I just want people's opinions about how you feel about giving used gifts for a baby shower (or any occasion):
We are having a boy and just received a wrapped gift from someone who can't make it to our baby shower. It is a very heavily used purple polka dot baby carrier. The brand is "New Bealer" and I'm pretty sure it is a hand me down from her granddaughter who is now 4 or 5. Either that or she got it at a garage sale which she is known to do.
I do not expect/demand gifts and genuinely appreciate a card if the person can't/doesn't want to buy something. I appreciate the thought, but where i come from, used gifts or hand me downs are usually given in a more casual setting and not wrapped up for a special occasion. (Like if she said "hey my son has a baby carrier he doesn't need anymore, would you like it?")
It's my dad's wife who I don't know well so of course I thanked her profusely and told her I wished she could be at the shower. personally though I just find it a little tacky (so does my husband). It's also a little weird bc my dad got us a babies r us gift card and told me not to tell her because she's "against" giving gift cards. I'm not sure if it's a cultural thing but im "against" giving heavily used items as "gifts" (she's done this before to everyone for Christmas, etc).
It is not in good condition either so I will not use it. probably will keep it around until she visits and then throw it away after.
My question is: do people give used gifts for special occasions? Is this common/something my friends and family have not experienced? Thanks in advance for your opinions!