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Proper Intro

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edited May 2016 in TTC After a Loss
Hello all,
I suppose I should give a proper introduction. I am here after my first MMC 3/31. DH and I found out there wasn't a heartbeat at 10 weeks and baby only developed through about 8 weeks. 2 days later, 4/2, I had a D&C.

Things just happened in a such a weird way. The day i found out I was pregnant, I saved a kid from committing suicide by choking himself with a shoelace at my school. I had to cut it off with scissors and watched his face turn from bluish red to pink all over again. 

Everyone was so excited about the pregnancy, that's what made it so hard. We wanted a baby so badly. The past few months have been very rough for me. I have sought counseling because of the immense depression and anxiety that this has given me.
Although I've had a rough time lately, my husband and I have decided to slowly start trying. 
I am so sorry for everyone's losses. It is rough and every reminder is hard to take, but we will all get through this. 

Me: 28 DH: 29
Married: 4-25-2014
TTC: March 2015
BFP: 2-18-16
Confirmed MMC: 3-31-16
D&C: 4-2-16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI: 5/13/17-Femara and Trigger, POAS 5/27/17 BFP 5/27/17

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Re: Proper Intro

  • I am so sorry to hear about your loss, you are in a great place to help heal, vent or just have people that understand if you want to scream and cry. We are sorry you have to join us this way but glad you came. All these women are a great group to know
    Me: 30     DH: 31
    Married: 11.12.11
    TTC: Nov 2015
    BFP #1: 1.22.16                 MMC: 2.29.16 ( tetrasomy 11, partial deletion 1, XXX)
    D&C: 3.2.16
    BFP #2: 4.14.16                 CP: 4.17.16
    BFP #3: 6.10.2016             CP: 6.17.2016
    RE appt: 6.27.2016- saline sono all clear
    Chromosome karyotype- Normal both me and DH
    Progenity: + carrier Tay-Sachs, Gaucher's, hemachromatosis. DH: carrier Alpha 1 anti-trypsin
    Clomid + TI Cycle #1: pending  8.15.16
    Fur mom to 2 sled masters: an Alaskan malamute and a malamute wolf hybrid 
    half marathon running, surgery loving trauma hand and reconstructive plastic surgery PA-C
    PCOS, hypothyroid, MTHFR, hx of LEEP in 2006

  • So sorry you find yourself here, but welcome. I hope you find this little place to be helpful in your life after loss. I know I would have been (would be!) lost without these ladies in the months since my loss.
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  • Hello, (official) welcome. Terribly sorry for your loss. I also lost my first, very much wanted pregnancy in a MMC. I hope you find this community helpful and healing, and that your stay with us is short. Everyone here has really eased the pain and confusion of learning how to live after such a cruel twist of events.

    Even after a D&C, doctors will often do follow up appointments to make sure there is nothing retained in the uterus. I had internal ultrasounds and blood draws to monitor my betas until they were both clear. I'm in Canada, though, so our medical system is different and I've seen some women test out their hcg levels on their own with pregnancy tests. How long that takes varies wildly from person to person.
    Renee, 34 + Devon, 29 married 08/13 <3
    TTC  09/15
    *TW Loss mentioned*
    BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16
    MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3
    TTCAL 3/2016
    Acupuncture 11/16
    Dx December 2016: unexplained 
    January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI =
    BFP #2 01/30/17  Please be a sticky baby!
    EDD: 10/15/17  Measuring ahead! 10/12/17 
    Ambrose born on his due date!

  • I'm sorry to meet you this way, but I'm glad you've joined our community.  

    My loss was about a month before yours, but I was also 10 weeks when I found out about the loss.  I did not think I would emotionally survive the loss and the process of the m/c but this community has answered questions and helped me cope so much.  

    I hope you and your DH are healing and taking care of yourselves.
  • I am so sorry for your loss.

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
  • hugs and love
    ---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---

    Me: 33 & DH: 33
    Married: 07/2006
    TTC: 10/2015
    BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
    BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017

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  • Spartanrd4Spartanrd4
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    edited May 2016
    So sorry to find you here but hope you find some comfort here that you have people who know how you feel to talk to...its been so helpful for me. It's been almost 3 months since my MMC March 1st @ 9 weeks and every passing day gets a little better.
    Me: 35      DH: 35
    Married: 8/16/2014
    TTC 6/2015
    BFP #1: 1/2016, MMC 3/2016 (9 weeks)
    BFP #2: 6/2016, DD born 3/1/17 at 39 weeks 1 day 
    BFP #3: 1/2019, CP (4 weeks 1 day)
    BFP #4: 4/2019, Due 12/10/19

  • dubcompaniondubcompanion
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    edited May 2016
    So sorry for your loss, @nmd9168. I think you're a great fit for our board due to your kind heart and strength. I hope you find the guidance and comfort you need here to get through this rough time.


    Me: 32      DH: 32
    Married: 11/19/11
    TTC 3/15
    BFP #1: 10/15, MMC 12/15 (10.5 weeks)
    BFP #2: 7/16, DD born 3/2/17 at 38 weeks <3
    BFP #3: 4/18, DS born 12/11/18 at 36 weeks <3
  • I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry that things have been so hard lately.  There a lot of supportive ladies here. Feel free to ask questions or vent
  • Sorry for your loss and your depression.  I generally try to be a happy-go-lucky person and my MMC put me into a deep depression several months later that I felt like a shell of the person that I was.  But being able to talk about things with this group and letting time heal has helped me immensely.  I hope you're able to start feeling a bit peppier soon!  

    Love GIF

    Me: 34    DH: 38

    MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
    Married: Nov. 7, 2015
    MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks) 
    MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
    RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
    MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
    Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
    Possibly giving up because I just can't even anymore...

    BFP 1/16/2019  
    HCG blood qualitative test - between 5 and 25... FML...

    fuck my life GIF

  • Thanks All <3
    Me: 28 DH: 29
    Married: 4-25-2014
    TTC: March 2015
    BFP: 2-18-16
    Confirmed MMC: 3-31-16
    D&C: 4-2-16
    TTCAL: May 2016
    IUI: 5/13/17-Femara and Trigger, POAS 5/27/17 BFP 5/27/17

    BabyFruit Ticker
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