For me, I had to. I grew up in an upper middle class household with my parents and my older brother. My mom was abusive in all areas (physically, emotionally, verbally) and was the primary care taker (which she slept all day and let us run wild while dad worked). I thought this was normal. I continued thinking this was normal until 2 years ago when I met my exes amazing family. This past January before we broke up (literally right after I got pregnant with this LO and we didn't know yet) we were going to counseling because we could not get along or agree on anything. In counseling I realized that I wasn't just messing up with how mean I was to him, I was seriously messing up with how I was handing DS. So I started working on myself and over the past 6 months I have changed quite a bit for myself and for DS. I am trying to be a better mommy so I have been reading every self help and parenting book I can get my hands on and I think I am doing a better job of emulating what I want to emulate. And sorry to my DS, but DD won't ever go through what I put him through in his first 6 months of life.
P.S. I stopped talking to my mom in February and I have never been happier, she brought so much more negativity to my life than I could have imagined.
So has anyone else had this struggle? Is anyone else making changes like this for their babies? Is anyone cutting people out of their lives for the better of their kids?