Sex...if the tiny growing humans

flipflopped

As an off shoot to the name discussion. Are you finding out gender? Doing it through testing or waiting for the anatomy scan? Any good stories about surprises from those who have done it before?

CallMeLauraJane

This is my third so we briefly toyed with the idea of waiting to find out the sex. BUT, I have two boys. On the off chance this little one is a girl I think I need to be emotionally prepared so we're going to find out. My OB will determine sex at the 20 week ultrasound.

caribbeanmama-2

@round2 I have seen that many on the bump are sensitive to the use of sex versus gender.  Just a heads up....

To answer the question-- We will find out which chromosome this little squish is carrying around at the 10 week mark.

peachesnbean

We are absolutely finding out! I have 2 girls and if this LO is a boy if/when we have more children (we are aiming for 4) we will be team green.
DD1 we found out at 22 weeks, did gender reveal parties (families in different states) and had a load of fun!
DD2 we found at at 18 weeks that she was a BOY, did another fun gender reveal, only to have a scan at 21 weeks tell us she was actually a GIRL.Which, was hilarious because as soon as that u/s tech at the first scan said "boy" I said "Noooo. Its a girl." But DH was convinced! so we did the party and at the end of the party we put the dvd on and took turns pausing it, examining the "boy parts". When it turned out at 21 weeks that he was a she I was laughing so hard we had to stop the scan for a minute and DH just shook his head.

This time we are waiting until 20 weeks to find out, no more elective scans for us. Although, I do not regret the elective scan a bit because I had a lot of bleeding with DD2 so it was a major relief to see her face and heart beat at that scan, regardless of the confusion it caused!

blush64

I will find out the sex. If the genetic blood tests are reccommended I will find out then and if they aren't I will find out at the anatomy ultrasound. (if they see it) 

If it was my own pregnancy I would have the genetic tests as it is reccommended for my age, this baby is from the egg of someone younger so I don't think they will order the test. (just the regular IPS and other prenatal testing)

BumpasaurusRex

We will be finding out the sex for this one as well.  After we had DS, DH said he wanted the next one to be a surprise but has completely changed his tune since I got my BFP.

Also, +1 to the sex, not gender usage.  

Xstatic3333

We will learn the sex because H really, really wants to. If it was up to me we'd be Team Green. It will probably be at the anatomy scan; I'm not expecting to be offered early blood testing. 

fourPsinapod

We will find out the sex at the anatomy scan. They do ours around 18-20 weeks 

catiecatp

I'm torn - a part of me wants to not find out the sex of our LO, but I'm a big knitter and if it is a girl there are so many cute patterns I'd want to knit that are not gender neutral and I don't think I'll be up for knitting some of those patterns once the baby is here... Or I might knit a few of them anyways and if LO is female she'll wear them and if LO is male then I'll gift them or save them. If we do find out the sex, it will likely be at the anatomy scan not earlier.

MonaLisaRalphio

I'll also vote for using the term "sex," not "gender"!

I really want to find out.  My husband hasn't thought about it yet, but I'm assuming he'll just go with whatever I want.

flipflopped

I'm my line of work we use gender only. I completely agree for this stage of is sex. Thanks for snapping me out of my little part of the world!!

scifichick09

Definitely finding out the sex. We will wait until anatomy scan. Our nursery theme will be very different depending on what the sex is, so I want to know beforehand so I can prepare accordingly.

MagicMikki

Yep, definitely finding out! 

MerryCakes5

Nope. Team Green here. Didn't find out in advance for DD1 either. It's a matter of surprise now vs later, but I'm glad we had all the build up for one amazing surprise.

Kenya715

We will definitely be finding out. Can't wait!

L Jane

We will definitely find out the sex! We have girl, boy, girl so far. I've never been able to wait!!! Most likely we will find out around 20 weeks. Why are early blood tests sometimes offered? 

poofwok

Yes, will be finding out at the 20 week scan!

fourPsinapod

L Jane said:

We will definitely find out the sex! We have girl, boy, girl so far. I've never been able to wait!!! Most likely we will find out around 20 weeks. Why are early blood tests sometimes offered? 

For genetic testing 

caribbeanmama-2

L Jane said:

We will definitely find out the sex! We have girl, boy, girl so far. I've never been able to wait!!! Most likely we will find out around 20 weeks. Why are early blood tests sometimes offered? 

Because we are old...over the hill....  >35

L Jane

caribbeanmama said:

L Jane said:

We will definitely find out the sex! We have girl, boy, girl so far. I've never been able to wait!!! Most likely we will find out around 20 weeks. Why are early blood tests sometimes offered? 

Because we are old...over the hill....  >35

Lol well I'm 32 so I'm not too far off  

emilypanthel

I can not wait to find out sex, mostly so I can really narrow down a name and to start buying things! 
Hoping to get a 3D around 18 weeks

Vastra

Definitely finding out. I want to get a jump on the nursery as soon as possible. I'm thinking of going with light turquoise walls no matter what, and adding orange for a boy or raspberry for a girl. 

fourPsinapod

Vastra said:

Definitely finding out. I want to get a jump on the nursery as soon as possible. I'm thinking of going with light turquoise walls no matter what, and adding orange for a boy or raspberry for a girl. 

I saw a turquoise and grey elephant theme that was so adorable. Turquoise is the best. 

turtlemobile2

We will be finding out this time. Last time we were Team Green, then my doctor spilled the beans so it was a lost cause. Even though we decided to find out this time, I've been toy with the idea of putting a post-it note on my forehead this time that says  "I DON'T WANT TO KNOW" just to be sassy.

SPurp13

We will find out around the 10 week mark (oldster), but I'm going back and forth on telling people, just because I like to be a bitch.

PerraSucia

If he makes it, this one is a dude. I knew for a month before they even put him in. 

mjsommer

Team green over here! 
For our first we found out at 15 weeks it was great. Our friends were team green and they said it was such an awesome experience leading up to the birth. She was so excited to find out. 

CherryBananas

We are currently on Team Green, but we're open to changing our minds later 

16isourluckynumber

I would like to wait but don't think I have the self control.  Heck I can't even wait until missed period date before peeing on all the sticks.  I have one of each already and this one is the last, so it would let me do a lot of nesting by getting rid of one set of clothes.  

Once you tell people, there is no stopping them from buying you lots of gender-specific clothing, even if you would prefer practical stuff.  

yogadevil

We absolutely want to be surprised at the birth! Team Green all the way, no elective/unnecessary scans and certainly no parading around u/s pics to show people my unborn's genitals. 

SawyerRichardson

I would love to wait to find out, but I know I just don't have the will power. 

kswiger06

We found out for both my other pregnancies. First was a boy, then a girl. I am hoping to let this round be a surprise but husband wants to know. When the time comes I think I'll want to know too, but won't be until around 20 week ultra sound. I just like the movie idea of not knowing and the doctor shouting "oh it's a ..." it just seems fun for some reason lol

lovemyducklings

We are Team Green.

angeltennis3

We will find out. Mostly so we can settle on a name before hand because it was ROUGH last time!

LinnyAnne10

We will find out at the scan.. kind of. My friends are insisting on hosting a gender reveal party. So I'll have the tech put the answer in an envelope and hand it off to my friends. 

kswiger06

angeltennis3 said:

We will find out. Mostly so we can settle on a name before hand because it was ROUGH last time!

We tried to decide ahead of time last time, but when we realized we couldn't agree on a spelling, it had us going crazy. She didn't officially have a name until she was 3 days old lol

ohstars

We will probably do an elective scan at 16 weeks like we did last time.  We went to a nice little place where they tell us the sex, record the heartbeat and put it in a stuffed animal for us to take home. 

Kashy17

We will probably find out at the anatomy scan if babe cooperates.  We did with our son as well.  

MedicMomma84

I JUST found out about the 10 week blood test to find out the sex. I am so excited! One more month!

blush64

MedicMomma84 said:

I JUST found out about the 10 week blood test to find out the sex. I am so excited! One more month!

I am sure you already know but the test isn't to find out the sex, it's to screen for serious issues, many times in people who are at an increased risk. (Not always) Depending on your doctor and which test you might have to ask them before to make sure they can tell you the sex. 

Xstatic3333

::Flame suit on::

Is it a jerk move to find out the sex but not share it, presuming your reasons are non-gift related? We'll probably buy all the practical stuff well before the shower if I'm even offered one, so I'm happy to get clothes. I just fear all the reactions and projections that people will put on this baby even before its born. If it's a girl, for example, MIL is going to lose her mind about "finally getting her little girl." There has been advance warning of this. We're also going to do a New England ocean nursery (think whales and dolphins and lobsters) regardless of sex, and I don't want to deal with "isn't that a boy theme?"

On the flip side, if it's a boy I know everyone will be high-fiving H and giving me sympathy looks, when really neither of us could care less. Finally, it seems like a compromise between H's super strong desire to know, and my less-strong preference not to. 

Thoughts?