September 2015 Moms
LoveLee85
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Pet peeve time! Let's share!
LoveLee85
member
People are constantly putting their dirty, God-knows-where-they-have-been-fingers in my LO mouth!!! It grosses me out so bad. My FIL and my Mom are the worst! Every dang time. I just quickly grab a toy and say "oh he loves this to chew on!" Ewwwww. I hate it. Ugh.
Re: Pet peeve time! Let's share!
Should have said, my peeve is now that Jakey is on solids, my SIL and MIL think it's ok to just ram any sort of food in his mouth. Errr! No! Im
his mum, you check with me first! Pisses me right off. I just find myself glaring at Rob, thinking 'either you say something, or I will!'
My huge pet peeve comes from my husband. He literally isn't capable of doing anything while watching the baby. He can't eat and hold the baby, he can't cook and watch, he can't do ANYTHING. It angers me to no end, what does he think I do all day? I can't hand the baby to anyone else and get things done. He's helpless.
why, oh why do our in laws think it's ok to feed our child without asking permission first?
regarding hubby, I'd be having a word. Your a boss mum & he needs to appreciate your hard work, and respect that.
All the best sweetie.
example, we travel to visit my husbands family about once a month. It's a 6 hour trip. If it's not nap time my LO will only deal with the car seat for about 30 minutes at a time (we're in convertible so it's not a size issue) so we travel at night. We literally go through his normal bedtime routine but instead of putting him in his crib we put him in his car seat. He sleeps through the entire trip that way. My family knows this. We had to attend a funeral for my husbands step dad last week so my mom was going to watch our dogs. When I went to drop them off she made the comment that if we'd just do the trip during the day he'd learn to adjust. It really infuriates me. They're not the ones that have to deal with an angry baby, especially on a road trip.
I can relate to the finger in mouth thing and the food thing. Fingers are gross and I feel like I have to remind EVERYONE that it's not cool to stick your finger in my baby's mouth. How is this not common sense?!?
With food we are lucky we have no allergy issues but it's just respect to check with me first.
Oh and my husband "can't get anything done" when he has both kids on his own (which is practically never). And yet I am expected to keep the house clean, make his lunch, cook dinner, take DS to and from school ect..,
Another pet peeve right now is my FIL. We typically have a good relationship but this past week he has been driving me mad.
Oh fuck it... people in general are my pet peeve lol
I'm clearly the minority here but, unless it's super sugary, I really don't care what people feed my kid lol. We do baby led weaning, so I've been making healthier food choices for myself and my son, and the only people who see him during meal times know the deal.
My pet peeve is partially my fault. I've never had my drivers license. My boyfriend is supposed to take me out driving when my mom watches our son every third weekend but it's been 8 months and we've gone to a couple movies but still haven't gone driving. I want my damn license so I can leave the house more easily. I EP so I have to time trips between my sons naps and my pumps, which is like magic some days. The social isolation is really starting to get to me these days...
My MIL also likes to tell my boy that he "should be entertaining us, not the other way around!" And she praises him, "You're being very entertaining right now." He's a person, not a performing monkey- *interact with* him! Don't just sit there *staring at* him.
I've always gotten the 'you're so small' (I'm 5'2") and it really offends me. I hate it just as much when people do it to my daughter.
Also asking me what milestone she has or hasn't met and getting all 'oh..' if I say she hasn't and then bragging about when their kids did this or that. Give it a rest! Babies are different. What pace she reaches her milestones isn't your concern.
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
Im just there like really?
Also, currently, sex is a pet peeve! I think it's been two months and I am A-Ok with that! Enter my husband, who just 45 minutes ago threw me my phone and it hit me on the elbow, HARD, then when he came to hug me, proceeded to push my face into the couch with his bodyweight so that my glasses were threatening to break, and starting nuzzling my neck and mouth breathing in my ear. What the absolute fuck! Gross! I understand he has needs, but that is so not the way to get me in the mood!
Baby rant: The 8 month sleep regression can stop please. Also yeast diaper rashes can suck it because #chubbybabyrollsforlife.
So yeah, we went home early from dinner that night.
I'm still furious.
The food and comments that go along with it. I love my sister and mother soo much but they come over and we are all eating, along with LO usually something I have made him and its ... oh (talking to my LO).."I'd give you x but mommy wouldn't let me...don't worry I will later on when mommy lets you eat the good stuff" or "do you feed him the Gerber/brand name stuff or is that not healthy enough for you? I know you make all his stuff super organic and healthy all the time so ... " umm actually yes some of the stuff I do... I just don't like the things with a lot of additives. but thanks. And im not a health nut I just don't think starting his diet with all the crap is necessary im sure he will get enough of it later on why not start out healthy at least. I get he will want to try all the fun stuff that we even eat but hes only 8 MO! Then in the same breath of making these comments.. I get yelled at for just putting him on the ground because something is next to him and could fall. well.. hmmm im right here and in one breath im TOO cautious and the next not cautious enough!?
Guess you can never win with people... how about I just make sure my LO is clothed, fed and healthy and we keep our comments to ourselves. k thanks.
Eta second the how to arrange your house comments, if my mother comes up with one more piece of garbage she got at a yard sale and responds to me telling her that my house is too small for all the junk with "you just need to throw stuff away" I'm just going to lose it... Why should I have to get rid of my FURNITURE that I actually like/ need to make room for someone else's garbage that you think my daughter "needs" she does NOT need 5 effing cabbage patch dolls, they are NOT her friends and I will throw them away if you leave them here! Aaaaaa! Ok rant over.... Also they're gross and creepy, ok really done now...
2. I can't stand it when people insist on holding the baby when he clearly wants to get down. My husband and in-laws do this mostly. They keep asking if he's crying because he's hungry or tired and I'm like HE WANTS TO PLAY! And they continue to hold him. Drives me insane.
3. My husband acts like having a baby is his second job. He always acts so put out by life. Comes home and spends a few minutes with the baby and complains that he has no time to relax. Then I'm back on mom duty. #alwaysthedefaultparent
Umm....hands in the mouth for sure.
People walking all over his big quilted blanket play area with their shoes on...WTF. I don't want his face on the bottom of your gross shoe.
My dad pretending to be a great grandpa when my grandma is in town and dropping the act the day she leaves...
People planning dinners and events past his bedtime. They don't have to deal with the consequences.
People screaming in excitement at my DS. Stop, it's loud and annoying.
- "does Micah need a diaper change? Maybe that's why he's cranky" - no he's cranky because it's way past his bedtime.
- "why are Micah's cheeks so dry? Are you using lotion on him?" - because it's effing zero degrees outside (this was in the winter) and I don't always put lotion on his cheeks.
- "shouldn't you change his diaper before you leave?" - no because he's getting a bath the sec we get home (which is 10mins away)
- "hey, do you have nail clippers with you, Micah's toe nails need to be cut" - blank stare seeing as we're at a bday party and you're effing stupid for asking that question.
- "Ava has become so strong willed now, like she's not shy like she used to be"- yea because you know so much about my daughter and her personality.
I really needed to type that out because, ESP the nail clipper comment, she really boils my blood. I really can't stand being around her
Enter my actual rant. MIL has always contributed to DD's wardrobe when she moves up a size, as does my mom and myself. I already had about 10 12-month size outfits and a couple pair of pj's, and my mom has a $40 coupon at Old Navy, so when MIL went to the outlet mall I told her she could pick up "a couple outfits, but no dresses" because she always buys the huge fru fru fancy dresses that DD has nowhere to wear them to. She goes to the outlet, drops off two huge bags of clothes. I counted, and DD now has 42 complete outfits (including EIGHT fancy fru fru dresses,) and my mom hasn't even been to Old Navy yet. I thanked MIL, then told her DD would be good until she outgrew the clothes or the season changed, whichever came first. TWO DAYS LATER, she dropped off FOUR MORE OUTFITS to DH while he was at work. She has probably spent $400 on a wardrobe for an 8-month old.
What makes it worse, and is part of my real frustration, is DH and I go camping every year over 4th of July weekend at a pro-motocross event in Michigan (Redbud.) We use MIL's camper (because obviously she has one, that she uses once a year...) Thing is, the campsite does not have electricity hookups so you need to use a generator. MIL is refusing to buy one. Good ones are around $600, but for one that only runs the fridge and a/c, it's only about $300. And she won't even buy that! For her own f-ing camper! So that DD doesn't get heat stroke! Like wtf!!!!! Sooooo frustrated.
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
Also, random 'pop by' Memorial Day visitors?!?! Freaking call me before you come over to my freaking house!!! Ugh!!!!