@caffeinenut How do you bring it up with your FI? I'm pretty straight forward about most things, especially with DH, but I'd say "so, we both know we're one and done, how do you feel about taking permanent measures to be sure we keep it that way?" and see what he says. If you're at all interested in tubal ligation, I'd talk to your OB about it sooner rather than later. Not all will do it during the c-section, particularly if the c-section is emergency (and having had an emergency c-section in the past, I can say I definitely wasn't in the mindset to think of asking for that in the moment), so even if it is just a fact finding conversation, I'd recommend having it at your next appointment so you can really accurately weigh your options.
@tinattt23 I actually have thought about being a surrogate. I just don't think I could detach myself emotionally by the end. Instead I do a lot of milk donating around our home and for the human milk banking association out in Ohio. I have already off loaded 5,000 ounces and am finally down to my last 2,000+ ounces.
@yellingbanana oh no! That's exactly why my OB said he didn't want me to proceed fixing if I was debating having another. However after DD2 my hernia got worse. With that we decided to give number three a try and if by DDs one year we had not conceived another viable pregnancy then I would move forward with seeing the surgeon. My OB said hat once the uterus is up above the belly button the risk factor will go down for a while. Until then I actually tape my belly button in with kinesiology tape
Sorry for for the delay ladies. I wish the app gave notifications
DH &
I are both 28 Together:
12 years Married: 09/24/2011
BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012
Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12
We both agreed on the vasectomy. He was surprisingly not opposed to it at all. I think the thought of the possibility of having a second set of twins has scared us both into it. But we are waiting until after I give birth. Obviously the babies are healthy now, but I would hate to have him go through that, and have something happen that would make us want to try again. We might do it a month or so after their birth.
@DiFazette - I discussed this issue further and at great length with my Dr today. Totally confirmed for us I will be having the tubal removal.
Specifics: 1: Procedure time - tubal removal "takes me maybe 5 minutes longer, 7 minutes tops" quoting my Dr today. 2: Process - once they finish removing the baby in a c-section, they pull the entire uterus out, remove the placenta, clean out the ute, flush it with saline solution, stitch it up, flush out the abdominal cavity, put the ute back and close you up. Adding in the tubal removal they do all of that the same - only difference is they remove the tubes while the uterus is out. Straighter shot than if you had the procedure alone, no need for laproscopic incisions and such 3: Recovery - no additional time in surgery (just open the additional 5-7minutes max), no additional recovery procedures, no additional pain. Should be no different recovery than a c-section alone. He did acknowledge anytime a cut is made there is risk of bleeding and/or infection, which is obvious. 4: Up to 85% reduction in risk of ovarian cancer. Recent studies have discovered that many ovarian cancers start in the Fallopian tubes and it moves to the ovaries where it is finally discovered. This eliminates that genesis of the cancer cells
@jennbaylor12 thank you! I had my appt yesterday too and heard much of the same... Been meaning to come back to update this thread. OB did say that they can 'try' at time of birth. If the vessels look huge, and the uterus is still very big (likely in my case because - twins) they may not move forward.
No change in recovey time. Short amount of post delivery time and no change in how things are treated as far as skin to skin/nursing assuming babies are healthy. She said that the evidence is tipping towards this being a huge reduction in cancer, but there's only been a study or two in a short follow up window - so it hasn't become to accepted standard of care, yet. She did believe strongly in the benefits of tube removal but was cautious to say it's been absolutely proven.
There is a risk of more bleeding (especially if the vessels are large) removing the tubes than in a normal tubal. For me - that's going to be a concern since I'm predisposed to serious medical conditions that make me loose blood in greater quantities for others. My H had to sign paperwork last birth for transfusions so I am a little concerned about that - but that's pretty unique to people with blood/clotting issues or pre-e/HELLP.
I think we're still going to talk to a Uroligist about H and then make a decision. OB asked that I them know in 8 weeks.
Re: Tubes tied/vasectomy
How do you bring it up with your FI? I'm pretty straight forward about most things, especially with DH, but I'd say "so, we both know we're one and done, how do you feel about taking permanent measures to be sure we keep it that way?" and see what he says.
If you're at all interested in tubal ligation, I'd talk to your OB about it sooner rather than later. Not all will do it during the c-section, particularly if the c-section is emergency (and having had an emergency c-section in the past, I can say I definitely wasn't in the mindset to think of asking for that in the moment), so even if it is just a fact finding conversation, I'd recommend having it at your next appointment so you can really accurately weigh your options.
@yellingbanana oh no! That's exactly why my OB said he didn't want me to proceed fixing if I was debating having another. However after DD2 my hernia got worse. With that we decided to give number three a try and if by DDs one year we had not conceived another viable pregnancy then I would move forward with seeing the surgeon. My OB said hat once the uterus is up above the belly button the risk factor will go down for a while. Until then I actually tape my belly button in with kinesiology tape
Sorry for for the delay ladies. I wish the app gave notifications
DH & I are both 28 Together: 12 years Married: 09/24/2011
BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012
Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12
BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20
BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15
Specifics:
1: Procedure time - tubal removal "takes me maybe 5 minutes longer, 7 minutes tops" quoting my Dr today.
2: Process - once they finish removing the baby in a c-section, they pull the entire uterus out, remove the placenta, clean out the ute, flush it with saline solution, stitch it up, flush out the abdominal cavity, put the ute back and close you up. Adding in the tubal removal they do all of that the same - only difference is they remove the tubes while the uterus is out. Straighter shot than if you had the procedure alone, no need for laproscopic incisions and such
3: Recovery - no additional time in surgery (just open the additional 5-7minutes max), no additional recovery procedures, no additional pain. Should be no different recovery than a c-section alone. He did acknowledge anytime a cut is made there is risk of bleeding and/or infection, which is obvious.
4: Up to 85% reduction in risk of ovarian cancer. Recent studies have discovered that many ovarian cancers start in the Fallopian tubes and it moves to the ovaries where it is finally discovered. This eliminates that genesis of the cancer cells
Hope that helps!
No change in recovey time. Short amount of post delivery time and no change in how things are treated as far as skin to skin/nursing assuming babies are healthy. She said that the evidence is tipping towards this being a huge reduction in cancer, but there's only been a study or two in a short follow up window - so it hasn't become to accepted standard of care, yet. She did believe strongly in the benefits of tube removal but was cautious to say it's been absolutely proven.
There is a risk of more bleeding (especially if the vessels are large) removing the tubes than in a normal tubal. For me - that's going to be a concern since I'm predisposed to serious medical conditions that make me loose blood in greater quantities for others. My H had to sign paperwork last birth for transfusions so I am
a little concerned about that - but that's pretty unique to people with blood/clotting issues or pre-e/HELLP.
I think we're still going to talk to a Uroligist about H and then make a decision. OB asked that I them know in 8 weeks.