I am almost 7 weeks pp. During delivery, the ER dr delivered LO due to the on-call dr. not responding to the phone call (3am). That's a whole 'nother story on it's own. So this ER dr decided I needed to be cut (against my birth plan, 'nother story again). I was cut pretty much all the way. Well, my SO and I attempted to get intimate the other night and I was so uncomfortable, we had to stop before we got started. Any advice for this FTM? I miss my BF and want to feel comfortable being with him again. I was crying due to the discomfort and feeling of utter failure to him. My OB gave me the go ahead. He said he was surprised at my recovery from the ER dr's incision.
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If it's really painful, he'll just have to give me more time. There are luckily other ways to enjoy each other.
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It stayed away for a full year for you!? You're one of the lucky ones! I agree, though, I definitely notice the BF hormone effects - some are even stronger than pregnancy for me.
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I'm honestly not in any rush.. Once my head hits that pillow, I want to sleep!
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With my first, it was a pretty difficult recovery. I had an epidural and had stitches but the doctor never told me the extent of those stitches. It took us months and I was only able to endure if we laid on one side, anything else rubbed in a raw spot and brought tears to my eyes. Stupid scar tissue!! I think it took like 9 months, probably longer, for us to be able to have sex as long as he wanted to. The mini pill also messed with my moods alot so it might have helped when i stopped taking that too. Once it became pleasurable and great again, I got pregnant, at 18 months pp.
This time around, I researched more and learned that if you go through labor and birth without pain meds, you most likely have a shorter recovery time. Selfishlessly, I was hoping for a faster transition to normal sex again, for mine and my husbands sake. And it worked! It was a scary labor and I had plenty of moments where I thought, oh s**t, why didn't I get drugs! but I had no stitches, much easier recovery and sex was great again as early as 7 weeks pp. My hubby and I decided that we're done having kids so he got an vasectomy. I think the fact that I'm not taking hormonal birth control may help too.
Was it a quick labor? I think I'd have been worse if it wasn't 16 hours and just over one hour of pushing.
I don't regret the med-free birth experience. Despite the tearing at the end, which I didn't really feel, it showed me how strong I can be and what a great partner I have. I look back on the whole thing with pride and love.
By med-free I guess I do mean no pain killers. I did have to be induced because the little man was 2 weeks overdue, so I had a pitocin drip. Got the first bit of pitocin at 10:00 AM. Baby was born by 7:15 PM. That's 9ish hours of labor, including about an hour of pushing.
The pushing was going verrrry slowly, but finally baby was starting to crown. The midwife said she'd warn when I should pant instead of push, and that the time for that would come soon, but "give another big push, as hard as you can." Much to everyone's surprise, baby boy popped right out, resulting in the damage. Oops.
I actually went to see the doctor about the pain 2 weeks ago. She discovered the not-yet-dissolved stitch! She thinks it will dissolve on its own in a few months, but if the pain persists, I'll probably have to get (minor) surgery done.