I think the "are you sure it's not twins" comment is the most annoying. But last time at work when a random patron found out I was expecting she said, "OH!! I was wondering why you were getting a little fat in the face". Not cool, lady. Not cool.
While working out yesterday morning, some random old dude at the gym, that I don't even know, came right up to me and said..... "Looks like you're starting to show!" Um. Say what? Who the flip are you???
As it turns out, he knows my husband, and my husband had told him we were expecting, but still..... !! Grrrrrr
I think the "are you sure it's not twins" comment is the most annoying. But last time at work when a random patron found out I was expecting she said, "OH!! I was wondering why you were getting a little fat in the face". Not cool, lady. Not cool.
oh no no no! That's so far beyond not cool! Oh man id be mad... And then I'd cry...
I haven't gotten anything too bad yet since I'm not showing much, but I have had a friend who has a 3 month old announce to the group we were eating out with that "kap1988 can't have that unless it's well done" and at subway "Are you sure you want to eat here?" This from a girl who vaped the entire pregnancy and snuck cigarettes on occasion and I never said a peep to her. I don't drink, smoke, drink coffee, eat sushi, and on and on. The one thing I will do is have a sub every so often.
I think the "are you sure it's not twins" comment is the most annoying. But last time at work when a random patron found out I was expecting she said, "OH!! I was wondering why you were getting a little fat in the face". Not cool, lady. Not cool.
oh no no no! That's so far beyond not cool! Oh man id be mad... And then I'd cry...
Yep! Pretty much the order of emotions, then came makeup contouring research
I haven't gotten anything too bad yet since I'm not showing much, but I have had a friend who has a 3 month old announce to the group we were eating out with that "kap1988 can't have that unless it's well done" and at subway "Are you sure you want to eat here?" This from a girl who vaped the entire pregnancy and snuck cigarettes on occasion and I never said a peep to her. I don't drink, smoke, drink coffee, eat sushi, and on and on. The one thing I will do is have a sub every so often.
"Are you sure you want to eat that" the freaking worst! Yes, actually I have done lots and lots of research before making up my mind that it is ok to occasionally have "x" and No, I don't need to hear your opinion about it either!
the most annoying things i'm getting now is 'twins! are they natural??' wtf is that? they weren't made in a freaking factory. also why do people feel like it's their business to know whether or not i had fertility treatments?? boggles the mind. the second most annoying has been 'are you sure there's ONLY two? cause like, you're pretty big' well two ultrasounds say two jackhole bleh
in general... "oh, you're pregnant!? Let me tell you the worst birth story I've ever heard of a friend of a friend of a cousin of a....". NO! JUST NO!!
in general... "oh, you're pregnant!? Let me tell you the worst birth story I've ever heard of a friend of a friend of a cousin of a....". NO! JUST NO!!
why do people think this is okay!?
Or: "Oh you have bad morning sickness? Let me tell you alllllll about how sick I was for my entire pregnancy, details about how I puked on myself in the car, and more excruciating details about how many times I puked at work or in public."
My husband's aunt did this in a restaurant a few weeks ago when my m/s was really bad, while we were eating. I barley ate, then went home and immediately puked up my three bites.
I hate how the "just wait" comments start from pregnancy announcement onward. Pregnant with number one: "you're excited now, but just wait...you'll never sleep again." And then every stage from then on, there is always something worse coming up. "Just wait till she's crawling....walking.....talking....a teen...." And THEN, with number 2 on the way... "two? Oh it sounds fun, but wait until you're home alone for the first time and you're out numbered.....or they fight non stop.....or they never let you sleep between the two of them." Blah, blah, blah. I happen to enjoy my daughter immensely. She's a handful at times, but every stage has its ups and downs and I know that having two will have both its ups and downs too. Maybe if so many people weren't focused on the crappy parts of each stage, they'd find more joy in their parenting.
in general... "oh, you're pregnant!? Let me tell you the worst birth story I've ever heard of a friend of a friend of a cousin of a....". NO! JUST NO!!
why do people think this is okay!?
Or: "Oh you have bad morning sickness? Let me tell you alllllll about how sick I was for my entire pregnancy, details about how I puked on myself in the car, and more excruciating details about how many times I puked at work or in public."
My husband's aunt did this in a restaurant a few weeks ago when my m/s was really bad, while we were eating. I barley ate, then went home and immediately puked up my three bites.
Ugh!! Yes!!
Or: Them: oh have you felt sick? Me: yes-it's really bad actually. throwing up 3-4x a day and constant nausea. Them: have you tried ___insert basic nasuea thing like ginger or saltines ? Me in my head:
"Oh Twins! Do they run in the family or..........." and then they trail off. It's none of your business! Just say congrats!
"Oh Twins.....that means bedrest for you!" I just want to throat punch these people. It's like no, actually, it doesn't automatically mean that. And I have a doctor to make that decision with and I promise I don't need your input!
Me 29 I DH 28 Married in April 2007 One Furbaby - Adorable Pitt Mix 15 Months TTC....2nd Cycle of Letrozole - Success! Expecting our first two little miracles - Boy/Girl Twins! - EDD March 3, 2017 High Risk Pregnancy - Type 1 Diabetic; Hypothyroidism; Di/Di Twin Pregnancy
My last pregnancy (last year) a customer on the phone who I'd formerly been friendly with asked if I'd gained a lot of weight. I told him that I hadn't because I just can't eat as much as I used to. He responded with, "My sister didn't eat much when she was pregnant either and her baby was born with Down's Syndrome." Like WTF dude? Even if that is how Down's Syndrome happens, why would you say it to a pregnant woman?
the most annoying things i'm getting now is 'twins! are they natural??' wtf is that? they weren't made in a freaking factory. also why do people feel like it's their business to know whether or not i had fertility treatments?? boggles the mind. the second most annoying has been 'are you sure there's ONLY two? cause like, you're pretty big' well two ultrasounds say two jackhole bleh
THIS!!!!
and follows with "HOW DID THAT HAPPEN?!"
and one of my coworker who should know better *she is a grandma already* straight up asked me "so were yall trying for a long time and stuff? since yall had to do IVF?"
I was like um.. "we are carrying identical twins, which are not easily replicated in a lab....... it was unexpected... no twins in our families.... so I guess that is as "Natural" as you can get... "
My last pregnancy (last year) a customer on the phone who I'd formerly been friendly with asked if I'd gained a lot of weight. I told him that I hadn't because I just can't eat as much as I used to. He responded with, "My sister didn't eat much when she was pregnant either and her baby was born with Down's Syndrome." Like WTF dude? Even if that is how Down's Syndrome happens, why would you say it to a pregnant woman?
Oh my gosh. I'd flip out. My youngest sister has Downs Syndrome and the ignorance surrounding disabilities in general is infuriating.
My last pregnancy (last year) a customer on the phone who I'd formerly been friendly with asked if I'd gained a lot of weight. I told him that I hadn't because I just can't eat as much as I used to. He responded with, "My sister didn't eat much when she was pregnant either and her baby was born with Down's Syndrome." Like WTF dude? Even if that is how Down's Syndrome happens, why would you say it to a pregnant woman?
I get lots of compliments (I guess they're compliments?) about my husband's sperm, since we're having twins. As if that means his sperm is more superior than others' because I ovulated two eggs. a) that's not how twins work even a little bit, and b) even if it were...how exactly do I respond to that?
A dumb coworker approached me this morning and said "Wow, look at you. You must be due soon." I said "Nope. Not even close" and then I walked off. As the day went on, it made me more and more mad. I want to walk up to her tomorrow and ask her if her a$$ is expecting!
HATE THIS. "You have no idea what you're getting yourself into". Yeah, I get that. But I'm about as prepared as I feel I can be, so eff off.
julievdm12 said:
I hate how the "just wait" comments start from pregnancy announcement onward. Pregnant with number one: "you're excited now, but just wait...you'll never sleep again." And then every stage from then on, there is always something worse coming up. "Just wait till she's crawling....walking.....talking....a teen...." And THEN, with number 2 on the way... "two? Oh it sounds fun, but wait until you're home alone for the first time and you're out numbered.....or they fight non stop.....or they never let you sleep between the two of them." Blah, blah, blah. I happen to enjoy my daughter immensely. She's a handful at times, but every stage has its ups and downs and I know that having two will have both its ups and downs too. Maybe if so many people weren't focused on the crappy parts of each stage, they'd find more joy in their parenting.
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As it turns out, he knows my husband, and my husband had told him we were expecting, but still..... !! Grrrrrr
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16
Not sure if compliment or insult?
Nope.....maternity leave won't start until the end of March. Thanks though!
You're finally showing!
Yup, 14 weeks=FINALLY showing
https://www.fitpregnancy.com/parenting/real-mom-stories/here-s-the-only-acceptable-thing-to-say-to-a-pregnant-woman
I don't understand why this is so hard for people.
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
the second most annoying has been 'are you sure there's ONLY two? cause like, you're pretty big' well two ultrasounds say two jackhole bleh
Me: 37
DH: 36
Married: 08-25-07
DS: 11-20-09
Name change alert: Formerly Lisswastaken
Me: 37
DH: 36
Married: 08-25-07
DS: 11-20-09
Name change alert: Formerly Lisswastaken
No
why do people think this is okay!?
I don't need to be reminded how abysmal maternity leave is in the US. haha
No. Please stop.
My husband's aunt did this in a restaurant a few weeks ago when my m/s was really bad, while we were eating. I barley ate, then went home and immediately puked up my three bites.
"You're not fat yet." from a friend when I sent her my 14 week bump picture.... gee thanks,... I guess...
"Is everything going to be okay? What about your tiny uterus?" from my MIL none the less about my high risk pregnancy.
Me: 33 Hubs: 34
TTC since 5/2014
BFP: 7/27/14 MC: 9/20/14
BFP: 6/29/15 MC: 7/6/15
BFP: 7/17/16 EDD: 3/22/17
And THEN, with number 2 on the way...
"two? Oh it sounds fun, but wait until you're home alone for the first time and you're out numbered.....or they fight non stop.....or they never let you sleep between the two of them." Blah, blah, blah.
I happen to enjoy my daughter immensely. She's a handful at times, but every stage has its ups and downs and I know that having two will have both its ups and downs too. Maybe if so many people weren't focused on the crappy parts of each stage, they'd find more joy in their parenting.
**end rant**
Or: Them: oh have you felt sick? Me: yes-it's really bad actually. throwing up 3-4x a day and constant nausea. Them: have you tried ___insert basic nasuea thing like ginger or saltines ? Me in my head:
"Oh Twins! Do they run in the family or..........." and then they trail off. It's none of your business! Just say congrats!
"Oh Twins.....that means bedrest for you!" I just want to throat punch these people. It's like no, actually, it doesn't automatically mean that. And I have a doctor to make that decision with and I promise I don't need your input!
Married in April 2007
One Furbaby - Adorable Pitt Mix
15 Months TTC....2nd Cycle of Letrozole - Success!
Expecting our first two little miracles - Boy/Girl Twins! - EDD March 3, 2017
High Risk Pregnancy - Type 1 Diabetic; Hypothyroidism; Di/Di Twin Pregnancy
THIS!!!!
and follows with "HOW DID THAT HAPPEN?!"
and one of my coworker who should know better *she is a grandma already* straight up asked me "so were yall trying for a long time and stuff? since yall had to do IVF?"
I was like um.. "we are carrying identical twins, which are not easily replicated in a lab....... it was unexpected... no twins in our families.... so I guess that is as "Natural" as you can get... "
she felt bad.
I didn't care -.-
SaveSave"oh you don't look that good today"
me "yes I still feel queasy sometimes"
"but your like really big already"
me "it just looks that way cus im carrying twin, but also double the hormones"
"what cant you eat?"
me "I have general food aversion"
"oh I heard this this this this this this this food, always make pregos want to throw up.. (keeps naming food)"
me----thinking.... im going to throw up. in ur face. just let me. stop talking u idiot.
SaveSaveYou should offer your condolences for his/her partner's inferior sperm.
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16
julievdm12 said:
EDD: 3/13/17