FFFC! 5/27

mtmama2

No boss in the office this Friday has got me all like

 

Let's hear those confessions!

SnobunnieMel

I am going to confess to sitting in my office having a pity party for 1 right now. 



*TW*****
the EDD for my MMC was 10/4, the day I was back at work a colleague announced her pregnancy which has then been topic of all conversation since then, and now two more people are expecting so there is a November, December and a January due date. The December just got announced and all I can think is I should have been the first one, now if I get pregnant again I will just be last behind a whole bunch of other people and it will screw up my maternity leave options. So I'm hiding in my office sulking and crying to my dysfunctional ovaries. 


I know its petty. Flame away. 


**tw over***

britters314

You forgot one of the Fs in the title.

My FFFC is that I apparently forgot how the Sun works in the summer. The other day it was finally warm and sunny outside and I went on an hour-long bike ride but I completely forgot to wear sunscreen. I don't burn easily so I only got a slight burn on my shoulders, but I've been lathering up in sunscreen since.

momtoleo

I sometimes decide whether or not to participate in the WTO and TWW daily based on the GTKY question. 

housewifehobbyist

@momtoleo I totally do that too.

Hugs to you @SnobunnieMel - there is no such thing as petty when you're mourning a loss.  Feel the feelings, which sometimes includes bitterness.

Mine is that I am struggling with an incredibly lazy day.  Like I have a million things to do at work and I just can't make myself do any of them.

Aurora1973

My FFFC is that I'm compulsively checking my email like this guy takes drags from a cigarette.



I'm waiting for my doctor to give me a referral to what she referred to as the fertility OB/GYN.  I'm the kind of person that deals with hard things by planning, planning, and planning some more.  While we threw lots of vitamins and Mucinex and Softcups and FWP at it this month, with OH's low T diagnosis and my age, I'm assuming we need help at this point. And when AF arrives, I'd like to believe I'll feel better that the ball is already rolling forward.

Edited because holy run-on sentence!

mtmama2

I have been hiding in my office all day today because I had a few too many gin & tonics at my boss' house last night and decided to sleep in instead of shower... 

 

Dilynne

I was half an hour late to work today because I stayed in bed for lazy morning sex. #sorrynotsorry

NamelessAria

My confession is that I use more and more pregnancy tests every month I TTC.

I started TTC like "I'm not going to test AT ALL until I'm late!" then when I started doing OPKs I was like "oh well since I have these pregnancy tests that came with the OPKs I'll just use 1 around my expected period! Just the one though and that is all." And then a couple of months later I was like "Well... these Wondfo pregnancy tests are really cheap. I'll just use a couple. No more than 4 per cycle though. Let's not get crazy here." And then a few cycles later I was like "They're only like 33 cents a test. I'll just start testing around 10DPO."

Last cycle I was like "Oh they're so cheap and I have so many I'll just start testing at 8DPO. And I heard some people say on-line that they got better lines with a 4 hour hold later in the day than they did with FMU. So I'll also just check at night on a good hold. Just the once though!" I ended up using 20+ pregnancy tests last cycle.



I'm pretty sure every month that I'm TTC I'm a little crazier than I was the month before. 

MelissaM090

@momtoleo and @housewifehobbyist
As a frequent WTO and TWW thread starter, way to put the pressure on!

Maybe my FFFC is that if people are so picky about the GTKY questions, maybe they should start the threads themselves .

I kid, I kid. The only reason I start it so often is because I'm up early and my mornings at work are way busier than my afternoons, so if I don't get to post before work I may not get a chance until the afternoon.

BigBadWolf12

instead of buying new flats (the INSOLES of mine are completely destroyed - as in the screws/bolts/whatever holding the outer sole onto the shoe is showing and digs into my heel) I just put in a foamy liner...when that wore down, I put in cardboard on the heel...and continue to replace the cardboard since it's alllllmost the end of the school year and I won't need to wear black flats for the whole summer in a few days...

#cheapo #can'tletgo #can'tbuynewshoesmidschoolyear 

Edit: "soles inside the shoe...no...inner soles, yea" *post* "gah! insoles! they're called INSOLES!"

momtoleo

Hahaha! @MelissaM090, if you notice, I've been responding recently when you start the thread You've got good questions. 

jatwal128

Whenever we have a get together with DH side of the family (which is very often, especially in May with a lot of birthdays), we end up staying at whoever's house for a long time. Much longer than we initially agree to. Well this last time it was way past the time we'd say we'd head out, and i told DH that I didn't feel well and we needed to leave. He said oh ok, but then proceeded to continue conversations and make no real effort to head out. 45 minutes later, we finally leave. In the car I go on about how he doesn't really care about how i feel and that he didn't really try to leave because what's important to me isn't important to him and blah blah. He felt real bad and said it wouldn't happen again....

I felt fine. I just wanted to go home!

eta: by the time we got home everything was fine though! So i didn't give him TOO much crap.

wineo929

momtoleo said:

I sometimes decide whether or not to participate in the WTO and TWW daily based on the GTKY question. 

That's a lot of pressure since I'm always up at 5:30am...

PepperAT

My FFFC is that I'm debating buying OPKs, not to know when I'm ovulating or going through a surge in hormones but because I just want to finally see a second line on a test! I am sick of seeing that blank white space. 

MonaLisaRalphio

I'm letting my students play music on their phones and sing along, even to the curse words and the references to drugs and alcohol.  I barely care about this stuff during the rest of the school year, but on the last day of two weeks of state testing and with only 3 weeks left to go in the school year, IDGAF.

NamelessAria

wineo929 said:

momtoleo said:

I sometimes decide whether or not to participate in the WTO and TWW daily based on the GTKY question. 

That's a lot of pressure since I'm always up at 5:30am...

Oh no, it's totally fine. Ya know, if you don't come up with a good enough question people just won't participate and the community will die. No big deal!  

pretzel2plus1

momtoleo said:

I sometimes decide whether or not to participate in the WTO and TWW daily based on the GTKY question. 

^^This. But I also confess that I almost never start either thread. I'm too afraid y'all won't like my question and then won't participate and it will kill the whole day. Maybe a little overboard...lol. 

PurpleRains

pretzel2plus1 said:

momtoleo said:

I sometimes decide whether or not to participate in the WTO and TWW daily based on the GTKY question. 

^^This. But I also confess that I almost never start either thread. I'm too afraid y'all won't like my question and then won't participate and it will kill the whole day. Maybe a little overboard...lol. 

@pretzel2plus1 Same!

felix08

@snobunniemel your office sounds like mine. There are currently four pregnant woman all due in the fall when school starts again. They all have the same position as me and, of course, no one will get hired to cover mat leaves so lucky me will get to cover tons of extra work (while also being bitter that I never got KU).
@momtoleo ha!! I do the same thing.
@pepperat Ha, ya, it can be pretty thrilling to see that second line no matter what test it is.

My FFFC is that sometimes, if I'm cooking with eggs during my FW, I get jealous of the egg whites. During the TWW, I get jealous of my lotion because supposedly creamy CM, which I pretty much never get, is "like lotion" and can be an early indicator of pregnancy. Also, I'm drinking beer by myself right now and eating chips. #schoolsout

kiki75

My FFFC: A lot of times, when ladies here complain about husbands, I identify most with the husbands. Cluttered and doesn't put stuff away when I'm kind of technically done with it? Um, that's me. I live like a feral creature when H is away for work. I'm pretty much always madly cleaning before he gets home. Usually the only times I'm not are the times I just say, "Oh f*** it. He'll get over it or he won't." Person that lingers at a party after we planned to leave? Also guilty of that. It's always one of two things: 1. I'm having fun and I love parties and I hate to break it up! 2. My complete lack of skill at ending conversations I'm over. I really need help with it. I got stuck talking to a chatty coworker for 45 minutes yesterday while I was all anxiety-filled because I had three days of emails piled up waiting for me. But I can't tactfully extract myself!

@SnobunnieMel That's not petty. That blows. Especially since it can screw with your maternity leave. 
@MelissaM090 I would start WTO/TWW sometimes but... BEST COAST!!!  But when I was getting a filling and was totally gassed out, I was thinking that if I ever started one, I'd ask if everyone goes by 'drink 'til it's pink' what do ladies in states where pot is legal go by? Toke until? Spliffs til? Munchies to munchies? Yeah, I probably should have told them to turn the gas down because I was totally looped.

MrsFL2015

My husband's cat is peeing all over the carpet of our brand new townhouse!  We've only lived here for about a month and this is bad already. The cat isn't sick or anything like that; I think she's just not happy being inside.  She was an outside cat at our old house because the previous owner had her outside her entire life (an elderly man). Now, she can't go outside and she's not happy. 

I want to re-home the cat to a better situation (one where she can go outside), but my husband thinks that's cruel and wants to keep her.  I understand that giving away an animal is bad, but I feel like this is a no win situation for everyone.  The cat is clearly not happy or she wouldn't be peeing everywhere.   We've spending lots of money on trying to clean the carpet (treatments, professional cleaning) and we're constantly arguing about it.  The smell is awful.   I feel like we're all miserable (even the cat)! 

I know this makes me sound like a bad person, but I can't live with constant cat pee all over my house!  It's giving me anxiety! 

Maggie1202

My FFFC is that I enjoy this type of post more than the WTO/TWW posts. In fact, I really only participate in them because I don't want to totally be some rando lurker (even though I'm still pretty darn new...)

Flame away... 

GrabberBlue2010

With this being CD 1, I stopped on my way to work and got a large iced coffee .... And sat in my car at work and ate 3 chocolate donuts. And then on my way home I stopped and got a pack of big cup Reece's. And also ate it in my car. No evidence. 

Feeling all the feels. 

ElleB11

I like looking at my FF chart a lot. I think I subconsciously feel that if I stare at it enough I'll get pregnant.

NYTino24

Here is mine:


@monalisaralphio, I'm with you. My class wore me out this week (and year!)

TheJerilu

@MrsFL2015
That's absolutely a frustrating situation.  It's also really common right after moving a cat, so there's at least that.  Just like you're thinking about where to hang pictures, your cat is thinking about how to *ahem* make its mark on the new place.  I highly advise stocking up on white vinegar (it neutralizes the smell long-term better than baking soda, but your house will smell like carnival fries for the evening).  Also call up your vet - a lot of times they have suggestions that can help this sort of thing out.

Some cats never get this out of their system - I'd say give it 6 months effort before officially deciding to re-home.

meilay

I've had a GTKY question for weeks but I'm not waking up before 3 am to beat east coasters to starting either thread. I could just ask it in a separate thread but I really want to see it in one of the daily threads. So...I guess my confession is that I'm selfishly holding onto this question until I visit family in DC and then I hope it's well received as a good question because I've been saving it but now I'm worried it'll be terrible or someone will be like "oh yea we totally had this question like 2 days before you started posting don't you lurk?!" or "you must've taken a break and not lurked because this was just asked last weekend" and then I'll be filled with shame and never participate on TB again so it's probably best that I don't start a thread. My other confession is that I spend way too much time thinking about how much time other people are spending not liking me when other people are typically not thinking about me at all. And this is me today:

MrsFL2015

TheJerilu said:

@MrsFL2015
That's absolutely a frustrating situation.  It's also really common right after moving a cat, so there's at least that.  Just like you're thinking about where to hang pictures, your cat is thinking about how to *ahem* make its mark on the new place.  I highly advise stocking up on white vinegar (it neutralizes the smell long-term better than baking soda, but your house will smell like carnival fries for the evening).  Also call up your vet - a lot of times they have suggestions that can help this sort of thing out.

Some cats never get this out of their system - I'd say give it 6 months effort before officially deciding to re-home.

Thank you for understanding! I know some people might think I'm just being a bitch. I love animals and we have an additional cat and we've had a dog in the past(he passed away).  So animals and their bodily functions don't normally bother me.  But this is really bad!  There are huge rings on the carpet and the smell hits you the second you walk in the door.   I've tried enyzeme cleaners ( spent well over $100) and I've done baking soda and vinegar, but she keeps peeing. I have a feeling she may not stop. She peed outside at our old house( but can use a litter box) and if she wasn't outside (she would stay inside if it was raining/dark out), she would pee in the shower. I didn't mind it so much because the shower was easy to clean and the special cleaners got rid of the smell.  Now, she's doing it on the carpet and nothing is working.  It down the the concrete in some areas and we even had to rip up a patch of carpet because it was beyond saturated.  We have professional cleaners coming next week to try to salvage the rest of the carpet.  If that doesn't work, then the entire thing needs to be ripped up and replaced.   I find a new spot almost daily.  I feel she's angry that she hasn't gone outside in weeks after spending everyday of her life going out.  

britters314

@MrsFL2015  I wouldn't replace the carpet until you either rehome her or she stops. You don't want her ruining brand-new carpet. And if she has always peed wherever she wants outside, I don't know if you will be able to change her behavior. Why can't she go outside at your new home?

MrsFL2015

We live in a townhouse community and there are lots of cars. We don't have a designed outside area and it was made clear by the HOA that cats must be inside or they risk getting picked up by animal control.  We had the opportunity to leave the cat with a neighbor at our old house( I anticipated this being a problem because I knew she occasionally peed in the shower) but my husband wanted to keep her and try to train her to be an inside cat.  I agreed to give it a chance because I don't believe in just getting rid of an animal unless there is no other choice.  The offer still stands to re home her to my old neighbor ( he has a big yard), but my husband wants to keep trying to train her.  

mrsdaddario

ahrains said:

pretzel2plus1 said:

momtoleo said:

I sometimes decide whether or not to participate in the WTO and TWW daily based on the GTKY question. 

^^This. But I also confess that I almost never start either thread. I'm too afraid y'all won't like my question and then won't participate and it will kill the whole day. Maybe a little overboard...lol. 

@pretzel2plus1 Same!
meilay said:

I've had a GTKY question for weeks but I'm not waking up before 3 am to beat east coasters to starting either thread. I could just ask it in a separate thread but I really want to see it in one of the daily threads. So...I guess my confession is that I'm selfishly holding onto this question until I visit family in DC and then I hope it's well received as a good question because I've been saving it but now I'm worried it'll be terrible or someone will be like "oh yea we totally had this question like 2 days before you started posting don't you lurk?!" or "you must've taken a break and not lurked because this was just asked last weekend" and then I'll be filled with shame and never participate on TB again so it's probably best that I don't start a thread. My other confession is that I spend way too much time thinking about how much time other people are spending not liking me when other people are typically not thinking about me at all. And this is me today:

Stuck in the box! @MelissaM090  I also went through a phase where I started it a lot too. I was always up and like, waiting around for people to start it. So finally I was like, I'm just going to start these myself! For a while I was coming up with good ones, then when my ideas ran dry I've been doing it less lately. @meilay Chances are the question has probably been asked, but that shouldn't stop you from asking! I think "how do you unwind/relax", "what's your favorite movie/tv show, yadda yadda" all those things have been asked a ton and repetitively. It's going to happen with people coming in and out so often. I like the really out there questions. The ones that aren't asked continuously and are different. With that being said, I think anyone who wants to participate should, regardless if they answer the question or not. It's not like I had to be answered in order to participate. And if the question is what keeps someone from participating in a particular day, then oh well lol. It's just a fun way to GTKY obvs lol. 

felix08

@meilay I can't wait to see your GTKY question!  I also experience anxiety related to starting the daily threads. I am an early riser during the school year but many days I wouldn't start it because I couldn't come up with a good question. AND I have to refresh the main page like 15 times before starting a daily thread because I'm terrified of making a duplicate. On the other hand, I feel way too pleased with myself if my question is well-received or--better yet--if it's used in the other daily thread, too.

wineo929

NamelessAria said:

wineo929 said:

momtoleo said:

I sometimes decide whether or not to participate in the WTO and TWW daily based on the GTKY question. 

That's a lot of pressure since I'm always up at 5:30am...

Oh no, it's totally fine. Ya know, if you don't come up with a good enough question people just won't participate and the community will die. No big deal!  

CoonMom

My FFFC is last weekend on our vacation OH surprised me. He's usually very vanilla and doesn't like to spice things up but he took us outside to have sex. Given it was a totally secluded property in the middle of nowhere most people won't think much of it. But I really enjoyed it.  

TheJerilu

MrsFL2015 said:

Thank you for understanding! I know some people might think I'm just being a bitch. I love animals and we have an additional cat and we've had a dog in the past(he passed away).  So animals and their bodily functions don't normally bother me.  But this is really bad!  There are huge rings on the carpet and the smell hits you the second you walk in the door.   I've tried enyzeme cleaners ( spent well over $100) and I've done baking soda and vinegar, but she keeps peeing. I have a feeling she may not stop. She peed outside at our old house( but can use a litter box) and if she wasn't outside (she would stay inside if it was raining/dark out), she would pee in the shower. I didn't mind it so much because the shower was easy to clean and the special cleaners got rid of the smell.  Now, she's doing it on the carpet and nothing is working.  It down the the concrete in some areas and we even had to rip up a patch of carpet because it was beyond saturated.  We have professional cleaners coming next week to try to salvage the rest of the carpet.  If that doesn't work, then the entire thing needs to be ripped up and replaced.   I find a new spot almost daily.  I feel she's angry that she hasn't gone outside in weeks after spending everyday of her life going out.  

Maybe try (and it will suck at first and you will feel like a terrible person) keeping her only in the bathroom with a litterbox and her food for a few days.  She'll be forced to pee somewhere in there, rather than on the carpet in the living areas.  It'll also help her feel like that's her "home base" and limit the stress she'll feel in a new scary large place.

Additionally, if the house was pre-owned/rented by somebody else, she may be picking up the scents of other cats of ages past, which is stressing her out.  I'd say getting the carpets deep cleaned should help if it's this case considerably.

At our last place, our cat could smell previous cats and sprayed all the time (and our dog would mark, which he never does indoors).  The behavior would mostly stop after we would rent a wet-vac every few months, then it would slowly pick back up as the cleaner scent faded.  Had we owned instead of rented, we would've replaced the carpet (well, we would've gotten linoleum or vinyl floors instead, but that's neither here nor there).  

Our house has wood floors now, and we've only had two accidents since fall - and I think those were just because I was late cleaning the litter.  We also had the "this cat might have to go" conversation, so don't feel like you're alone there at all.

For your sanity, I would advise one of these if you don't have something similar already:
http//www.amazon.com/BISSELL-Spotbot-Handsfree-Technology-33N8A/dp/B003Y3AA2S/ref=sr_1_2?s=home-garden&ie=UTF8&qid=1464402636&sr=1-2&keywords=bissell+spot

YogaSandy

TheJerilu said:

MrsFL2015 said:

Thank you for understanding! I know some people might think I'm just being a bitch. I love animals and we have an additional cat and we've had a dog in the past(he passed away).  So animals and their bodily functions don't normally bother me.  But this is really bad!  There are huge rings on the carpet and the smell hits you the second you walk in the door.   I've tried enyzeme cleaners ( spent well over $100) and I've done baking soda and vinegar, but she keeps peeing. I have a feeling she may not stop. She peed outside at our old house( but can use a litter box) and if she wasn't outside (she would stay inside if it was raining/dark out), she would pee in the shower. I didn't mind it so much because the shower was easy to clean and the special cleaners got rid of the smell.  Now, she's doing it on the carpet and nothing is working.  It down the the concrete in some areas and we even had to rip up a patch of carpet because it was beyond saturated.  We have professional cleaners coming next week to try to salvage the rest of the carpet.  If that doesn't work, then the entire thing needs to be ripped up and replaced.   I find a new spot almost daily.  I feel she's angry that she hasn't gone outside in weeks after spending everyday of her life going out.  

Maybe try (and it will suck at first and you will feel like a terrible person) keeping her only in the bathroom with a litterbox and her food for a few days.  She'll be forced to pee somewhere in there, rather than on the carpet in the living areas.  It'll also help her feel like that's her "home base" and limit the stress she'll feel in a new scary large place.

Additionally, if the house was pre-owned/rented by somebody else, she may be picking up the scents of other cats of ages past, which is stressing her out.  I'd say getting the carpets deep cleaned should help if it's this case considerably.

At our last place, our cat could smell previous cats and sprayed all the time (and our dog would mark, which he never does indoors).  The behavior would mostly stop after we would rent a wet-vac every few months, then it would slowly pick back up as the cleaner scent faded.  Had we owned instead of rented, we would've replaced the carpet (well, we would've gotten linoleum or vinyl floors instead, but that's neither here nor there).  

Our house has wood floors now, and we've only had two accidents since fall - and I think those were just because I was late cleaning the litter.  We also had the "this cat might have to go" conversation, so don't feel like you're alone there at all.

For your sanity, I would advise one of these if you don't have something similar already:
http//www.amazon.com/BISSELL-Spotbot-Handsfree-Technology-33N8A/dp/B003Y3AA2S/ref=sr_1_2?s=home-garden&ie=UTF8&qid=1464402636&sr=1-2&keywords=bissell+spot

Also adding. We have two cats. Have for awhile. Maybe two years ago (so we had two cats for years before the issue) one started pooping on the floor. We weren't even sure which one. Anyway, called the vet and had a suggestion like re-training by just allowing her (would've had to figure out which her it was) in one room. Was also suggested to get a second litter box. We tried that. Then I researched a bit more and the suggestion was if you have multiple cats, have one more litter box than the number of cats. We have three litter boxes, all roughly in the same area, and the problem has stopped (except for the odd time I'm a bit late cleaning). 

I don't know why the issue happened. Nothing changed in either cat's life (like yours did), but it solved my problem. I didn't go back and reread, but I think you said you had two cats. It's worth a try.