever, you aren't even coughing. A little congestion no reason to freak out. Get. Over. It. Tell me that I'm not the only one with a DH who turns into a 2 year old when he has a cold...
I'll join. @cgss11 I agree that cancelling Christmas is not necessary because I am having a newborn. But I think that just because DH and I decide not to attend a regular gathering we normally would because we may be in the hospital or home with a 1 day old and we just personally decide not to attend cancels any normal event for anyone else.
I think my related UO is that I don't think that Christmas (or other holiday) gifts are the most important thing. Not purchasing any gifts does not in any way mean we are cancelling anything nor should they be mandatory. I will add that we do not have any other children, nieces or nephews, or children siblings, who that may have more difficulty understanding. All adults here. And the holidays are not about gifts to me, so if we don't buy gifts, and don't expect gifts in return, doesn't mean that we are skipping Christmas. We will definitely still attend whatever we can with the obvious limitations of labor, hospital, illness, etc.
@phoenix870509 My DH never gets sick, or it's very rare. However, I feel that he's in the minority of being a baby when he is sick. And, I do belive he has a good immune system. I had Influenza B a couple years ago, and he never got it at all. I was surprised as we kept our distance, but I still slept in the same bed, etc.
Also, my belly button hasn't popped either. But, I did notice last night that it's sticking out a little bit more than what it has. When I rub my hand over the area, I can feel it whereas before I still couldn't. I have no round belly, it's round and then goes flat. I am indifferent if I want it too or not, but maybe would round out my belly more if it did.
My UO is that the hospital nursery (if available) is there for a reason, and that medals aren't handed out if you don't use their services. Implying that mom's who do use the nursery are taking advantage and/or taking the easy way out is both rude and judgemental. It's my opinion that new moms shouldn't be shamed for using a service that they may need for whatever reason (emotional/mental or physical). Not everyone reacts to giving birth the same way. Stepping down from my soapbox now...sorry some comments on a FB group I belong to still have me a bit annoyed.
My PPO (probably popular opinion) is that these ads on desktop Bump are DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!! Whyyyyy...??? They can't possibly be effective for anything besides annoying users.
Our hospital has a nursery but they are very "Room In" with everything. However, did say that if you wanted your baby in the nursery for whatever reason, they were totally OK with that. At the time of our tour, no baby was in there and this was about 8:15ish at night. I had been in that area 4 years ago when my youngest nephew was born and don't recall any babies in the nursery then either, and that was in the afternoon.
As a FTM, I am playing everything by ear and just seeing how it goes. If we want LO in my room the whole time, great. If either of us need a break from him... then off to the nursery he goes. I know if we decide to circumcise, they take him to the nursery to perform that there and he would remain until it was done... so there is some rest time.