Hey ladies! I thought it would be fun to start a thread that we can all benefit from. In my last Birth Month Club, we had a thread like this where we posted once a week to gripe about our so's. It's actually pretty funny reading people's stories. It can be anything from "my husband ate my last bag of Doritos" to "my boyfriend doesn't understand why I'm so annoyed about his mom's behavior." Anyway, you get the gist! Get your vent on, you vicious pregnant women! Haha
I am sure it's mainly hormones making me extra irritable but I am so tired of hearing "Why are you going to bed so early? Why are you so tired? What is wrong with you?" Dude, not our first rodeo and plus I am chasing a toddler this time.. THAT is why! I kinda snapped the other day and was like "STOP asking me this!!"
Oh, also last week he texted me before coming home to work - "Can I have the night off from parenting and just have a few beers?" My response, "Not a fair question to ask your pregnant, hormonal, nauseous wife, so NO."
This week has been good so far though - he even let me take a four hour nap and mope around on Sunday.
We are typically a super active couple - always biking, working out, etc. etc. but for the last 3 weeks I have been insanely tired and had bad stomach aches. I constantly felt like SO was upset that we were just sitting in every night so the other night I asked him about it. He said something along the lines of "I just want you to be normal" and I SNAPPED lol. Later on he explained he meant he just doesnt want to see me in pain all the time, but at the time, I went all ARE YOU KIDDING ME. hahah
My husband keeps asking me to make fried buffalo shrimp. This morning sickness has me not wanting to smell grease or be anywhere near the kitchen. Its funny, because he starts to ask in this sweet voice (while rubbing my shoulders) "do you feel like making buffalo shrimp tonight?" Its like dude, until this nauseating feeling goes away, the answer is no! He's been asking every week. Poor guy, but hey... if I'm suffering, I'm taking you down with me!
I have another one... this morning DH was like "so do you think you'll be horny pregnant this time?". I just gave him the look, but seriously, do you not remember the 6 months of puking we went through last time?
My wife lost weight and stopped snoring for a while....now all of a sudden she decided she was going to start that nonsense again! I'm ready to kick her out of bed.
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Us: 37, 38, unexplained IF TTC for the second time
Married 10/21/12 to my wonderful wife
TTC with frozen donor sperm and science
since 2/2014
7 IUIs, 1 cancelled due to too many follicles, 6 BFNs. IVF #1 & 2 Failed
IVF #3 20 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 11 fertilized with ICSI, 6 made it to day 5 2 blasts transferred 7/17
Beta #1 7/26 ***BFP*** 144 Beta #2 7/28 271
Beta #3 8/4 1972
8/15 - Officially pregnant with TWINS
9/1 - Baby B no longer has a heartbeat, Baby A is holding on! 9/29 - MMC
I have another one... this morning DH was like "so do you think you'll be horny pregnant this time?". I just gave him the look, but seriously, do you not remember the 6 months of puking we went through last time?
LOL Dh literally asks me the same thing. I wanted nothing to do with Dh last time, and I know he's praying that it's not the case this time around. As I'm lying on the couch being nauseous and dealing with cramps he asked me again and I was like uh no. See me again in about 2 months when we're well out of the 1st trimester.
I haven't had any crazy symptoms, just sore boobs, exhaustion, some occasional light nausea, but no vomiting. I've been open with DH about my symptoms, because, well....he's DH and the father of this child...seems logical to me. So basically every day I've been saying how tired I am and occasionally I'll make a comment of my sore boobs when something hits it or rubs against it. I've even occasionally told him when my stomach was churning. Well last night he proceeds to tell me that I am "being a big baby" during this pregnancy and I wasn't this way with DS. He clearly doesn't have a very good memory of me falling asleep at like 6pm when I was pregnant with DS. Or him not being able to touch my boobs. Or me gagging everytime I brushed my teeth.
I like the idea of this thread, but can we consider changing the name next time to something like "WTF SO?!" I'll admit DH can be oblivious sometimes, but I am really against name calling in a marriage and I'm sure all of our partners are great most of the time, so calling them a-holes isn't really cool. It might make it a little more comfortable for others to participate.
@housewifehobbyist I don't think "a-hole" is gonna scare any of these ladies away from posting, but if everyone agrees with you, I'll gladly change the name!
@housewifehobbyist I don't think "a-hole" is gonna scare any of these ladies away from posting, but if everyone agrees with you, I'll gladly change the name!
I think the current title is funny. My husband is the best man I've ever met, but he sure can be an a-hole every now and then!
I don't care either way, but obviously it should be a post that everyone can relate to and feel comfortable writing on. With that being said, maybe we should change the name. Just let me know so I can update the Read This First post.
Also, another reason why DH is driving me insane....He works in construction and makes decent money for never having been to college (no hate here), but I am definitely the breadwinner. His job has been pretty slow lately, and so they are going to transfer him to an area that is busier. He does not want to go to this new area. He says the chances of him returning to his original area once it picks back up are not a for sure thing, but I think they would gladly grab him back. Well, now he's texting me saying that he wants to ask his boss to lay him off. Ummm.....WTF?!?!!? And that he is going to go on an interview at a company that one of his coworkers went over to. But this new company requires travel and his current one doesn't. He says the pay is slightly higher, but I don't think its enough to validate the move of companies. Also, if he changes jobs right now, he won't qualify for FMLA and therefore won't be able to take much time off when baby arrives. I've discussed this all with him already and told him that he is stressing me out and he says "How is this stressing you out. Its my job?" Does he think his job has no effect on me or our family?!?!?!?!?!
Currently I'm annoyed at my DH bc of fantasy football (already). Why does the draft party have to be an entire weekend event?? Normally I don't care as much, but I'm just totally sick and beyond exhausted right now and trying to get the older 2 kids ready for school (supplies, new shoes, clothes, soccer season stuff, and summer homework) and keep the little 2 occupied with the heat and bugs ... all of them have just been together too long this summer and the bickering is nonstop. And daddy gets to disappear for the weekend to go hang out, play golf, eat delicious catered food, and booze it up while I pull double duty! Ugh! On top of him being out of town for work for a few night here and there for the next couple weeks. Really grinds my gears.
@housewifehobbyist I don't think "a-hole" is gonna scare any of these ladies away from posting, but if everyone agrees with you, I'll gladly change the name!
I think the current title is funny. My husband is the best man I've ever met, but he sure can be an a-hole every now and then!
I agree that its just a funny title too. And really... who isn't an a-hole every once in a while... I know I can be, so can fiance
@Dannylion24, I am also annoyed about fantasy football. I don't understand why DH just has to be in so many leagues. I really don't care once the drafts are over, but the drafting kills me!
@Dannylion24@chelle087 I am in 3 fantasy football leagues which is totally ridiculous and I'm fully aware of it. I love FF, it really brings out my competitive side (esp. when playing DH, ha!) However, none of mine involve a full weekend of shirking all responsibilities, so I totally feel you there! That would grind my gears too.
@housewifehobbyist, I agree about the name change. I'm sure I'll have things to post in here at one point or another, but name calling isn't something we are cool with in my marriage. And maybe I'm just being uptight, but the current name would prevent me from posting. Sorry!! Just being honest, ladies
@housewifehobbyist@STM2017 I spoke with @KirstinH88 and the name change will change when I post again next Friday, since that is my designated day. (I wasn't gonna post this Friday, b/c that would be two posts in one week.) Thanks for the feedback, gals! Name suggestions would help, since the first one wasn't up-to-par.
I kind of liked the symmetry of the other thread of having a similar name... What about "SO... oh no!" and "SO... oh yeah" (which you must say like you are a giant kool-aid man...)
@schef070911 I think that's cool that you play FF! Maybe I will learn something from you and will actually be able to follow along with DH. The season itself doesn't bug me, just the timing of the draft party is rubbing me the wrong way. Let's go sport! Yay team!
@schef070911 I think that's cool that you play FF! Maybe I will learn something from you and will actually be able to follow along with DH. The season itself doesn't bug me, just the timing of the draft party is rubbing me the wrong way. Let's go sport! Yay team!
Re: Why my SO is an a-hole
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
So rathet than fold the laundry, DH piled it all on the floor. And then the dog ate my favourite lululemon hoodie and DH was not nearly upset enough.
I'm not sure who I'm more mad at- DH or the dog...
Edited because stupid TB cut me off... maybe they're the bigger a-hole
I am sure it's mainly hormones making me extra irritable but I am so tired of hearing "Why are you going to bed so early? Why are you so tired? What is wrong with you?" Dude, not our first rodeo and plus I am chasing a toddler this time.. THAT is why! I kinda snapped the other day and was like "STOP asking me this!!"
Oh, also last week he texted me before coming home to work - "Can I have the night off from parenting and just have a few beers?" My response, "Not a fair question to ask your pregnant, hormonal, nauseous wife, so NO."
This week has been good so far though - he even let me take a four hour nap and mope around on Sunday.
We are typically a super active couple - always biking, working out, etc. etc. but for the last 3 weeks I have been insanely tired and had bad stomach aches. I constantly felt like SO was upset that we were just sitting in every night so the other night I asked him about it. He said something along the lines of "I just want you to be normal" and I SNAPPED lol. Later on he explained he meant he just doesnt want to see me in pain all the time, but at the time, I went all ARE YOU KIDDING ME. hahah
[spoiler]
Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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TTC for the second time
7 IUIs, 1 cancelled due to too many follicles, 6 BFNs.
IVF #1 & 2 Failed
2 blasts transferred 7/17
Beta #2 7/28 271
9/29 - MMC
12/21 - Baby Boy born
12/10 - FET transfered 1 3BB blast
Beta #1 12/19 - 88
Beta #2 12/21 - 230
Beta #3 12/18 - 3066
[spoiler]
Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Also, another reason why DH is driving me insane....He works in construction and makes decent money for never having been to college (no hate here), but I am definitely the breadwinner. His job has been pretty slow lately, and so they are going to transfer him to an area that is busier. He does not want to go to this new area. He says the chances of him returning to his original area once it picks back up are not a for sure thing, but I think they would gladly grab him back. Well, now he's texting me saying that he wants to ask his boss to lay him off. Ummm.....WTF?!?!!? And that he is going to go on an interview at a company that one of his coworkers went over to. But this new company requires travel and his current one doesn't. He says the pay is slightly higher, but I don't think its enough to validate the move of companies. Also, if he changes jobs right now, he won't qualify for FMLA and therefore won't be able to take much time off when baby arrives. I've discussed this all with him already and told him that he is stressing me out and he says "How is this stressing you out. Its my job?" Does he think his job has no effect on me or our family?!?!?!?!?!
End rant.
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Told you I'm not creative lol
I kind of liked the symmetry of the other thread of having a similar name... What about "SO... oh no!" and "SO... oh yeah" (which you must say like you are a giant kool-aid man...)
@allybadry Oh yeah!!!!!
Edited to add gif
DS: 10-9-14
MC: 9-4-16