Monday B*itchfest 5/23

rnyland1

It's Monday. Bitch away...

rnyland1

Still recovering from my not-so-great weekend....and no amount of coffee and cure my headache right now. However I'm enjoying the peace and quiet that is the office place right now.  

oandmplus1

Sciatic pain is killing me.  Walking is so painful the last week.  It seems like if I am up and moving it's ok, but sitting (like I have to do most of the day at work) and then walking and then repeating makes it worse.

So girl I work with has been complaining of sciatic pain since before she even finished first tri.  She got herself put on light duty somehow due to sciatic before she was even showing (we work in healthcare and she is a CNA).... lame.... (I'm in no way minimizing the pain or serious conditions that many of the women on this board may be going through, I just think she is whining over nothing as she has a tendency to do in general).

joleri23

I have no idea why I'm so angry about this but here goes. My mom emailed me this morning after talking to my best friend who's due 7/4 and was like, "You must be starting your weekly appointments soon. Let me know when the doctor thinks you're a week away from delivering so I can be sure to get there in time!" (She is driving from 2,000 miles away.) Ummm.... no. First of all, from what I understand, they won't know when I'm going into labor unless I'm having contractions, or my water breaks, or they want to induce me - in which case you won't get here in time anyway! Second of all, I most likely will be declining cervical checks because I don't want to get my hopes up for nothing every single week.

I didn't even write back. I don't know what she and my best friend were talking about, but we're clearly not all on the same page here.

MDmomma1217

Very impatiently waiting for the results of my FFN test this morning....I'm at home trying to distract myself and it's not working. I woke up with some dull pain (felt like ovary pain) but it's been constant, and even worse when I'm walking and going up stairs. I realized once I was at work I really should call my  midwife, who wanted me to come in. My blood pressure was a bit high (for me, 132/82) but good news is I'm not dilated. I called DH after the appt and he is worried about going away this weekend, we're supposed to be out of town Thursday-Sunday, so I guess we'll see once I get a result from the test.

PootsDragon

Ow da back hurts and I'm tired because of my new 3AM-4AM daily insomnia and thrashing around. Also why do I have to poop so much all of a sudden? It's like there's no space so now every time I eat a freaking meal I have to make room. Not cool for my personal "I don't go in public" policy...

thepen15ismighty

Completely forgot I had a dentist apt today, and then blamed my husband. I can assume it was his fault in some way or another.

megstervt

I generally don't care about the marketing stuff my friends do on facebook (beachbody, etc. etc.), if it gets to be too much I just unfollow people, no big deal.  However, a high school friend of mine is selling some skincare line.  She sent me a private message last week about it which I didn't respond to and then last night sent me another message asking if I had gotten the first message.  You can SEE that I read the message and didn't respond.  Private messaging me and then following up makes me ragey.  Post whatever you want on your own wall, but no direct messaging, especially when you know I ignored it.  Andplusalso don't bring my unborn baby into this by telling me how all the chemicals in my current skin care routine (which you actually know nothing about, because if you did you would know I don't use products on my face at all) will be so terrible for my baby.  A) where's the science for that? B ) I have enough of my own mom guilt already, why are you adding to it?  C) Using my baby to try and sell me crap makes me the most mad.

ETA: always forget that B + ) = the sunglass smiley

DachshundMomma

I'm sitting on my couch with a plate full of really yummy watermelon and I feel a coughing spell coming on. I have to decide between tossing my food off of my lap and crossing my legs or crossing my fingers and prayng for the best.
Thank goodness for washing machines because there was no time to react either way.

winnie1122

We're currently fighting a warranty company over my car that we just bought 3 months ago along with a full warranty. I distinctly remember, when the dealer was telling us about the warranty, that if God forbid the engine just broke down it would cover a new engine. He was trying to sell us on the worst case scenario of course, but he said it. Well, worst case scenario happened and my engine has to be replaced, which is over $2500. The warranty guy that came to check it out said they don't cover 'pre-existing conditions' (isn't that what a warranty is for?!) and that our dealer shouldn't have even offered the warranty on our car because it wasn't properly maintained before we bought it. Even though the car was supposed to have been inspected and whoever inspected it apparently said they thought the engine looked ok. My husband is calling the dealer today to try to see if they will negotiate with the warranty company since they were the ones to sell us this warranty and the warranty people are saying they shouldn't have sold it, so I'm hoping they will own it and help or we may have a lawsuit on our hands. Why are people such jerks?

jwittwer

I hate Monday's. Today was suppose to be the first of a four day work week. Started off with a computer that wouldn't turn on. The IT guys fixed it because apparently my monitor went out. Good thing I didn't leave the office, because a few hours later I got the blue screen of death. Now I'm sitting here, twiddling my thumbs, waiting for them to call me and tell me it's done. This could not be happening at a worse time than it is. The company that I'm currently on the audit for releases their earnings release tomorrow and I have a ton of shit to get through before that happens. 

All I want is to crawl in bed, cry, nap, and re-start the day. 

BecauseBabyIamAPug

winnie1122 said:

We're currently fighting a warranty company over my car that we just bought 3 months ago along with a full warranty. I distinctly remember, when the dealer was telling us about the warranty, that if God forbid the engine just broke down it would cover a new engine. He was trying to sell us on the worst case scenario of course, but he said it. Well, worst case scenario happened and my engine has to be replaced, which is over $2500. The warranty guy that came to check it out said they don't cover 'pre-existing conditions' (isn't that what a warranty is for?!) and that our dealer shouldn't have even offered the warranty on our car because it wasn't properly maintained before we bought it. Even though the car was supposed to have been inspected and whoever inspected it apparently said they thought the engine looked ok. My husband is calling the dealer today to try to see if they will negotiate with the warranty company since they were the ones to sell us this warranty and the warranty people are saying they shouldn't have sold it, so I'm hoping they will own it and help or we may have a lawsuit on our hands. Why are people such jerks?

You should have it in writing with the bill of sales.

Kellyj103

if one more person today tells me that I look tired....

sami1784

I had an appointment with the perinatal doctor today, or so I thought.  It turned out to just be a growth ultrasound with the tech and a check on the previa.  Short of getting answers to "what is that?" in regards to stuff on the screen, I knew nothing more than I did before the scan.  The doctor won't read it until later today, and it won't go into my online records for a couple days or so.  Also the tech had to press fairly hard to get any pictures because baby kept running from the wand, so my stomach muscles legit hurt.  To add insult to injury, I didn't even get any pics to take home. Almost two hours one way by myself for few answers, no pictures, and sore stomach muscles - Oh and having to take a whole day off work because the appointment was mid morning.  Happy Monday to me.  Ugh. 

mamafox14

@Kellyj103 seriously it's so annoying, like SHUT UP I KNOW ASSHOLE.

I feel like a zoo exhibit that everyone is just watching and whispering about and waiting to see what I'll do next. 

thepen15ismighty

Whoever reported me for the middle finger Gif in FFFC, I hope you have a really nice day.

allthingscozy

@thepen15ismighty people need to really grow up... 

thepen15ismighty

Backbypopulardemand said:

@thepen15ismighty people need to really grow up... 

Careful, they might report you for being negative.

Kellyj103

@stellaluna14 yes to the whispering and staring! Like they've never seen a pregnant person. I keep telling them you know I have like 8 weeks and some odd days, nothing is happening now and if it was, I wouldn't share it with you. 

YeezusButters

I had to have a frozen coffee this afternoon and a lady on the elevator was telling me she had just had her baby on the 3rd and she understood how satisfying that drink was for me. She wasn't wrong. She then asked me how much longer I had and I told her 8 weeks. The random MAN standing on the other side said, "well, that's 8 weeks where you don't have to change diapers, I guess." and then he chuckled.

I am not a man basher by any means but did anyone ask for his fucking opinion about something he has absolutely NO knowledge of?! No? Then shut the hell up and get out of my way.

rnyland1

My mother: If I hear one more time from her that I can't put such a small infant (12 weeks old, after my maternity leave ends) in daycare I am going to scream and break things.

ktomorrow

@rnyland1 same theme as my response to your SO... Tell her thanks so much for volunteering to care for your child while you work.

rnyland1

@ktomorrow... no kidding. My family members should not talk sh*t about daycare unless they themselves are willing to become the nanny or stay at home parent.

afaddis89

Was pretty much told the plan I had to work from home and extend my maternity leave by a week wasn't going to happen. Not allowed to work from home until all of my pto/vacation time is gone.

The original plan was work for an hour or two each morning on the laptop and then fill in with pto/vacation because there is no way I can get in an 8 hour work day from home. The extra bit of hours from working at home would allow me to have 4 weeks of maternity leave with two full paychecks during that time. Once that is done, I would go back because I can not afford to miss work.

Now, my maternity leave will be 3 weeks whether the dr. will release me to go back or not because the GM is a twat. Think I will use the hour or two a day that I was going to work from home to work on a resume and finding a new job.

bishopkd

My sisters are throwing me a baby shower, which is very nice of them, however, it is in a different state.   My selfish self is afraid that my baby shower is going to be poorly attended (since most of those invited live in my state or a good three hours away) and that it will be my one and only shower.   I just keep thinking about the shower I threw for a friend and she had 20 or so people there.  Mine will have 4-5 people besides me.

soberkfell

Bitching because I was working from home this morning, had to come into the office for a 16-minute meeting, and the air conditioning is out (just on my floor). Seriously considering heading back home to finish working from there for the afternoon. I have no other commitments, and I don't think anyone would care... and let's be honest, I definitely don't care about work at this point.

setosh

@afaddis89 I will also be looking for a new job. I was just informed by another coworker that her leave is only 2 WEEKS long paid for. I cannot afford to take 12 weeks off in that case. I will be calling to confirm this, but if that's the case then I'm definitely done.  

TiffRox81

Work. My endless complaint. One boss is terribly hungover. In fact he actually said he's probably still drunk, waiting for the hangover to kick in. The other one is melting down because our internet is being crappy. Their whining is driving me nuts. I told them we should all leave and try again tomorrow. Clearly today isn't cut out to be awesome for anyone. This little human is sucking the life out of me and I'd rather be laying on my couch watching DVR'd shows. Not going to lie. 

jjtruffles

@rnyland1 @ktomorrow comments like that make me ragey. I've gotten the "you really need to think about getting a new car before the baby gets here" comment from my MIL on more than one occasion. I would LOVE to trade in my little 2 door, fwd car for a newer & safer 4 door, 4wd crossover, but unless someone wants to make the down payment & my monthly car payments for me for the next year, it's just not going to happen so please shut your trap!

randishane011804

Kellyj103 said:

if one more person today tells me that I look tired....

I hate that shit!  Just go ahead and tell me I look awful, don't try and sugar coat with "are you okay? You look tired".  Well for f***s sake I am tired!

afaddis89

@setoshYeah, the place I work doesn't put any money toward paid maternity leave, which I am fine with. I was going to be using all of my vacation time and pto that I have earned. I had already worked out the plan with my manager and had mentioned it to the GM about doing an hour or two each day. Then they threw this at me today while I am at home and sick (most likely from a co-worker). I have cried for about an hour now because I was pretty much told I am losing that extra week to spend with my first child.

I am just done bending over backwards and doing my best to go above and beyond for this company, just for them to turn around and do this to me.  

kellz14

bishopkd said:

My sisters are throwing me a baby shower, which is very nice of them, however, it is in a different state.   My selfish self is afraid that my baby shower is going to be poorly attended (since most of those invited live in my state or a good three hours away) and that it will be my one and only shower.   I just keep thinking about the shower I threw for a friend and she had 20 or so people there.  Mine will have 4-5 people besides me.

bishopkd If that turns out to be the case, you can always throw a "meet the baby" bbq after the baby is born, just specifying to people not to bring gifts.  That way, you can graciously enjoy the shower your sisters throw for you - but then have all your nearby friends still be able to get together to celebrate the baby's arrival later on. 

PhoebeJune1984

I am also adding to the work bitching. This is the month that I get a raise, every year, without fail. Didn't get one this year, and I know that it is because I only have 6 weeks left (from the start of this month, to quitting time)....but still, that is 6 weeks of not getting that additional pay. On top of it, when I told them in January, they tacked on a ton of tasks...some of them not even being part of my job. I have also had 6 of their paycheck bounce in my account since I told them, which lead to my account (where I only put in a certain amount of money) going into the negatives, and then one boss giving me cash and I have to go to the bank to correct it. This morning, I took my sweet ass time getting ready for work, and was 15min late. My husband was like "What are you going to say when they ask you why you are late?" I just told him "Nothing. If they have the balls to ask, I am just going to say that I was late because I was taking my sweet ass time getting ready this morning, and dragging my feet. Besides, what are they going to do, fire me?" and then we both started laughing......

mandyjulie

setosh said:

@afaddis89 I will also be looking for a new job. I was just informed by another coworker that her leave is only 2 WEEKS long paid for. I cannot afford to take 12 weeks off in that case. I will be calling to confirm this, but if that's the case then I'm definitely done.  

@setosh Yeah, you should probably check with your HR dept and fast...I'm surprised you haven't discussed this with anyone yet. I had a "leave meeting" like 2 months ago where they went over how much will be covered and all the rules about FMLA, etc. 

ETA and I'm doubting you'll be able to get a new job within two months (while visibly pregnant, at that) that'll cover you for more...

oandmplus1

@afaddis89 I'm so sorry, that sucks.

randishane011804

I'm so ready for all DSs adoption stuff to be finalized!  This has been the most long and drawn out process I've ever had to go through in my life!  Friday we get a surprise phone call from the adoption agency that processed our home study (LAST YEAR) stating that since it's been so long and the adoption hasn't been finalized (even longer freaking story) that they needed to do a re-check home study to make sure everything is still ship-shape and that's going to be $200 dollars and it has to be done within the week. Oh and I'm not sure if they told you this or not last time we'll also have to do another just after the adoption has been finalized for state purposes and that's also going to be another $200.  Because this adoption hasn't already cost us enough! Please don't get me wrong he is TOTALLY worth all of this, it's just been a very frustrating 2 years and with this surprise pregnancy and all of the change our lives have had and are going through this is just not what I needed right now.  BTW the whole thing took 10 f*ing min. Not sure why it costs $200 dollars. Really.

lizhurt

Guy at the bank today decides to try and pitch me a credit card (I was just there to get something notarized) and I told him it sounded good, but that I needed to consult with my husband before signing up since he knows way more about credit cards than me since I have never had one. He said, "Oh, well since your husband is your decision maker, I guess he will need to come in and decide whether to allow you to get this credit card."



What I wanted to say: "Umm, excuse me, but when did I say my husband was the 'decision maker?' The only decision maker in my life is sitting right in front of you. He doesn't 'allow' me to do anything, I simply value his opinion and guidance in areas of life to which he is more experienced, and vice versa. Just because I am eight months pregnant doesn't mean I need to be spoken down to by some 'man' that works at the bank, because I am a perfectly capable, independent, and autonomous human being on break from my job, and I don't have time for your misogynistic bullshit. Okay, thanks TODD. Can you just use your little stamp to notarize my lease and let me go on about my meager womanly existence?"

What I did say (cause I was on my lunch break and didn't have time for a feminist rant): "K, thanks. BYE."

k624330

I am not sharing the first name of our baby because A. I might change my mind and B. I don't want unsolicited opinions on it. Why does this not stop people from giving an opinion and vocalizing what my husband and me should name our child? OR, even better, what we SHOULD'NT name our child based on what her middle name will be. 

Please, by all means, weigh in more on something you have no business weighing in on. 

This is the same person that was b****ing and complaining that I opened every "little" gift at my shower, and makes comments about how by my child's first birthday I will need to move into another house because I will run out of room. I'm sorry, was I supposed to be rude and not open the gifts that my guests took the time and money out to give to my little girl? Last time I checked, my mom taught me manners and that just seems a bit rude considering you are at a baby shower, and that is what happens at those things. So sorry to inconvenience your day. And thank you for weighing in on where I should live years down the road. 

Long Story Short....Unwanted Opinions and I don't have the patience for it anymore. 

Kellyj103

@lizhurt ewwww what a dick!!!!! I can do whatever the hell I want but I'm married and I'm in a partnership and I talk to my husband about these things. He doesn't "give me permission" so gross. He's lucky you didn't cuss him out.

DominiqueU

@lizhurt I hate when people confuse valuing your husband's opinion and making joint decisions with being controlled by someone. 

I married my husband because I love and trust him. Of course I consult him when I'm making a lot of decisions, just like he does with me. In the end, we respect each other's choices. We're a team.

LadyFleck

thepen15ismighty said:

Whoever reported me for the middle finger Gif in FFFC, I hope you have a really nice day.

Wait, didn't I start the entire thread with a picture of a gorilla flipping the bird? That's some BS. 

ETA: Ah nope. Just checked. I started TW Tuesday with that lovely image. Still though...