How did you know you were ready to TTCAL?

Roxell

I had a miscarriage in May at 8 weeks. Some days I feel completely ready to TTC again, others days I'm not sure if I'll ever be ready again. Will the fear of another loss ever really go away? How do you know you've healed enough emotionally to start trying again? How did YOU know it was time to start trying again?

Thank you all.

HLD3194

I feel like when you're ready to accept any outcome you're ready. Be it your rainbow, your AF or another loss. Obviously I hope for my rainbow but I am prepared mentally for all 3.

yolandamunoz

I totally understand you. It is overwhelming to have this fears, and sometimes we feel very lonely. Not even our husbands/partners understand this thoroughly.

After my first loss, I was so devastated, I thought I could never recover. But slowly, step by step, bit by bit, I did. And I could go back to work, and come home to my husband, and care for each other.

For me, I felt ready when I woke up feeling more hopeful than sad. When I was not crying every other day, when I had my hopes up again for a future baby in my family. I felt ready to try again and I let hope drive me forward.

I hope you find these feelings in you very soon, and feel truly ready to try again. We are all in the same boat here!

Hugs
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Roxell

@crazypt2285 I like your 'hope for the best, prepare for the worst' attitude.

@yolandamunoz
That is how I was feeling, more hopeful and like I was ready to try again. But then my SIL put her 6 month old in my arms this weekend and I couldn't hold myself together. It made me rethink whether I really am ready to try again.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this ladies.

AandDM2014

I had an MMC at 10 weeks, and I personally felt ready to try again right away. Of course, my RE felt differently, and we're now almost 3.5 months later getting ready to do another transfer. A lot of it is if you feel ready for any outcome. I've found peace that whatever happens, happens, and I have no control over it. I've done my best to keep my body healthy, so now it's up to those three embryos to do their job.