Has anyone doubted they could do natural birth but ended up doing it anyway? Deep down I really want to try natural birth but I already assume I won't be able to.
One thing I'd like to add is to be prepared for the mystery between you and your husband to completely vanish! For real, they will see it all. The good, the bad, the horrific. It does make for an incredible bonding experience though.
Thank you so much for all of this advice! I am writing things down haha. I do have a quick question - fetal heart monitors during labor - what is the deal? Is it on all the time or only periodically? Were you able to do wireless or were you hooked up to a machine? I foresee myself really wanting to be up and walking around/moving (goal of a natural birth). So just would love a little more insight
For a few weeks after my son was born, I would wake up practically drenched and have to change my pajamas because of hot flashes/hormones being crazy. No one ever mentioned that happening!
Ok question: when those of you who have given birth say "I was in labor for X amount of hours" what does that constitute? Is it that you had contractions consistently 4 or less minutes apart? Surely you would never push for like 24 hours right? So when did you start your labor count?
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16
@Schumerator Good question!! Lots of moms say hours upon hours.... Because they start counting when they started having small interspersed contractions. But you can have small contractions that really aren't a big deal days before real labor kicks in. And be partially dialated for weeks before baby arrives. I personally think labor hr count should be when "active labor" starts around 4-5 cm dialated with strong consistent contractions. When you're really "laboring" and it gets difficult. So for me I say labor was around 5hrs with 1/2 hr of pushing.
@briunit I feel the same way, and I'm PgAL to boot (frustrated + anxious + terrified = so freaking fun). I think that when we start getting a bump, it'll be exciting again because it's becoming real. And then the last month or so, we'll be over it once more and super uncomfortable and back to feeling tired and blah. From what I gather, pregnancy is a never-ending rollercoaster of emotions.
I will third the breastfeeding! It's stressful wondering if you are doing everything your baby needs. It's not like a bottle that you can literally see your child eating. However, don't let the lactation consultations freak you out! Over the 3 days total I was in the hospital with DD I had 4 different consultants come visit and each one told me something different. It made breastfeeding my biggest concern, so much so that I also asked every nurse that came in if I was doing it right. They have great tips but don't feel like you need to take notes when they speak, like I made DH
I wonder why lactation consultants tend to be discouraging to new mothers breastfeeding? I don't want to sound like all of them are like this - like anything else, experiences and individual personalities vary - but it's been a common theme.